Letting Go and Moving On

Help for Moving On from Deteriorating Relationships

Transformation Game - Moving OnMany people are having a difficult time getting grounded and staying clear in the New Paradigm of cooperation and equality because they are getting pulled out of the present by emotional attachments to the past. You can get centered and remedy this situation by going through  Kuan Yin’s I Ching Reading for moving on.

“If you are experiencing a situation where there is:

  • a great deal of incompetence
  • argumentative persons
  • societal discord
  • a break up in friendship or family relations
  • refusal to participate in cooperative ventures or
  • depressed health due to a toxic environment

The situation is definitely in the flow of the I Ching Hexagram #23 – DETERIORATION.

In cases such as these, forceful displays of power will absolutely backfire. Stay strong within yourself. Do nothing to push your personal agenda regarding this particular situation and be very conservative with any investment of time or money. Doing so would probably result in loss.

The best things to do when dealing with DETERIORATING situations is to take care of yourself very sensibly and to find acceptance of the times within yourself. Be generous and kind to those you care about. Keep your focus on important opportunities that are available to you now.

Keep emotional reactions to a minimum and refrain from jumping to conclusions. Meditate, surrender to the fact that all things must end. Know that eventually there will come a change for the better.

If you deal with a situation of DETERIORATION with an attitude of “I’m going to fix this” or “I need to understand why these people are thinking or behaving this way,” notice how you’re actually giving the situation more fuel, rather than letting nature take its course. It could be your attachment to the situation that’s keeping it from dying out on its own. When you let go, Nature can take its course. In most cases, the negativity will feed on itself and die out naturally. 

Here’s some help through a Transformation Game called “Letting Go and Moving On.”

Gently gaze at these Intuitive Learning Circles one at a time and consider the question or affirmation that goes with each Step. This process helps you to become aware of what’s bothering you, so that you can make a different choice to use your energy more productively and in tune with your Inner Guidance.

 Step 1:

What is a relationship around you now that is DETERIORATING? Trust the message that comes through from your deepest, wisest guidance.

If your mind is blocked or blank go here and read about Fixated Thoughts or Shock>


Step 2:

Enhance your inner guidance by calming your senses and bringing them into balance. Some may be turned up too high and some may be too low. Relax and allow your eyes to rest gently on the Circle below.

Mind Body IntegrationTake some deep breaths and let your shoulders drop. Adjust the volume to your senses. Do that both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body to achieve greater mind body integration.


Step 3:

What is the emotion that tends to pull you into that energy?

Once you have identified what you’re feeling, take a moment and just relax into it. Could it be a phobia, an obsession or a compulsion?

“I accept that this emotional state is present and that it must change. All things eventually change.”

If you can, rub your shoulders and neck for a minute or two. The more you relax and accept what you’re feeling, the easier it will release and dissipate.


Step 4:

Release your agreement to remain connected with that energy or the emotions it transmits.

“I detach from energy imprints that are foreign or harmful to me.”

“I send them to the Sun where they can safely be transmuted.”


Step 5:

Bring your awareness now to your body. Go to your solar plexus area and open your third chakra, the home to your Essence and “gut instincts.”  

Let go of any toxic energy and bring the chakra into balance.


Step 6:

Bring your awareness to your Heart Center. Allow this Reiki Chakra Key to open and balance it.

Keep relaxing and breathing into it. Eventually, you will be able to feel life energy radiating out. The light of your Heart Chakra is shining!


Step 7.

Gaze softly at this Circle that connects you with the energy and empowerment of your Soul. Imagine that your energy system can adapt to the changes that are needed. Continue to relax and breathe as you use this affirmation:

“When it comes to the situation of _________, I exist and am empowered to manifest my highest good.”


Step 8:

Allow yourself to connect with your Soul’s unique vibration and energy. Continue to relax and breathe as you use this affirmation:

“I am resonating with the vibration of my Soul.”

“I strengthen my unique gifts and talents.”


Step 9:

Use this Circle to help you detach from negative energies around your situation.

“I release all attachments and energy signatures that are not from my Soul.” 

“I detach from destructive energies and illnesses.”

These may include energies from other people, even family members.


Step 10:

Consciously close down any destructive energy channels that are coming from the DETERIORATING situation.

“I am no longer connected to that DETERIORATING situation.”


Step 11.

Now, get fully present. Use this affirmation to help you:

“I live in the present and deal with what is.”

If you’re having trouble getting present, it can help to close your fingers into fists and open them again, several times. If you get overwhelmed or feel a strong emotion come up, go back to Step #2 and repeat the process to relax and dissipate the emotion.


Step 12:

Now that you are present, ask your deepest wisest guidance:

“What is an action I can take that will help me to move on?”

Take as much time as you need to reorganize your thoughts and energy around positive action.


Step 13:

Consciously re-direct your energy and attention toward a situation you want to encourage instead. Move your attention and energy away from the DETERIORATING situation.

“I turn my energy toward productive activities and plans.”


Step 14:

Use this symbol to consciously release any remaining mental, emotional or spiritual baggage that is interfering with your freedom. 

You can visualize them as dark clouds or entanglements that you can send to the Light to be purified. Stay with it until you feel they are completely gone.

Step 15:

Finish the game by closing off the pathways in your mind that lead back to the DETERIORATING situation.

“I let go and seal off the ways I prolong or maintain suffering for myself or anyone else.”


Having the faith that you don’t need to be in control of a DETERIORATING situation is a big help in coming to terms with change and moving on in a positive way.


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About the Author

Rheanni Lightwater - Adapting to Change

Rheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT specializes in online mind body healing and COVID support using Reiki Energy Medicine, Hypnotherapy, Dream Tending and the Intuitive Learning Circles™Specialized protocols include Advanced Energy Recalibrations for:

  • Respiratory and Circulatory Health
  • Overstimulated Nervous System and Immune Response
  • Digestive and Intestinal Health
  • Sleep Difficulties and Nightmares

Long distance intuitive readings are available with Rheanni (Ray-ah-nee). Find out about her online Intuitive Readings and Clearings.

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This Transformation Game should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment if there is any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.