Learning How to Change

Are You Changing with the Changes?

If you’re like most of us, you’re overwhelmed by the speed and amount of  confusing changes that are taking place. One day, it feels like life is moving forward and then, in a flash, conditions have completely changed! What do we need to learn to know how to change with all these changes?

Learning How To ChangeWhether you’re feeling anxious about the increase in violence and erratic behavior, health, finances, the environment, relationships or your work situation – the underlying fabric of society is undergoing radical transition and the old lines of communication are down. The false security of the “good old days” is gone and we are being called upon to find new ways to handle it all.

It’s no wonder that so many of us are feeling more emotional and exhausted. Under these conditions, it’s easy to get pulled this way and that. Our bodies are worn out and our minds and hearts are torn in a hundred directions!   

The 64 Hexagrams in the I Ching or Book of Change have much to teach us about the importance of being flexible and knowing how to change. 

For example, Hexagram #49 CHANGING says: The forces at work in the situation are in conflict, leaving the path open to change. Yet the work of bringing about such a change is as difficult as it is important. People fear change because of its unknowable effect upon the future; so when a real need for CHANGING makes itself felt, it is a serious matter indeed. Clarity, forethought, and great devotion are now required to achieve your purpose. If correctly handled, however, the results can lead to a progressive new era.”

However, the text continues, “The change should be gradual, improvement by improvement, so you may gauge the effect. Avoid haste and excessive behavior.”

In Hexagram #32 CONTINUING, the Top Line advises: “If you handle your affairs in a perpetual state of anxiety, you will soon exhaust yourself. More could be accomplished with a calm and composed demeanor. Make an attempt to comprehend and align yourself with what is truly happening before you create serious problems for yourself.” ~ The I Ching Workbook, by R.L. Wing

Transformation Game: Learning How To Change in a Changing World.

You can discover how to change more gracefully while keeping your integrity by going through this Transformation Game. When you slow down and take the time to go within, you gain a deeper understanding of what you’re really struggling with. Not only that, you can find the motivation to change how you’re responding in a more effective way!

Directions: Simply gaze at the Circle while contemplating the positive affirmations. Breathe deeply and allow yourself to relax as much as possible.

“I reclaim and balance my rational senses.”

“I focus them to be present and keep tuning into my body to monitor what I’m needing.”

“I use them to notice my environment so I can respond appropriately.”

“I focus on actions that benefit my health, happiness and _________.”


You might also be having a difficult time adjusting to all the significant environmental changes that are taking place. Sudden reversals, blockages and changes in momentum can cause our subtle energy fields to react in unusual ways.

This Correction Key can help you correct any rough glitches or reversals that you may be experiencing.
Relax with it for a few minutes until things smooth out and you feel more centered.


An important note about Mind Body Integration ~ 

Retrain Your Mind for Mind Body IntegrationThe brain and body communicate through different channels when a part of you is crossed over the center of your body. As you work with the Circles, cross and uncross a hand or foot over the midline of your body. Use a soft focus and breathe patiently. This will help you access more information from your unconscious mind. Let any negative self-talk go by breathing through it.

Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you let go!

Once you feel ready, see if you can slow down and let yourself focus on your  priorities. Ask for true spiritual guidance that comes from within.

“I slow down and breathe while I clear my mind. I turn my attention to what matters most.”

Gently, notice the specific aspects of your life that are changing rapidly and need some extra help.
Next, notice if you have aspects that feel stuck, closed off or even going in reverse.
How would you describe these things?
You might want to get out a pen and paper to make note of some of the impressions you get.

Contemplate the medicine from Butterfly for a moment or two:

“I ask my Inner Wisdom for assistance about what needs to change and how to do it in the most positive way.”

What needs to happen?


Bring your attention to the center of your chest. Let your heart be involved in this conversation. Are you willing to listen?


Empower your ability to choose in this situation.

“I exist and what I do matters.”
“I can respond to this situation in a productive and helpful way.”

“I bring myself into alignment with my highest good.”


Now you’re ready to go through the rest of the game in the same way by asking yourself questions while you gaze softly at each accompanying Circle. Doing so will help you assess where you’re at. Take your time, the answers might not come right away. The Circles are helping your mind to clear away mental and emotional resistance to change.

“In this particular situation, how am I dealing with change?

Is that working for me? Is there something I need to change about how I’m dealing with the situation? Am I doing the best I can?” 

Animal Totems for Inner Guidance - Raven

Am I stuck on something? Shut down? Unwilling? Is it possible that I’m being too hard on myself? What is the concern?”


If you’re stuck, you might be able to deal with it fairly easily by using Condor Medicine to clear conflict, resistance and fixated thinking.  

Imagine that you can use the Circle like a bull’s eye to send healing energy to any conflicts or fixations you may be experiencing. Let go by imagining that the lines are going all limp and loose like spaghetti noodles. Or, you can imagine an iceberg melting away under the Sun.

Either way, be gentle with yourself. If you’re judging yourself too harshly, use the Circle to help you loosen up those rigid thoughts. If you’re shut down, use the Circle to bring your energy back to life! If you need to open up to creativity or dissolve toxic emotions, see yourself doing that.
Move around and stretch in any way that you like.


Continue with your investigation about how to change…

“Am I holding onto negative experiences from the past?”

You can usually tell if you’re internalizing something because you’ll start to feel physical, mental, emotional or even spiritual irritation. If that’s happening, see if you can stop taking it personally and let it go.
“I surrender these old experiences to the Light and turn to more positive ways of dealing with change.”


There is no doubt that what we’re going through is hard. The best thing we can do in difficult situations is to think about what we can learn from them.
“The most important take away for me in this situation is ________.”
“I am learning ____________.”
Be sure to write this down.

For a much deeper integration, trace around the Circle clockwise with your eyes, while you consider your take away thought.

Then, do the same as you trace your eyes around the square in the same direction, both crossed and uncrossed.

How To Change our Experiences – Choose New Ingredients

If we keep choosing ingredients from the past, the soup we call our lives will keep repeating itself over and over.  For example, if we were born into a family that keeps choosing shame or blame, we will be liable to keep choosing those ingredients ourselves until we can become conscious of what we’re doing. If we want to change the flavor of our soup, it will help to change the ingredients we’re using!

By choosing ingredients such as self-worth, self-love or self-confidence we can learn how to change and create a better future.

The Essential Human*Note: if you have an updated copy of The Essential Human, you might want to go through Future Pacing (on page 140). Choose from the archetypes #1 – 42 to help you choose beneficial “ingredients” for creating your life. Ask yourself:
“What ingredients am I choosing? Are there some ingredients that I would like to change?”

“I release harmful ingredients and access beneficial ingredients instead.”


One important new ingredient is the generative flow of chi’ that’s available to help us move with the quicker, lighter Element of Air. Use this symbol to help you access it.

“I close down all harmful energy channels.”
“My mind is open and clear to receive generative life force.” 


New Agreements

Next, imagine that you can release any old agreements, assumptions or obligations that are keeping you stuck. Visualize them like contracts, burning up into nothingness with a violet flame. Here are some suggestions:

“I let go of outdated agreements that keep me stuck in old patterns or to take on someone else’s issues or emotions as my own.”

“I let go of being controlled by emotions or dumped on by anyone or anything.”

“I let go of the need to hold onto anyone or anything that is no longer helpful in this situation.”

“I let go of my resistance to ________. I detach from ________. I remove myself from ________.” Etc.

“I maintain my inner balance and stability.”


New Decisions

Make some new decisions that support how to change more appropriately. Here are some suggestions:

“I decide to see this situation in a positive light.” or…
I am capable and my Spirit helps me to handle change…
I am free to change in accordance with my highest good…
I allow other people the space to handle their own issues…”, etc.

“I decide to __________ and _______________,”


Renewed Presence

Connect with the Third Chakra at your Solar Plexus and let it open up. Relax and let the tightness go. Deep breathing and presence are your best friends in times of accelerated change! Move around or stretch again if you like.


Courage and Confidence

Keep breathing and give yourself a good dose of courage with the help of Jaguar Medicine:

“I surround myself with courage, confidence and strength.”


Seed Medicine can help you find any karmic seeds you may be holding that are causing you harm. They might not even be yours! It’s time to set things right. Send them to the Light so they can return to wherever they belong.

Reclaim whatever is yours – your ideas, your power, your own beneficial seeds of karma. Bring them home and nurture them gently.


Now it’s time to dissolve your connection to any underlying abuse, confusion or conflict. Use this symbol for Dissolving Destructive Blueprints and allow the Light to dissolve and lift them off of you.

“I let go of the mental, emotional and spiritual connections I still have to harmful patterns.”

Take your time and visualize them disappearing like dark clouds into the Light!

Please note: Never send destructive energies into the Earth, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of happiness and life – not unhappiness and death!


Considering what you’ve learned from this situation, you may have made some decisions that you want to close the door on. Use this Circle to seal and heal all leaks, holes or pathways that lead to back to any resistance or unnecessary suffering:

“All holes are sealed and healed.” 
“I follow the direction of healthy protection.”

Imagine that your mind is like a computer where you can close all the tabs and windows that have been open for far too long!


Are you grounded in the New Paradigm of cooperation and sustainable prosperity? If not, put your feet flat on the ground and let your energy organize around it now.


It’s rarely easy to make changes of this magnitude, but once you know how to change with the changes rather than fighting against them, your situation is bound to improve! The I Ching leaves you with this thought:

“Remove discordant elements as they appear, throw out outmoded or stifling policies when they once again create problems, and establish far-reaching clarity about the future whenever the opportunity presents itself.” ~ The I Ching Workbook, R.L. Wing


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Rheanni Lightwater, Reiki Master Teacher

If you feel that How to Change has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel off track or overwhelmed.

Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].

This Transformation Game should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

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