Learning How to Change

Are You Changing with the Changes?

If you’re like most of us, you’re overwhelmed by the speed and amount of uncertainty and confusing changes taking place. One day, it feels like life is getting back to normal and in a flash, everything changes! 

Many people feel anxious about their kids going to school or their work situation. Lines of communication are undergoing radical transition, while others are as stuck and stubborn as can be. The old social structures are crumbling and new ones are rising from the rubble. No wonder you might be more volatile than usual and there should be no surprise if people get over-reactive and defensive. Our bodies are worn out and our minds are torn in a hundred directions!  How can we learn to change with all these changes?  

The 64 Hexagrams in the I Ching or Book of Change have much to teach us about the importance of being flexible and knowing how to change. 

For example, Hexagram #29 DANGER says:

The situation is one of real DANGER, caused by and manifested in the affairs of man... Acting with integrity and confidence is the key to surmounting the DANGER.”

In Hexagram #49 CHANGING, the ancient text states: 

“A struggle is occurring …the time of CHANGING suggests that although you may not know what to do, you know that something must be done. Your best course is to alert yourself by paying careful attention to the shifting moods of those around you. Take stock of the general feelings running throughout society. This may help you determine your own personal imperatives and the support you can expect in carrying them out.”

In Hexagram #51 SHOCKING, the text says, “The only thing predictable about what is coming is its SHOCKING unpredictability… Examine yourself to see if you have in your heart an acceptance of the sudden forces of the cosmos. Only with this attitude can you behave correctly.”

Transformation Game: Learning How To Change in a Changing World.

You can discover how to change more gracefully and let go of the resistance by going through this Transformation Game. When you slow down and take the time to go within, you can gain a deeper understanding of what you’re really struggling with. Not only that, you can find the motivation to change how you’re responding in a more effective way!

Directions: Simply gaze at the Circle while contemplating the positive affirmations. Breathe deeply and allow yourself to relax as much as possible.

“I reclaim and balance my rational senses.”

“I focus them to be present and keep tuning into my body to determine what I need.”

“I use them to notice my environment so I can reject, repel or avoid harmful thoughts, energies and attitudes.”

“I focus on actions that benefit my health, happiness and  ____________.”

An important note about Mind Body Integration ~ 

Retrain Your Mind for Mind Body IntegrationThe brain and body communicate through different channels when a part of you is crossed over the center of your body. As you work with the Circles, cross and uncross a hand or foot over the midline of your body. Use a soft focus and breathe patiently. This will help you access your resistances more fully so that you can release more. Let any negative self-talk go by breathing through it.

Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you let go!

Once you feel ready, see if you can slow down and let yourself focus on your true priorities.

“I slow down and breathe while I clear my mind. I turn my attention to what matters most.”

Gently, clear your awareness to notice what specific areas of your life are changing rapidly and those that feel stuck or even rolling backwards. What do you notice? What do you need to catch up with? What do you need to accept and let go of? You might want to make note of some of the impressions you get.


Empower your ability to choose in this situation.

“I exist and what I do matters.”

“I can respond to this situation in a productive and helpful way.”

“I bring myself into alignment with my highest good.”


Now you’re ready to go through the rest of the game in the same way by asking yourself questions while you gaze softly at each accompanying Circle. Doing so will help you assess where you’re at. Take your time, the answers might not come right away. The Circles are helping your mind to clear away mental and emotional resistance.

“In this particular situation, how am I dealing with change?

Is that working for me? Do I need to change how I’m dealing with the situation? Am I doing the best I can?” 

Am I stuck on something? Shut down? Unwilling? Is it possible that I’m being too hard on myself? What is the concern?”


If you’re stuck, you might be able to deal with it fairly easily by using this Circle that clears conflict, resistance and fixated thinking.  

Imagine that you can use the Circle like a bull’s eye to dissolve, melt or send a laser beam to break up any conflicts or fixations you may be experiencing.

If you’re judging yourself too harshly, use the Circle to help you break up those rigid thoughts. If you’re shut down, use the Circle to bring yourself back to life! Move around in any way that you like.


Continue with your investigation about how to change…

“Am I taking anything personally?”

You can usually tell if you’re internalizing something because you’ll start to experience physical, mental, emotional or even spiritual irritation.

“I stop taking this personally and let it go. I turn to more positive ways of dealing with this particular situation.”


Think about what you can learn from this situation.
“The most important take away for me in this situation is ________.”
“I am learning ____________.”
Be sure to write this down.

For a much deeper integration, trace around the Circle clockwise with your eyes, both uncrossed and crossed, while you consider your take away thought.

Then, do the same as you trace your eyes around the square in the same direct, both crossed and uncrossed.

The Essential Human*Note: if you have an updated copy of The Essential Human, you might want to go through Future Pacing (on page 140) to help you choose beneficial “ingredients” for creating your life. Ask yourself:
“What ingredients am I choosing?” 

Choose from the archetypes #1 – 42. Use this affirmation:
“I release harmful ingredients and access beneficial ingredients instead.”


Next, imagine that you can release any old agreements, assumptions or obligations that are keeping you stuck in conflict. Visualize them like contracts, burning up into nothingness with a violet flame. Here are some suggestions:

“I let go of outdated agreements to rebel against what’s good for me or to fall into apathy.”

“I let go of the need to hold onto anyone or anything harmful in this situation.”

“I let go of ________. I detach from ________. I remove ________.” Etc.


Make some new decisions that support how to change more appropriately. Here are some suggestions: “I choose to see this situation in a positive light.” or… “I am capable and my Spirit helps me to handle change… I am free to change in accordance with my highest good… I allow other people the space to handle their own issues…”, etc.


Connect with the Third Chakra at your Solar Plexus and let it open up. Relax and let the tightness go. Deep breathing and presence are your best friends in times of accelerated change! Move around or stretch if you like.


Keep breathing and give yourself a good dose of courage with the help of Jaguar Medicine:

“I surround myself with courage, strength and determination.”


Imagine that this symbol can help you find any thoughts or seeds of rebellion you’re feeling. They might not even be yours! It’s time to set things right. Send them back to wherever they belong.

Reclaim whatever is yours – your ideas, your power, your own beneficial seeds of karma. Bring them home and nurture them gently.


Now it’s time to dissolve your connection to any confusion or conflict. Use this symbol for Dissolving Destructive Blueprints and send all the patterns into the Light.

“I dissolve the mental, emotional and spiritual connections to these patterns of conflict.”

Take your time and visualize them dissolving like dark clouds into bright sunshine!


Next, seal and heal all leaks, holes or pathways that lead to back to any resistance or unnecessary suffering:

“All holes are sealed and healed. I follow the direction of healthy protection.”


Are you grounded in the New Paradigm of cooperation and sustainable prosperity? If not, put your feet flat on the ground and let your energy organize around it now.


Finally, let your mindset align itself with gratitude and grace:

“I am grateful to be changing with the changes.”


It’s rarely easy to let go of conflict, but once you know how to change with the changes, your situation is bound to improve! The I Ching leaves you with this thought:

“Remove discordant elements as they appear, throw out outmoded or stifling policies when they once again create problems, and establish far-reaching clarity about the future whenever the opportunity presents itself.” ~ The I Ching Workbook, R.L. Wing

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Rheanni Lightwater, Reiki Master Teacher

If you feel that How to Change has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP is an expert in the art and science of mind body healing. She has 23+ years experience in dream tending, energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing. Contact her if you still feel exposed, lost, or overwhelmed.

Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: info@soulresourcesllc.com.

This Transformation Game should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

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