Clear Boundaries

Setting Clear Boundaries for a Busy Mind

What can you do to help yourself when it feels like you’re unable to focus on important details that matter to you. Is your line of thinking clear? Has someone or something “gotten under your skin”?

Setting Clear BoundariesWithout clear boundaries, thoughts and emotions can pass back and forth between people without their awareness. When left unchecked, this type of attachment can go underground and contribute to sudden and mysterious illnesses, mental confusion, issues with prosperity or chronic states of overwhelm.

It’s a valuable skill to know how to close the doors or energy pathways at will. This Mind Exercise can help you learn how to consciously set clear boundaries and close off those pathways.

This visual meditation from our SOS Resolve Ebook provides a quick framework for recovering mental balance and refocusing attention. Going through a quick  “game” calms the emotional centers of your brain and opens up new neural pathways for self-awareness and clear boundaries, which significantly reduces stress and increases clarity.

Use this Mind Exercise when you are:RESOLVE for Clear Boundaries

~ Feeling scattered or out of sync
~ Easily triggered and need better boundaries
~ Experiencing distress or separation anxiety
~ Worried, agitated or anticipating hardship
~ Feeling pressured or compulsive
~ Unable to meditate or sit still
~ Obsessed with a particular person or situation.

Directions: Confirm this is the best exercise for you with the RESOLVE symbol.

Mind Exercises for Clear BoundariesFind a quiet place if possible, where you won’t be disturbed for about twenty minutes. Follow the sequence of symbols while you read their accompanying instructions. Gaze gently at each Circle for about two minutes. A longer or shorter time may be necessary. Let yourself breathe and relax as much as possible.

Don’t worry if the images move around or change in any way. That just means the Circles are working and that your mind and body are relaxing.

 


Mind Body Integration

Mind Body IntegrationThe brain and body communicate through different channels when a part of you is crossed over the center of your body. Therefore, you will want to look at each Circle both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body.

If you feel resistant or stuck, cross or uncross a hand or foot over the midline of your body and go back to the Circle, breathing patiently. See if your thinking starts to move again. Let negative self-talk go by breathing through it Just breathe deeply and relax.


After you’ve finished going through the entire exercise, give yourself some time to let it integrate. A quiet mind and light heart will change your perspective and make it easier to accomplish your goals.

 

Step 1. Balance

Begin by consciously breathing in on the count of three and slowly exhaling on the count of five. Do that three or four times while you gaze softly at the Circle. It’s helpful if you can breathe in through your nose.

Continue breathing and bring your awareness to your tailbone.

 

Step 2. Calm

Keep breathing with your belly soft and relaxed.
Let your shoulders drop.

Gaze softly at this Circle and imagine you can turn down the feelings or thoughts that are turned up too high, just like the volume on a radio.

 

Step 3. Centering

See if you can gather your awareness and connect it – like all the lines that come together into the center of this symbol.

Imagine you can close up unhealthy energy channels between you and all the noise that’s coming from the outside.

Stay with it until you feel more centered with beneficial energy flowing through you.

 

Step 4. Protection

Now, gaze softly at this Circle and use it to close all holes or harmful pathways that have been left wide open.

“I close the pathways that lead to distractions, disturbances and interference.”

“All holes are sealed and healed.”

“I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”

 

Step 5. Beauty

Now that the pathways are closed, you can shift your attention away from the negative and turn towards more positive input. Breathe in again and exhale slowly.

Take your time and let this Circle help you call the most majestic scenes into your mind that you can imagine.

Notice how your body responds and relaxes into the experience.

 

Step 6. Expansion

Turn your attention to your breathing again and how calming it is.
You can sense the steady rhythm of your heart.
The gentle expansion and contraction of your lungs.
Breathing in and letting go. The space around you is relaxing too.

Emotional Calm

 

Step 7. Letting Go

There may be some especially sticky energies that don’t seem to want to let go. Let this Key help you neutralize interfering energies and detach from them.

Like a healing balm, imagine that a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you.

Step 8. Intention

Now you’re ready to gently turn your mind to what’s in your best interests. What are your true priorities?

Slow down and take your time.

 

Step 9: Grounding and Coherence

This Circle will help your energy get organized and grounded. Put both your feet on the floor, place your palms on the inside of your knees and keep breathing until you feel planted.

Then, visualize a wheel spinning out any discordant energy that’s still hanging on and causing problems. When you can release excess energy, it’s much easier to think more clearly and feel like yourself again.

 

Step 10. Compassion

Imagine with each relaxing new breath that you can fill your heart with renewed understanding and compassion – that includes caring for yourself with clear boundaries.

 

Step 11. Decision

Your well-being is important. Are the any new decisions would you like to make about it?
Here’s a few suggestions:

“I decide to be loyal to myself.”
“It’s okay to have strong and clear boundaries.”

“It’s genuinely joyful to have a quiet mind and a light heart.”

 

Step 12. Resolution

Make a commitment to stay centered and true to yourself.

“I keep my own energy contained for my own protection.”
“I easily eject and deflect harmful thoughts, interference or expectations.”

“I resolve to create and maintain clear boundaries.”

 

Step 13. Nourishment

Before you get on with your day, see if there’s any helpful nutrition that would support you. Let this Circle help you tune into natural healing energy.

Are there any vegetables, fruits, herbs, teas or other healing foods that come to mind? Anything else?

 

Step 14. Completion

Finish by closing any remaining openings to the noise and distractions of the external world.

“All holes are sealed and healed.”
“I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”

What does your Soul advise you to do now?

Congratulations! Now that you’ve finished, give yourself some time to let it integrate. A quiet mind and light heart changes your perspective and makes it easier to accomplish your goals.


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Rheanni Lightwater, Reiki Master Teacher

If you feel that you need additional help, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel concerned about your communication challenge.

Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing.

Schedule with Rheanni via Zoom or in person when you visit Santa Fe, New Mexico. Call or text (505) 271-4612 between 10:00am – 5:00pm, MST, Monday through Friday to schedule or email: [email protected]


Disclaimer:
Clear Boundaries for a Busy Mind should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

Clearing an Overwhelmed Mind

If you need help clearing an overwhelmed mind, the Intuitive Learning Circle offers quick and easy support.

This self-care formula is for clearing an overwhelmed mind and is especially useful for handling day to day stresses, like when you’re feeling:

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  • Exhausted
  • Pressured
  • Confused
  • Out of balance
  • Taking on too much
  • Doing too much
  • Going too fast and need to slow down.

You are not alone and you can easily get some relief by going through the Overwhelm Help Exercise #3 out of SOS for Loss & Resiliency, from our Soul Oriented Solutions series.

Directions: Confirm this is the best formula for you with the SOS Symbol.

SOS - Clearing An Overwhelmed MindFind a quiet place if possible, where you won’t be disturbed for about twenty minutes. Begin by reading the first message and then gaze gently at the Circle or chart that goes with it for approximately two minutes. A longer or shorter time may be necessary. Let yourself breathe and relax as much as possible. Don’t worry if the images move around or change in any way. That just means the Circles are working and that your mind and body are coming into balance.

Some emotions might come up as well. That also means the Circles are working. Just give yourself permission to let go of anything that’s causing you pain or suffering.

Mind Body Integration

Mind Body Integration - Self-care for lossFor best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of your body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.

Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience!

If someone is with you, talk to them about some of the feelings that you’re having. It could help you to gain perspective on your situation. Having perspective allows you to make the best decisions about what will help you now.

After you’ve finished going through the entire formula, let yourself rest for a little while. You’re doing very well with such a difficult circumstance.


Presence

1. Gaze softly at the Circle and take a few moments to breathe deeply.
Pay special attention to those places in your body where you’re feeling pain or discomfort.
Just let them relax.
Move around or stretch if you need to.

 

Receiving

2. Ask for peace to come into your heart and awareness.

See if you can move your energy out of your head and pull it down into your heart and solar plexus area.

 

Centering

3. You may need a minute to get your bearings.
Bring your energy into your body so that you can get centered.
Notice what is to the right of you and to the left of you.
You are okay.

 

Balance

4. You don’t need to be perfect or be everything to everyone.
Are you being too hard on yourself? If so, give yourself a break and let it go.
What really matters in this situation?
What’s most important to you?

 

Release

4. You may feel like you’re stuck or being pulled in the wrong direction. Relax and meditate on this Circle for as long as you like.
Imagine that a loving coat of of peace and comfort is pouring down over you – gently releasing you from all that dark, heavy energy.

 

CHANGE

6. You are ready and able to let go and make the changes necessary for you now. Are you willing to let go of things that are not working?

Release any agreements to hold on. What a relief that is.

 

Nourishment

7. Go back to your heart and listen to it beating – nice and steady.
It’s okay to ask for help. You are alive and need to take good care of yourself.

What do you need to help you take good care of yourself?

Make a list so you can remember.

 

Compassion

8. Focus your energy on taking good care of yourself now.
You are important and what you do matters. You are cared for.

 

Reunion

9. Gaze gently at the Circle while you think of something that you love very much.
Relax and let yourself feel what matters to you.
Take all the time you like. It’s okay to let go and rest.

 

Reconnect

10. Take a moment and imagine that you can connect with Hope.
Hope is an expression of Love that calms the mind and body so that you can unite with your spirit and its resources.

 

Clarity

11. Now it’s time to sweep the clutter out of your mind and send it to the Light.
Sweep it all up and away…

Notice how much better your body feels when your mind gets clear.

 

Completion

12. Close the doors in your mind that let in all that clutter.
Your mind and body are not here to be a dumping ground.
Close the doors and seal the leaks wherever you find them.

Closing doors that have been left open will help you feel much better.

 

Protection

13. Relax with this symbol until you feel safe and clear.
You have protection and are receiving a positive flow of energy throughout your body, mind and spirit.

 

 

Inner Guidance

14. Take some deep breaths and listen to that calm, gentle voice that comes from your heart.
What is it telling you?

Old Soul

 

New Beginnings

15. Let a calm feeling come from your heart and fill up your entire body – all the way to your fingertips.

It’s time to rest. Remember to take good care of yourself.


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If you feel that Clearing An Overwhelmed Mind has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel exposed, lost, or overwhelmed.

Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].

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Disclaimer:
Clearing An Overwhelmed Mind should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment if there is any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

Emotional Stress and Memory

Can Emotional Stress Affect Your Memory?

Especially when the stakes are high, you need to remember the important things. However, it’s not unusual for people to have temporary memory problems or tracking glitches when they’re under a lot of emotional stress, especially if they’re highly sensitive. Why is that and what can be done to help?

Emotional Stress If this sounds like you, it could be that you’ve become overwhelmed by the uncertainty of life and the future. Or, you might have gotten ungrounded by the sheer amount of information that you feel you have to process.

You might also be going through experiences like the ones below: 

  • Going through a major emotional transition
  • Having difficulty processing new information 
  • Feeling weak or mentally exhausted
  • Disoriented due to grief or sudden loss
  • Picking up on other peoples pain
  • Noticing an increase in forgetfulness
  • Getting confused more easily than usual.

If you are, you’re not alone and it’s possible to get some relief by going through Emotional Stress that Affects Memory from our Soul Oriented Solutions series. 

Directions: Start by confirming that this is the best formula for you with the SOS Symbol.

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SOS Symbol

Next, go through this integrating mind exercise to understand how emotional stress might be causing what’s happening in your case and what you can do to re-orient yourself. Read each step and then gaze softly at its Circle, one at a time.

Give yourself permission to look at the Circles in any way or from any angle that you like. All you have to do is stay relaxed. If you’re drawn to focus on the center of a Circle, great!

If you come up with a message, an image or instinctively want to trace over the lines, let your imagination guide you. A playful approach reduces stress and opens up possibilities so you can look at your situation from different perspectives.

Developing intuition in this way enhances your personal growth and can keep those creative juices flowing for better mind function.

Caution: the use of this exercise is not intended take the place of appropriate medical and/or psychiatric care. If you are having prolonged or increasing bouts of memory loss, seek the appropriate medical help.

Mind Body Integration

Mind Body Integration - Self-care for lossFor best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of your body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.

Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience!


Stress That Affects Memory ~

How Are You Experiencing Disorientation?

1. We’re going to look at several possible reasons why emotional stress might be affecting your memory. One reason could be that you are disoriented due to a sudden recent change. You might also be picking up on other people’s stress. Another possibility could be that your mind has been exposed to an overwhelming amount of information or static energy. It helps to be aware of what is involved.

Let this Circle help you gather up any important information involved. Your unconscious mind knows what’s pertinent and what’s not.

You might want to jot down any impressions you notice. However, don’t be surprised if nothing definite comes to you. There may not be any words because the unconscious mind is not linear. 

Just make note of what your experience is for now.

 

What is a Clear Intention That will Help?

2. To help bring your mind into focus, establish a simple and clear intention for this exercise.

“I improve mental acuity and brain function.”

Go ahead and meditate on the center open space of this chart with that intention in mind. Breathe deeply and relax. Don’t try to make anything happen. A relaxed mind will lead you to a more relaxed body!

When the energy of the chart slows down, you’re ready to move onto the next step.

 

What Would You Like to Shine Light On?

3. The pineal gland is an important part of your brain because of its main function of regulating light and darkness through the production and secretion of melatonin. In addition, the pineal contains light-sensitive cells that control your equilibrium through the circadian cycle of sleep and wakefulness.
Melatonin also supports healthy memory function and reproductive cycles.

Relax and breathe for a minute or two and let this Chakra Key help you clear toxins from your pineal gland so that your natural rhythms and cycles can come into better balance.

 

Does It Feel Like Your Energy is Struggling?

4. Emotional stress can cause significant internal and external changes. Sudden reversals, blockages and changes in momentum can cause your energy to react in unusual ways. 

You might also have an awareness of rough or reversed energies around you.

Keep this Correction Key handy to help you correct any rough glitches or reversals that you may be experiencing with any of the chakras you’ll be working with in this exercise.
Relax with it for a few minutes until things smooth out and you can begin to feel the calming energy of your Soul coming through.
Be sure to do that both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body.

 

How Would You Like to Feel?

5. The hypothalamus is a part of your brain that regulates homeostasis. Through it, you have the ability to maintain inner balance and a calm state of mind. It also regulates a variety of functions including your physical development, digestive health and metabolism.

What kind of support would you like with those things?

Allow this Chakra Key to help you clear and balance your hypothalamus.

 

What Would You Like to Remember?

6. The hippocampus is actually two structures located on either side of the temporal lobe that are involved with memory development, verbal, spacial and directional skills.

Repeat what you just did in the previous steps. Relax and breathe while you gaze at this Chakra Key to clear out toxins and bring both areas of your hippocampus into balance.

Once you’ve really relaxed with it, check in with a question:

“Is there something I’ve forgotten that’s important? More than one?”

Make a note of it and continue with your mind exercise.

 

What Would Bring You More Ease?

Emotional Stress and the Third Eye7. There’s another part of your brain function that taps into the wisdom of your Soul. Some call it the Third Eye Chakra. Through it, the pineal, hippocampus and hypothalamus can connect and work together to enhance learning and create coherent thoughts. Intuition and common sense can then blossom and communicate meaningful insights to your Heart Center.

Keep relaxed and gaze softly at the Circle with each affirmation:

“My common sense and intuition are working together.”

“I receive meaningful insights about my situation.”
“My mind helps me to reduce stress and integrate joy into my life.”

 

What Needs to Get Connected?

8. This Circle helps you repair the subtle hara lines that connect your chakras, like a beautiful web of Light. Keep relaxed and gaze softly at the Circle with each affirmation:

“My mind and body are connected and balanced to create improved mental acuity and brain function.”

“I improve my comprehension and understanding.”
“I connect with solutions.”

 

What Would Support You?

9. It’s possible that you’re dehydrated or not getting the right nutrition. While you gently focus on this Circle, ask yourself:

“Is there something I could eat or drink that would help me?”
“Is there something I’m eating or drinking too much of?”

 

 Is There Something That You Need To Let Go Of?

10. If there is, let this Circle help you open up and let it go.

Just keep letting go and release all that emotional stress. See yourself relaxing under an afternoon Sun. Take all the time you like. It’s okay to let go and rest.

 

What Would Genuinely Help Your Emotional Stress?

11. Is there something that you could do to help your mental / emotional stress?
Is there something it would be best to stop doing?
Use this Circle to consider actions you could take that would help in this situation. Make sure they would be genuinely helpful to you now.

Is there anything you could do or stop doing that would be genuinely helpful to others?

 

What Is Your heart Saying?

12. It could be that things are just moving too fast and your mind is trying to keep up. Take a moment to slow down and tune into your Heart Center. Bring it into balance first. Then, ask yourself:

“What is my heart telling me?”
“Am I worried about something (physical, financial, family issue, etc)?”

“What have I been doing? Has that helped?”
“What do I feel?”

 

How Will Life Be Better Without This Emotional Stress?

13. Your physical body is the foundation for your vitality and your instinct to take care of yourself. Clearing energy, especially in your lower body, will give you strength and support to make necessary changes.

Once you feel stronger, ask yourself:

“What, if anything, am I forgetting about my physical health?
“Is there something I need to remember?”

There’s always more than one way to do things, what new way comes to mind in this case?

 

What Would Keep You Grounded?

14. A strong connection to the Earth gives you support to make the necessary changes and stay balanced at the same time. Put both feet on the floor to help you ground.
If needed, go back to Step 8 and connect with your other chakras.
Take whatever time you need.  

Once you’re centered and grounded, ask yourself:
“What do I need remember?
“Do I need to change anything?”
“Do I have the connections and resources I need to resolve this stress?”
“What would be involved? Is anything missing?”

 

Ask For Blessings On Your Life Path.

15. Finish by balancing out your Life Path Chakras. They help you stay on your own path and tune into the promptings of your Soul – a very important thing to remember!

“I open up to my potential and stay positive.”

“I stay true to my Soul’s path.”

You may want to sit with this for awhile.
Plan to take a walk or relax for a bit out in Nature once you feel ready.
Releasing emotional stress takes time and space!

 



 

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Rheanni Lightwater, Reiki Master Teacher

If you feel that Emotional Stress that Affects Memory has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel confused or overwhelmed.

Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].

Find out about Intuition Training for Personal Growth with us!


Disclaimer:
Emotional Stress should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment if there is any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

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