Are You Changing with the Changes?
If you’re like most of us, you’re overwhelmed by the speed and amount of confusing changes taking place. One day, it feels like life is moving forward and then, in a flash, conditions are completely changed! What do we need to learn to know how to change with all these changes?
Whether you’re feeling anxious about the increase in violence and erratic behavior, health, finances, the environment, relationships or your work situation – the underlying fabric of society is undergoing radical transition and our lines of communication are down. The false security of the “good old days” is gone and new ways to handle our lives need to take form. It’s no wonder that so many of us are feeling more emotional than usual. Under these conditions, it’s easy to get pulled into a hole of frustration and negativity. Our bodies are worn out and our minds are torn in a hundred directions!
The 64 Hexagrams in the I Ching or Book of Change have much to teach us about the importance of being flexible and knowing how to change.
For example, Hexagram #41 DECLINE says: “The pendulum swings once again, this time moving into a general DECLINE. Although the DECLINE points to the beginning of a later flowering, the way you handle this current decrease in resources is of great importance. This decrease is in accordance with the forces in the cosmos and therefore perfectly natural and completely unavoidable. You will ultimately benefit, however, from any sacrifices you must now make.”
In Hexagram #29 DANGER, the text says, “Acting with integrity and confidence is the key to surmounting the DANGER… In personal relationships, do not allow passions to lead you into peril. If the difficulties cannot be resolved without sacrificing your principles, the relationship may be irresolute.”
In Hexagram #49 CHANGING, the ancient text states: “The forces at work in the situation are in conflict, leaving the path open to change. Yet the work of bringing about such a change is as difficult as it is important. People fear change because of its unknowable effect upon the future; … Clarity, forethought, and great devotion are now required to achieve your purpose.”
Transformation Game: Learning How To Change in a Changing World.
You can discover how to change more gracefully while keeping your integrity by going through this Transformation Game. When you slow down and take the time to go within, you can gain a deeper understanding of what you’re really struggling with. Not only that, you can find the motivation to change how you’re responding in a more effective way!
Directions: Simply gaze at the Circle while contemplating the positive affirmations. Breathe deeply and allow yourself to relax as much as possible.
“I reclaim and balance my rational senses.”
“I focus them to be present and keep tuning into my body to monitor what I’m needing.”
“I use them to notice my environment so I can respond appropriately.”
“I focus on actions that benefit my health, happiness and ____________.”
An important note about Mind Body Integration ~
The brain and body communicate through different channels when a part of you is crossed over the center of your body. As you work with the Circles, cross and uncross a hand or foot over the midline of your body. Use a soft focus and breathe patiently. This will help you access more information from your unconscious mind. Let any negative self-talk go by breathing through it.
Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you let go!
Once you feel ready, see if you can slow down and let yourself focus on your true priorities. Ask for true spiritual guidance that comes from within.
“I slow down and breathe while I clear my mind. I turn my attention to what matters most.”
Gently, notice the specific areas of your life that are changing rapidly and need some extra help.
Next, notice the areas that feel stuck, closed off or even going in reverse. How would you describe these things?
You might want to get out a pen and paper to make note of some of the impressions you get.
“I ask my Inner Wisdom for assistance about what needs to change and how to do it in the most positive way.”
What needs to happen?
Bring your attention to the center of your chest. Let your heart be involved in this conversation.
Empower your ability to choose in this situation.
“I exist and what I do matters.”
“I can respond to this situation in a productive and helpful way.”
“I bring myself into alignment with my highest good.”
Now you’re ready to go through the rest of the game in the same way by asking yourself questions while you gaze softly at each accompanying Circle. Doing so will help you assess where you’re at. Take your time, the answers might not come right away. The Circles are helping your mind to clear away mental and emotional resistance to change.
“In this particular situation, how am I dealing with change?
Is that working for me? Is there something I need to change about how I’m dealing with the situation? Am I doing the best I can?”
“Am I stuck on something? Shut down? Unwilling? Is it possible that I’m being too hard on myself? What is the concern?”
If you’re stuck, you might be able to deal with it fairly easily by using Condor Medicine to clear conflict, resistance and fixated thinking.
Imagine that you can use the Circle like a bull’s eye to dissolve, melt or send a laser beam to break up any conflicts or fixations you may be experiencing.
If you’re judging yourself too harshly, use the Circle to help you break up those rigid thoughts. If you’re shut down, use the Circle to bring yourself back to life! If you need to open up to creativity or dissolve toxic emotions, see yourself doing that. Move around in any way that you like.
Continue with your investigation about how to change…
“Am I internalizing negative experiences from the past?”
You can usually tell if you’re internalizing something because you’ll start to feel physical, mental, emotional or even spiritual irritation. If that’s happening, see if you can stop taking it personally and let it go.
“I surrender this situation to the Light and turn to more positive ways of dealing with experiences.”
There is no doubt that what we’re going through is hard. The best thing we can do in difficult situations is to think about what we can learn from it.
“The most important take away for me in this situation is ________.”
“I am learning ____________.”
Be sure to write this down.
For a much deeper integration, trace around the Circle clockwise with your eyes, both uncrossed and crossed, while you consider your take away thought.
Then, do the same as you trace your eyes around the square in the same direct, both crossed and uncrossed.
How To Change our Experiences – Choose New Ingredients
If we keep choosing ingredients from the past, the soup we call our lives will keep repeating itself over and over. For example, if we were born into a family that keeps choosing shame or blame, we will be liable to keep choosing those ingredients ourselves until we can become conscious of what we’re doing. If we want to change the flavor of our soup, it will help to change the ingredients we’re using.
By choosing ingredients such as self-worth, self-love or self-confidence we can learn how to change and create a better future.
*Note: if you have an updated copy of The Essential Human, you might want to go through Future Pacing (on page 140). Choose from the archetypes #1 – 42 to help you choose beneficial “ingredients” for creating your life. Ask yourself:
“What ingredients am I choosing? Are there some ingredients that I would like to change?”
“I release harmful ingredients and access beneficial ingredients instead.”
New Agreements
Next, imagine that you can release any old agreements, assumptions or obligations that are keeping you stuck. Visualize them like contracts, burning up into nothingness with a violet flame. Here are some suggestions:
“I let go of outdated agreements that keep me repeating the same patterns over and over again.”
“I let go of any agreement to be controlled by emotions or dumped on by anyone or anything.”
“I let go of my resistance to ________. I detach from ________. I remove myself from ________.” Etc.
New Decisions
Make some new decisions that support how to change more appropriately. Here are some suggestions: “I choose to see this situation in a positive light.” or… “I am capable and my Spirit helps me to handle change… I am free to change in accordance with my highest good… I allow other people the space to handle their own issues…”, etc.
Renewed Presence
Connect with the Third Chakra at your Solar Plexus and let it open up. Relax and let the tightness go. Deep breathing and presence are your best friends in times of accelerated change! Move around or stretch if you like.
Courage and Confidence
Keep breathing and give yourself a good dose of courage with the help of Jaguar Medicine:
“I surround myself with courage, confidence and strength.”
Imagine that Seed Medicine can help you find any seeds you’re holding that are causing you harm. They might not even be yours! It’s time to set things right. Send them to the Light so they can return to wherever they belong.
Reclaim whatever is yours – your ideas, your power, your own beneficial seeds of karma. Bring them home and nurture them gently.
Now it’s time to dissolve your connection to any underlying abuse, confusion or conflict. Use this symbol for Dissolving Destructive Blueprints and allow the Light to pull them off of you.
“I let go of the mental, emotional and spiritual connections I still have to these patterns.”
Take your time and visualize them disappearing like dark clouds into the Light!
Once they are completely gone, seal and heal all leaks, holes or pathways that lead to back to any resistance or unnecessary suffering:
“All holes are sealed and healed. I follow the direction of healthy protection.”
Are you grounded in the New Paradigm of cooperation and sustainable prosperity? If not, put your feet flat on the ground and let your energy organize around it now.
Congratulations!
It’s rarely easy to make changes of this magnitude, but once you know how to change with the changes, rather than fighting against them, your situation is bound to improve! The I Ching leaves you with this thought:
“Remove discordant elements as they appear, throw out outmoded or stifling policies when they once again create problems, and establish far-reaching clarity about the future whenever the opportunity presents itself.” ~ The I Ching Workbook, R.L. Wing
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Disclaimer:
This Transformation Game should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.