Self-care for Loss In Uncertain Times
Soul Oriented Solutions: A Gentle Meditation about Emotional Stress and Self-care for Loss ~
Many people are experiencing deep levels of anxiousness, distress and fear around our current situation due to a variety of events. These feelings can come on suddenly and be very overwhelming. You might have lost a relative, a job or an important friendship. You could be facing a health challenge or even a loss in your purpose and sense of self.
Or, you may be sitting on the sidelines, watching someone you love suffer while you feel at a loss for something helpful to do. In situations like these, it can take a while to regain your balance. What are some ways to provide self-care for loss and bring some level of emotional relief?
If you can find a way to tune into your deepest resources, you’ll discover that you’re never completely alone, even in your darkest hours.
To help out, I’d like to share this brief formula that uses positive affirmations and the Intuitive Learning Circles. You can use it whenever you are:
- Stressed over a lost job or income
- Grieving a loss of any kind
- Feeling pulled into a negative state of mind
- Recovering from an abusive experience – past or present
- Dealing with a serious or long-term illness
- Preparing for surgery
- Coming to terms with tragedy, loss or death
- Asking for ways to be genuinely helpful.
Here’s a short example of how the Circles can prepare you to restore balance.
Simply gaze softly at the image while you contemplate the positive affirmations that go with it for for a minute or so. Relax and breathe:
“I bring my senses into balance.”
“I focus them so that I can feel calmer and more aware of what’s important in my situation.”
“I use my senses to be more aware of where I am and what I’m doing.”
“I focus on thoughts and actions that are genuinely helpful and productive.”
Next, you can continue to prepare for Self-care for Loss by allowing this Reiki Chakra Key to help you tap into your heart center. It helps to put both feet flat on the floor and place your hands on your heart while you gaze at the symbol. Here’s a a couple of suggested affirmations:
“I understand and have compassion for the suffering of myself and others.”
“I open my heart to courage and the possibility of genuine healing.”
Strong emotions or insights may come up. The image may move, rotate, vibrate or change color. Don’t worry. That happens sometimes. It just means it’s working to help you feel better. Once the energy calms down a bit, you can move on to the remaining Circles with each of their affirmations to continue the process.
Your heartfelt intention is important and needs to be communicated. Use this Reiki Chakra Key to help you connect your prayers with your heart. Focus in on the Master Chakras located on each hand between the thumb and the index finger and let them get open and balanced. Then, imagine you can connect them with your heart. These affirmations can help:
“My prayers are connecting with my heart center.”
“I ask to receive guidance, clarity and healing from my Inner Wisdom.”
You might want to journal some of your thoughts so that you can speak with a trusted counselor or friend about what comes up. If so, get out some paper and something to write with as you go through the steps.
Finally, it takes energy to manifest. You may have the feeling that your energy is being drained right out of you or that you’re sending energy to old habits that have been harmful to you. Relax and gaze softly at this Circle. Let it help you deconstruct those old mindsets and close the drains that are exhausting you.
“I shut down all drains that are causing me to lose energy.’
Now you’re ready to begin the main part of your exercise.
Mind Body Integration
For best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of your body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.
Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience!
Self-care for Loss
Step One: Asking for Help
Breathe in deeply, all the way to your belly while you look at this Circle.
If you could ask for something that would help you feel better, what would that be? Place your request in the center, open space of this Circle and imagine you can send your breath to it.
Step Two – Support
Imagine that you can bring healing and release into all parts of your body, mind and spirit while you continue to breathe.
Step Three ~ Peace
What do you think is the main difficulty or burden you’re dealing with right now?
Are you ready to let go of that burden and find a solution? If not, why not?
Step Four – Release
If you can, imagine that difficulty or burden is beginning to melt and soften up. You can release the tension around anything that’s bothering you right now. Your shoulders are dropped. Your jaw is relaxed. Hardened thoughts are melting.
Keep melting the tension until it’s all gone.
Remember to do that both crossed and uncrossed.
Step Five – Soul Vision
Consider what your life could be without this difficulty. What would it be like if those burdens were lifted? Can you imagine it?
Sense the experience as much as you can in detail. See it, hear it, taste it, smell it and feel it.
Step Six – Remove Your Burdens
Imagine that you can send all those burdens to where ever they need to go to resolve themselves. Feel the heaviness lifting up and off of you.
You have done the best that you can under the circumstances.
Step Seven: Inner Guidance
Gently contemplate this symbol to help you gain insight and spiritual direction about appropriate things to do in this situation.
Imagine you can call upon Love to help heal the situation. Is there something that Love would tell you to do?
Ask to be instructed by Love as you continue along your journey.
Step Eight – Balance
Breathe again.
Feel a calmness coming over you.
You feel calmer and calmer with every breath.
Step Nine – Cleansing
Send away any illness, pain or fear that you’re experiencing. Send it to the Sun or wherever it needs to go to heal.
Step Ten – Comfort
Continue to let go and allow your energy to repair itself.
It is not necessary to hold on to any worries, tension or negativity.
Step Eleven: Divine Connection
Fill yourself with strength and the knowledge that you are loved.
You are filled with a Divine Connection to your Spirit.
Step Twelve: Closure
In your minds eye, close the doors to any pathways that keep the pain and suffering open. You are connected through Love now and will always be.
Let this healing be sealed with Love and Light.
Step Thirteen: Divine Blessings
Let yourself rest now. You might feel tired or sad. That’s okay. It means that you’re feeling safe enough to really let go and rest.
Your mind is open and clear to receive healing and generative life force.
Some people have gotten a lot of extra support out of going through this self-care for loss formula every day for twenty-one days. It helps to retrain your mind to think more positively and keep you on track toward recovery.
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If you feel that Self-care for Loss has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel off track or overwhelmed.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].
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Disclaimer:
Self-care for Loss is not intended take the place of appropriate medical and/or psychiatric care. Soul Resources LLC and Rheanni Lightwater are not licensed to practice medicine. If you are having prolonged or increasing bouts of anxiety, depression or suicidal thoughts, seek immediate medical help. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
Handle Irritations Before They Handle You
Is the Way You Handle Irritations Working for You or Impairing Your Health?
Do you handle irritations by flying off the handle, cursing out loud, or is it more like a slow burn? Some people are able to ignore their feelings, put on a happy face and set their grievances aside only to wind up paying for it much later with serious health problems.
Certainly, it seems that everywhere and every day, there are plenty of things to be irritated about. However, are you letting them drain your energy or sour your mood? Do they keep you up at night? Are you dangerously close to lashing out at others, even those that you hold most dear?
Well, if that’s happening, you’re certainly not alone. These are all ways that we keep “scratching the itch” and make bad situations worse.
This is a great subject to journal about for your own personal growth. You can turn irritations into positive progress, and this Mind Exercise is here to help you do that.
Simply relax and gaze at the Intuitive Learning Circles while contemplating the accompanying positive affirmations and questions. Going through the process will help you discover how well you’re handling irritations and what you can do to improve.
So, get out a pen and paper and let’s get started…
An irritation is there to alert you of a problem. Use Chigger Medicine to slow down and tune into what’s bothering you.
What is a problem that’s been irritating you? Pick one and write it down.
Often, an irritation communicates on several levels. Ask yourself:
“How is this irritation affecting me physically?
Mentally?
Emotionally?
What about spiritually?”
Does it remind you of something that has happened before? If so, how far back does it go?
In what ways do you keep “scratching the itch?”
Is that working for you? If not, are you open to an alternative path?
Keep writing until you feel confident you’ve gotten all the information.
MIND BODY INTEGRATION
For best results, look at each Circle both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.
Engage in a Change in Perception to Help You Handle Irritations.
Because of recent changes in your life, It’s possible that your sense of this irritation needs a shift in focus. Look at your situation from a different angle or through a different filter. You can get some help with that by relaxing with these affirmations:
“I reclaim and balance my five senses.”
“I use them to become aware of how my environment or situation has changed.”
“I focus them to be present and aware of my current needs.”
“I gain clear awareness of alternative paths that hold beneficial resources, solutions, opportunities and _________.”
At any point In this exercise, you may need to handle blockages or reversals in your chakras or energy field.
Use this symbol to help you smooth out any reversals, glitches or jagged edges.
“I bring my energy system back into balance and flow.”
This may take several minutes, however, it’s well worth whatever time it takes.
You will know you’re done when you can take regular, deep breaths.
Relax and let this Circle help you adjust the volume on your senses so you can handle irritations from a more balanced point of view.
Some may be turned up too high, causing anxiety, tension and/or misinformation about what’s really going on. That happens most often with the senses of feeling and hearing. You can use this Circle to help you adjust the volume up or down to just the right level.
Relax and allow your mind to adjust to the best level for clear perception:
Bring your senses into balance and perceive your situation with clarity.
Check in with Fly Medicine to see if your energy is getting drained by this situation.
If so, can you tell how often it happens? Does something seem to trigger it? What goes on mentally?
It probably wouldn’t surprise you if a lot of what’s irritating you is the fact that it’s so draining! Take a few moments to consciously take apart old habits and close down the drains to your energy – like old plumbing lines that need to be closed down completely.
Check Into Emotional Patterns with Alligator Medicine.
Are there other emotional constructs such as compulsions, obsessions, attitudes, addictions, phobias or allergic reactions involved?
In this new energy, you might just be able to collapse them.
Emotional constructs don’t have the same power over you that they used to. What you decide about them has more importance now.
Go ahead and see what happens when you decide to collapse the emotional structures that are jumping around in your mind and causing you harm.
It will help a lot if you make sure that you are re-establishing your energy and positioning yourself in the New Paradigm.
It’s amazing how much it helps to organize your mindset in a new foundation that can actually support your goals.
If you meditate on the “map” available in this image, your mind can get a better grasp of how it can reorganize your energy in the New Paradigm we’ve entered…
This template called “Common Ground for the Common Good” is based on the concepts of equality, peaceful co-operation and balanced prosperity. This imprint encourages us to establish a mindset where we can work with each other and the Planet going into the future.
It’s also very useful to utilize the new quality of life force or chi that’s available through the Element of Air in the new era of Aquarius.
Let this symbol for Divine Protection help you to close down harmful energy channels from the past.
Once they’re shut down, open up to a positive flow of chi’ and connect up with helpful communication channels.
Get centered with Starlight to make sure that you’re navigating your own situation correctly.
See yourself in the center, open space of the Circle and re-orient yourself.
Are you beginning to understand your irritation differently now?
Do you need to reorganize your thoughts? If so, how?
Are you going in the right direction to solve the problem?
What really matters here?
Let Praying Mantis help you focus on solutions.
This is a good time to write down specifics to help you clear away extraneous mental and emotional clutter. Get all that stress off of you by getting it down on paper.
What are some potential solutions in this situation that would really make a difference?
It might help to move, stretch, draw, doodle or journal via a stream of consciousness. Art often brings in creative inspiration and self-care from your Soul!
Let Rat Medicine help you get specific about what needs to happen to clear the irritation.
Is this situation genuinely detrimental to your physical, mental, emotional health? What about the spiritual level?
Is there something that needs to be cleared out? Re-arranged? Moved? Added? Does something need to be reorganized or removed entirely?
This could be internal or external in your physical environment.
* If you have a copy of The Essential Human, now would be a good time to use the process on page 10 to help you make corrections for a healthy and full expression of the power that comes from your Essential Self. Choose from The Essential Human charts #1 – 42.
Detach from harmful emotional patterns and connect with beneficial qualities that will help you in this new energy.
Check in with Armadillo to see if any parts of you are still pulling your experience from dangerous or nightmarish experiences you’ve had in the past.
Are you protecting yourself appropriately?
If you are, Congratulations! You can be done with this exercise.
If you’re not, is there a number from The Essential Human between #1 – 42 that would help you make the correction?
To continue: Clear attachments and residual toxic energies.
There may be something attached to you that you’re not aware of. It could be an irritation that comes from toxic exposure or an emotional attack that could cause allergies and even addictions.
Like a healing balm, imagine that a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you.
Attachments and conflicts are melting away. Relax. Breathe. Take your time and move around if you need to.
Make sure that your energy isn’t scattered or being drained anymore.
If it’s not complete, what else do you think is needed?
Make a note of what that is so that you remember to follow through.
Pull back any parts of you that are getting sucked into a negative situation.
Close the drain for good.
Realign with your Soul.
Are you open to the positive vibration of your Soul?
Are you willing to slow down and let your Soul help you in this situation?
Most importantly, are you willing to forgive yourself so that you can let go of your irritation?
If so, this is a good time to let a white light of forgiveness clear away any darkness from around you. Stay with it until it’s cleared completely. Be sure you feel at peace with yourself.
“I forgive myself for getting irritated.”
If you are Attuned to Reiki, this is a perfect time to use it!
Excellent!
Bring closure by closing any leaks, holes or pathways that might leave you open to that irritation and the problems it brings.
“All holes are sealed and healed.
I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”
It’s time to get yourself grounded.
Notice how much better you feel. You will feel even better if you are grounded. What do you need to do to get yourself fully grounded in the New Paradigm?
You may need to go for a walk, rub your feet or ground spiritually.
Congratulations! You now have a way to handle irritations more objectively, with a different perspective and without the intense energy drain! Now is a good time to make sure you follow through on grounding yourself.
The Animal Totems in this exercise come from Gifts from the Rainforest ~
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♦ Find emotional balance ♦ Deal with repetitive habits & attitudes that keep you stuck ♦ Develop common sense ♦ Learn to trust your gut instincts. ♦ Receive messages from plant, animal & nature spirits.
This Mind Exercise is Part of Animal Totem Tracks for Self-healing
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About the Author ~
Rheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT lives and practices in Santa Fe, New Mexico and has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel like you need support.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through Reiki, Energy Medicine, Hypnotherapy, Feng Shui and Shamanic forms of clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].
Disclaimer: Handle Irritations is not intended take the place of appropriate medical and/or psychiatric care. Soul Resources LLC and Rheanni Lightwater are not licensed to practice medicine. If you are having prolonged or increasing bouts of anxiety, depression or suicidal thoughts, seek immediate medical help. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
Protected: Take Good Care of Yourself Through Moderation
Changes in Your Environment – Feng Shui Tips
Feng Shui Tips for Handling Recent Changes in Your Environment:
When going through a radical change, it’s a great help to clean out certain areas of our homes and keep an eye on how well the energy is moving. While we’re rearranging things, we can reorganize our intentions to adapt to the changes in our environment and circumstances. When we take the time to do that, we’re allowing a physical and psychological space to open up for new things to come in and help us adjust both inwardly and outwardly.
For example, I have a lot of crystals and a prayer pipe that I consider sacred. Early on in my Feng Shui practice, I got a strong message that I need to regularly clear out my pipe, cleanse those crystals and rearrange other significant objects to accommodate the changes in the I Ching flow. Why is that so important?
— Because crystals, prayer containers and other significant personal objects can hold onto a great deal of energy and old intentions.
In order to keep my mind and energy flexible, I don’t want to be held back by the gravity of those old energies, including those that marked the end of the Piscean Age. Since the Winter Equinox of 2022, the nature of chi’ or life force flowing through the Tao has changed to an Air based flow (Aquarius) rather than the previous Water based flow.
Let this symbol help you make the adjustment needed.
“I close down all harmful energy channels from the old paradigm.”
“I allow my mind and body to acclimate to this lighter, quicker life force.”
“I learn to receive generative life force and use it to communicate with my environment.”
Also, I don’t want to be blocked by old intentions and outdated agreements that aren’t relevant anymore. They only perpetuate inner conflict or confusion, especially now that we’re obviously in a very different space!
For example, when the pandemic started, I got the strong guidance to “change with the changes and still stay grounded.” In the early summer of 2020, my inner guidance was to “bring light and balanced prosperity into my mindset and environment.” at the Winter Solstice I was guided to pray for “safe transition into the New Paradigm”. Now my intention is “I am firmly grounded in the New Paradigm and have Divine Protection.” These are pretty big changes, and I’m sure there will be many more to come!
Big changes in your environment can be supported with the help of Reiki, strong intention and clear crystals.
To cleanse crystals, I gather them up from around my house and property and then place them in a bowl of water mixed with sea salt. Around the full moon, I’m guided to set them outside for a day or two to cleanse. That way, they will get really clear through an infusion of both Sun and Moon light. Then, I set a new strong and focused intention with those crystals, based on what is needed now.
Notice that I didn’t say, “please keep the coronavirus away,” or “please be sure that civil war doesn’t break out.” If I were to set intentions based on things I don’t want to happen, my whole mindset would start to unconsciously fixate on all the uncertainty and fear that these things attract. To make things even worse, the energy in my environment should start to organize around the fixation. That’s exactly opposite of what I want!
I also don’t want to make intentions frivolously or ask for so many new things that I unwittingly create chaos, conflict and confusion.
So, when I set intentions in turbulent times, I calm myself down first. Once the shock is abated and my mind is clear of anxiety, I ask for a life affirming experience that’s general enough to allow positive change to occur and that makes sense under my current circumstances. That part is especially important since we know the changes we’re going through are liable to continue for some time. Then, I set up the energy in my living space to organize around the new intention by mindfully placing the crystals and/or sacred objects as I’m guided.
Once I’ve set my intention in the space, I pay attention to what I start to attract. If I start attracting chaos, conflict or confusion, I know that I need to reassess my intention and reorganize it.
I don’t waste my time beating myself up for having made a mistake or not doing it “perfectly”. After all, this is a whole new energy we’re in. We’re at the very beginning of one Age, while the other has departed entirely! It’s going to take a while for our minds to adjust. Mistakes are going to happen. Just get back up, clear your mind and be willing to let go of your assumptions about how you thought things were going to be.
If you’re interested in this process of reassessing and reorganizing your intention, You might be interested in an extra intuitive exercise I’ve put together.
If you would like more in depth help for setting up your space, contact Rheanni.
Changes in Your Environment has been put together by Rheanni Lightwater, CHT, Reiki Master Teacher and Feng Shui Consultant.
If you would like more help, find out about Rheanni’s Feng Shui Consultations and Clearings (Long Distance or Visit Santa Fe)
Online consultations are available with Rheanni (Ray-ah-nee). Call her at (505) 271-4612 between 10:00am – 5:00pm, Monday through Friday to schedule.
Disclaimer:
This Mind Exercise should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
Learning How to Change
Are You Changing with the Changes?
If you’re like most of us, you’re overwhelmed by the speed and amount of alarming changes that are taking place. So much of what used to be “normal” has dissolved into chaos. One day, life seems to be moving in one direction and then, in a flash, conditions have completely changed! How did that happen so fast? What do we need to learn to know how to change with all these changes?
If you’re feeling emotionally drained and anxious, it’s understandable. Under these conditions, it’s easy to bounce between outrage, fear and deep sadness about what’s actually happening around us.
Our attention is getting pulled this way and that. Our bodies are worn out and our hearts and minds are split in far too many directions!
The 64 Hexagrams in the I Ching or Book of Change have much to teach us about the importance of being flexible and knowing how to change.
For example, we get relevant advice from Hexagram #12 STAGNATION:
“The political and social environment can become corrupt indeed, and there is little a person of principle can do to turn the tide of events. Leaders are not in touch with the people whom they lead, and social systems become irrelevant. The people become lost in a labyrinth of discordant purpose and are filled with mistrust… Hold courageously and unobtrusively to your values and inner confidence, for these times will certainly pass.”
#29 DANGER, Line 3 says: “You are surrounded by DANGER and you do not understand it. Any action will only make matters worse. Maintain your principles and wait for the solution to reveal itself.”
Hexagram #30 SYNERGY advises:
“Keep in mind that as an individual your relationship with the cosmos is conditioned. By nature, the earth is a place of limitations — limitations of energy, of ideas, of resources, and even of the life force itself. The best way to achieve your aims within the limitations of your situation is to depend upon and synergize your energies with the forces of the cosmos… When pressures mount, don’t become explosive. Instead, work quietly and diligently to alleviate them… When energies subside, use the time to rest and gather your strength instead of exhausting yourself with useless struggling. The development of SYNERGY within the Self will give you added dimensions of control over your future.” ~ The I Ching Workbook, R.L. Wing, Doubleday, New York City, NY, 1979.
Transformation Game: Learning How To Change in a Changing World.
You can discover how to change more gracefully while keeping your integrity by going through this Transformation Game. When you slow down and take the time to go within, you gain a deeper understanding of what you’re really struggling with. Not only that, you can find the motivation to change how you’re responding in a more effective way!
Directions: Simply gaze at the Circle while contemplating the positive affirmations. Breathe deeply and allow yourself to relax as much as possible.
“I reclaim and balance my rational senses.”
“I focus them to be present and keep tuning into my body to determine what I need.”
“I utilize my senses to be aware of my environment so I can respond appropriately.”
“I use them to find solutions, opportunities and innovations that will help me adapt to change.”
“I focus on actions that benefit my health, happiness and _________.”
You might also be having a difficult time adjusting to all the significant environmental changes that are taking place. Sudden reversals, blockages and changes in momentum can cause our subtle energy fields to react in unusual ways.
This Correction Key can help you address any rough glitches or reversals that you may be experiencing.
Relax with it for a few minutes until things smooth out and you can begin to feel your Soul coming through.
An important note about Mind Body Integration ~
The brain and body communicate through different channels when a part of you is crossed over the center of your body. As you work with the Circles, cross and uncross a hand or foot over the midline of your body. Use a soft focus and breathe patiently. This will help you access more information from your unconscious mind. Let any negative self-talk go by breathing through it.
Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you let go!
Once you feel ready, see if you can slow down and let yourself focus on your true priorities. Ask for spiritual guidance that comes from within.
“I slow down and breathe while I turn my attention to what matters most.”
Gently notice the specific aspects of your life that are changing rapidly and need some extra help.
Next, notice if you have aspects that feel stuck, closed off or even going in reverse.
How would you describe these things?
You might want to get out a pen and paper to make note of some of the impressions you get.
Contemplate the medicine from Butterfly for a moment or two:
“I ask my Inner Wisdom for assistance about what needs to change and how to do it in the most beneficial way.”
What needs to happen?
Bring your attention to the center of your chest. Let your heart be involved in this conversation. Are you willing to listen?
Empower your ability to choose in this situation.
“I exist and what I do matters.”
“I can respond to this situation in a productive and helpful way.”
“I bring myself into alignment with my highest good.”
This is a good time to let your energy and mindset open to the generative flow of the New Paradigm. Use this symbol to help you access it:
“I am willing and able to change with the new flow of the Cosmos.”
“I appreciate that I’m doing the best I can.”
“I close down all harmful energy channels.”
“I am open and clear to receive generative life force.”
“I use new cooperative channels of communication that connect me with the Common Good.”
Now you’re ready to go through the rest of the game in the same way by asking yourself questions while you gaze softly at each accompanying Circle. Doing so will help you assess where you’re at.
Take your time, the answers might not come right away. The Circles are helping your mind to clear away mental and emotional resistance to change.
“In this particular situation, how am I dealing with change?
Is that working for me? Is there something I need to change about how I’m dealing with the situation? Am I doing the best I can?”
“Am I stuck on something? Shut down? Unwilling? Is it possible that I’m being too hard on myself? What is the concern?”
If you’re stuck, you might be able to deal with it fairly easily by using Condor Medicine to clear conflict, resistance and fixated thinking.
Imagine that you can use the Circle like a bull’s eye to send healing energy to any conflicts or fixations you may be experiencing. Let go by imagining that the lines are going all limp and loose like spaghetti noodles. Or, you can imagine an iceberg melting away under the Sun.
Either way, be gentle with yourself. If you’re judging yourself too harshly, use the Circle to help you loosen up those rigid thoughts. If you’re shut down, use the Circle to bring your energy back to life! If you need to open up to creativity or dissolve toxic emotions, see yourself doing that.
Move around and stretch in any way that you like.
Continue with your investigation about how to change…
“Am I holding onto past experiences that are no longer relevant?”
You can usually tell if you’re internalizing something because you’ll start to feel physical, mental, emotional or even spiritual irritation. If that’s happening, see if you can stop taking it personally and let it go.
“I surrender these old experiences to the Light and turn to more proactive ways of dealing with change.”
There is no doubt that what we’re going through is challenging. The best thing we can do in difficult situations is to think about what we can learn from them.
“The most important take away for me in this situation is ________.”
“I am learning ____________.”
Be sure to write this down.
For a much deeper integration, trace around the Circle clockwise with your eyes, while you consider your take away thought.
Then, do the same as you trace your eyes around the square in the same direction, both crossed and uncrossed.
How To Change our Experiences – Choose New Ingredients
If we keep choosing ingredients from the past, the soup we call our lives will keep repeating itself over and over. For example, if we were born into a family that keeps choosing shame or blame, we will be liable to keep choosing those ingredients ourselves until we can become conscious of what we’re doing. If we want to change the flavor of our soup, it will help to change the ingredients we’re using!
By choosing ingredients such as self-worth, self-love or self-confidence, we can learn how to change and create a better future.
*Note: if you have an updated copy of The Essential Human, you might want to go through Future Pacing (on page 140). Choose from the archetypes #1 – 42 to help you choose beneficial “ingredients” for creating your life. Ask yourself:
“What ingredients am I choosing? Are there some ingredients that I would like to change?”
“I release harmful ingredients and access beneficial ingredients instead.”
New Agreements
Next, imagine that you can release any old agreements, assumptions or obligations that are keeping you stuck. Visualize them like contracts, burning up into nothingness with a violet flame. Here are some suggestions:
“I let go of outdated agreements that keep me stuck in old patterns or to take on someone else’s conflicts, issues, principles or karma as my own.”
“I let go of being controlled by emotions or external manipulations.”
“I am willing to change when needed and let go of anyone or anything that is causing me harm.”
“I let go of my resistance to ________. I detach from ________. I remove myself from ________.” Etc.
What new agreements would you like to make? For example:
“I maintain my inner balance and stability.”
New Decisions
Make some new decisions that support how to change more appropriately. Here are some suggestions:
“I decide to stay positive in this situation to the best of my ability.” or…
I am capable and my Spirit helps me to handle change…
I am free to change in accordance with my highest good…
I allow other people the space to handle their own issues…”, etc.
“I decide to __________ and _______________,”
See if you can get all the wheels in your mind turning in a clockwise direction.
Renewed Presence
Connect with the Third Chakra at your Solar Plexus and let it open up. Relax and let the tightness go. Deep breathing and presence are your best friends in times of accelerated change! Move around or stretch again if you like.
Courage and Confidence
Keep breathing and give yourself a good dose of courage with the help of Jaguar Medicine:
“I surround myself with courage, confidence and strength.”
Seed Medicine can help you find any karmic seeds you may be holding that are causing you harm. They might not even be yours! It’s time to set things right. Send them to the Light so they can return to wherever they belong.
Reclaim whatever is yours – your ideas, your power, your own beneficial seeds of karma. Bring them home and nurture them gently.
When you’re ready, apply your karma to your own well-being and those experiences that bring you genuine joy.
Now it’s time to dissolve your connection to any underlying abuse, confusion or conflict. Use this symbol for Dissolving Destructive Blueprints and allow the Light to dissolve and lift them off of you.
“I let go of the mental, emotional and spiritual connections I still have to harmful patterns.”
Take your time and visualize them disappearing like dark clouds into the Light!
Please note: Never send destructive energies into the Earth, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of happiness and life – not unhappiness and death!
Considering what you’ve learned from this situation, you may have made some decisions about certain situations that you want to close the door on. Use this Circle to seal and heal all leaks, holes or pathways that lead to back to any resistance or unnecessary suffering:
“All holes are sealed and healed.”
“I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”
Imagine that your mind is like a computer where you can close all the tabs and windows that have been open for far too long!
Before you finish this process, are you grounded in the New Paradigm of cooperation and balanced prosperity? If not, put your feet flat on the ground and let your energy organize around it now.
Congratulations!
It’s rarely easy to make changes of this magnitude, but once you know how to change with the changes, your situation is bound to improve! The I Ching leaves you with this thought:
“Remove discordant elements as they appear, throw out outmoded or stifling policies when they once again create problems, and establish far-reaching clarity about the future whenever the opportunity presents itself.” ~ The I Ching Workbook, R.L. Wing
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If you feel that How to Change has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel off track or overwhelmed.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through Reiki, Energy Medicine, Hypnotherapy, Feng Shui and Shamanic forms of clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].
Disclaimer:
This Transformation Game should not be considered as an exclusive method of handling stress. Soul Resources LLC and Rheanni Lightwater are not licensed to practice medicine. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment for any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
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Protected: The Power of Your Word and Agreements
Balance Your Crown Chakra
Welcome to a Transformation Game to Help You Balance Your Crown Chakra and Shift Your Consciousness:
The crown chakra is located on the crown or top of the head. When clear, this energetic wheel of light vibrates with the colors white and/or gold and influences the entire endocrine system via the pineal gland. If you can open and balance your Crown Chakra, you’re keeping an important link with your spiritual essence clear.
Not only that, when your Crown Chakra is open and integrating well with the rest of your body, you can tap into how you manage your natural cycles, hormones and rhythms that govern self-care and improve sleep.
These are all ingredients for a life affirming, peaceful state of mind.
Unfortunately, the proliferation of harmful toxins and electro-magnetic frequencies in our environment can clog up important energy centers. If you’ve been having trouble with your sleep or connecting with your inner guidance, you can go through this chakra meditation to help you let go of those toxins.
Begin with this Reiki Chakra Key for the five senses, which will help bring your perception of things into greater balance. Use these positive affirmations:
“I connect with and balance my five senses.”
“I use them to be aware of changes in my natural rhythms and to help me get balanced.”
“I sense things accurately – as they are really happening for me in the present, so that I can align with my highest good.”
Your chakras could be having a difficult time adjusting to all the significant changes that are taking place. Sudden reversals, blockages and changes in momentum can cause disruptions in our subtle energy system.
This Soul Star Correction Key can help you correct any rough glitches or reversals that you may be experiencing.
Relax with it for a few minutes until your sense of things smooths out and you can begin to feel the energy of your Soul coming through.
Next, open and balance your Third Chakra located in your solar plexus, the area in front where your ribs go up.
Your Psyche or Essential Self resides most effectively in your Third Chakra. This is the place where it can most effectively connect with the rest of your body. The existence of the Essential Self is discussed in many cultures and disciplines. Other names would be your Inner Child, the Authentic Self, the Golden Child or the Basic Self. Regardless of what it’s called, you can think of it as your gut instincts or “I am” essence.
Keeping this “home space” clear and open is important, so take all the time you need!
Now that your Essence is present, let’s see if you can gently open and balance your Fourth or Heart Chakra. Gaze softly at the Reiki Chakra Key below for a minute or so.
When your heart center is open and balanced, you can naturally feel the energy radiating out into the world. You are a light in this world!
Next, open and align your Master Chakras with your Heart Chakra. This will help to clarify and empower your intentions.
Now it’s time to open and balance your Crown Chakra. Gaze softly at the Reiki Chakra Key below for a minute or two. When it feels like the energy is moving, actively imagine a channel opening up at the very top of your head – like a fountain, letting go of any blockage and interference that may be there.
“I decide to open my Crown Chakra and bring it into balance.”
Once the initial rush of energy is released at the Crown, the fountain will naturally subside.
Let’s not forget to open and balance the chakras for your pineal gland itself (every gland, organ and joint has at least one chakra). The pineal gland produces melatonin, which helps maintain the sleep-wake cycle known as the circadian rhythm and regulate reproductive hormones. Be patient with this one because pineal glands often get clogged up with toxic residue.
“I relax and let my pineal gland relax and clear itself out.”
Now let’s strengthen and reweave the subtle hara lines that connect all these chakras like a beautiful web of light!
To finish this section, clear harmful thoughts and clutter out of the landscape of your mind. Imagine they’re like leftover garbage and you can simply sweep them all away!
Decide that you will no longer allow others to dump their garbage into your mind. Close the door that lets all that garbage in!
Congratulations! You’ve cleared and balanced your Crown Chakra and associated energy fields. Now you’ve set yourself up to function more effectively in the New Paradigm and shift your consciousness to accommodate your new intentions.
The following extra-intuitive activities aren’t required, but they can really help you excel in creating the very best of your talents, interests and passions…
The energy is changing! We’re moving from the Piscean Age (water) into the Aquarian (air), which works quite differently from what we’re used to.
You may need to release some agreements that are preventing you from ADAPTING to the changes. Use this Soul Contract Circle to identify and release conditioning that contributes to struggling, being fearful or out of balance. Simply gaze softly at the Circle while you use the affirmations. Actively imagine those old contracts burning up as you go through this process.
“I clear any agreements I have to panic, over-think or _________.”
I let go of harmful intentions, rhythms, patterns or energies.”
“I let go of harmful ideas, misunderstandings and false guidance.”
You might also want to make new agreements using these suggestions:
“My new agreement is to take good care of myself. I am a priority.”
“I slow down and ask for help from my Spirit to ____________.”
“I am open to spontaneous suggestions from my Soul to __________. Examples: Rest and relax. Take frequent walks in nature. Wash my hands thoroughly with a calm state of mind. Drink clear, refreshing water. Take epson salt baths and use cleansing products with natural clay, etc.
Take several minutes to gaze softly at #32 Condor from Gifts from the Rainforest. This Circle can help you de-magnetize static that contributes to over-thinking, fixations, conflicts or irritation.
“I relax and allow the stress to melt away with every breath I take.”
“I release my grip on feelings of confusion, fear or panic.”
“I let go of mental patterns of compulsive thinking
and being hard on myself.”
“I am open to gentler ways of thinking and being.”
You’ll know you’ve let go when you can easily visualize and feel a more relaxed way of being. “All aspects of my Essence are willing to relax and take it easy
so I can enjoy life better.”
Continue to breathe deeply with this Circle. Imagine that any resistance you may be feeling is loosening up and blowing away, like leaves in the wind.
You might want to move around, shake or rock your body to help you actualize it physically. Take all the time you need!
Let this symbol help you seal off any harmful energy channels that you’ve been open to (do that both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body).
“I close down harmful energy channels.”
“My mind and body are open to receive generative life force.”
“I connect with life affirming channels of communication.”
Now let’s see if you’ve cleared your Self enough to connect with your true hearts desire.
“What would I genuinely like to experience?”
What do you need to help you be in the flow with Nature and get back into sync with it?
Allow the energy of your Soul to come in and fill your consciousness with its life giving vibration. This is your Soul Color. Let it fill your body, your mind and into your aura.
Empower this new chain of communication channels with your Soul. If you feel like you don’t exist, imagine that your Soul can gently connect with your Essence through your heart center. Ask to be empowered in accordance with your highest good!
Breathe deeply while the adjustments take hold.
Once you feel empowered, finish the shift by sending any destructive mental or emotional patterns to the Light with this symbol for dissolving destructive blueprints.
“I let go of outdated ways of thinking and emotional stress.
I send all blockages and interference to the Light to be transformed.”
Please note: Never send destructive energies into the Earth, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of happiness and life – not death!
Once the patterns are cleared, give your heart and Soul some relief through closure.
“All leaks, tears or damages to my aura are repaired and refocused.
My energy is my own.”
Congratulations! Once you feel complete, go back now to the Crown Chakra at the beginning of this exercise and see if you notice a difference in how the energy is moving. When your Crown Chakra is open and balanced, your consciousness, your mood and your natural cycles are greatly improved.
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Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing.
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Disclaimer: These Transformation Games should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
