Self-care for Loss In Uncertain Times

Soul Oriented Solutions: A Gentle Meditation about Emotional Stress and Self-care for Loss ~

Many people are experiencing deep levels of anxiousness, distress and fear around our current situation due to a variety of events. These feelings can come on suddenly and be very overwhelming. You might have lost a relative, a job or an important friendship. You could be facing a health challenge or even a loss in your purpose and sense of self.

Or, you may be sitting on the sidelines, watching someone you love suffer while you feel at a loss for something helpful to do. In situations like these, it can take a while to regain your balance. What are some ways to provide self-care for loss and bring some level of emotional relief?

If you can find a way to tune into your deepest resources, you’ll discover that you’re never completely alone, even in your darkest hours.

Rheanni Lightwater CHT, CKP Self-care for LossSOS - Self-care for LossTo help out, I’d like to share this brief formula that uses positive affirmations and the Intuitive Learning Circles. You can use it whenever you are:

  • Stressed over a lost job or income
  • Grieving a loss of any kind
  • Feeling pulled into a negative state of mind
  • Recovering from an abusive experience – past or present
  • Dealing with a serious or long-term illness
  • Preparing for surgery
  • Coming to terms with tragedy, loss or death
  • Asking for ways to be genuinely helpful.

Here’s a short example of how the Circles can prepare you to restore balance.

Simply gaze softly at the image while you contemplate the positive affirmations that go with it for for a minute or so. Relax and breathe:

“I bring my senses into balance.”

“I focus them so that I can feel calmer and more aware of what’s important in my situation.”

“I use my senses to be more aware of where I am and what I’m doing.”

“I focus on thoughts and actions that are genuinely helpful and productive.”


Next, you can continue to prepare for Self-care for Loss by allowing this Reiki Chakra Key to help you tap into your heart center. It helps to put both feet flat on the floor and place your hands on your heart while you gaze at the symbol.  Here’s a a couple of suggested affirmations:

“I understand and have compassion for the suffering of myself and others.”

“I open my heart to courage and the possibility of genuine healing.”

Strong emotions or insights may come up. The image may move, rotate, vibrate or change color. Don’t worry. That happens sometimes. It just means it’s working to help you feel better. Once the energy calms down a bit, you can move on to the remaining Circles with each of their affirmations to continue the process.

Your heartfelt intention is important and needs to be communicated. Use this Reiki Chakra Key to help you connect your prayers with your heart. Focus in on the Master Chakras located on each hand between the thumb and the index finger and let them get open and balanced. Then, imagine you can connect them with your heart. These affirmations can help:

“My prayers are connecting with my heart center.”

“I ask to receive guidance, clarity and healing from my Inner Wisdom.”

You might want to journal some of your thoughts so that you can speak with a trusted counselor or friend about what comes up. If so, get out some paper and something to write with as you go through the steps.


Finally, it takes energy to manifest. You may have the feeling that your energy is being drained right out of you or that you’re sending energy to old habits that have been harmful to you. Relax and gaze softly at this Circle. Let it help you deconstruct those old mindsets and close the drains that are exhausting you.

“I shut down all drains that are causing me to lose energy.’

Now you’re ready to begin the main part of your exercise.

Mind Body Integration

Mind Body Integration - Self-care for lossFor best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of your body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.

Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience!

Self-care for Loss

Step One: Asking for Help

Breathe in deeply, all the way to your belly while you look at this Circle. 

If you could ask for something that would help you feel better, what would that be? Place your request in the center, open space of this Circle and imagine you can send your breath to it.


Step Two – Support

Imagine that you can bring healing and release into all parts of your body, mind and spirit while you continue to breathe.

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Step Three ~ Peace

What do you think is the main difficulty or burden you’re dealing with right now?
Are you ready to let go of that burden and find a solution? 
If not, why not?


Step Four – Release

 If you can, imagine that difficulty or burden is beginning to melt and soften up. You can release the tension around anything that’s bothering you right now. Your shoulders are dropped. Your jaw is relaxed. Hardened thoughts are melting.

Keep melting the tension until it’s all gone.

Remember to do that both crossed and uncrossed.


Step Five – Soul Vision

Consider what your life could be without this difficulty. What would it be like if those burdens were lifted? Can you imagine it?

Sense the experience as much as you can in detail. See it, hear it, taste it, smell it and feel it.


Step Six – Remove Your Burdens

Imagine that you can send all those burdens to where ever they need to go to resolve themselves. Feel the heaviness lifting up and off of you.

You have done the best that you can under the circumstances.


Step Seven: Inner Guidance

Gently contemplate this symbol to help you gain insight and spiritual direction about appropriate things to do in this situation.

Imagine you can call upon Love to help heal the situation. Is there something that Love would tell you to do?
Ask to be instructed by Love as you continue along your journey.


Step Eight – Balance

Breathe again.
Feel a calmness coming over you.
You feel calmer and calmer with every breath.


Step Nine – Cleansing

Send away any illness, pain or fear that you’re experiencing. Send it to the Sun or wherever it needs to go to heal.


Step Ten – Comfort

Continue to let go and allow your energy to repair itself. 

It is not necessary to hold on to any worries, tension or negativity.


Step Eleven: Divine Connection

Fill yourself with strength and the knowledge that you are loved. 

You are filled with a Divine Connection to your Spirit. 


Step Twelve: Closure

In your minds eye, close the doors to any pathways that keep the pain and suffering open. You are connected through Love now and will always be. 

Let this healing be sealed with Love and Light.

Step Thirteen:  Divine Blessings

Let yourself rest now. You might feel tired or sad. That’s okay. It means that you’re feeling safe enough to really let go and rest.

Your mind is open and clear to receive healing and generative life force.


Some people have gotten a lot of extra support out of going through this self-care for loss formula every day for twenty-one days. It helps to retrain your mind to think more positively and keep you on track toward recovery.

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Rheanni Lightwater, Reiki Master Teacher

If you feel that Self-care for Loss has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel off track or overwhelmed.

Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].

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Self-care for Loss should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

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