Clear Boundaries
Setting Clear Boundaries for a Busy Mind
What can you do to help yourself when it feels like you’re unable to focus on important details that matter to you. Is your line of thinking clear? Has someone or something “gotten under your skin”?
Without clear boundaries, thoughts and emotions can pass back and forth between people without their awareness. When left unchecked, this type of attachment can go underground and contribute to sudden and mysterious illnesses, mental confusion, issues with prosperity or chronic states of overwhelm.
It’s a valuable skill to know how to close the doors or energy pathways at will. This Mind Exercise can help you learn how to consciously set clear boundaries and close off those pathways.
This visual meditation from our SOS Resolve Ebook provides a quick framework for recovering mental balance and refocusing attention. Going through a quick “game” calms the emotional centers of your brain and opens up new neural pathways for self-awareness and clear boundaries, which significantly reduces stress and increases clarity.
Use this Mind Exercise when you are:
~ Feeling scattered or out of sync
~ Easily triggered and need better boundaries
~ Experiencing distress or separation anxiety
~ Worried, agitated or anticipating hardship
~ Feeling pressured or compulsive
~ Unable to meditate or sit still
~ Obsessed with a particular person or situation.
Directions: Confirm this is the best exercise for you with the RESOLVE symbol.
Find a quiet place if possible, where you won’t be disturbed for about twenty minutes. Follow the sequence of symbols while you read their accompanying instructions. Gaze gently at each Circle for about two minutes. A longer or shorter time may be necessary. Let yourself breathe and relax as much as possible.
Don’t worry if the images move around or change in any way. That just means the Circles are working and that your mind and body are relaxing.
Mind Body Integration
The brain and body communicate through different channels when a part of you is crossed over the center of your body. Therefore, you will want to look at each Circle both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body.
If you feel resistant or stuck, cross or uncross a hand or foot over the midline of your body and go back to the Circle, breathing patiently. See if your thinking starts to move again. Let negative self-talk go by breathing through it Just breathe deeply and relax.
After you’ve finished going through the entire exercise, give yourself some time to let it integrate. A quiet mind and light heart will change your perspective and make it easier to accomplish your goals.
Step 1. Balance
Begin by consciously breathing in on the count of three and slowly exhaling on the count of five. Do that three or four times while you gaze softly at the Circle. It’s helpful if you can breathe in through your nose.
Continue breathing and bring your awareness to your tailbone.
Step 2. Calm
Keep breathing with your belly soft and relaxed.
Let your shoulders drop.
Gaze softly at this Circle and imagine you can turn down the feelings or thoughts that are turned up too high, just like the volume on a radio.
Step 3. Centering
See if you can gather your awareness and connect it – like all the lines that come together into the center of this symbol.
Imagine you can close up unhealthy energy channels between you and all the noise that’s coming from the outside.
Stay with it until you feel more centered with beneficial energy flowing through you.
Step 4. Protection
Now, gaze softly at this Circle and use it to close all holes or harmful pathways that have been left wide open.
“I close the pathways that lead to distractions, disturbances and interference.”
“All holes are sealed and healed.”
“I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”
Step 5. Beauty
Now that the pathways are closed, you can shift your attention away from the negative and turn towards more positive input. Breathe in again and exhale slowly.
Take your time and let this Circle help you call the most majestic scenes into your mind that you can imagine.
Notice how your body responds and relaxes into the experience.
Step 6. Expansion
Turn your attention to your breathing again and how calming it is.
You can sense the steady rhythm of your heart.
The gentle expansion and contraction of your lungs.
Breathing in and letting go. The space around you is relaxing too.
Step 7. Letting Go
There may be some especially sticky energies that don’t seem to want to let go. Let this Key help you neutralize interfering energies and detach from them.
Like a healing balm, imagine that a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you.
Step 8. Intention
Now you’re ready to gently turn your mind to what’s in your best interests. What are your true priorities?
Slow down and take your time.
Step 9: Grounding and Coherence
This Circle will help your energy get organized and grounded. Put both your feet on the floor, place your palms on the inside of your knees and keep breathing until you feel planted.
Then, visualize a wheel spinning out any discordant energy that’s still hanging on and causing problems. When you can release excess energy, it’s much easier to think more clearly and feel like yourself again.
Step 10. Compassion
Imagine with each relaxing new breath that you can fill your heart with renewed understanding and compassion – that includes caring for yourself with clear boundaries.
Step 11. Decision
Your well-being is important. Are the any new decisions would you like to make about it?
Here’s a few suggestions:
“I decide to be loyal to myself.”
“It’s okay to have strong and clear boundaries.”
“It’s genuinely joyful to have a quiet mind and a light heart.”
Step 12. Resolution
Make a commitment to stay centered and true to yourself.
“I keep my own energy contained for my own protection.”
“I easily eject and deflect harmful thoughts, interference or expectations.”
“I resolve to create and maintain clear boundaries.”
Step 13. Nourishment
Before you get on with your day, see if there’s any helpful nutrition that would support you. Let this Circle help you tune into natural healing energy.
Are there any vegetables, fruits, herbs, teas or other healing foods that come to mind? Anything else?
Step 14. Completion
Finish by closing any remaining openings to the noise and distractions of the external world.
“All holes are sealed and healed.”
“I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”
What does your Soul advise you to do now?
Congratulations! Now that you’ve finished, give yourself some time to let it integrate. A quiet mind and light heart changes your perspective and makes it easier to accomplish your goals.
About the Author
If you feel that you need additional help, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel concerned about your communication challenge.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing.
Schedule with Rheanni via Zoom or in person when you visit Santa Fe, New Mexico. Call or text (505) 271-4612 between 10:00am – 5:00pm, MST, Monday through Friday to schedule or email: [email protected]
Disclaimer:
Clear Boundaries for a Busy Mind should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
Clear Distractions – Tutorial VI
Using Gifts from the Rainforest to Clear Distractions
Animal Energy Medicine for Healing the Modern Mind – Tutorial VI
- Enhance your intuition and self-healing abilities
- Heal negative karmic and energetic patterns
- Change destructive attitudes, habits and behaviors
- Create new templates for self-love and joy
- Guided meditations to hear your inner guidance
CLEAR DISTRACTIONS FROM YOUR MIND
As you learned in the previous Tutorials, each Circle has a different healing action or medicine and is often used in sequence with positive affirmations to help you focus your intent and support the positive changes that you’re asking for.
When the Circle are put together in different sequences, they can help us accomplish different mental and emotional tasks. In this case, let’s go through a short sequence that will help you clear distractions and focus on your own objectives more effectively.
Remember as you go through this visualization, each Circle is working with your breath and Inner Guidance – helping you to shift and change in just the way that’s best for you.
You are in charge of your attention, unless you’ve given that power away!
Access and Utilize Your Natural Creative Abilities.
Sometimes people are overstimulated or have learning difficulties that interfere with their ability to focus and productivity. Sometimes, a more creative and instinctual approach will help. Use these positive affirmations with the Circles to access your intuition, gut instincts and the creative power of Nature through #31 Dragonfly.
“I actively seek out the wisdom of my Animal Instincts and the Natural World.”
“I accept help from the generous, abundant resources of life and listen to their promptings.”
“I connect to the natural protective and creative abilities of my Psyche and Soul.”
Ask your Power Animal to help you see your objective from your Soul’s perspective:
– Are there any distractions interfering with your ability to focus?
– Do you need to detach from any harmful intentions, extremes or expectations?
– Are you heading the wrong way?
When you have a lot of noise or buzzing going on in your head, Mosquito Medicine can help you. Imagine that you can open up a window and let in some fresh air to clear up your mind.
“I relax and allow the buzzing and excess noise to move out of my head
on a gentle gust of wind.”
Now imagine that your mind just has too much information coming in, like having too many tabs open on your computer.
Piranha Medicine #8 will help you close those extra tabs out. Use these positive affirmations to help:
“All extraneous openings are closing down.”
There could be hundreds of them, so be sure to repeat each visualization both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body.
“Pathways to distractions are sealed up and healed.”
“I turn my attention to the direction of my Soul’s intention.”
Once you’ve closed out the noise, let Praying Mantis help you refocus your attention on whatever your current priority is.
“I am able to pull my energy and attention in so I can focus on what I’m doing.”
Again, do that both crossed and uncrossed so the correction is complete.
“What is the next step for my priority?”
Remember all that you learned from Raccoon in Rainforest Tutorial #V? This is an excellent example of when and how old agreements you’re holding onto could be interfering with your well being.
“I release all agreements to automatically give my power away or
allow my mind to be distracted.”
“I let go of second guessing myself or doubting my own priorities.”
Be sure that your new agreements confirm who is in charge, what you’re doing and how you get it done.
“My Soul is in charge of how my energy is used – even when I’m distracted by ____________.”
“I reclaim my power and attention.”
“I focus on what’s important.”
If you need more help, use Wasp Medicine #5 to pull your energy away from negative situations or encounters. Include worries about the future or even old memories of painful experiences.
“I pull myself and my energy out of negative spaces and experiences that are detrimental to me.”
The Wasp also reminds you to keep yourself protected. Do you have proper protection now? If not, what might help?
“I stop operating under the influence of this energy.”
“I find other, more positive ways to move forward.”
It’s possible that you’ve been taking your projects a little too seriously and the energy around them has gotten too heavy.
Gather yourself in your center with #14 Otter Medicine and bring some fun and lightness into whatever you’re doing. Include “having some fun” as part of your intention!
“I want to bring a healthy sense of fun into what I’m doing.”
You might also have lost track of what the purpose for your original intention was. Garden #44 can help you place it again.
Use the Circle to remember what this activity has to do with your life and the personal dream you hold for yourself.
“The purpose of this activity is to ______________.”
Is your heart in the right place? If it isn’t, what might help?
You may have some particularly harmful intentions affecting you, conditioned from past experiences or expectations. Be sure that your mind isn’t holding contradictory or outdated intentions that would bring chaos and confusion into what you’re doing and what kind of results you’re getting.
“My Soul is in charge of where I put my energy and how I use it –
even when I’m distracted by ____________.”
“I let go of intentions that are rigid and inflexible.”
“I stop sending energy to the idea that what I’m doing has to be perfect.”
Creativity, flexibility and adaptability are important priorities to send energy to under our current circumstances.
Butterfly Medicine #34 can help you remember to tap into the most positive energies available to you, no matter where you are.
“I relax and use the most beneficial energies possible to manifest my true objectives successfully.”
Now that you have the proper focus, position, agreements, purpose and energy, let #47 Starlight Medicine help you put it all together. Use this affirmation:
“I have successfully organized my objectives around the priorities of my Soul.”
Get up and move around a bit to help this settle and get integrated. When you come back, you can ask yourself:
“What is the next best step I can take to help me with my objectives?”
Congratulations! You’ve just pulled yourself back from the dangers of a distracted mind. Get up and move around a bit to help this settle and get integrated.
Next Time:
In the Seventh Tutorial, you’ll get an opportunity to experience how Gifts from the Rainforest can help you take aim at the concept of reciprocity.
Return to the Tutorial List for Gifts from the Rainforest ~
Disclaimer:
The Intuitive Learning Circles should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment for any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described in Gifts from the Rainforest or this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.