If you’re feeling lost, out of balance or wanting overwhelm help – welcome! You are in the right place!
SOS offers 24/7 support for your journey through challenging times…
What are the main reasons a person may need overwhelm help?
The first reason would be that there’s simply too much happening. Overwhelming events or information is coming at the person and their mind is not able to filter priorities properly.
The second reason would be that the person has placed too much of their attention and energy on a particular goal or solution that is unrealistic or cannot be accomplished under the current circumstances.
The third reason why a person could need overwhelm help would be that the way forward has become obscured. The circumstances are dark, dim, uncertain and hard to understand.
The fourth reason could be that the environment has become too toxic or chaotic for a person to be able to cope in the way that they normally would.
All of these reasons have a negative effect on your physical health and can put extreme stress on your mental / emotional health as well.
Unfortunately, people are becoming more and more overwhelmed by sudden emotional or environmental changes, toxic environments and extreme weather events. These challenges can easily trigger PTSD episodes.
A person needing overwhelm help could experience:
Sudden and extreme exhaustion.
Fight or flight panic attacks.
Unexplained feelings of emergency; anxiety, depression and fear.
Increased irritation and frustration causing increased susceptibility to emotional outburst, illnesses, viruses or colds.
It’s not a good idea to remain in a fight or flight state for long. When a person is caught in a state of overwhelm, the stage is set for chronic depression, illness or paranoia to set in. If these symptoms are already present, the person may experience an overload or energy collapse.
The self-careformulas from SOS Soul Oriented Solutions have been put together to gently interrupt experiences of shock and overwhelm so that they can be replaced with a calmer sense of presence. What follows is more constructive thoughts and balanced energy flow.
Connecting with Hope
They are simple and easy to follow by design. When going through a formula, think of it as being gently led from a dark place into the light where you can connect with Hope.
The Intuitive Learning Circles stimulate the central nervous system in order to assist it in its natural healing process of expelling trauma and the stuck energy that surrounds it. Using SOS as a daily practice is a powerful form of self-healing with affirmations where you can easily slow down, communicate with your unconscious and reorganize how you’re taking care of yourself.
SOS Overwhelm Help offers you support at any time
of the day or night ~
Fortunately, the five Self-care Formulas listed below are designed to help “reboot” your energy and put you back in balance when you’re feeling overwhelmed. Taking a few minutes to go through the appropriate formula will give a person immediate help for coping with emotional stress.
Introducing the SOS Symbol ~
SOS stands for Soul Oriented Solutions. The SOS symbol itself helps you tap into your Soul and get unconscious information about what is causing imbalance in you.
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Directions:
Since the Intuitive Learning Circles are all about self-discovery and learning to use your intuition, it makes sense to use a simple and natural way to decide – using your intuition!
Below there’s a list of the Self-care Formulas numbered 1 – 5.
Take a moment and think about what’s going on for you and then gently gaze at the SOS symbol. Relax for a moment or two.
When you’re ready, let the SOS symbol help you access a simple “yes” or “no” answer to this question:
“Am I overwhelmed or experiencing an energy overload?
SOS Symbol
If “yes,” which formula will help me?1, 2, 3, 4 or 5?”
Whatever number comes to mind, go to that formula and read what it’s about. If it fits, click on the link and follow the directions.
Each formula is designed to gently lead you back into balance using positive affirmations and images that will help you recover.
This self-care formula uses the Intuitive Learning Circle method for getting your mind, body and emotions “unstuck” from a recent traumatic experience and you are:
~ Feeling stuck, numb, lost or helpless
~ Caught in a blank or fixed state of mind
~ Waking up at night worried, with obsessive thoughts
~ Alternately feeling trapped and shattered.
This self-care formula uses theIntuitive Learning Circles to resolve shock when your life has been upended and you are:
~ Feeling scattered, surprised, scared or vulnerable
~ Dealing with an environmental disaster or its aftermath
~ Reliving painful experiences
~ Having trouble thinking or planning clearly.
Use this PTSD self-care formula when you are:
~ Feeling lost, scattered or out of balance
~ Anxious or upset by an experience that’s overwhelmed you
~ Weakened and want to regain your strength
~ Disoriented due to a radical change
~ Triggered by body memories of a traumatic event
~ Having a flashback or out of body experience
~ Going through a major reorganization of consciousness.
Use this formula when you’re overwhelmed by day to day stresses and feeling:
~ Exhausted, overwhelmed or confused
~ Out of balance
~ Taking on too much – doing too much
~ Going too fast and need to slow down.
You can use this formula like a prayer whenever you are:
~ Stressed over a lost job or income
~ Grieving a loss of any kind
~ Recovering from an abusive experience – past or present
~ Dealing with a serious or long-term illness
~ Preparing for surgery
~ Coming to terms with tragedy, loss or death.
SOS is a hopeful self-care practice you can give yourself anytime or share with others ~
Helpful Tips
It’s important to take plenty of time with each question and continually breathe with full breaths. Shallow breathing inhibits the healing process and taking plenty of time counteracts the feeling of emergency.
In just a few minutes a person can get reconnected so that their energy feels balanced again. Cognitive function improves, negativity is dispelled and hope can return!
Whether you are living with someone who has PTSD or suffer from it yourself, these five formulas are powerful tools to keep handy.
Specialized Energy Clearing with the Author of Soul Oriented Solutions
Disclaimer:
Overwhelm Help is not intended take the place of appropriate medical and/or psychiatric care. Soul Resources LLC and Rheanni Lightwater are not licensed to practice medicine. If you are having prolonged or increasing bouts of anxiety, depression or suicidal thoughts, seek immediate medical help. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
If you are managing anxiety, feeling dissatisfied or unhappy – Welcome! You are in the right place!
SOS for Managing Anxiety is a collection of online resources that will help you calm down and gently untangle symptoms of neurodivergence, high sensitivity and unhappiness.
If you are someone who easily gets overstimulated or have learning difficulties that interfere with your ability to focus, here is my personal list of Mind Exercises for managing anxiety.
By calming your thinking down and tuning into your inner guidance through the Intuitive Learning Circles, it’s all lot easier to set yourself up for a genuinely successful outcome.
I was raised in a time before ADD, ADHD or Dyslexia had names. In the fifties and early sixties, kids like me didn’t have learning difficulties, we were simply labelled slow, troublemakers or stupid. Judging from the amount of time I spent in the principle’s office, I was probably put into the troublemaker category pretty early on!
Learning Difficulties: The Genius of Thinking Differently
I remember when I was just beginning to learn how to write my name in cursive. I was trying to figure out which hand worked better making all those loops and curly-ques. While experimenting with my left hand, my second grade teacher came over to me and plucked the pencil right out of my hand. “You don’t want to use that hand,” she barked, “only bad people are left handed.”
I didn’t like that teacher much so, at that moment I made a decision. I was going to be left-handed just to spite her! Like any choice, the decision I made had its downsides. For example, I’ve learned over time that being motivated out of spite and anger does nothing to help my level of happiness. On the upside . To this day, I am quasi-ambidextrous – I write with my left hand and do just about everything else with my right.
rejection dysphoria
In the first half of my life, it was important to be right about how unfairly I was treated. For me, being “right” masqueraded as being powerful and justified my anger. And yet, as time went by, the malaise of distrust, dissatisfaction and unhappiness continued to engulf me. began to turn against me.I know that most of the time, advice from teachers, family and friends was meant to help. They just couldn’t understand why I was so unhappy and didn’t know how to help me.
Much later in life, I started to accept that doing things the way that other people did them just wasn’t going to work for me. I eventually came to realize that my unhappiness had a lot to do with what I was paying attention to and how I was treating myself.
Later on in life, I decided that it was more important to be happy than to be right. I decided to listen to my discomfort rather than fight with it. When I changed my response I found myself, my voice and my peace of mind. Not all at once, but over time and gentle patience.
I stopped being so hard on myself and started to embrace the things that came naturally to me. I went into bodywork and somatic education together with hypnotherapy, Reiki and mind/body energy work. I began to experience a satisfaction and success that I had never known before. Finally, I was allowing the way I was wired to stimulate new ways of thinking and being in the world!
I set to work learning about and putting together techniques from many different disciplines to help me and my clients, many of whom were highly sensitive people with similar issues. I developed a whole system of tools for better focus and concentration using muscle testing. I’ve also found that they can help with emotional healing, reducing stress and providing a way to activate advanced states of intuition and creativity.
Taking back your power is an essential part of developing human potential.
The mind looks for what it has agreements to look for. If we want to create peaceful and coherent minds, we need to train ourselves to look for it. Our agreements with this selection of games are:
Agreements for Managing Anxiety are:
♦ Go for Joy and Happiness, rather than dissatisfaction and criticism ♦ Learn to stop internalizing early childhood messages of inadequacy ♦ Get present in stressful situations and stay centered ♦ Slow down and take things one step at a time ♦ Accept yourself and your innate gifts, skills and talents.
If you are open to managing your anxiety and what I’ve described resonates, the following collection of Mind Exercises, Self-care Formulas and Transformation Games can help you change your agreements with yourself.
With the Intuitive Learning Circle method, you will work with these new agreements to create a new relationship with yourself. You’ll be using the symbols and the questions or answers that go with them to gather unconscious information, organize awareness and illuminate solutions that come directly from your Soul. You are in charge and can become your own best friend!
Find out how the the Intuitive Learning Circles work by experiencing a short exercise for focusing your attention, energy and senses. This is a great place to start – not only because it’s a great introduction to this work – but also because it can help you clear up an important blind spot that’s blocking your awareness.
Introducing the SOS Symbol:
This is the SOS symbol that we use for the Soul Oriented Solutions processes. When you gaze softly at it (let your eyes relax) it can help you make choices, fine tune your intuition and listen to your gut instincts – even if you’re stressed out.
Once you’ve relaxed with it a bit, go through the list of four categories below and then, ask your gut instinct for a number between 1 and 8 to help you select the specific protocol that’s best for your situation.
Caution: Be sure to take it slowly. This kind of work can be deceptively powerful. Be sure to get plenty of rest, drink adequate water and eat healthy. You can take a hot epsom salt bath or get some gentle exercise.
Make sure your energy is well settled before you go through another exercise.
Stopping the critical mind before it starts it’s shame and blame requires training. We try so hard to win, to look good, to escape punishment or to be “right.” Sadly, many of us are taught that we’re supposed to be perfect, so that’s what we’ve trained the mind to go for. What if we could learn to go for Joy instead?
If you are someone who easily gets overstimulated or have learning difficulties that interfere with your ability to focus, Tutorial VI from Gifts from the Rainforest will provide a more creative and instinctual approach to help your productivity.
This visual meditation from our RESOLVE Ebook provides a quick framework for recovering mental balance and refocusing attention when you’re feeling scattered or out of sync. Going through a quick“game” calms the emotional centers of your brain and opens up new neural pathways for clear focus and boundaries, which significantly reduces stress and increases clarity.
You can use the Circles to help you work out what decisions are best for you to make under your current circumstances. Tutorial IX from Gifts from the Rainforest will help you center yourself and establish objectivity, especially if you’re all up in your head or have experienced a recent trauma. By calming your thinking down and tuning into your inner guidance, it’s all lot easier to set yourself up for a genuinely successful outcome.
People say that being present is super important and it’s true. Yet so often, it’s much easier said than done. If you’re jumping ahead of yourself and need to stay present, this particular exercise is especially useful when you’re experiencing performance anxiety.
If you have been conditioned to be afraid or negative by experiences early on in life, you may have trouble knowing how to handle what to do when things are going well. The way you view yourself and what you think you’re capable of is colored by habitual behaviors learned in early love relationships as well as childhood experiences. You may simply be dealing with an old program or you could be struggling with more serious entanglements with hatred and other destructive tendencies.
This Transformation Game is a more advanced process made up of Intuitive Learning Circles, pertinent questions and positive affirmations that will give you a new perspective activate your heart wisdom and help you ADAPT to a simpler mindset by clearing up mental and emotional clutter. When life has become too complicated or you’re trying to do too many things, this is your go- to game.
This Transformation Game can help you let go of anxiety about what other people think about you. Being clear about what’s true for you as opposed to what the social herd mind thinks is it’s own reward.
About the Author
Rheanni Lightwater, Reiki Master Teacher
If you feel that you need additional help, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you need more help managing anxiety.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing.
Schedule with Rheanni via Zoom or in person when you visit Santa Fe, New Mexico. Call or text (505) 271-4612 MST, or email: [email protected]
Disclaimer:
The formulas and exercise in Managing Anxiety should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
Soul Oriented Solutions: A Gentle Meditation about Emotional Stress and Self-care for Loss ~
Many people are experiencing deep levels of anxiousness, distress and fear around our current situation due to a variety of events. These feelings can come on suddenly and be very overwhelming.
You might have lost a relative, a job or an important friendship. You could be facing a health challenge or even a loss in your purpose and sense of self.
Or, you may be standing on the sidelines, watching the world you love suffer while you feel at a loss for something helpful to do.
In situations like these, it can take a while to regain your balance. What are some ways to provide self-care for loss and bring some level of emotional relief?
If you can find a way to tune into your deepest resources, you’ll discover that you’re never completely alone, even in your darkest hours.
Rheanni Lightwater, Reiki Master/Teacher
To help out, I’d like to share this self-care formula that uses positive affirmations and the Intuitive Learning Circles. You can use it day or night, whenever you are:
Asking for help in a difficult situation
Stressed over a lost job or income
Grieving a loss of any kind
Feeling pulled into a negative state of mind
Recovering from an abusive experience – past or present
Dealing with a serious or long-term illness
Preparing for an arduous challenge or surgery
Coming to terms with tragedy, loss or death.
Here’s an example of how the Circles can prepare you restore balance.
Simply gaze softly at the image while you contemplate the positive affirmations that go with it for for a minute or so. Relax and breathe:
“I bring my senses into balance.”
“I focus them so to help me be calmer, more present and aware of what’s important.”
“I use my senses to be more aware of where I am and what I’m doing.”
“I focus on thoughts and actions that are genuinely helpful and productive.”
Next, you can continue to prepare for Self-care for Loss by allowing this Reiki Chakra Key to open your heart center. It helps to place your right hand over the center of your chest while you gaze at the symbol. Here’s a a couple of suggested affirmations:
“I understand and have compassion for the suffering of myself and others.”
“I have peace and balanced prosperity in my heart. I choose life.”
Strong emotions or insights may come up. The image may move, rotate, vibrate or change color. Don’t worry. That happens sometimes. It just means it’s working to help you feel better. Once the energy calms down a bit, you can move on to the remaining Circles with each of their affirmations to continue the process.
Your heartfelt intention is important and needs to be communicated. Use this Reiki Chakra Key to help you connect your prayers with your heart. Become aware of the Master Chakras located on each hand between the thumb and the index finger. Let them get open and balanced. Then, imagine you can connect them with your heart. These affirmations can help:
“My prayers are connecting with my heart center.”
“I ask to receive guidance, clarity and healing from my Inner Wisdom.”
You might want to journal some of your thoughts so that you can talk about what comes up later with a trusted counselor or friend. If so, get out some paper and something to write with as you go through the steps.
To finish this first part, it takes energy to get better. You may have the feeling that your life force is being drained right out of you. You could be sending energy to the past or old habits that have been harmful to you. Relax and gaze softly at the Fly’s Circle from Gifts from the Rainforest. Let it help you deconstruct those old mindsets and close the drains that are exhausting you.
“I shut down all drains or holes that are causing me to lose energy.”
Now you’re ready to begin the main part of Self-care for Loss.
Mind Body Integration
For best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of your body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.
Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience!
Self-care for Loss
Step One: Ask for Help
Breathe in deeply, all the way to your belly while you reflect on this Soul Prayer Chart for Divine Assistance.
If you could ask for something that would genuinely be helpful, what would it be? Place your request in the center, open space of the chart and imagine you can send your breath to it.
Continue with your breathing until you feel a friendly and pleasant exchange of energy.
Step Two – Support
Imagine that you can bring relief and relaxation into all parts of your body, mind and spirit while you continue to breathe.
Step Three ~ Peace
What do you think is the main question, difficulty or burden you’re dealing with right now? Take a few moments and put it into your own words.
If there’s a blockage or resistance, are you ready to let go of whatever it is and find a solution? If not, why not?
Step Four – Release
If you can, imagine that difficulty or burden is beginning to melt and soften up. You can release the tension around anything that’s bothering you right now. Your shoulders are dropped. Your jaw is relaxed.
Hardened thoughts are melting like ice under the light of the Sun.
Keep softening the tension until it’s all gone.
Remember to do that both crossed and uncrossed.
Step Five – From Self-care for Loss to Divine Blessings
Continue to relax and let your mind turn to helpful channels of generative life force that are available through the Element of Air.
Use this symbol to help you close old, stagnant, erratic and unstable channels of energy.
Next, you can open to a lighter flow of chi that gives protection and increases positive life force.
Finally, connect with new communication channels by imagining the lines all coming together and connecting into the central spoke.
Step Six – Soul Vision
Now it’s much easier to connect with the wisdom of your Soul. Under this new light you have access to expanded awareness and perception of what’s possible.
Consider what your life could be without this difficulty you’re concerned about. What would it be like if the burdens were lifted? Can you imagine it?
Sense the experience as much as you can in detail.
See it, hear it, taste it, smell it and feel it.
Step Seven – Remove Your Burdens
Visualize sending all those burdens to where ever they need to go to resolve themselves. Surrender them completely and feel the heaviness lifting up and off of you.
You have done the best that you can under the circumstances.
If you can, reclaim your faith and other important Soul Resources.
Step Eight – Inner Direction
Gently contemplate this symbol to help you gain insight and spiritual direction about appropriate things to do in this situation.
Imagine you can call upon Love and your Ancestors for support.
Is there something that Love would tell you to do?
Ask to be instructed by Love as you continue along your journey.
Step Nine – Let Go
Breathe again and gaze on this Detachment Chart for a few minutes while it helps you let go of toxins or interfering energies that may be attached to you.
Feel a calmness coming over you.
Like a healing balm, imagine a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you.
Step Ten – Cleansing
Send away any illness or pain that’s associated with this situation.
Send it to the Light or wherever it needs to go to heal.
Step Ten – Repair
Continue to let it go and allow your energy to repair itself.
Relax with this Correction Chart until things smooth out and you can begin to sense the energy of your Soul coming through.
Step Twelve: Divine Connection
You have a Divine Connection to Joy and Gratitude in your Heart Center.
Make that connection and fill yourself with the strength and knowledge that you are loved.
You exist and what you do matters.
Step Thirteen – Closure
In your mind’s eye, close the doors to any pathways that keep the pain and suffering open. Take all the time you need to be sure they’re all closed.
You are connected through Love now and are following the path of your Soul.
Let this healing be sealed with Love and Light.
Some people have gotten a lot of extra support out of going through this self-care for loss formula every day for twenty-one days. It helps to retrain your mind to think more positively and keep you on track toward recovery.
Specialized Energy Clearing with the Author of Soul Oriented Solutions
Rheanni Lightwater, Reiki Master Teacher
If you feel that Self-care for Loss has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel off track or overwhelmed.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through Reiki, Energy Medicine, Hypnotherapy and Feng Shui space clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].
Disclaimer:
Self-care for Loss is not intended take the place of appropriate medical and/or psychiatric care. Soul Resources LLC and Rheanni Lightwater are not licensed to practice medicine. If you are having prolonged or increasing bouts of anxiety, depression or suicidal thoughts, seek immediate medical help. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
A Soul Oriented Solutions Formula: Self-care for Grief ~
Many people are experiencing deep levels of grief and mourning over events happening both near and far. Feelings of anxiousness, distress and even PTSD can come on suddenly and be very overwhelming. What are some things that can bring some relief and self-care for grief?
This brief exercise from RESOLVE uses affirmations and the Intuitive Learning Circles to quickly help you when you are:
Grieving
Recovering from abuse – past or present
Dealing with a serious or long-term illness
Preparing for surgery
Coming to terms with tragedy, loss or death.
Here’s an example of how the Circles can help you relax:
“I bring my senses into balance.”
“I focus them so that I can feel calmer and more aware of what’s important.”
“I use them to help me be more aware of where I am and what I’m doing.”
“I focus on thoughts and actions that are in my best interest.”
You may feel as though your energy is being drained right out of you. Relax and gaze softly at this Circle. Let it help you close the drains in your heart.
Mind Body Integration
For best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.
Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience!
When you’re ready, you can begin self-care for grief by allowing this Soul Prayer Chart to help you reclaim your connection to Creator and Soul through your heart center. It can help to put both feet flat on the floor and place your hands on your heart with this symbol. Simply gaze softly at the image while you contemplate the positive affirmation that goes with it for for a minute or so. Relax and breathe. Here’s some suggestions:
“I reclaim my power and fill my heart with courage, faith and determination.”
Strong emotions or insights may come up. The image may move, rotate, vibrate or change color. Don’t worry. That happens sometimes. It just means they are working to help you feel better. Once the energy calms down a bit, you can move on to the remaining Circles with each of their affirmations to complete the process.
You might want to journal some of your thoughts so that you can speak with a trusted counselor or friend about what comes up. If so, get out some paper and something to write with as you go through the steps.
Step One: Asking for Help
Breathe in deeply, all the way to your belly while you look at this Circle and then exhale. Breathe in through your nose, if you can. Do that several times.
If you could ask for something that would help you feel better, what would that be?
Step Two – Support
Imagine that you can bring healing and release into all parts of your body, mind and spirit while you continue to breathe and gaze softly with this next symbol.
Step Three ~ Peace
What do you think is the main difficulty or burden you’re dealing with right now?
Are you ready to let go of that burden and find a solution? If not, why not? Be sure to respect your process.
Step Four – Release
Where are you holding tension?
You can release the tension around anything that’s bothering you right now. Your shoulders are dropped. Your jaw is relaxed. Rub them if you like. Keep melting the tension until it’s all gone.
Step Five – Soul Vision
Consider what your Soul would tell you about this situation. Connect with the Love that comes from within as much as you are able to. Allow your heart to open to it.
Step Six – Remove Your Burdens
Imagine that you can send all those burdens to where ever they need to go to resolve themselves. Imagine the heaviness lifting up and off of you.
You have done the best that you can under the circumstances.
Step Six – Rebalance
Breathe again.
Feel a calmness coming over you.
You feel calmer and calmer with every breath.
Step Seven – Cleansing
Send away any illness or pain that you’re experiencing. Send it to the Sun or wherever it needs to go to heal.
Step Eight – Faith
Fill yourself with strength and the knowledge that you are loved.
Let yourself rest now. You might feel tired or sad. That’s okay. It means that you’re feeling safe enough to really let go and rest.
Some people have gotten extra support out of going through this self-care for grief exercise every day for twenty-one days. It helps to retrain your mind to think more positively and keep you on track toward your full recovery.
Disclaimer:
Self-care for Grief should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
The goal of this exercise is to empower more confident, cooperative and heartfelt communication in the New Paradigm.
Heartfelt communication is something many people say they would like and wonder why it’s so difficult to achieve. In the best of times it happens naturally by opening your heart and listening to its promptings.
Unfortunately, when life takes a difficult turn or tragedy happens, as it has for many of us, the heart and throat centers can shut down, leading us to feel cut off and at a loss for words. Repeated trauma and other violations of the spirit take their toll. Perhaps it’s the shock of disappointment or the panic one feels when the world gets turned upside down.
Opening up again may take time and some extra encouragement, especially for introverted, shy or highly sensitive people. Yet, with a little help, your heart can heal and your throat can relax again.
By practicing heartfelt communication with yourself first, you strengthen your intuition, which is like having an inner guidance system. When you go one step further and act on your intuition, you can:
Re-examine your relationship with yourself and the world
Reclaim an inner peace that helps you remain objective
Recalibrate your ability to express your truth
Renew the connection between your throat and your heart.
Resource new ways to nurture cooperation and appreciation
*If you often go blank or feel like you’re out of your body during conversations you may be dealing with unresolved shock or anxiety. If that happens during this exercise, or at any other time, you can go through Self-care Formula #1 Healing Emotional Shockto get grounded.
** If you’re having difficulty with boundaries, you may need to go through Mind Exercise #8 Developing Healthy Boundaries in conjunction with this exercise.
In the New Paradigm there are new channels of protection and communication that we can learn to utilize for our benefit.
The transition out of the Water based Piscean Age into the lighter, quicker energy of the Aquarian Age (Air) has contributed to quite a few challenges. Most people are experiencing including breakdowns in communication and a general atmosphere of instability.
As you go through the exercise, utilize the Divine Protection Chart to access the generative energy flow of the New Paradigm. Let it help you organize your communication and give it the lift and lightness needed to be successful.
By contemplating the symbol, you’ll be able to intentionally close down harmful channels and open up to the generative life force (chi) that is available through the Element of Air. Gaze softly at the symbol with these positive affirmations:
“Any stagnant, heavy or destructive energy flows from the past are closing down now – in my mind, my body and my communications.”
Integrating with this new channel will help us connect with each other in far more generative and life affirming ways.
“I am open to receiving generative life force through the Element of Air.” “I pull together new lines of communication using the lighter, quicker energy of Air.”
Heartfelt Communication: A Mind Exercise using Animal Totems from the Intuitive Learning Circle method.
Many cultures claim that messages from the animal world inform and offer us guidance – a very special kind of “medicine.” The Intuitive Learning Circles use messages from animals and nature to facilitate your learning and access inner peace.
For example, Monkey Medicine is about calming angry or critical thoughts that are causing trouble in your communications and life. In today’s world, many conversations have no intention of creating any kind of common ground and are merely an opportunity to criticize or pick a fight. Monkey can warn you if you’re about to engage in a hostile or manipulative communication.
Gaze softly at Monkey’s Circle, and ask: “Is there any real opportunity to make progress with this person or group?”
If the answer is “no,” you may need to go through this exercise just so you can say “no” effectively and still be as kind as possible.
If your answer is “yes, I can make progress here,” ask yourself honestly:
“Am I open to changing my perspective around this particular communication?”
If your answer is still “yes,” get out some paper and something to write with to make notes as you go through this exercise.
*For best results, place both feet on the ground and gaze gently at each Circle to receive your own message.
Let’s start by introducing you to the very first Intuitive Learning Circlefrom Gifts from the Rainforest.
Animal Spirits Medicine
Animals are our partners in creating an abundant and peaceful life on our planet. By observing their behavior and the role they play in their environment, we can adapt to and make the most of the circumstances in our lives. This Intuitive Learning Circlehelps us take ownership of how we use our energy to communicate. It also helps us to set things right by listening to the wisdom of our hearts.
Relax and breathe as you would in a state of meditation. Bring to mind the person or group you would like to improve your communications with. When you gaze gently at the Circle, you can tune in and receive your own answers to the question:
“What do I really want to communicate to this person or group?”
Take your time and write down what comes to you initially.
2. Because of the alarming amount of confusion and manipulative communications happening around us, we need to address the possibility that various aspects of your subtle energy system may be damaged by toxic attachments or karmic entanglements that would interfere with clear communication.
Use this Key to relax and meditate on for as long as you like. Like a healing balm, imagine that a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you.
“My energy system can effectivelyneutralize interfering energies and detach from them.”
“I easily let go of toxic attachments.”
3. In our current environment, it’s not uncommon for the chakras and/or meridians to start running in reverse or shut down entirely.Relax and let this symbol help you make corrections to problems including reversals, deformations and misdirections.
“I repair any glitches, holes or blockages in my energy system.”
Continue breathing until you begin to sense the calming energy of your Soul coming through.
Butterfly Medicine
4. It’s always helpful if you can tap into positive energy that will assist you. If you continue to relax with the medicine of Butterfly, you may be able to utilizebeneficial energies from your environment to nourish a more successful and reciprocal outcome.
After all, what you put out comes back, so it’s worth it to take a few extra minutes to clarify what you really want to put out!
Once you’ve lightened up a bit, gently bring your attention back to who you’re communicating with, what you want to communicate and how you might do that more effectively.
Electric Eel Medicine
5. The message of Electric Eel is about being coherent and grounded in the way we’re communicating. Use this medicine to scan your body and energy. Pay attention to any areas that feel muddled, blank or void when it comes to communicating with this person or group. Once you feel the inconsistency, Electric Eel will help you clear up the confusion and fill in the blank with positive energy and purpose.
It can also help you change the polarity of your throat and heart chakras so that they can realign with each other.
Note: This would be a good time to scroll back to the symbol at the beginning for Divine Protection to close down old energy channels and integrate that new energy channel before you continue.
River Medicine
6. Now that you’ve done all that, River Medicine can help you settle into a clearer perception of what you can say honestly and without exaggeration. Use the Circle to bring your senses into balance like the volume control on a radio.
Not too high, not too low – just right!
Bringing them into balance will support clear intuition by helping you to remain calm and perceive your situation the way it really is.
Now you can be more objective. Adjust the volume on your proposed communication. Take time to consider what’s really needed.
Does the volume need to be turn up or down? Does it need repetition? Something else?
Of course, there’s what you’d like and what’s actually possible.
Create a positive affirmation to guide you: “In this situation, my communications are _________ and __________.”
Divine Connection
7. The next step is to empower your ability to express your needs and create a clear intention that you can follow through on.
“I exist and am empowered through my heart and Soul.” “I am empowered to take good care of myself and develop heartfelt communications that are life affirming, truthful and cooperative.”
“I am empowered to release harmful intentions or interference.” “I’m able to express myself clearly and keep healthy boundaries.”
Continue by making your own affirmations that apply to your intention: “I am empowered to _____________.”
Jaguar Medicine
8. An important part of this exercise is to improve your confidence. Bring in Jaguar Medicine to surround yourself with a sphere of protection made of Light, strength and determination.
Once you’ve visualized that both crossed and uncrossed, can you remember a time when you successfully communicated something similar, either through your words or your actions?
It was probably something you felt very confident about.
Take your time and remember what was important about it.
Is your current communication challenge also important to you? Do you care?
Why do you care? Why do you care about the person or group you’re communicating with now?
What is motivating you?
Is there something you’d like to change about that or add?
Hummingbird Medicine
9. Another reason to cultivate heartfelt communication is to increase your experience of joy, connection and positive service. Hummingbird is our guide for accessing harmony and joy. Use this medicine to help you remember more about your successful experience. What did you enjoy about it?
What was the most positive aspect?
Did you enjoy getting a positive response?
Would you enjoy getting a similar response with this communication?
Hummingbird also helps us distinguish the difference between cooperation and compromising one’s integrity. For example, people who enjoy being “nice” have problems with communications because that attitude often puts them in impossible positions. Another problem is trying to be everything to everyone.
Use the Circle to unwind yourself from agreements, attitudes or assumptions that cause problems in how you communicate.
Use these affirmations to help: “I untangle myself from extremes, codependence and no win situations.”
“I am free to enjoy simple and cooperative communications.”
Soul Color
10. Whenever you’re very happy or have successfully manifested a goal, you’re naturally using your Soul’s unique vibration or color.Use this Soul Color chart to see if a particular color comes to mind for your successful communication. Relax for a minute or so to find it and strengthen your resonance with it.
“I recognize my Soul’s unique color vibration and strengthen itto enhance my confidence and communication.”
When you’re ready, ask what kind of message your Soul would like to give and receive in this case.
What would be your Soul’s purpose in having this communication?
Would you be happy with that message?
Take your time and sift through the pros and cons of your proposed communication. Continue to make notes.
Dissolving Destructive Blueprints
11. You’ve probably gathered up a lot of old mental, emotional or spiritual patterns that contributed to misguided, confusing or ineffective communication in the past. This would be a good time to let them go.
Use this symbol to help you find and Dissolve Destructive Blueprints. See them like dark clouds, dissipating into the pure light of the Sun.
“I dissolve destructive patterns for harmful communication and any connection I have ever had to them.”
“I release any grief, loneliness, frustration, anxiety or __________ that would interfere with heartfelt communication.”
Please note: Never send destructive energies into the Earth, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of happiness and life – not death!
Piranha Medicine
12. Piranha is about spiritual direction and protection. Use the Circle to close the doors to all the myriad pathways in your mind that would lead you back into dangerous, confusing or ineffective communications.
“I close the doors to any harmful, misleading or manipulative communications.”
“I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”
Heart Chakra Key
Now it’s time to integrate your communication with the Heart Chakra Key. Bring your attention to your heart center and allow the energy there to gently connect and balance throughout your body. It might help to place your right hand on your heart center and your left hand on your throat center.
Soon, the energy of your heart will naturally shift and start radiating out, like a star!
Can you imagine incorporating kindness, compassion, caring, self-respect and respect for others into the essence of your communication? If so, you’re ready to refine your message.
If not, what do you think you need?
Make a note of what comes up so that you don’t forget.
Starlight Medicine
Starlight aligns our individual consciousness with Universal Truth to achieve clarity and order. This medicine integrates conscious awareness, compassionate action and alignment with “true north” – the direction of your spirit.
It also helps you get more present in your body. Imagine that you can bring your Soul’s energy into the center area of your heart and solar plexus.
Once you feel more present in your heart center, contemplate what you originally wrote down.
Is this really what you want to communicate?
Are you clear who you want to communicate this message to?
Do you think that this message, as it is, will evoke the response you’re really looking for?
Is there a more effective message to send?
Sky Medicine
Finish now with Sky Medicine and allow it to help confirm a joyful message that is heartfelt and you really want to communicate.
That way, your words are bound to have a more desirable impact.
“What I really want to say to ________ is ____________________________.”
Once you’ve got the main message, see if you can refine the details about who, what, how, when, where and why.
Congratulations!
You have taken the time to consider the true impact of your words and re-frame any confusion or negativity into more heartfelt communication. Be sure to take some time to relax. Take a walk and integrate what you’ve come up with.
Rheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you would like more help.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].
Disclaimer:
The use of these self-care formulas and mind exercises are not intended take the place of appropriate medical and/or psychiatric care. Soul Resources LLC and Rheanni Lightwater are not licensed to practice medicine. If you are having prolonged or increasing bouts of anxiety, depression or suicidal thoughts, seek immediate medical help. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
Learn How You Can Tap Into Your Second Chakra for Creating Internal Safety in Your Environment ~
The 2nd Chakra Is Deeply Connected with how well we Nurture and protect ourselves.
Your 2nd chakra is located approximately 2-3 inches directly down from your navel.
It’s the energy plexus where emotions, digestion and immunity all come together. When it gets out of balance or entangled with toxic pollutants, your physical, emotional and spiritual health can be impacted in very negative ways.
Gaze softly at the Reiki Chakra Key below to help you balance and gather up physiological information that will organize your space in a way that will promote your health and safety.
The internal environment of your second chakra is very important to your self-care and emotional healing.
If it becomes stagnant, goes into shock or gets caught up in emotional entanglements, your physical, emotional and spiritual health suffers. In today’s environment, that’s something many of us are experiencing.
When it’s balanced and healthy, it transmits a vibrant orange energy that is hopeful and attracts belonging and support.
It’s also your creative center, the place where you generate your personal mana or creative energy.
This simple feng shui exercise is designed to help you go within and come up with important resources for staying healthy.
When you’re ready, pull out a piece of paper and something to write with so you can make notes as we go along…
Your environment is very important to your emotional health. It gives you a sense of belonging and support. It also gives you a place to center yourself and be grounded in. If you’re not experiencing that where you are now, you can do something about it or at least open up to some helpful possibilities.
Oftentimes implementing very simple changes can make a world of difference. Good questions to ask yourself about your space would be:
Do you feel safe?
Does it feel peaceful?
Can you have fun, relax & be comfortable?
Are people getting along well?
Is it orderly & convenient?
Is the atmosphere welcoming, warm & cheerful?
Do you sense an openness or flexibility to grow & expand?
Does it feel healthy?
Go through this mind exercise by reading each step and then gazing softly at the Circle that goes with it to gain insight about what creative changes you can make in your internal and/or external environment that will help you.
In Creating Internal Safety, you’ll be utilizing your intuitive insight to implement very simple changes that can make a world of difference in how you’re creating stability and safety in your personal space. You’ll discover that your intuition and unconscious mind are much more aware of what’s going on than you realize!
Step One: The goal of Creating Internal Safety is for you to get clarity about how well your personal space is supporting you and what you can do to make improvements. You might get insights about your body or your external environment. After all, they are connected and this is an important time to become aware of them.
First, take some time to slow down while you gaze softly at the Circle for Sloth Medicine. Breathe in and out several times. Drop your shoulders. Relax your jaw.
Move around and stretch if you need to.
Mind Body Integration
For best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.
Once you’re feeling relaxed, bring to mind the space that you’re inquiring about.Imagine that it’s moving in slow motion.
Step Two: Next, shift your attention to your own body, imagine you can see the space within your Second Chakra (remember, that’s located about 2″ below your navel).
Zoom in, like a camera. See or sense it moving in slow motion.
What do you notice?
Go ahead and make notes about what you sense.
As you journal, interesting ideas and impressions will come to you.
Step Three: In response to sudden challenges we’ve experienced in our environment, let’s use one of our Soul Star Keys to repair any damage due to pollutants, smoke, viral or destructive energies, which could cause reversals, allergic reactions, addictions, deformations, reversals and misdirections.
Let this symbol help you make corrections. Relax and sense your overall energy. If it feels jagged or disjointed, stay with it until your energy smooths out.
“I repair the glitches, holes and blockagesin my chakra system.”
Do this both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body.
Step Four: Since you’ve cleared your internal energy up a bit first, now you can get a better awareness of your external environment.
Feeling safe is a major priority. Innocent happenings such as loud noises, flashing lights, repetitive motion or high frequencies can cause unpleasant reactions in you without your being consciously aware of them.
Gaze at this Soul Prayer Chart for Divine Grace and ask for help so you can get more aware.
Let’s start with very simple questions that we take one at a time…
Is there anything in your personal space or immediate environment that could be triggering an unsettling reaction in you? Is anything irritating?
Is there a flashing light? Sudden movements?
A sound? Are there disturbing frequencies?
Are toxic influences present? Anything else?
Step Five: You could be preoccupied by other things that are causing you to be anxious. You may be reorganizing your work/living arrangements or in the middle of a move or repairs. Let Butterfly Medicine help you relax and answer questions about how you need to nurture yourself now, under your current circumstances.
Are you tapping into nurturing, beneficial energies? If not, take a few moments with the Circle to help you do that.
Is there any clutter or something to let go of that would help ease the situation? Are there any pockets of negativity or stagnant energy?
If so, what is it and where is it located? Does something need to be added?
Is there anything else?
Step Six: Physical objects in your environment carry a lot of energy through them, especially if they’ve been gifted to you or are second hand pieces.
These could be books, equipment, furniture, pictures and other objects of art.
Electric Eel Medicine can help you scan for sharp or conflicting energies.
Are there any objects in your home or office that are having a disturbing or negative effect on you? If so, can you identify them?
What would remedy the situation?
Does something need to be moved, rearranged, cleaned or removed completely?
Can something be brought in that would remedy the situation?
Step Seven: Since our recent transition out of the Piscean Age of Water into the Aquarian Age of Air, a new, generative form of life energy (chi’) has become available for us to use. Take several moments now to meditate on this symbol for you and your environment. Do that as often as you need to.
These positive affirmations will help:
“I access Divine Protection and close down all harmful energy channels left over from the past.”
My mind is open and clear to receive generative life force through the Element of Air.”
Step Eight: Now is a good time to check back in with your body. Take a minute and use Yarrow Medicine to tune into yourself:
What emotion(s) are running through you? Does that throw you off balance?
Is that dynamic helpful or harmful to you?
Step Nine: If it’s harmful, you might be internalizing an emotional complex – a compulsion, attitude, obsession or phobia from the collective unconscious.
If that’s happening, go through this short sequence to let it go. First, call on Chigger Medicine to release your agreement to carry it any longer.
Let the energetic structure for it collapse and then visualize expelling all that negative energy and emotions up to the Light.
There could be more than one. Check both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body to get them all.
You might want to burn a smudge stick or palo santo to uplift and purify the space. Read more about that by following the link at the end of this exercise.
Step Ten: Are there any other old habits or misunderstandings that need to be deconstructed? If so, imagine them collapsing in on themselves so any drains to your personal energy are being shut down.
Once they’re closed down, use this Circle to fill in the holes with loving, life affirming energy!
“I fill in the leftover void with healthy, life affirming energy.”
Step Eleven: Now you can turn your attention back to your external environment. Is there anything else about it that’s irritating you?
Identify it if you can.
What will remedy the situation?
Do you need to pull your energy back from external situations or disappointing events from the past?
Are you inadvertently tapping into harmful or distracting energies?
If so, use Wasp”s Circle to pull your energy back and close off destructive energies.
Is there anything else about that?
Step Twelve: The River Otter wants to know if there’s anything that you could bring into your space that would help you be happier, more hopeful or more creative?
Would anything increase your good health, emotional stability or physical security?
Could anything be done to increase your experience of prosperity?
What might you add that would bring more beauty into your space?
What vision or experience would you like to project out into the world?
Is there anything else you need to know?
Step Thirteen: You can finish the game today by closing the energetic doors that might keep you open to the suffering of the past and the old paradigm.
Piranha Medicine reminds you that your personal space belongs to you and how you take care of it has a profound effect on your health and the rest of your life!
Congratulations! Be sure to thank yourself for taking the time to go through Creating Internal Safety – a gift that will make your life a whole lot better!
Now is a good time to take a walk or go out into Nature to help this all integrate.
Purifying the Space – When dealing with emotional challenges, it’s often a great help to rearrange or clean out certain areas of the home – and that includes cleaning crystals. Read more about that here…
Specialized Energy Clearing with the Author of Soul Oriented Solutions
Rheanni Lightwater, Reiki Master Teacher
If you feel that Creating Internal Safety has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel off track or overwhelmed.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through Reiki, Energy Medicine, Hypnotherapy and Feng Shui space clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].
Disclaimer:
This mind exercise should not be considered as an exclusive method of handling stress. Soul Resources LLC and Rheanni Lightwater are not licensed to practice medicine. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment for any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
Intuitive Guidance Using the Loyalty and Clear Perception of Dog Medicine:
Your gut instinct is an awesome inner guidance system and has access to all kinds of information that you’re not consciously aware of. The only trick is that you need to be paying attention! Luckily, you can learn to use Dog Medicine with this Mind Exercise to hone your intuitive abilities and develop clear perception about where you’re heading.
This symbol accesses intuitive guidance about protection. Gaze at it softly and ask:
“Am I heading in the right direction?”
If the answer you get is “yes,” you don’t need this particular exercise right now.
If you don’t get a clear answer because your mind has gone blank, you would be wise to go through Formula #1 Healing Emotional Shock first, and then come back to this one.
However, if your answer is a clear “no,” take some time out of your schedule and go through this Mind Exercise. A few minutes now could save you a lot of time and trouble later!
First, a word about environmental changes and getting a grasp on the larger picture…
Most people know on an unconscious level that a major shift has occurred. However, the conscious mind may still be operating as if everything’s still the same.
In order to ADAPT effectively, it helps to have signs and maps to assist us as we update our minds to navigate through the new terrain. That’s the reason and purpose for all the symbols and Intuitive Learning Circles.
For example, if you meditate on the “map” available in this image, your mind can get a better grasp of how it can reorganize your energy in the New Paradigm we’ve entered…
This is an imprint for “Common Ground for the Common Good” based on equality, co-operation and balanced prosperity. This template encourages us to work with Nature, rather than against her.
If you want to navigate your journey with clear perception, you need to know when you’re heading in the wrong direction and what to do about it ~
There are several reasons why you might be unconsciously heading in the wrong direction.
For example, your senses may have gotten all knocked out of balance.
With so much going on, it’s easy to be distracted and confused by all the intense changes and contradictions that are going on around you.
Fortunately, your inner protector works incredibly well to help you with your inner guidance system – warning you to slow down and get your feet back under you.
Gaze softly at this Reiki Chakra Key to get your bearings again. Take a minute or two to consciously get in touch with your senses and really connect with them for greater awareness.
Anotherpossibility could be that your energy is having a difficult time adjusting to all the significant internal or environmental changes that are taking place. Sudden reversals, blockages and changes in momentum can cause our subtle energy fields to react in unusual ways.
This Correction Key can help you correct any rough glitches or reversals that you may be experiencing in your energy field.
Relax with it for a few minutes until things smooth out and you feel more like yourself again. Be sure to do that both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body.
Your senses could be turned up too high or too low.
That often happens during conflicts or other times when our emotions get out of balance. When we spend too much time in the watery depths, we can start to worry about worst case scenarios or fantasize about how we would like things to be, rather than acknowledging how they actually are.
It’s natural to do that, however, we need to be able to pull back into the here and now so we can get back on track.
Imagine you can use River Medicine to adjust the volume for all your senses, especially your intuition! Breathe in and relax. Take all the time you need.
You don’t want to miss some important information or an opportunity that you need to take advantage of. Dog medicine is here to tell you that something really important is happening right now and you need to be paying attention!
Connect to the new flow of Chi’ based on the Element of Air. Before you continue, let this symbol for Divine Protection help you make changes and connect with the generative energy flow of Air in the New Paradigm.
“I close down harmful energy channels from the past.”
“I adapt to the positive flow of chi’ available in the New Paradigm to the best of my ability.” “I connect with new, life affirming channels of communication.”
Your energy may be scattered because you’ve been so stressed. So much is changing, or your timing could be off, causing you to jump to conclusions before it’s a good idea to do so.
Take a moment and bring yourself back into the present. Open and close your hands, take a look at the date and time. Remember your name, the city you’re in or how old you are. Doing these things can really help you get present and aware of what’s actually going on around you.
Once you feel more centered, ask yourself:
“Am I jumping to any conclusions about my situation?”
If your answer is “yes,” stop and reconsider before you make any moves. Retrace your steps and see where the error is.
Taking steps one at a time is essential whenever you’re in unfamiliar territory! What else might you need to be aware of?
You may have gotten disconnected from your true Self and instinctual nature.
Use Dragonfly’s Circle to help you reconnect so you can get back in touch with your gut instincts, your environment and the things that really matter.
Once you feel connected again, ask yourself: “Am I getting instinctual messages about things I’m doing or not doing?” “Is there any part of me that’s holding onto old energy, operating out of falsehoods or keeping me unhappy?”
If your answer is “yes” to that last question, it would be wise to stop and follow the guidance you get if you can.
Finally, your energy could be misdirected. We can use intuition to guide us properly, or we can misuse it by giving into old habits, wishful thinking, illusion, paranoia or buying into the agendas of those who would love to sell us up the river with false claims.
Do you sense any holes that you’re about to fall into? Is there an old habit that needs to be deconstructed or something that’s draining your energy?
When your intuition and instinct are in balance, you have a much better chance of catching things that you really need to watch out for.
Having clear perception alerts you when something really important is happening that you need to be paying attention to!
So, before you step into the great unknown, it would greatly behoove you to take a few more minutes to go through this centering exercise, Develop Clear Perception. This is where you can make friends with dog energy and your inner protector to get all kinds of insight and guidance as you take your next steps.
Slow Down and Get Your Feet Firmly Planted On the Ground ~
Gaze softly at the center open space of Sloth’s Circle while you go through a few positive affirmations. If there’s a question, just be open to your gut response.
“I slow down because things may be moving too fast for me to sense the truth.”
“I’m willing to admit I don’t know what’s going on. Asking for help is a blessing.”
“Is my inner guidance sending me a warning?”
“Do I need to let go of something? Change something?”
“Do my instincts want to redirect my attention to a solution or something else?”
“Whatever’s happening, am I willing to listen and learn?”
You may be surprised at the answers that are coming to you. If it didn’t work, relax! You can go back and do it again. Journaling is often a help.
Be sure to check the directions again and follow them if you’re not sure.
Use Bat Medicine in the same way with this affirmation:
“I allow clear perception to heighten my instincts and intuition.”
Then ask:
“Am I willing to trust in the power of balanced intuition and instinct?”
“Is the ‘vibe’ around me helpful or harmful?”
Very interesting, isn’t it? We instinctively know when the “vibe” is right or wrong, but we often don’t trust the messages we get. We doubt and second-guess ourselves or we might willfully ignore our inner guidance system and try to force our way through.
Look at the Circle again and ask, “Am I heading in the direction of my best interest?” “Am I making decisions that are in my best interests?” “Am I taking actions that are helpful, harmful, misguided or simply ineffective?”
If you’re not clear yet, keep going with the exercise. You may need a few more easy corrections before the truth emerges.
Clear Perception and Being Present
Often, how well we listen to our inner guidance is affected by how present we are in our bodies. It’s called gut instinct because when we’re really present, we can feel it in our solar plexus (the soft area in the front where our ribs go up).
In times of confusion and stress, the solar plexus chakra can close down or get blocked off. Use this Chakra Key to make sure it’s open and functioning properly.
You can use the Grounding Your Essence Chart to help you become more centered and aware in that solar plexus area. Just relax and breathe while you gently look at it for a few minutes with the positive affirmations below. Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience…
“I detach from confusion and chaotic energy.” “I am present, upright and facing forward. I am willing to hear the truth.” “I maintain a position that keeps me balanced, centered and grounded in the truth.”
Once you’ve finished centering yourself, hopefully, you’re feeling much better!
Use Dog Medicine to Handle Your Agreements Appropriately:
Another big reason why we might get off track is when there’s a problem with an agreement or commitment we’ve entered into on some level. In this busy, modern life, people tend to take their agreements too lightly and don’t realize how important their word is.
Perhaps paying attention to what we say seems like too much effort or too complicated. Yet, if you really want to be be loyal to yourself, being clear about your word and your agreements is super important. Especially agreements that you’ve made with yourself!
Here’s some tips about how to handle agreements successfully:
You can keep your agreements and stick with what you previously decided.
You can release agreements when they’re complete or no longer serve you.
Or, you can consciously re-negotiate them when they need to be updated.
By the way, it’s also a good idea to pay attention if someone hasn’t been keeping their agreements with you. If that’s happening, it’s best to deal with the indiscretion asap. When we allow someone to break their word with us and then say or do nothing about it, we lose our own integrity by being disloyal to ourselves.
Stay Calm and Take a Few Deep Breaths ~
An agreement is an investment of your energy.Could you be investing your energy in something that’s no longer viable? Are you investing your emotional energy into something (or someone) that would be harmful to you?
It’s okay. Our situations are changing at a rapid pace and so are our priorities. To help you identify problem agreements, use this Circle to help you slow down again. Focus on yourself and your current goals. Ask yourself:
“Have I been trying to keep agreements that are harmful to me? Is it time to renegotiate a pertinent agreement?” or “Am I overlooking an important agreement that I need to follow through on?”
If so, can you tell what those agreements are about? Take all the time you need with this… what insights do you get? If you ignore them, they may turn around and bite you!
Use this Soul Contract Circle to imagine that any harmful agreements you may have are like contracts that can be melted down to adjust for what’s needed or burned up entirely. Use the Circle to visualize all harmful contracts interacting with a sacred, violet flame. Here’s some affirmations to assist you if you like:
“I release all agreements that no longer serve me.”
“I let go of ___________. I reframe ____________. I stop ____________.”
Possible new agreements could be:
“I am loyal and true to my Self. My needs are a priority.”
“I have faith. I listen to my instincts and take good care of my Self.”
“I ________________________________.”
Use Dog Medicine to Help You Find A Way Through ~
Now it’s time to redirect your attention to helpful people, opportunities and places. For additional help, ask these questions:
“What is my priority at this time?” “What is my natural place in this situation – where do I belong?” “Am I operating in the New Paradigm based on equality, co-operation and balanced prosperity or the old paradigm of fear, dissatisfaction and greed?”
“Does something need to change?” “Is something out of place, missing or out of order?” “Am I listening to bad advice?” “Am I heading in the right direction?”
Dissolve Destructive Blueprints
Use this symbol to help you gather up any misunderstandings, mistaken ideas or miscommunications and release them to the Light.
“I release all obstructions to clear perception.”
Let any confusion or heaviness you may feel lift up and out of you like dark clouds dissolving into beautiful sunlight.
Please note: It’s time to stop sending destructive energies to the Earth, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of happiness and life – not death!
Close the Door on Confusion and Turn Your Energy Around.
Finally! It’s time to close the door on all those misuses of your time, attention and energy!
“I close the door on any drain or strain on my time, space, attention or energy.” “I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”
“I trust the wisdom of balanced intuition and instinct.”
“I now have clarity about which direction I need to go.”
Congratulations!
You now have clear perception about what’s really important to you and some guidance about what to do about it. Not only that, you’ve just gotten a key insight that’s going to save you a lot of trouble in the long run!
Specialized Energy Clearing with the Author of Soul Oriented Solutions
Rheanni Lightwater, Reiki Master Teacher
If you feel that Clear Perception has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel off track or distracted.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through Reiki, Energy Medicine, Hypnotherapy and Feng Shui space clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].
Disclaimer:
This Mind Exercise should not be considered as an exclusive method of handling stress. Soul Resources LLC and Rheanni Lightwater are not licensed to practice medicine. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment for any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
SOS Self-care Formula #6: Develop Healthy Boundaries
Many people, especially those who are highly sensitive or empathic, want to learn how to develop healthy boundaries because they are so open to thoughts and energies coming from other people. Sometimes those thoughts get attached in their minds and spin around, causing a great deal of discomfort.
If the pathways remain open, all kinds of trouble (karma, issues, illness or confusion) can pass back and forth between people without their awareness. If left unchecked, this type of attachment can manifest in negativity, sudden and mysterious illnesses, mental confusion, issues with prosperity or chronic states of overwhelm.
It’s a valuable skill to know how to shift your energy and Develop Healthy Boundaries.
Mind Exercise #8 from SOS for Compassion Fatigueuses affirmations and the Intuitive Learning Circles to help you learn to consciously close off the pathways to intruding or negative thoughts establish healthy protection and shift into a more positive mindset. Here’s an example of how it works. Simply contemplate each step for clarity and better boundaries.
Use Develop Healthy Boundaries when you are:
Agitated or feeling out of sync
Distressed by recent news
Getting negative or anticipating hardship
Feeling claustrophobic
Unable to meditate or sit still
Obsessed with a particular person or situation.
Remember that the Circles will take you as light or deep as you want to go. As a result, it may take you 45 – 60 minutes or more to get through this version completely. If you need a simpler, change of perspective you can go to Clear Boundaries for A Busy Mind instead.
If you’re in the right place, here’s how it works:Find a quiet place if possible, where you won’t be disturbed. Follow the sequence of symbols while you read their accompanying instructions. Gaze gently at each Circle for about two minutes. A longer or shorter time may be necessary.
Mind Body Integration
For best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.
Let yourself breathe and relax as much as possible. Don’t worry if the images move around or change in any way. That just means the Circles are working and that your mind and body are relaxing.
Be sure to rest as needed during the exercise and at the end, give yourself time to get away completely to integrate. In the long run, it’ll be worth it. Developing a quiet mind and light heart changes your perspective and makes it easier to follow through with your true priorities.
Developing a quiet mind and light heart changes your perspective and that makes it easier to follow through with your true priorities.
Step 1. Balance
Begin by consciously breathing in on the count of three and slowly exhaling on the count of five. It’s helpful if you can breathe in through your nose. Do that three or four times while you gaze softly at the Circle.
Continue breathing and bring your awareness to your tailbone.
What do you need to get in balance about?
Step 2: Decision
In order to develop healthy boundaries in this situation, there are decisions that you need to make that will benefit you. Be clear about what you actually want for yourself and how you’d like to respond. Use the Circle to help you synchronize the decision making parts of your mind.
Note: Negative or wishy-washy requests get negative, wishy-washy results. Overly idealistic, ambitious or unrealistic requests tend to create chaos and overwhelm.
Think it through and write down a positive declaration for yourself.
What results do you actually want to experience?
Step 3. Letting Go
Your decision might bring up conflicts or you may have experienced a recent shock that’s blocking your ability to move forward. Use this Circle to relax and melt away any hard thoughts, feelings or resistance that blocks your ability to take affirmative action.
The key is to relax into whatever you’re experiencing and breathe. You can imagine that the lines in the Circle are going limp and moving around like wet noodles.
What tension or worry do you need to let go of?
Let go of inner conflicts like holding onto self-doubt or lacking self-respect, etc.
Step 4. Protection
This symbol encourages you to develop healthy boundaries by providing an improved interface with your environment. We all need assistance in making the transition from the old paradigm of Water (Piscean Age) to the new paradigm of Air (Aquarian Age). Relax and close down all heavy or destructive energy channels that your mind or body may be open and vulnerable to.
Do you feel a sense of protection?
Continue to contemplate the symbol both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body until you feel protection all around.
Imagine the lines coming together in the center for improved communication.
Step 5. Natural Instincts
Continue to relax. Use this Circle to gather up your natural gifts, talents and instincts so you can organize them in a way that will help you reclaim and strengthen your boundaries.
Make sure you’re relaxed and you’ve got your feet on the ground to help you get back in touch with the things that really matter. Activate your gut instincts, engage your Essence and the power that comes from your Soul.
What will help you connect with your instincts?
Step 6. Intention
Give yourself permission to slow down even more so you can effectively concentrate your energy on your new decision. Turn your awareness to what would really need to happen in order for you to follow through successfully.
For example, you’ll want to know if you’re distracted, internalizing something or trying to take care of something that isn’t yours to be concerned with.
What is the necessary information I need from my unconscious mind?
Don’t worry. You don’t need to have it all figured out. The issue may be too confusing to make sense of it yet. Just let the Circle help you percolate what’s involved with this boundary issue.
Step 7. Soul Color
You may be taking on an unknown algorithm or vibration without being aware of it. Using your own Soul Color and vibration will strengthen your autonomy, integrity and good health. To help you find it, remember a time when you successfully manifested something physical. What color comes to mind?
“I recognize my Soul’s unique color vibration.” “I know who I am. I distinguish my energy from the energy of others.”
“All aspects of my Essence are willing to utilize my Soul Color for clarity and success.”
Step 8. Centering
Connect your new decision with the strength and integrity of your Soul. Bring in your Soul Color and conscious awareness to amplify this affirmation:
“I decide to connect with the truth of my Soul and take care of myself.”
When you’re ready, notice where you are in your room or environment. What is to the left of you and what is to the right of you?
Make sure that you’re centered in your own body. “I am inside of me. Everything else is outside.”
Step 9. Empowerment
Empower your ability to follow through with your decision.
“I exist and am empowered by the Source in my heart center.” “I nourish myself through Joy and Gratitude.” “I am empowered to take good care of myself and develop healthy boundaries.” “I am empowered to maintain my confidence, courage and Individual sense of self-respect, self worth, etc.”
Continue by making your own affirmations that apply to your decision: “I am empowered to _____________.”
Step 10. Calm
Now it’s time to clear out all that excess or negative energy.
Keep breathing with your belly soft and relaxed. Let your shoulders drop. Continue using your Soul Color with this Chart to expel foreign energies from nervous system.
Slow down and clear away noise and static from the outside world.
Come back into the calm and rhythm of your Soul.
What thoughts will help you to relax?
Step 11. Repair
If you’re having trouble, this Correction Key can help you correct any blockages, rough static, glitches or reversals that might be causing trouble in your energy field.
Relax with it for a few minutes until things smooth out.
Be sure to do that both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body until you feel the energy of your Soul beginning to come through.
Is there anything else you need to do to repair your energy field?
Step 12. Perception
It helps to see things the way they really are.
Gaze softly at this Circle and imagine you can adjust the feelings or thoughts that are turned up too high or too low, just like the volume on a radio.
“I decide to perceive this situation clearly and calmly.”
What are you seeing differently about this situation?
Step 13. Change
In order to follow through with your new healthy boundaries, some things are going to have to change. Identify what needs to happen:
“Does something need to change?” “What do I need to do differently to develop healthy boundaries?” “What actions would help me?”
If you’re not clear yet, keep going with the exercise.
You may need a few more easy corrections before the truth emerges.
Step 14. Resolution
You probably need to change some agreements or do some things differently. To help you find out what they are, examine what causes anxiety or confusion for you when you consider these affirmations:
“I decide to stay centered and follow through on the highest good.” “My health and happiness are important.” “I easily deflect foreign energies and other people’s thoughts or expectations.”
There is always more than one way to approach a situation. What new approach do you need to take? What agreements need to change?
Step 15. Detachment
There may be attachments or karmic entanglements blocking your solution.
Use this Detachment Key to let go of them. Relax and meditate on it for several minutes. Like a healing balm, imagine that a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you.
Are you willing to neutralize interfering energies and detach from them?
If not, are you willing to back up and change the agreement that binds you to them?
Step 16. Freedom
Allow this symbol for dissolving destructive blueprints to clear underlying patterns of confusion, codependence, anxiety, abuse or neglect out of your mind.
Let any remaining heaviness or karmic entanglements about this situation lift up and off of you.
Dark clouds are dissolving into blue skies and sunlight.
Please note: It’s time to stop sending painful emotions and destructive energies into the Earth, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of happiness and life – not death!
Step 17. Closure
Use the Circle to help you close any harmful openings or pathways that would leave you open to the distractions and interference of the external world.
Close the doors and seal the leaks – as if they were never there.
You are calm and ready to follow through now. Your mind is able to rest.
How do you feel now? Are you heading in the right direction?
If not, imagine that your Soul is turning you to face the right direction.
Step 18. Clean Up
A necessary part of maintaining healthy boundaries to make sure that we don’t get sucked back into unhealthy dynamics again. Otherwise, we’ll just get entangled again!
Take the time now to deconstruct any harmful habits or leftover emotional dramas that have been draining your energy. Fill in any voids with loving gratitude.
Are you experiencing any more drains to your energy?
Step 17. Completion
Finally, allow this Circle to make sure you’ve let go of all harmful ties, cords or vows that you may have entered into that would cause you to unknowingly continue participating in neglect or abuse:
“I let go of all harmful vows or obligations to be connected to dangerous energies or abusive situations.”
Do you feel as though you have a healthy sense of completion?
If so, congratulations! Give yourself time to rest and integrate.
Take a walk or enjoy some time out in Nature.
This Mind Exercise is Part of Spirit Animal Tracks for Self-healing
Specialized Energy Clearing with the Author of Soul Oriented Solutions
Rheanni Lightwater, Reiki Master Teacher
If you feel that Develop Healthy Boundaries has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel off track or overwhelmed.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through Reiki, Energy Medicine, Hypnotherapy and Feng Shui space clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].
Disclaimer:
How to Develop Healthy Boundaries should not be considered as an exclusive method of handling stress. Soul Resources LLC and Rheanni Lightwater are not licensed to practice medicine. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment for any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
It’s not a good idea to remain in a fight or flight state for long. When a person is caught in a state of overwhelm, the stage is set for chronic depression, illness or paranoia to set in. If these symptoms are already present, the person may experience an overload or energy collapse.
SOS stands for Soul Oriented Solutions. The SOS symbol itself helps you tap into your Soul and get unconscious information about what is causing imbalance in you. 
