Unearthing Emotional Conflict

A Transformation Game for Handling Emotional Conflict ~

Transformation Games help you to identify problems, navigate change and clarify what’s really important to you. Simply relax and gaze at the Intuitive Learning Circles™ while contemplating the accompanying positive affirmations that help you unearth emotional conflict using the I Ching and the Tarot.*

Relax and follow the directions… your intuition will come forward and give you the help that you seek!

Welcome to our Transformation Game about Hexagram #6 – Conflict

Transformation Game - Emotional Conflict
* Illustration by Norbert Losche’ – Cosmic Tarot

Sometimes the reason we’re experiencing emotional conflict is because we’re being dragged into unhealthy patterns from the past. These could be societal expectations, a family pattern or it could be an unhealthy, entangled relationship you have with your own self or another individual.

The I Ching says about CONFLICT:

“You may be facing a major disillusionment in your life as you begin to realize that what you believed to be a universal truth is only your subjective view of the situation. You will have to reconsider your premise more realistically. The need for an inner adjustment yielding a more harmonious outlook is indicated.” ~ Hexagram #6 CONFLICT, The I Ching Workbook, R. L Wing


To find out if that’s happening for you, gaze softly at the Intuitive Learning Circle™ and ask yourself:

“Am I tangled up with someone else’s belief or desire?”

“Is an entanglement or misunderstanding pulling me into the Old Paradigm of greed and inequality?”

“Is it dragging me into an unhealthy trajectory that isn’t my Soul’s path?”

If the answer you get is”no,” that’s great! Your Soul is in charge and you’re staying grounded in the New Paradigm of equality, personal responsibility and sustainable prosperity!

However, if the answer you get is “yes,” “maybe,” or “sometimes,” you may be losing your footing, or even worse, weakening your connection with your Soul. What can you do?

1. Get Yourself Into the Best Position To Clear Your Emotional Conflict.

You could be having trouble with your Third Chakra, located at the solar plexus (in the front where your ribs go up). Your Psyche or Essential Self resides most effectively in that location.

Take a minute or so to gaze softly at the Reiki Chakra Key for chakra healing so that your Essential Self can access its power effectively.

The existence of the Essential Self is discussed in many cultures and disciplines. Other names would be your Inner Child, the Authentic Self, the Golden Child or the Basic Self.
Regardless of what it’s called, you can think of it as your “I am,” or your true essence.”

2. Identify Mistaken Ideas That Can Cause Emotional Conflict.

Now that you’ve got your positioning right, let’s see if we can find out exactly what’s causing problems for you right now.  Gaze softly at the Circle below, and imagine you’re looking at yourself objectively. Ask yourself these questions:
“What is the biggest challenge I’m facing right now?
What am I telling myself about it? Is that the truth?

How am I seeing myself in this situation? Is this an accurate reflection of what’s really happening?
Am I buying into a mistaken idea that’s interfering with my truth or ability to succeed?”

If you are, use this Circle to help you burst the bubble around whatever falsehood you’re dealing with. Note – There may be quite a few!

3. Get Specifics About This Particular Emotional Conflict.

Ask yourself if your energy is actually tangled up with someone or a group of people around this issue. If so, can you tell who it is?


Are harmful or controlling thoughts being directed towards you? Are you giving yourself a hard time with your own thoughts or negative self-talk?

If so, what is the nature of those thoughts? If this was a book, what would it be called?

Are you ready to be done with this yet?


Is there an energy drain or harmful habit involved?


Is your ability to protect yourself or control your own space impaired?


Is this conflict affecting your health, safety or prosperity?

If so, can you tell in what way?

4. Make a Decision to Detach From Harmful Influences.

If the answers you get are distressing to you, it’s time for your Soul to reclaim your personal authority and detach from the conflict. Note – Once you’ve detached, the conflict may still be there, but you’ll be relating to it differently.

Relax and use this sequence of symbols and positive affirmations to help you detach…

“I decide to detach from past resentments and the conflicts they create – in the past, now and in the future.”


“I let go of the confusion around this conflict. I now choose thoughts that support my freedom and happiness.”


“I stop focusing on this conflict. I now turn my attention toward helpful and productive solutions.”


“I let go of the tyranny of this conflict and call on my Soul to pull me back into the Light.”


“I decide that my Soul is now in charge. I let go of mistaken ideas, flattery, coercion, shame, blame, guilt and punishment. I let go of the desire to take things personally or waste my energy on emotional conflicts.”

“I learn from past mistakes and they are forgiven.”



“I reclaim full connection with my Soul.”

“My Soul helps me detach from false, harmful influences and clears them away.”

“I follow the guidance and integrity of my Soul.”

5. Dissolve Destructive Mental and Emotional Patterns:

Imagine all those emotional conflicts and the ways you get caught up in them are like a huge storm cloud trying to surround and engulf you. This symbol for dissolving destructive blueprints will help your Soul clear the negative pattern. All you have to do is breathe and have the following intention as you gaze softly at the image:

“I dissolve all the patterns of this emotional conflict and any ways that I attach to them.”

“I dissolve shame, blame, falsehood, entrapment, gullibility, guilt and ____________.”

Simply see the cloud dissolving or send it to the Light until you can see yourself standing in the middle of your own personal garden, filled with beauty and brightly colored flowers.

6. Reclaim Balance:

“I bring myself back into balance. Both feet are firmly on the ground.”


Clear away any remaining distractions or false information.


7. Make a Course Correction:

Imagine that your Soul is opening your Heart center and connecting with it. Feel the light within you getting stronger and allow your Soul to make the necessary changes. This is your garden. Your way. The way that your heart is guided to create – free of this emotional conflict.


8. Say Good-bye to Old Pathways of Conflicts.

Before you go – close the doors to all that suffering so you don’t keep recycling finished business! Use these positive affirmations to help you:

“I seal and heal all pathways that lead back to conflicts, punishments and suffering.”

“I follow the direction of healthy protection.”


9. Reclaim Your Soul’s Resources.

Next, take a deep breath and relax your body. Allow your Soul to download its resources – its wisdom and awareness for creating your highest good:

“I am filled with the wisdom of my spirit.”

Take note of where you feel this new awareness moving through your body. Allow yourself to enjoy it.


Now is a good time to get out into nature. Go for a walk or do something you enjoy. The time you take for yourself now will help you move beyond emotional conflict and into fully embodied action.

Rheanni Lightwater - Rheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT lives and practices in Santa Fe, NM. She specializes in mind body healing with family, environment and relationship clearing using Kinesiology, the Intuitive Learning Circles™, Reiki as a Master/Teacher, Hypnotherapy and Shamanic Clearing Techniques.

Schedule with Rheanni via Zoom, FaceTime or in person when you visit Santa Fe, New Mexico. Call her at (505) 271-4612 between 10:00am – 5:00pm, MST, Monday through Friday to schedule.

This Transformation Game should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment for any ailment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment if there is any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.