Communicating With Moderation In the New Paradigm.
Kuan Yin has been helping us to transition out of the old status quo into a new paradigm based on equality, co-operation and balanced prosperity. Her advice about communicating through moderation springs from the I Ching, an ancient book of divination that follows the flow of the cosmos. Because of that, her insight comes from a different perspective than ours.
Kuan Yin’s Transformation Games help you to identify problems, change your focus to positive solutions, ground yourself and get in the present. Simply relax and gaze at the Circles while contemplating her words. Your intuition will come forward and give you the help that you seek.
First – Evaluate Your Situation for the Danger Signs of Shock ~
Let’s face it. The past few years have been filled with one extreme and jarring piece of news after another. Shock is something that we deal with every day. It’s important to give yourself and others a break by realizing that you might be stuck in a survival pattern because you’ve been listening to so many shocking communications.
If you are overwhelmed by how someone is communicating, it’s very likely that you’re experiencing SHOCK from some past or present form of DANGER.
If you’ve been triggered by a traumatic event from the past, go to Healing Emotional Shock before going through this game.
If you’ve living through a shocking and traumatic event that’s happening right now, go to Resolving Shock from Traumatic Events first.
Once you’ve cleared up your experience of shock, this game will be much more effective for you…
Welcome to the I Ching Reading and Transformation Game for: Hexagram #29 Danger and #15 – Communicating Moderation
In times of difficulty and danger, it’s usually best to move with the flow of MODERATION, Hexagram #15, where “The predominant forces … are in the process of balancing extremes and harmonizing interests.”
Following the flow of MODERATION is the best way to make progress amidst great difficulty. The suggestion is to disengage from confusing extremes or opinionated attitudes and instead, follow the guidance that comes from within so that balance can be re-established. In almost any situation, if you are able to travel on the middle road between extremes, there will be improvement in whatever you undertake.
The second changing line from Hexagram #29 DANGER indicates that “The DANGER is great and cannot be surmounted with one single action…” ~ The I Ching Workbook, R.L. Wing
That means MODERATION won’t just happen by itself. We need to apply ourselves and be devoted in our efforts to communicate in a moderate, balanced manner.
Communicating Through Moderation Will Put You In a Different Flow of Energy ~
As a general rule, MODERATION is the most sensible flow to follow, especially since so much chaos is playing out in the wake of environmental, political and social deterioration. The karma for confusing situations and contradictory mindsets has been fully activated and is best dealt with by following that middle road.
Just to clarify what we mean by karma here –
Karma = Cause & Effect
That means – I have a thought. I make a decision. I act on the decision.
Whatever I have followed through on has natural consequences.
Cause & Effect = Karma.
Most people are navigating through one or another of these general karmic patterns:
- Getting sucked into a negative malaise of mental, emotional, physical or spiritual decline.
- Stuck in indifference or denial – avoiding personal responsibility.
- Activated by past grievance, hatred or rebellious refusal to change.
- Getting scattered or revisiting survival patterns from the past, or
- Pulling themselves together into a centered position of empowered authority.
Initial Evaluation: As you softly gaze at this Circle, see which of these patterns you are currently experiencing. Ask yourself:
“Am I generally experiencing pattern #1, 2, 3, 4 or 5?”
It could easily be a mix, depending on your mindset and what stage of the karma you’re living through.
Continue to relax into yourself for a moment or two while you contemplate the answer you get.
Regardless of what’s happening, you can make your life easier by letting go of old karmic patterns, agreements or ways of communicating that are ready to be transmuted. This game will help you do that.
Mind Body Integration
Feel free to move at any time in any way to help you embody your experience!
Let’s Begin By Calming the Stress in Your Nervous System.
Your nervous system and your ability to communicate are intricately interrelated. Use this Circle for homeostasis to gently collect information about your nervous system and what will help to calm you down.
“I calm down and relax into my breath.”
Take another few minutes to breathe deeply with the intention of coming back into rhythm with your Soul. Listen to your heartbeat and slow down. Let all that external noise from the outside move out.
If you’ve been in traffic, shopping at the super market or watching television, realize that your nervous system takes all that in – and often doesn’t know what to do with it.
It would probably help for you to move around, stretch – or make circular movements until you feel your tension releasing. Take all the time you need with this.
Restore your sense of Self with this Circle. Gaze at it softly and remember an activity that you’ve always liked – probably something creative that brings you joy. Relax into it or keep moving if you like.
Does a particular color come to mind?
If you can make it stronger, that’s the color that resonates with your Soul!
Soulful, creative activities help you to get back into your Center and being in your Center is a big help to communicating with moderation.
“I know who I am and I know what’s important to me.
I am learning to communicate through the energy of my Soul.”
If you like to sing, tone or hum, this would be a good time to enjoy them.
We’ve been going through an intense period of unstable and conflicting energies and you may be having quite a reaction to the changes that continue to play out. Bring your body back into balance by consciously breathing in on the count of three and slowly exhaling on the count of five. It’s helpful if you can breathe in through your nose.
Do that three or four times while you gaze softly at this Reiki Chakra Key that helps you stabilize your sacrum.
Let Go of Harmful Karmic Agreements.
Now that you know what you really need to communicate about, use this Soul Contract Circle to help you release social, familial or religious contracts that are harmful or would pull you out of integrity with your Soul.
Gaze softly at the Circle and imagine you can put those contracts into a cleansing violet flame where they can safely burn up into ashes. These affirmations will get you started:
“I release any agreement that says I’m powerless about what I communicate or how my Soul wants me to do it.
I free myself of other people’s expectations and harmful algorithms.
I let go of communication channels that are detrimental to me.”
What my Soul wants to communicate is of primary importance to me.”
Don’t Forget to Let Go of Your Old Agreements with the Status Quo.
The old paradigm was a system built on extreme greed and exploitation enforced through oppressive social, religious and moral contracts. Most of us are still operating out of them to one degree or the other because they’ve been wired into how we go about doing our business.
It would be wise to release our agreements with that system and set up new agreements in the New Paradigm that are generative and life affirming. Especially agreements about how we communicate. This won’t just happen on its own. We need to be proactive and intentional if we want to move out of detrimental communications and behavior.
“I uproot my agreements to stay stuck in or comply with harmful communication patterns, flows and filters from the status quo.”
“I release agreements to communicate through manipulations from the old status quo.”
(shame, blame, inequity, deceit, greed, prejudice, intimidation, hatred, contradictions, dishonesty, co-dependence, etc.)
“I decide to utilize a foundation for my communications that facilitates
simple principles of creating Common Ground for the Common Good (co-operation, equality and balanced prosperity).”
Let Go of Agreements to Communicate Through Destructive Yin Energy.
The flow of Water goes down and follows the path of least resistance. When it accumulates, it can easily get stuck and stagnate.
Whenever this happens, communication becomes far more misconstrued, diverted, ambiguous, distorted and wishy-washy. This “stuck” condition relates to current social tendencies such as apathy, ambivalence, resistance, self-pity and denial.
Think about the difference between how sound travels under Water and how it travels through the Air. Underwater, sounds are slow moving and muffled. It could really help to release your agreements to utilize this very heavy energy flow.
“I release agreements to utilize Destructive Yin Energy to communicate, heal, do business or process emotions.”
Communicating through MODERATION utilizes the pure aspect of the Element of Water to process emotions and communications.
You can make a conscious choice to activate a new relationship with the Element of Water – fresh and purified to gently clear emotions, imbalances and muddy, murky communications.
This affirmation will help you make an actual adjustment in how you relate to and utilize this precious resource:
“I now make a conscious decision to use pure, life affirming Water qualities to process and communicate my emotions.”
Release Your Agreements to Get Pulled Back into Harmful
We need to be able to find new ways to communicate that aren’t just reruns of what has happened before.
“I release my agreements with contradictory, impatient or pushy behaviors
that pull me into chaos, violence or no-win situations.”
“I choose to communicate in a positive way with the calm, generative flow of MODERATION and Divine Protection.”
“I let go of any agreements to get pulled into regressive, dangerous situations or _____________.”
Invoke Protection and Clarity of Mind By Aligning with Protection and a Generative Flow of Chi’ for the New Paradigm.
I adapt to the generative and positive energy flow of the New Paradigm.”
“Harmful energy channels from the past are closing down.”
“All parts of me connect to life affirming channels of communication.”
Make Some Corrections That Will Help You Communicate With Greater Moderation:
Let Go of Intentions You Don’t Need Anymore.
Check your old intentions with family, friends or business relationships that interfere with your ability to communicate more effectively. Release dishonest or extreme forms of communication like lying, coercion, cruelty, sarcasm, lashing out, intimidation or hypocrisy. Don’t forget criticism, condescension, people pleasing, mansplaining, micro-managing, martyrdom, stuffing or whining. These are all forms of manipulative communication that we’ve come to rely on, although they don’t help us move forward at all.
Think about communications you’ve received from old jobs or organizations you’ve been involved with over the years – religious institutions, political agendas, educational systems, ways of doing business, etc. You don’t have to hold space for all that confusing, conflicting information anymore!
“I let go of out-dated or harmful intentions about ___________.”
“I let go of harmful agendas that others want me to communicate.”
To replace them, consider carefully what new intentions would actually serve you now. Do they need to be clarified, simplified or re-organized? What do you need to have happen for yourself? “Based on my current needs, I need to _________.”
Make Decisions That Communicate Your Worth.
The decisions you make are an important part of the karma you create or are perpetuating. You can make significant changes by letting go of harmful or outdated decisions about yourself that compromise you or the integrity of your word. For example:
- The desire to fit in at any cost is one of the most fundamental ways people do harm to themselves. This desire can be so extreme, people often risk their wellbeing by deciding to leave themselves wide open to unscrupulous people who are willing to exploit them.
- The decision to hold space for other people or projects could also backfire because the psyche often takes what we say literally and actually tries to hold space or take possession of people, projects or goals that other people are actually responsible for. This is a common mistaken idea that inadvertently causes unnecessary anxiety, entanglements and power struggles.
- Another example is when we denigrate ourselves by deciding that we’re failures, inadequate, etc. Habitual negative decisions have consequences, especially if they become identities.
Instead of perpetuating that kind of karma, try some of these suggestions or come up with some new decisions of your own:
“I decide to communicate with self-respect and dignity. I am an intelligent, successful communicator. I value my thoughts, words and deeds.”
“I decide to let go of holding space for other people’s issues, communications or harmful actions.”
“I decide to let go of extremes. I now communicate in a balanced, moderate way, based on inner guidance and self-worth.”
“I decide to __________. I communicate with moderation in the New Paradigm.”
“My honest, heartfelt communications have beneficial effects.”
Straighten Out Your Karma.
In times of increased confusion and chaos, it’s common for people who want to avoid responsibility to systemically unload their problems and karma onto whoever will accept them.
If you’ve been trained to feel anxious or sympathetic when other people are having a hard time, you might trap yourself by taking on more than your own karma. You can clarify this with the next Circle by asking these questions:
“What is my karma in this situation? What am I actually responsible for? How can I set things right in a way that’s genuinely helpful?”
“I let go of my karmic tendency to take on other people’s karma.
I am clear about what karma is mine and what karma belongs to others.
I let go of the temptation to repeat unpreferred karmic patterns.”
“I utilize my own beneficial karma to communicate _______________.”
Detach from Toxic Entanglements.
When we try to handle other peoples karma for them, we are inadvertently complicating things by preventing things from working themselves out naturally. To help you avoid this trap and set things right, use this symbol with the affirmations to release attachments to survival patterns from the past:
“I let go of attachments or obligations to unhealthy forms of communication.”
“I detach from fearful, sticky or toxic energies.”
Like a healing balm, imagine that a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you!
Repair Jagged and Disjointed Energy.
Now clean that up by getting some help smoothing out contradictions, conflicts, reversals and other jarring energies with this Key:
“I remove reversals and jagged energies.”
“I have a clear and direct connection with my Soul,
my resources and my own karma.”
Go Deeper With These DNA Symbols for Epigenetic Healing.
Think about how you’ve been trained to communicate. Relax and sink into this sequence of DNA symbols that will help you let go of inter-generational trauma around communication. Imagine that nasty old DNA strands are moving out of you and to the Light…
“I surrender to not knowing the answer…
… I entrust myself to the Divine.”
Once they have cleared out, imagine a beautiful golden DNA strand from your Soul is connecting into your heart center and integrating.
Repeat the Process with this DNA Symbol:
“I let go of needing to be right…
… I now focus on solutions that are respectful to all.”
“I ask Divine Mother and Father to help me detach from manipulative energies, agendas and algorithms.”
Empower Your Communications:
Use this Soul Prayer Chart to empower these changes gently. Be sure that you spend all the time you need with it. Integrate aspects of The Essential Human if needed.
“I exist and connect with my heart and Soul to empower my needs and highest good.”
“I am empowered by my Soul to communicate ____________.”
Dissolve the Blueprints of Harmful and Extreme Communications.
Use this symbol to identify any mental, emotional or spiritual patterns that are keeping you attached, pulling you back or holding you down. See them dissolve completely as you surrender them to the Light:
“I dissolve any miscommunications, misunderstandings, dogmatic assumptions or mistaken ideas that obscure clear communication.”
“I let go of my conflict and co-dependence and surrender them to the Light.
I dissolve ineffective survival patterns and any connection I have ever had to them.”
Please note: Never send destructive energies into the Earth, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of happiness and life – not death!
Close the Door on All that Suffering and Miscommunication.
Close the door on holes or pathways that lead back to poor or extreme communications. Take all the time you need. There are probably a lot of them.
“All holes are sealed and healed.”
“I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”
“I let go. I stop communicating through abuse, dishonesty, manipulation, cruelty or violence.”
Close the doors both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body.
Finish By Repairing and Refocusing the Auras Around Your Body.
“I refocus and repair my auras.”
“My auric field is strong and organized to protect my health and integrity.”
Congratulations for Communicating with MODERATION on the Middle Road! You probably feel much more balance. Go back to the Initial Evaluation for the game and see what’s changed.
Now that you’ve made choices about the flow of moderation you can bring order and new happiness into your environment!
“For many people, following MODERATION and the middle road signifies an opportunity to go within and expel deep patterns of fanaticism within their psyche so that they can evolve and arise from that pattern, much as a beautiful lotus arises from the muck and mire at the bottom of a pond.”
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