Why does joy elude us? Because the mind is busy going for other things. Like “winning,” being “right,” “desirable” or “perfect.”
Yet, when you retrain your mind to go for “joy” rather than “perfection,” amazing things start to happen…
For a lot of us, a tremendous amount of our energy has been focused on externally sourced goals. We try so hard to win, to look good, to escape punishment or be “right.” Sadly, most of us are taught that we’re supposed to be perfect, so that’s what we’ve trained the mind to go for.
But what does “perfection” mean? Whose definition of being perfect are we using? Our parents? Mom? Dad? Our boss? Our family? Religion? The media? All of these definitions are externally sourced and full of contradictions.
More often than not, “perfection” simply means doing what somebody else wants us to do. No wonder so many of us are spinning around, chasing after a hundred different things! Going for perfection usually creates pressure, confusion and an overwhelmed mind!
On the other hand, going for joy usually creates more joy – which connects us with our true creative spark, which seems as though it would be much better. However, in some situations, it might be even more effective to go for “freedom”, “balance” or “sustainable prosperity.”
If you would like to experiment with this idea, you can go through Retrain Your Mind to Go for Joy and see what happens to your mood and point of view!
Welcome to Learning in the New Paradigm – Mind Exercises to Retrain Your Mind to Go for Joy Rather than “Perfection.”
~ with Rheanni Lightwater, CHT, CKP
The Intuitive Learning Circles™ are a great tool to help you retrain your mind to successfully move away from the internal conflict that comes from having to be perfect. This short exercise will get you started. I’ve put it together to help you discover a way to refocus on internally sourced goals that are joyful and genuinely meaningful for you! All you have to do is relax and gaze softly at the Circles while you gently contemplate the affirmations or questions that go with them. Here’s an example:
“I fine tune them to be present and aware of my Soul and its purpose.”
“I use them to become aware of interference, obstacles and false ideas about ‘perfection’.”
“I focus on beneficial opportunities, solutions and ________.”
An important note about Mind Body Integration ~
The brain and body communicate through different channels when a part of you is crossed over the center of your body. As you go through the steps, cross and uncross a hand or foot over the midline of your body when you gaze at each Circle. Use a soft focus and breathe patiently. This will help you integrate your thinking more fully so that you can be more creative. If you have any negative self-talk, let it go by breathing through it.
Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience!
Okay, so let’s begin to retrain your mind…
Step One: In your current situation, who or what is defining “perfection” for you?
Perhaps it’s the media or something you learned at home or in school.
Wherever it came from, does that definition create joy for you? Is it creating more balance or freedom?
So, what are you actually asking your mind to accomplish?
Step Two: How much of your energy have you been sending to this definition?
If it were a percentage, what might it be?
10%? 20%? 50% or more?
Would you like to send that energy to create more joy in this situation instead?
Step Three: Imagine you can retrain your mind to reorganize itself around “joy,” rather than “perfection”.
Place the word “Joy,” “Balance” or “Freedom” in the center, open space of the Circle and soften your gaze. Relax. While you’re doing this, the Circle may seem to rotate, spin or even change colors. If that happens – go with it. Release control of the experience and let your thoughts re-arrange themselves. Your new goal may turn into images, experiences, colors, sounds or movements. Let it happen! You will know that the process is complete when the energy subsides.
You can get up and move around if you like. Take all the time that you need so you can align with your stars!
Step Four: Think about your situation again. What do you really want to accomplish?
Step Five: Take a moment to clarify. Focus inwardly on what’s most important for you.
Remember to keep breathing!
Step Six: Clear the energy in your Heart Chakra so you can connect your ideas about Joy with the true creative spark of your life force.
From there, connect with your other intentions for balance, freedom, sustainable prosperity, etc.
Keep directing the energy to the center open space of the Circle. Doing so will help you bring your true intentions more fully into the center of your life!
Step Seven: How might you approach your life situation differently now? What action can you take that will help you know you’re going for joy?
How is it different when you go for balance or freedom? What about sustainable prosperity?
Step Eight: Choose more beneficial ingredients from the Field of Potential to create the “soup” of your life.
* If you have a copy of The Essential Human, now would be a good time to use Future Pacing on page 140 to help you project a preferred outcome into the future. Choose new ingredients from The Essential Human #1 – 42. Use this affirmation:
“I release harmful ingredients and access beneficial ingredients.”
Step Nine: Now that you’ve refocused your thoughts and energy on joy, take a break. Give your mind less to have to think about.
“I close the door on all that confusion. I give my mind a rest.”
Congratulations! Going for joy rather than perfection is a central concept of the Intuitive Learning Circles™ that will help you to live and prosper in the New Paradigm of co-operation and sustainable prosperity.
Thank you for playing Retrain Your Mind to Go for Joy. Now is a good time to go for a walk and relax to help this all integrate!
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Rheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT lives and practices in Santa Fe, NM. She specializes in learning difficulties and mind body healing using Kinesiology, the Intuitive Learning Circles™, Reiki as a Master/Teacher, Hypnotherapy and Shamanic Clearing Techniques.
Schedule with Rheanni via Zoom or in person when you visit Santa Fe, New Mexico. Email your request to: firstname.lastname@example.org or text her at (505) 271-4612 between 10:00am – 5:00pm, MST, Monday through Friday.
This Mind Exercise should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment if there is any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.