Retrain Your Mind To Go For Joy

Why does joy elude us? Because the mind is busy going for other things. Like “winning,” being “right,” “desirable” or “perfect.”

Yet, when you retrain your mind to go for “joy” rather than “perfection,” amazing things start to happen…

Retrain Your Mind to Go For Joy

For a lot of us, a tremendous amount of our energy has been focused on externally sourced goals. We try so hard to win, to look good, to escape punishment or to be “right.” Sadly, many of us are taught that we’re supposed to be perfect, so that’s what we’ve trained the mind to go for.

Retrain Your Mind - Let Go of "Being Perfect"But what does “perfection” mean? Whose definition of being perfect are we using? Our parents? Mom? Dad? Our boss? Our family? Religion? The media? All of these definitions are externally sourced and full of contradictions.

More often than not, “perfection” simply means doing what somebody else wants us to do. No wonder so many of us are spinning around, chasing after a hundred different things! Going for perfection usually creates pressure, confusion and an overwhelmed mind!

0n the other hand, going for joy usually creates more joy – which connects us with our true creative spark, which seems as though it would be much better. You can use this Circle to help your mind focus around the energetics of Joy:

Joy – Hummingbird Medicine

In some situations, it might also be helpful to go for:

Balanced Prosperity
Balanced Prosperity


Balance & Equality


If you would like to experiment with this idea, you can go through Retrain Your Mind to Go for Joy and see what happens to your mood and point of view!

Welcome to Learning in the New Paradigm – Mind Exercises to Retrain Your Mind to Go for Joy Rather than “Perfection.”

~ with Rheanni Lightwater, CHT, CKP

Rheanni Lightwater - Retrain Your MindThe Intuitive Learning Circles are a great tool to help you retrain your mind to successfully move away from the internal conflict that comes from having to be perfect. This short exercise will get you started. I’ve put it together to help you discover a way to refocus on internally sourced goals that are joyful and genuinely meaningful for you! All you have to do is relax and gaze softly at the Circles while you gently contemplate the affirmations or questions that go with them. Here’s an example:

“I reclaim and balance my five senses.”

“I fine tune them to be present and aware of my Soul and its purpose.”

“I use them to become aware of interference, obstacles and false ideas about perfection.”

“I am motivated to focus on beneficial solutions, opportunities and joy.”

An important note about Mind Body Integration ~ 

Retrain Your Mind for Mind Body IntegrationThe brain and body communicate through different channels when a part of you is crossed over the center of your body. As you go through the steps, cross and uncross a hand or foot over the midline of your body when you gaze at each Circle. Use a soft focus and breathe patiently. This will help you integrate your thinking more fully so that you can be more creative. If you have any negative self-talk, let it go by breathing through it.

Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience! 

Changes in the flow of your environment may cause the energy in your subtle energy field to start running in reverse or shut down entirely. 

Take a few breaths and let this symbol help you make corrections. Relax and sense your overall energy. If it feels jagged or disjointed, stay with the Key until the energy smooths out and you can begin to feel the energy of your Soul coming through. Affirm this intention both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body:

“I repair the glitches, holes and blockages in my energy system.”

Please note: You may need to do this several times during the course of this exercise…


Okay, so let’s begin to retrain your mind…

Step One: In your current situation, who or what is defining “perfection” for you?

Perhaps it’s the media or something you learned at home or in school.

Wherever it came from, does that definition create joy for you? Is it creating more balanced prosperity? What about freedom or equality?

So, what are you actually asking your mind to accomplish?


Step Two: How much of your energy have you been sending to this definition?

If it were a percentage, what might it be?

10%? 20%? 50% or more?

Would you like to send that energy to create more joy in this situation instead?


Step Three: Imagine you can retrain your mind to reorganize itself around “joy,” rather than “perfection.”

Place the word “Joy,” or “Balanced Prosperity” in the center, open space of the Circle and soften your gaze. Relax. While you’re doing this, the Circle may seem to rotate, spin or even change colors. If that happens – go with it. Release control of the experience and let your thoughts re-arrange themselves. Your new goal may turn into images, experiences, colors, sounds or movements. Let it happen! You will know that the process is complete when the energy subsides.

Try the same with “Freedom” and “Equality”.
You can get up and move around if you like. Take all the time that you need so you can align with the inner guidance system of your Soul!


Step Four: Think about your situation again and bring your senses into balance by focusing on the center open space of this Circle.

Ask your heart: “What do I really want to accomplish?”


Step Five: Take a moment to clarify your intention through your Third Eye Chakra. Focus inwardly on what’s most important for you.

Chakra Healing - Third Eye Chakra

Remember to keep breathing!


Step Six: Clear the energy in your Heart Chakra so you can connect your ideas about Joy with the true creative spark of your life force.

From there, connect with your other intentions for balanced prosperity, etc.

Keep directing the energy to the center open space of the Circle. Doing so will help you bring your true intentions more fully into the center of your life!


Step Seven: How might you approach your life situation differently now? What action can you take that will help you know you’re going for joy?

How is it different when you go for balanced prosperity, freedom and equality?

Congratulations! Going for joy rather than perfection is a central concept of the Intuitive Learning Circles that will help you to live and prosper in the New Paradigm of co-operation, equality and balanced prosperity.

Extra-intuitive Activities

The following extra-intuitive activities aren’t required, but they can really help you excel in creating the very best of your talents, interests and passions…

Future Pacing

Future pacing is a way to deepen the effects of any mind body healing by projecting a preferred outcome into the future. You can use that idea to solidify what you’ve just learned about going for joy.

If you agree, join us in Future Pacing with Hypnotherapy!

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Rheanni Lightwater - Retraining the MindRheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT lives and practices in Santa Fe, NM and has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still help retraining your mind.

Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].

This Mind Exercise should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment if there is any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

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