Healing Emotional Shock

Any person who is going through serious loss could experience emotional shock.

The symptoms of emotional shock are disorientation, numbness, mental confusion or fragmentation. A person may even disconnect and leave their body. This includes people who are witness to traumatic experiences in some way. 

These are all ways that the unconscious mind protects us during a traumatic event.

Note: If you are going through a serious physical disruption or environmental crisis, please go to Stabilize During a Shocking Event.

This self-care formula can help when you are: 

  • Feeling stuck, immobilized, detached or trapped
  • Unable to rest, relax and let go
  • Caught in a blank or fixated state of mind
  • Waking up at night worried, with obsessive thoughts
  • Reliving painful experiences
  • Alternately feeling trapped and shattered.

Using the Intuitive Learning Circle method for healing emotional shock ~

Sometimes people who’ve received bad news or experienced a traumatic event will tell you that they’re fine and not to worry about them. They may get confused or shut down and not be able to explain what’s happening to them. That’s because one of the main symptoms of being in shock is not being aware of being in shock. Why is that? During a shock, the mind goes blank as a form of protection.

The Brain and Emotional Shock

Any person who’s going through serious loss could experience emotional shock. The symptoms are disorientation, numbness, mental confusion or fragmentation. A person may even disconnect and leave their body. This includes people who are witness to traumatic experiences in some way. These are all ways that the unconscious mind protects us during a traumatic event.

The shock response is natural and not a sign of spiritual, mental or emotional weakness. It is a physiological event. Nevertheless, if the person doesn’t get a chance to get grounded in their body again – or if they’re not able to – serious problems may develop. Blocked energy and a constant state of fight or flight takes its toll over time. Statements like: “I can’t think straight,” “my life was shattered” or “I feel disconnected” describe the experience of emotional shock. 

If any of the above seems familiar, you can go through this formula step by step to help you access your own innate healing abilities and bring yourself back into balance.


Mind Body Integration

Mind Body Integration

For best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.

Let yourself breathe and relax as much as possible. Don’t worry if the images move around or change in any way. That just means the Circles are working and that your mind and body are relaxing.
Be sure to go through the entire formula and at the end, give yourself time to rest and integrate.


Healing Emotional Shock

Step One:

Take several deep breaths and relax while you look at Condor’s Medicine Circle that releases shock and inner conflict.

Imagine you can use it to focus in on a conflict or painful experience that’s been difficult to move on from. Somehow, it’s always blocking your way. If your mind has gone blank, relax into how “blank” it is. You may get a sense of what it’s about, or you may not.

Once you find the fixation, sit back and relax. Take several deep breaths.
If emotions come up, relax into them. Imagine that whatever’s happening – the darkness, the chaos or heaviness is also relaxing.
Let it soften and melt away, like ice under a beautiful beam of Sunlight.
Keep your attention on it until it’s completely gone.

Repeat the process with other blockages or conflicts that come up.

 

Step Two:

While you’re relaxing, use this Soul Prayer Chart to remember another time when you were very happy or feeling good about an important physical goal.
What color or felt sense relaxes you and feels good?
If you can increase the color or sensation to be stronger and more vibrant, you’ve found your personal Soul Color or vibration.

Now you can tap into your personal power and naturally bring it into balance, which gives you protection and relieves stress.
Being in balance makes everything easier! Take a few minutes to relax and enjoy that feeling.

 

Step Three:

The next step is to bring your senses into balance with River Medicine so that you can see, feel and hear things without the distortion that often accompanies shock.

As you breathe deeply, let the Circle help you to adjust the volume and pitch of your senses to just the right level for you.
Not too high – and not too low.

Soon you will be able to hear that “calm, gentle voice” inside that reminds you to pay attention to what matters the most for you.
You have greater awareness of things as they actually are.
You are present and sensing your surroundings much more clearly.

 

Step Four:

When a person is recovering from emotional shock, their energy may express some instability like being scattered, reversed or even shut down completely.

If that’s happening for you, let this Correction Key help you repair any glitches, holes or blockages in your system.

Keep relaxing with it until you feel the jagged energy smoothing out and the calm energy of your Soul coming through even stronger.

 

Step Five:

 If your gut feels tight or uncomfortable, use this Reiki Chakra Key for your Solar Plexus Chakra to help you relax and get back into balance there.
Your solar plexus is that soft place in your belly where your ribs go up. Just take some nice breaths and feel the tension melt away again.

It’s safe. You feel safe and more relaxed with every breath.

It’s okay to be in your body.
Allow time to let your energy settle.

 

Step Six:

Now you can let your heart center recover. This Reiki Chakra Key helps you to reconnect with your Heart Chakra energy and unwind any residual tightness.
Breathe deeply and take your time.
Your balance is returning. You can feel the tightness unwinding.

Allow any heaviness to lift up out of your heart and send it to the Sun where it can be transformed.

You are gaining the strength and resilience you need to let your Light shine.

 

Step Seven:

Sometimes a person who’s healing from an emotional shock will be disoriented and feel a bit “out of their body.” In case that’s happening with you, take a few minutes with Starlight Medicine to consciously bring yourself back into your body.
You are back at home in your heart and solar plexus.

If you’re having trouble, notice the time and where you are. You can open and close your hands into fists. Move your fingers and wiggle your toes around.

Or, you can turn your eyes to the right of you and then to the left. Notice what is above and below – in front and behind you. Then, close your eyes and rest for a moment.
These actions all help you reorient after an emotional shock.

 

Step Eight:

Now, it’s important to make sure that your energy can synchronize and ground in the new paradigm of Common Ground for the Common Good. Without proper grounding, you could get distracted and confused enough to go back to the deterioration and chaos of the old paradigm.

That’s not what you want. Deciding to move with Mother Nature rather than against her matters now more than ever!

Let Electric Eel’s Medicine help you. Place both feet on the ground and your hands on each knee while you meditate on getting grounded.
Your energy is getting more and more coherent and the Earth supports you.

Again, take all the time you need with this.

 

Step Nine:

At this point, you’ll want to make sure you don’t fall back into any old holes or get sucked into destructive habits.

Fly Medicine will help you deconstruct those habits and rabbit holes that have been causing you harm for good! Imagine them collapsing like old sewer lines.
Then, close up any energy drains so that you can recover your strength.

Once the holes are collapsed, ask for the leftover empty space to be filled in with healthy, life affirming energy.

 

Step Ten:

As you gaze at this symbol for Divine Protection, let it help you adapt to the new energy channels that affirms life through the Element of Air.

Begin by closing down old, harmful energy channels from the past.
Then, allow the beneficial chi’ to flow through you and support you going forward.

Notice that this energy is much lighter and quicker than the chi of the old paradigm, which has turned stagnant and toxic to life.

Finally, you’re ready to connect with new channels of communication.
Visualize all the lines coming together and connecting into the center circle.

 

Step Eleven:

Oftentimes, letting go of emotional shock requires a significant change in priorities. There may be certain systems, plans, ideas or habitual patterns that have become negative and are no longer relevant or constructive. Your understanding of things may get suddenly reversed. 

You can use this symbol for dissolving destructive blueprints to help you identify them and dissolve whatever is confusing you.

Actively imagine that destructive or negative patterns in your mind are like heavy clouds or a jumbled maze of confusion, fears and nightmares.

Once you have the image, bring the pure light of the Sun in and dissolve the maze completely.
You’ll know that you’re done when you can see yourself standing in a beautiful open field with clear blue skies all around.

Please note: It’s time to stop sending negative emotions to the Earth, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of happiness and life – not death!

 

Step Twelve:

Seal and heal any leaks or openings in your energy field. Leaky energy can leave you open to danger or allow harmful energies to attach to you. Open pathways that lead back to past suffering can also leave you feeling drained and exhausted.

As you gaze at Piranha’s Medicine Circle, imagine dangerous leaks, doors and pathways are closing as if they were never there.

All holes are healed and sealed. You are following the direction of your Soul’s protection.

 

Step Thirteen:

To complete your healing for emotional shock, take your time with this Soul Prayer Chart that helps you repair and refocus the auric field around you.
Bring your attention back to your body and the space that surrounds it.

Make an intention to repair all rips or tears in your aura and then strengthen it with your Soul Color for greater confidence and autonomy.

Continue until you feel protected in your body and safe in your own space.

 

Congratulations!

Now that you’re finished with the formula, consider taking a nice walk outside. Nothing grounds you like being in nature after an emotional shock.



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Rheanni Lightwater - Healing Emotional Shock
Rheanni Lightwater, Reiki Master Teacher

If you feel that Healing Emotional Shock has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel off track or overwhelmed.

Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].

Find out about Intuition Training for Personal Growth with us!


Disclaimer:
The use of these self-care formulas and mind exercises are not intended take the place of appropriate medical and/or psychiatric care. Soul Resources LLC and Rheanni Lightwater are not licensed to practice medicine. If you are having prolonged or increasing bouts of anxiety, depression or suicidal thoughts, seek immediate medical help. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

SOS – Overwhelm Help

If you’re feeling lost, out of balance or wanting overwhelm help – welcome! You are in the right place! 

 

SOS for PTSD and Self-care

SOS offers 24/7 support for your journey through challenging times…

What are the main reasons a person may need overwhelm help?

The first reason would be that there’s simply too much happening. Overwhelming events or information is coming at the person and their mind is not able to filter priorities properly.

Overwhelm Help #1 - Too much information

The second reason would be that the person has placed too much of their  attention and energy on a particular goal or solution that is unrealistic or cannot be accomplished under the current circumstances.

Overwhelm Help #2 - Unrealistic expectations

The third reason why a person could need overwhelm help would be that the way forward has become obscured. The circumstances are dark, dim, uncertain and hard to understand.

Overwhelm Help #3 - Future is unclear

The fourth reason could be that the environment has become too toxic or chaotic for a person to be able to cope in the way that they normally would.

Overwhelm Help #4 - Toxic, chaotic environment

All of these reasons have a negative effect on your physical health and can put extreme stress on your mental / emotional health as well.

Unfortunately, people are becoming more and more overwhelmed by sudden emotional or environmental changes, toxic environments and extreme weather events. These challenges can easily trigger PTSD episodes.

A person needing overwhelm help could experience:

  • Sudden and extreme exhaustion.
  • Fight or flight panic attacks.
  • Unexplained feelings of emergency; anxiety, depression and fear.
  • Increased irritation and frustration causing increased susceptibility to emotional outburst, illnesses, viruses or colds.

It’s not a good idea to remain in a fight or flight state for long. When a person is caught in a state of overwhelm, the stage is set for chronic depression, illness or paranoia to set in. If these symptoms are already present, the person may experience an overload or energy collapse.

The self-care formulas from SOS Soul Oriented Solutions have been put together to gently interrupt experiences of shock and overwhelm so that they can be replaced with a calmer sense of presence. What follows is more constructive thoughts and balanced energy flow.

Connecting with Hope

They are simple and easy to follow by design. When going through a formula, think of it as being gently led from a dark place into the light where you can connect with Hope. 

The Intuitive Learning Circles stimulate the central nervous system in order to assist it in its natural healing process of expelling trauma and the stuck energy that surrounds it. Using SOS as a daily practice is a powerful form of self-healing with affirmations where you can easily slow down, communicate with your unconscious and reorganize how you’re taking care of yourself.

SOS Overwhelm Help offers you support at any time
of the day or night ~

Fortunately, the five Self-care Formulas listed below are designed to help “reboot” your energy and put you back in balance when you’re feeling overwhelmed. Taking a few minutes to go through the appropriate formula will give a person immediate help for coping with emotional stress.

Introducing the SOS Symbol ~

SOS - Soul Oriented SolutionsSOS stands for Soul Oriented Solutions. The SOS symbol itself helps you tap into your Soul and get unconscious information about what is causing imbalance in you. 

The SOS symbol and formulas have been helping the public since Hurricane Katrina. Please SHARE with anyone you feel could benefit.

Directions:

Since the Intuitive Learning Circles are all about self-discovery and learning to use your intuition, it makes sense to use a simple and natural way to decide – using your intuition!

Below there’s a list of the Self-care Formulas numbered 1 – 5.
Take a moment and think about what’s going on for you and then gently gaze at the SOS symbol. Relax for a moment or two.
When you’re ready, let the SOS symbol help you access a simple “yes” or “no” answer to this question:

“Am I overwhelmed or experiencing an energy overload?

SOS - Soul Oriented Solutions
SOS Symbol

If “yes,” which formula will help me?  1, 2, 3, 4 or 5?”

Whatever number comes to mind, go to that formula and read what it’s about. If it fits, click on the link and follow the directions.

Each formula is designed to gently lead you back into balance using positive affirmations and images that will help you recover.

1. Healing Emotional Shock:

Overwhelm Help Healing Emotional Shock

This self-care formula uses the Intuitive Learning Circle method for getting your mind, body and emotions “unstuck” from a recent traumatic experience and you are:
~ Feeling stuck, numb, lost or helpless
~ Caught in a blank or fixed state of mind
~ Waking up at night worried, with obsessive thoughts
~ Alternately feeling trapped and shattered.

2. Resolving Shock During Traumatic Events:

Overwhelm Help - Resolving Shock from Traumatic Events

This self-care formula uses the Intuitive Learning Circles to resolve shock when your life has been upended and you are:
~ Feeling scattered, surprised, scared or vulnerable
~ Dealing with an environmental disaster or its aftermath
~ Reliving painful experiences
~ Having trouble thinking or planning clearly.

3. Recovering From a Traumatic Experience:

Overwhelm Help - SOS for Collapse

Use this PTSD self-care formula when you are:
~ Feeling lost, scattered or out of balance
~ Anxious or upset by an experience that’s overwhelmed you
~ Weakened and want to regain your strength
~ Disoriented due to a radical change
~ Triggered by body memories of a traumatic event
~ Having a flashback or out of body experience
~ Going through a major reorganization of consciousness.

4. Clearing an Overwhelmed Mind:

Overwhelm Help - Clearing an Overwhelmed Mind

Use this formula when you’re overwhelmed by day to day stresses and feeling:
~ Exhausted, overwhelmed or confused
~ Out of balance
~ Taking on too much – doing too much
~ Going too fast and need to slow down.

5. Self-care for Loss in Uncertain Times:

Self-care for Loss

You can use this formula like a prayer whenever you are:
~ Stressed over a lost job or income
~ Grieving a loss of any kind
~ Recovering from an abusive experience – past or present
~ Dealing with a serious or long-term illness
~ Preparing for surgery
~ Coming to terms with tragedy, loss or death.

SOS is a hopeful self-care practice you can give yourself anytime or share with others ~

 

SOS - Overwhelm Help

Helpful Tips

It’s important to take plenty of time with each question and continually breathe with full breaths. Shallow breathing inhibits the healing process and taking plenty of time counteracts the feeling of emergency.

In just a few minutes a person can get reconnected so that their energy feels balanced again. Cognitive function improves, negativity is dispelled and hope can return!

Whether you are living with someone who has PTSD or suffer from it yourself, these five formulas are powerful tools to keep handy.

For more information, visit our FAQ page. Or, you can Explore the Intuitive Learning Circles and go through a short Mind Exercise to Clearing Up Your Blind Spots.



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Rheanni Lightwater - Overwhelm Help
Rheanni Lightwater, Reiki Master Teacher

If you feel that Overwhelm Help hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel exposed, lost, or overwhelmed.

Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].

Find out about Intuition Training for Personal Growth with us!


Disclaimer:
Overwhelm Help is not intended take the place of appropriate medical and/or psychiatric care. Soul Resources LLC and Rheanni Lightwater are not licensed to practice medicine. If you are having prolonged or increasing bouts of anxiety, depression or suicidal thoughts, seek immediate medical help. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

Self-care for Loss In Uncertain Times

Soul Oriented Solutions: A Gentle Meditation about Emotional Stress and Self-care for Loss ~

Many people are experiencing deep levels of anxiousness, distress and fear around our current situation due to a variety of events. These feelings can come on suddenly and be very overwhelming. You might have lost a relative, a job or an important friendship. You could be facing a health challenge or even a loss in your purpose and sense of self.

Or, you may be standing on the sidelines, watching the world you love suffer while you feel at a loss for something helpful to do.

SOS - Self-care for Loss

In situations like these, it can take a while to regain your balance. What are some ways to provide self-care for loss and bring some level of emotional relief?

If you can find a way to tune into your deepest resources, you’ll discover that you’re never completely alone, even in your darkest hours.

Rheanni Lightwater CHT, CKP Self-care for Loss
Rheanni Lightwater, Reiki Master/Teacher

To help out, I’d like to share this self-care formula that uses positive affirmations and the Intuitive Learning Circles. You can use it day or night, whenever you are:

  • Asking for help in a difficult situation
  • Stressed over a lost job or income
  • Grieving a loss of any kind
  • Feeling pulled into a negative state of mind
  • Recovering from an abusive experience – past or present
  • Dealing with a serious or long-term illness
  • Preparing for an arduous challenge or surgery
  • Coming to terms with tragedy, loss or death.

Here’s an example of how the Circles can prepare you restore balance.

Simply gaze softly at the image while you contemplate the positive affirmations that go with it for for a minute or so. Relax and breathe:

“I bring my senses into balance.”

“I focus them so to help me be calmer, more present and aware of what’s important.”

“I use my senses to be more aware of where I am and what I’m doing.”

“I focus on thoughts and actions that are genuinely helpful and productive.”

 

Next, you can continue to prepare for Self-care for Loss by allowing this Reiki Chakra Key to open your heart center. It helps to place your right hand over the center of your chest while you gaze at the symbol.  Here’s a a couple of suggested affirmations:

“I understand and have compassion for the suffering of myself and others.”

“I have peace and balanced prosperity in my heart. I choose life.”

Strong emotions or insights may come up. The image may move, rotate, vibrate or change color. Don’t worry. That happens sometimes. It just means it’s working to help you feel better. Once the energy calms down a bit, you can move on to the remaining Circles with each of their affirmations to continue the process.

Your heartfelt intention is important and needs to be communicated. Use this Reiki Chakra Key to help you connect your prayers with your heart. Become aware of the Master Chakras located on each hand between the thumb and the index finger. Let them get open and balanced. Then, imagine you can connect them with your heart. These affirmations can help:

“My prayers are connecting with my heart center.”

“I ask to receive guidance, clarity and healing from my Inner Wisdom.”

Self-care for Loss

You might want to journal some of your thoughts so that you can talk about what comes up later with a trusted counselor or friend. If so, get out some paper and something to write with as you go through the steps.

 

To finish this first part, it takes energy to get better. You may have the feeling that your life force is being drained right out of you. You could be sending energy to the past or old habits that have been harmful to you. Relax and gaze softly at the Fly’s Circle from Grifts from the Rainforest. Let it help you deconstruct those old mindsets and close the drains that are exhausting you.

“I shut down all drains or holes that are causing me to lose energy.”

Now you’re ready to begin the main part of Self-care for Loss.


Mind Body Integration

Mind Body Integration - Self-care for lossFor best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of your body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.

Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience!


Self-care for Loss

Step One: Ask for Help

Breathe in deeply, all the way to your belly while you reflect on this Soul Prayer Chart for Divine Assistance.

If you could ask for something that would genuinely be helpful, what would it be? Place your request in the center, open space of the chart and imagine you can send your breath to it.

Divine Assistance - Self-care for Loss

Continue with your breathing until you feel a friendly and pleasant exchange of energy.

 

Step Two – Support

Imagine that you can bring relief and relaxation into all parts of your body, mind and spirit while you continue to breathe.

Miracles - Self-care for Loss

 

Step Three ~ Peace

What do you think is the main question, difficulty or burden you’re dealing with right now? Take a few moments and put it into your own words.
If there’s a blockage or resistance, are you ready to let go of whatever it is and find a solution?
If not, why not?

 

Step Four – Release

If you can, imagine that difficulty or burden is beginning to melt and soften up. You can release the tension around anything that’s bothering you right now. Your shoulders are dropped. Your jaw is relaxed.

Hardened thoughts are melting like ice under the light of the Sun.
Keep softening the tension until it’s all gone.


Remember to do that both crossed and uncrossed.

 

Step Five – From Self-care for Loss to Divine Blessings

Continue to relax and let your mind turn to helpful channels of generative life force that are available through the Element of Air.
Use this symbol to help you close old, stagnant, erratic and unstable channels of energy.

Divien Protection - Self-care for Loss

Next, you can open to a lighter flow of chi that gives protection and increases positive life force.
Finally, connect with new communication channels by imagining the lines all coming together and connecting into the central spoke.

Step Six – Soul Vision

Now it’s much easier to connect with the wisdom of your Soul. Under this new light you have access to expanded awareness and perception of what’s possible.
Consider what your life could be without this difficulty you’re concerned about. What would it be like if the burdens were lifted? Can you imagine it?

Sense the experience as much as you can in detail.
See it, hear it, taste it, smell it and feel it.

 

Step Seven – Remove Your Burdens

Visualize sending all those burdens to where ever they need to go to resolve themselves. Surrender them completely and feel the heaviness lifting up and off of you.

You have done the best that you can under the circumstances.

If you can, reclaim your faith and other important Soul Resources.

 

Step Eight – Inner Direction

Gently contemplate this symbol to help you gain insight and spiritual direction about appropriate things to do in this situation.

Imagine you can call upon Love and your Ancestors for support.
Is there something that Love would tell you to do?

Self-care for Loss

Ask to be instructed by Love as you continue along your journey.

 

Step Nine – Let Go

Breathe again and gaze on this Detachment Chart for a few minutes while it helps you let go of toxins or interfering energies that may be attached to you.
Feel a calmness coming over you.
Like a healing balm, imagine a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you.

 

Step Ten – Cleansing

Send away any illness or pain that’s associated with this situation.
Send it to the Light or wherever it needs to go to heal.

 

Step Ten – Repair

Continue to let it go and allow your energy to repair itself.
Relax with this Correction Chart until things smooth out and you can begin to sense the energy of your Soul coming through.

 

Step Twelve: Divine Connection

You have a Divine Connection to Joy and Gratitude in your Heart Center.
Make that connection and fill yourself with the strength and knowledge that you are loved.

You exist and what you do matters.

 

Step Thirteen – Closure

In your mind’s eye, close the doors to any pathways that keep the pain and suffering open. Take all the time you need to be sure they’re all closed.

You are connected through Love now and are following the path of your Soul. 

Let this healing be sealed with Love and Light.

 

Self-care for LossSome people have gotten a lot of extra support out of going through this self-care for loss formula every day for twenty-one days. It helps to retrain your mind to think more positively and keep you on track toward recovery.

 

 



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Rheanni Lightwater - Healing Emotional Shock
Rheanni Lightwater, Reiki Master Teacher

If you feel that Self-care for Loss has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel off track or overwhelmed.

Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through Reiki, Energy Medicine, Hypnotherapy and Feng Shui space clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].

Find out about Intuition Training for Personal Growth with us!


Disclaimer:
Self-care for Loss is not intended take the place of appropriate medical and/or psychiatric care. Soul Resources LLC and Rheanni Lightwater are not licensed to practice medicine. If you are having prolonged or increasing bouts of anxiety, depression or suicidal thoughts, seek immediate medical help. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

Self-care for Grief, illness and Loss

A Soul Oriented Solutions Formula: Self-care for Grief ~

Rheanni Lightwater - Self-care for Grief
Many people are experiencing deep levels of grief and mourning over events happening both near and far. Feelings of anxiousness, distress and even PTSD can come on suddenly and be very overwhelming. What are some things that can bring some relief and self-care for grief?

This brief exercise from RESOLVE uses affirmations and the Intuitive Learning Circles to quickly help you when you are:

  • Grieving
  • Recovering from abuse – past or present
  • Dealing with a serious or long-term illness
  • Preparing for surgery
  • Coming to terms with tragedy, loss or death.

Here’s an example of how the Circles can help you relax:

“I bring my senses into balance.”

“I focus them so that I can feel calmer and more aware of what’s important.”

“I use them to help me be more aware of where I am and what I’m doing.”

“I focus on thoughts and actions that are in my best interest.”

 

You may feel as though your energy is being drained right out of you. Relax and gaze softly at this Circle. Let it help you close the drains in your heart.


Mind Body Integration

Mind Body IntegrationFor best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.

Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience!


When you’re ready, you can begin self-care for grief by allowing this Soul Prayer Chart to help you reclaim your connection to Creator and Soul through your heart center. It can help to put both feet flat on the floor and place your hands on your heart with this symbol. Simply gaze softly at the image while you contemplate the positive affirmation that goes with it for for a minute or so. Relax and breathe. Here’s some suggestions:

“I reclaim my power and fill my heart with courage, faith and determination.”

Strong emotions or insights may come up. The image may move, rotate, vibrate or change color. Don’t worry. That happens sometimes. It just means they are working to help you feel better. Once the energy calms down a bit, you can move on to the remaining Circles with each of their affirmations to complete the process.

You might want to journal some of your thoughts so that you can speak with a trusted counselor or friend about what comes up. If so, get out some paper and something to write with as you go through the steps.


Step One: Asking for Help

Breathe in deeply, all the way to your belly while you look at this Circle and then exhale. Breathe in through your nose, if you can. Do that several times.

If you could ask for something that would help you feel better, what would that be?

 

Step Two – Support

Imagine that you can bring healing and release into all parts of your body, mind and spirit while you continue to breathe and gaze softly with this next symbol.

Miracles - Channels of Love

 

Step Three ~ Peace

What do you think is the main difficulty or burden you’re dealing with right now?
Are you ready to let go of that burden and find a solution? 
If not, why not? Be sure to respect your process.

 

 

Step Four – Release

Where are you holding tension?

You can release the tension around anything that’s bothering you right now. Your shoulders are dropped. Your jaw is relaxed. Rub them if you like. Keep melting the tension until it’s all gone.

 

Step Five – Soul Vision

Consider what your Soul would tell you about this situation. Connect with the Love that comes from within as much as you are able to. Allow your heart to open to it.

 

Step Six – Remove Your Burdens

Imagine that you can send all those burdens to where ever they need to go to resolve themselves. Imagine the heaviness lifting up and off of you.

You have done the best that you can under the circumstances.

 

Step Six – Rebalance

Breathe again.
Feel a calmness coming over you.
You feel calmer and calmer with every breath.

 

Step Seven – Cleansing

Send away any illness or pain that you’re experiencing. Send it to the Sun or wherever it needs to go to heal.

 

Step Eight – Faith

Fill yourself with strength and the knowledge that you are loved. 

 

 Let yourself rest now. You might feel tired or sad. That’s okay. It means that you’re feeling safe enough to really let go and rest.

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Some people have gotten extra support out of going through this self-care for grief exercise every day for twenty-one days. It helps to retrain your mind to think more positively and keep you on track toward your full recovery.


 

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How To Develop Healthy Boundaries

SOS Self-care Formula #6: Develop Healthy Boundaries

SOS - Develop Healthy BoundariesMany people, especially those who are highly sensitive or empathic, want to learn how to develop healthy boundaries because they are so open to thoughts and energies coming from other people. Sometimes those thoughts get attached in their minds and spin around, causing a great deal of discomfort.

If the pathways remain open, all kinds of trouble (karma, issues, illness or confusion) can pass back and forth between people without their awareness. If left unchecked, this type of attachment can manifest in negativity, sudden and mysterious illnesses, mental confusion, issues with prosperity or chronic states of overwhelm.

It’s a valuable skill to know how to shift your energy and Develop Healthy Boundaries.

Mind Exercise #8 from SOS for Compassion Fatigue uses affirmations and the Intuitive Learning Circles to help you learn to consciously close off the pathways to intruding or negative thoughts establish healthy protection and shift into a more positive mindset. Here’s an example of how it works. Simply  contemplate each step for clarity and better boundaries.

Use Develop Healthy Boundaries when you are:

  • Agitated or feeling out of sync
  • Distressed by recent news
  • Getting negative or anticipating hardship
  • Feeling claustrophobic
  • Unable to meditate or sit still
  • Obsessed with a particular person or situation.

Remember that the Circles will take you as light or deep as you want to go. As a result, it may take you 45 – 60 minutes or more to get through this version completely. If you need a simpler, change of perspective you can go to Clear Boundaries for A Busy Mind instead.

If you’re in the right place, here’s how it works: Find a quiet place if possible, where you won’t be disturbed. Follow the sequence of symbols while you read their accompanying instructions. Gaze gently at each Circle for about two minutes. A longer or shorter time may be necessary.

Mind Body Integration

Mind Body IntegrationFor best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.

Let yourself breathe and relax as much as possible. Don’t worry if the images move around or change in any way. That just means the Circles are working and that your mind and body are relaxing.

Be sure to rest as needed during the exercise and at the end, give yourself time to get away completely to integrate. In the long run, it’ll be worth it. Developing a quiet mind and light heart changes your perspective and makes it easier to follow through with your true priorities.

Developing a quiet mind and light heart changes your perspective and that makes it easier to follow through with your true priorities.

Step 1. Balance

Begin by consciously breathing in on the count of three and slowly exhaling on the count of five. It’s helpful if you can breathe in through your nose. Do that three or four times while you gaze softly at the Circle.
Continue breathing and bring your awareness to your tailbone.

What do you need to get in balance about?

 

Step 2: Decision

In order to develop healthy boundaries in this situation, there are decisions that you need to make that will benefit you. Be clear about what you actually want for yourself and how you’d like to respond. Use the Circle to help you synchronize the decision making parts of your mind.

Note: Negative or wishy-washy requests get negative, wishy-washy results. Overly idealistic, ambitious or unrealistic requests tend to create chaos and overwhelm.
Think it through and write down a positive declaration for yourself.

What results do you actually want to experience?

 

Step 3. Letting Go

Your decision might bring up conflicts or you may have experienced a recent shock that’s blocking your ability to move forward. Use this Circle to relax and melt away any hard thoughts, feelings or resistance that blocks your ability to take affirmative action.
The key is to relax into whatever you’re experiencing and breathe. You can imagine that the lines in the Circle are going limp and moving around like wet noodles.

What tension or worry do you need to let go of?

Let go of inner conflicts like holding onto self-doubt or lacking self-respect, etc.

 

Step 4. Protection

This symbol encourages you to develop healthy boundaries by providing an improved interface with your environment. We all need assistance in making the transition from the old paradigm of Water (Piscean Age) to the new paradigm of Air (Aquarian Age). Relax and close down all heavy or destructive energy channels that your mind or body may be open and vulnerable to.

Do you feel a sense of protection?

Continue to contemplate the symbol both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body until you feel protection all around.
Imagine the lines coming together in the center for improved communication.

 

Step 5. Natural Instincts

Continue to relax. Use this Circle to gather up your natural gifts, talents and instincts so you can organize them in a way that will help you reclaim and strengthen your boundaries.
Make sure you’re relaxed and you’ve got your feet on the ground to help you  get back in touch with the things that really matter. Activate your gut instincts, engage your Essence and the power that comes from your Soul.

What will help you connect with your instincts?

 

Step 6. Intention

Give yourself permission to slow down even more so you can effectively concentrate your energy on your new decision. Turn your awareness to what would really need to happen in order for you to follow through successfully. 

For example, you’ll want to know if you’re distracted, internalizing something or trying to take care of something that isn’t yours to be concerned with.

What is the necessary information I need from my unconscious mind?

Don’t worry. You don’t need to have it all figured out. The issue may be too confusing to make sense of it yet.
Just let the Circle help you percolate what’s involved with this boundary issue.

 

Step 7. Soul Color

You may be taking on an unknown algorithm or vibration without being aware of it. Using your own Soul Color and vibration will strengthen your autonomy, integrity and good health. To help you find it, remember a time when you successfully manifested something physical. What color comes to mind?

“I recognize my Soul’s unique color vibration.”
“I know who I am. I distinguish my energy from the energy of others.”

“All aspects of my Essence are willing to utilize my Soul Color for clarity and success.”

 

Step 8. Centering

Connect your new decision with the strength and integrity of your Soul. Bring in your Soul Color and conscious awareness to amplify this affirmation:

“I decide to connect with the truth of my Soul and take care of myself.”

When you’re ready, notice where you are in your room or environment.
What is to the left of you and what is to the right of you?

Make sure that you’re centered in your own body.
“I am inside of me. Everything else is outside.”

 

Step 9. Empowerment

Empower your ability to follow through with your decision.

“I exist and am empowered by the Source in my heart center.”
“I nourish myself through Joy and Gratitude.”
“I am empowered to take good care of myself and develop healthy boundaries.”
“I am empowered to maintain my confidence, courage and
Individual sense of self-respect, self worth, etc.”

Continue by making your own affirmations that apply to your decision:
“I am empowered to _____________.”

 

Step 10. Calm

Now it’s time to clear out all that excess or negative energy.
Keep breathing with your belly soft and relaxed. Let your shoulders drop. Continue using your Soul Color with this Chart to expel foreign energies from nervous system.

Slow down and clear away noise and static from the outside world.
Come back into the calm and rhythm of your Soul.

What thoughts will help you to relax? 

 

Step 11. Repair

If you’re having trouble, this Correction Key can help you correct any blockages, rough static, glitches or reversals that might be causing trouble in your energy field.
Relax with it for a few minutes until things smooth out.
Be sure to do that both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body until you feel the energy of your Soul beginning to come through.

Is there anything else you need to do to repair your energy field?

 

Step 12. Perception

It helps to see things the way they really are.
Gaze softly at this Circle and imagine you can adjust the feelings or thoughts that are turned up too high or too low, just like the volume on a radio.

“I decide to perceive this situation clearly and calmly.”

What are you seeing differently about this situation?

 

Step 13. Change

 In order to follow through with your new healthy boundaries, some things are going to have to change. Identify what needs to happen:

“Does something need to change?”
“What do I need to do differently to develop healthy boundaries?”
“What actions would help me?”

If you’re not clear yet, keep going with the exercise.
You may need a few more easy corrections before the truth emerges.

 

Step 14. Resolution

You probably need to change some agreements or do some things differently. To help you find out what they are, examine what causes anxiety or confusion for you when you consider these affirmations:

“I decide to stay centered and follow through on the highest good.”
“My health and happiness are important.”
“I easily deflect foreign energies and other people’s thoughts or expectations.”

There is always more than one way to approach a situation.
What new approach do you need to take? What agreements need to change?

 

Step 15. Detachment

There may be attachments or karmic entanglements blocking your solution.
Use this Detachment Key to let go of them. Relax and meditate on it for several minutes. Like a healing balm, imagine that a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you.

Are you willing to neutralize interfering energies and detach from them?
If not, are you willing to back up and change the agreement that binds you to them?

 

Step 16. Freedom

Allow this symbol for dissolving destructive blueprints to clear underlying patterns of confusion, codependence, anxiety, abuse or neglect out of your mind.
Let any remaining heaviness or karmic entanglements about this situation lift up and off of you.
Dark clouds are dissolving into blue skies and sunlight.

Please note:  It’s time to stop sending painful emotions and destructive energies into the Earth, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of happiness and life – not death!

 

Step 17. Closure

Use the Circle to help you close any harmful openings or pathways that would leave you open to the distractions and interference of the external world.
Close the doors and seal the leaks – as if they were never there.
You are calm and ready to follow through now. Your mind is able to rest.

How do you feel now? Are you heading in the right direction?
If not, imagine that your Soul is turning you to face the right direction.

 

Step 18. Clean Up

A necessary part of maintaining healthy boundaries to make sure that we don’t get sucked back into unhealthy dynamics again. Otherwise, we’ll just get entangled again!
Take the time now to deconstruct any harmful habits or leftover emotional dramas that have been draining your energy. Fill in any voids with loving gratitude.


Are you experiencing any more drains to your energy?

 

Step 17. Completion

Finally, allow this Circle to make sure you’ve let go of all harmful ties, cords or vows that you may have entered into that would cause you to unknowingly continue participating in neglect or abuse:

“I let go of all harmful vows or obligations
to be connected to dangerous energies or abusive situations.”

Do you feel as though you have a healthy sense of completion?

If so, congratulations! Give yourself time to rest and integrate.
Take a walk or enjoy some time out in Nature.


This Mind Exercise is Part of Spirit Animal Tracks for Self-healing

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Rheanni Lightwater, Reiki Master Teacher

If you feel that Develop Healthy Boundaries has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel off track or overwhelmed.

Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through Reiki, Energy Medicine, Hypnotherapy and Feng Shui space clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].

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Disclaimer:
How to Develop Healthy Boundaries 
should not be considered as an exclusive method of handling stress. Soul Resources LLC and Rheanni Lightwater are not licensed to practice medicine. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment for any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

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