Clear Boundaries
Setting Clear Boundaries for a Busy Mind
What can you do to help yourself when you’re unable to focus on important tasks that really need to get done? Is your line of thinking clear? Has someone or something gotten under your skin and you can’t seem to let go? Clear boundaries may be the answer.
Without strong boundaries, thoughts and emotions can pass back and forth between people without their awareness. When left unchecked, this type of attachment can go underground and contribute to sudden and mysterious illnesses, mental confusion, issues with prosperity or chronic states of overwhelm.
It’s a valuable skill to know how to close the doors or energy pathways at will. This Mind Exercise can help you learn how to consciously set clear boundaries and close off those pathways.
This visual meditation from our SOS Resolve Ebook provides a quick framework for recovering mental balance and refocusing attention. Going through a quick “game” calms the emotional centers of your brain and opens up new neural pathways for self-awareness and clear boundaries, which significantly reduces stress and increases clarity.
Use this Mind Exercise when you are:
~ Feeling scattered or out of sync
~ Easily triggered and need better boundaries
~ Experiencing distress or separation anxiety
~ Worried, agitated or anticipating hardship
~ Feeling pressured or compulsive
~ Unable to meditate or sit still
~ Obsessed with a particular person or situation.
Directions: Confirm this is the best exercise for you with the RESOLVE symbol.
Find a quiet place if possible, where you won’t be disturbed for about twenty minutes. Follow the sequence of symbols while you read their accompanying instructions. Gaze gently at each Circle for about two minutes. A longer or shorter time may be necessary. Let yourself breathe and relax as much as possible.
Don’t worry if the images move around or change in any way. That just means the Circles are working and that your mind and body are relaxing.
Mind Body Integration
The brain and body communicate through different channels when a part of you is crossed over the center of your body. Therefore, you will want to look at each Circle both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body.
If you feel resistant or stuck, cross or uncross a hand or foot over the midline of your body and go back to the Circle, breathing patiently. See if your thinking starts to move again. Let negative self-talk go by breathing through it Just breathe deeply and relax.
After you’ve finished going through the entire exercise, give yourself some time to let it integrate. A quiet mind and light heart will change your perspective and make it easier to accomplish your goals.
Step 1. Balance
Begin by consciously breathing in on the count of three and slowly exhaling on the count of five. Do that three or four times while you gaze softly at the Circle. It’s helpful if you can breathe in through your nose.
Continue breathing and bring your awareness to your tailbone.
Step 2. Calm
Keep breathing with your belly soft and relaxed.
Let your shoulders drop.
Gaze softly at this Circle and imagine you can turn down the feelings or thoughts that are turned up too high, just like the volume on a radio.
Step 3. Centering
See if you can gather your awareness and connect it – like all the lines that come together into the center of this symbol.
Imagine you can close up unhealthy energy channels between you and any interference that’s coming from the outside.
Stay with it until you feel more centered with beneficial energy flowing through you.
Step 4. Protection
Now you’re ready to close all holes or harmful pathways that have been left wide open, like too many tabs that have been left open on your computer. It’s time to set this right.
“I close the pathways that lead to distractions, disturbances and interference.”
“All holes are sealed and healed.”
“I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”
Step 5. Beauty
Once the pathways are closed, you can shift your attention away from the negative and turn towards more positive input. Breathe in again and exhale slowly.
Let this Chart help you call the most majestic scenes into your mind that you can imagine.
Notice how your body responds and relaxes into the experience.
Step 6. Expansion
Turn your attention to your breathing again and how calming it is.
You can sense the steady rhythm of your heart.
The gentle expansion and contraction of your lungs.
Breathing in and letting go. The space around you is relaxing too.
Step 7. Letting Go
There may be some especially sticky energies that don’t seem to want to let go. Let this Key help you neutralize interfering energies and detach from them.
Like a healing balm, imagine that a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you.
Step 8. Intention
Now you’re ready to gently turn your mind to what’s in your best interests. What are your true priorities?
Slow down and take your time.
Step 9. Decision
Your well-being is important. Are there any new decisions would you like to make about it?
Here’s a few suggestions:
“I decide to be loyal to myself.”
“It’s okay to have strong and clear boundaries.”
“It’s genuinely joyful to have a quiet mind and a light heart.”
Step 10. Resolution
Make a commitment to stay centered and true to yourself.
“I keep my own energy contained for my own protection.”
“I easily eject and deflect harmful thoughts, interference or expectations.”
“I resolve to create and maintain clear boundaries.”
Step 11.. Nourishment
This is a good opportunity to see if there’s any helpful nutrition that would support you. Let Plant Medicine help you tune into natural healing energy.
Are there any vegetables, fruits, herbs, teas or other healing foods that come to mind? Anything else?
Step 12: Grounding and Coherence
Electric Eel will help your energy get organized and grounded. Put both your feet on the floor, place your palms on the inside of your knees and keep breathing until you feel planted.
Then, visualize a wheel spinning out any discordant energy that’s still hanging on and causing problems. When you can release excess energy, it’s much easier to think more clearly and feel like yourself again.
Step 13. Compassion
Imagine with each relaxing new breath that you can fill your heart with renewed understanding and compassion – that includes caring for yourself with clear boundaries.
Your energy is rising up into a lighter space.
Step 14. Completion
Finish by closing any remaining openings to the noise and distractions of the external world.
“All holes are sealed and healed.”
“I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”
What does your Soul advise you to do now?
Congratulations! Now that you’ve finished, give yourself some time to let it integrate. A quiet mind and light heart changes your perspective and makes it easier to accomplish your goals.
This Mind Exercise is Part of Spirit Animal Tracks for Self-healing
About the Author
If you feel that you need additional help, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel concerned about maintaining clear boundaries and other learning difficulties.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through Reiki energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing.
Schedule with Rheanni via Zoom or in person when you visit Santa Fe, New Mexico. Call or text (505) 271-4612 between 10:00am – 5:00pm, MST, Monday through Friday to schedule or email: [email protected]
Disclaimer:
Clear Boundaries for a Busy Mind should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
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SOS – Overwhelm Help
If you’re feeling lost, out of balance or wanting overwhelm help – welcome! You are in the right place!
SOS offers 24/7 support for your journey through challenging times…
What are the main reasons a person may need overwhelm help?
The first reason would be that there’s simply too much happening. Overwhelming events or information is coming at the person and their mind is not able to filter priorities properly.
The second reason would be that the person has placed too much of their attention and energy on a particular goal or solution that is unrealistic or cannot be accomplished under the current circumstances.
The third reason why a person could need overwhelm help would be that the way forward has become obscured. The circumstances are dark, dim, uncertain and hard to understand.
The fourth reason could be that the environment has become too toxic or chaotic for a person to be able to cope in the way that they normally would.
All of these reasons have a negative effect on your physical health and can put extreme stress on your mental / emotional health as well.
Unfortunately, people are becoming more and more overwhelmed by sudden emotional or environmental changes, toxic environments and extreme weather events. These challenges can easily trigger PTSD episodes.
A person needing overwhelm help could experience:
- Sudden and extreme exhaustion.
- Fight or flight panic attacks.
- Unexplained feelings of emergency; anxiety, depression and fear.
- Increased irritation and frustration causing increased susceptibility to emotional outburst, illnesses, viruses or colds.
It’s not a good idea to remain in a fight or flight state for long. When a person is caught in a state of overwhelm, the stage is set for chronic depression, illness or paranoia to set in. If these symptoms are already present, the person may experience an overload or energy collapse.
The self-care formulas from SOS Soul Oriented Solutions have been put together to gently interrupt experiences of shock and overwhelm so that they can be replaced with a calmer sense of presence. What follows is more constructive thoughts and balanced energy flow.
They are simple and easy to follow by design. When going through a formula, think of it as being gently led from a dark place into the light where you can connect with Hope.
The Intuitive Learning Circles stimulate the central nervous system in order to assist it in its natural healing process of expelling trauma and the stuck energy that surrounds it. Using SOS as a daily practice is a powerful form of self-healing with affirmations where you can easily slow down, communicate with your unconscious and reorganize how you’re taking care of yourself.
SOS Overwhelm Help offers you support at any time
of the day or night ~
Fortunately, the five Self-care Formulas listed below are designed to help “reboot” your energy and put you back in balance when you’re feeling overwhelmed. Taking a few minutes to go through the appropriate formula will give a person immediate help for coping with emotional stress.
Introducing the SOS Symbol ~
SOS stands for Soul Oriented Solutions. The SOS symbol itself helps you tap into your Soul and get unconscious information about what is causing imbalance in you.
The SOS symbol and formulas have been helping the public since Hurricane Katrina. Please SHARE with anyone you feel could benefit.
Directions:
Since the Intuitive Learning Circles are all about self-discovery and learning to use your intuition, it makes sense to use a simple and natural way to decide – using your intuition!
Below there’s a list of the Self-care Formulas numbered 1 – 5.
Take a moment and think about what’s going on for you and then gently gaze at the SOS symbol. Relax for a moment or two.
When you’re ready, let the SOS symbol help you access a simple “yes” or “no” answer to this question:
“Am I overwhelmed or experiencing an energy overload?
If “yes,” which formula will help me? 1, 2, 3, 4 or 5?”
Whatever number comes to mind, go to that formula and read what it’s about. If it fits, click on the link and follow the directions.
Each formula is designed to gently lead you back into balance using positive affirmations and images that will help you recover.
1. Healing Emotional Shock:
This self-care formula uses the Intuitive Learning Circle method for getting your mind, body and emotions “unstuck” from a recent traumatic experience and you are:
~ Feeling stuck, numb, lost or helpless
~ Caught in a blank or fixed state of mind
~ Waking up at night worried, with obsessive thoughts
~ Alternately feeling trapped and shattered.
2. Resolving Shock During Traumatic Events:
This self-care formula uses the Intuitive Learning Circles to resolve shock when your life has been upended and you are:
~ Feeling scattered, surprised, scared or vulnerable
~ Dealing with an environmental disaster or its aftermath
~ Reliving painful experiences
~ Having trouble thinking or planning clearly.
3. Recovering From a Traumatic Experience:
Use this PTSD self-care formula when you are:
~ Feeling lost, scattered or out of balance
~ Anxious or upset by an experience that’s overwhelmed you
~ Weakened and want to regain your strength
~ Disoriented due to a radical change
~ Triggered by body memories of a traumatic event
~ Having a flashback or out of body experience
~ Going through a major reorganization of consciousness.
4. Clearing an Overwhelmed Mind:
Use this formula when you’re overwhelmed by day to day stresses and feeling:
~ Exhausted, overwhelmed or confused
~ Out of balance
~ Taking on too much – doing too much
~ Going too fast and need to slow down.
5. Self-care for Loss in Uncertain Times:
You can use this formula like a prayer whenever you are:
~ Stressed over a lost job or income
~ Grieving a loss of any kind
~ Recovering from an abusive experience – past or present
~ Dealing with a serious or long-term illness
~ Preparing for surgery
~ Coming to terms with tragedy, loss or death.
SOS is a hopeful self-care practice you can give yourself anytime or share with others ~
Helpful Tips
It’s important to take plenty of time with each question and continually breathe with full breaths. Shallow breathing inhibits the healing process and taking plenty of time counteracts the feeling of emergency.
In just a few minutes a person can get reconnected so that their energy feels balanced again. Cognitive function improves, negativity is dispelled and hope can return!
Whether you are living with someone who has PTSD or suffer from it yourself, these five formulas are powerful tools to keep handy.
For more information, visit our FAQ page. Or, you can Explore the Intuitive Learning Circles and go through a short Mind Exercise to Clearing Up Your Blind Spots.
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Disclaimer:
Overwhelm Help is not intended take the place of appropriate medical and/or psychiatric care. Soul Resources LLC and Rheanni Lightwater are not licensed to practice medicine. If you are having prolonged or increasing bouts of anxiety, depression or suicidal thoughts, seek immediate medical help. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
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Self-care for Loss In Uncertain Times
Soul Oriented Solutions: A Gentle Meditation about Emotional Stress and Self-care for Loss ~
Many people are experiencing deep levels of anxiousness, distress and fear around our current situation due to a variety of events. These feelings can come on suddenly and be very overwhelming. You might have lost a relative, a job or an important friendship. You could be facing a health challenge or even a loss in your purpose and sense of self.
Or, you may be standing on the sidelines, watching the world you love suffer while you feel at a loss for something helpful to do.
In situations like these, it can take a while to regain your balance. What are some ways to provide self-care for loss and bring some level of emotional relief?
If you can find a way to tune into your deepest resources, you’ll discover that you’re never completely alone, even in your darkest hours.
To help out, I’d like to share this self-care formula that uses positive affirmations and the Intuitive Learning Circles. You can use it day or night, whenever you are:
- Asking for help in a difficult situation
- Stressed over a lost job or income
- Grieving a loss of any kind
- Feeling pulled into a negative state of mind
- Recovering from an abusive experience – past or present
- Dealing with a serious or long-term illness
- Preparing for an arduous challenge or surgery
- Coming to terms with tragedy, loss or death.
Here’s an example of how the Circles can prepare you restore balance.
Simply gaze softly at the image while you contemplate the positive affirmations that go with it for for a minute or so. Relax and breathe:
“I bring my senses into balance.”
“I focus them so to help me be calmer, more present and aware of what’s important.”
“I use my senses to be more aware of where I am and what I’m doing.”
“I focus on thoughts and actions that are genuinely helpful and productive.”
Next, you can continue to prepare for Self-care for Loss by allowing this Reiki Chakra Key to open your heart center. It helps to place your right hand over the center of your chest while you gaze at the symbol. Here’s a a couple of suggested affirmations:
“I understand and have compassion for the suffering of myself and others.”
“I have peace and balanced prosperity in my heart. I choose life.”
Strong emotions or insights may come up. The image may move, rotate, vibrate or change color. Don’t worry. That happens sometimes. It just means it’s working to help you feel better. Once the energy calms down a bit, you can move on to the remaining Circles with each of their affirmations to continue the process.
Your heartfelt intention is important and needs to be communicated. Use this Reiki Chakra Key to help you connect your prayers with your heart. Become aware of the Master Chakras located on each hand between the thumb and the index finger. Let them get open and balanced. Then, imagine you can connect them with your heart. These affirmations can help:
“My prayers are connecting with my heart center.”
“I ask to receive guidance, clarity and healing from my Inner Wisdom.”
You might want to journal some of your thoughts so that you can talk about what comes up later with a trusted counselor or friend. If so, get out some paper and something to write with as you go through the steps.
To finish this first part, it takes energy to get better. You may have the feeling that your life force is being drained right out of you. You could be sending energy to the past or old habits that have been harmful to you. Relax and gaze softly at the Fly’s Circle from Grifts from the Rainforest. Let it help you deconstruct those old mindsets and close the drains that are exhausting you.
“I shut down all drains or holes that are causing me to lose energy.”
Now you’re ready to begin the main part of Self-care for Loss.
Mind Body Integration
For best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of your body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.
Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience!
Self-care for Loss
Step One: Ask for Help
Breathe in deeply, all the way to your belly while you reflect on this Soul Prayer Chart for Divine Assistance.
If you could ask for something that would genuinely be helpful, what would it be? Place your request in the center, open space of the chart and imagine you can send your breath to it.
Continue with your breathing until you feel a friendly and pleasant exchange of energy.
Step Two – Support
Imagine that you can bring relief and relaxation into all parts of your body, mind and spirit while you continue to breathe.
Step Three ~ Peace
What do you think is the main question, difficulty or burden you’re dealing with right now? Take a few moments and put it into your own words.
If there’s a blockage or resistance, are you ready to let go of whatever it is and find a solution? If not, why not?
Step Four – Release
If you can, imagine that difficulty or burden is beginning to melt and soften up. You can release the tension around anything that’s bothering you right now. Your shoulders are dropped. Your jaw is relaxed.
Hardened thoughts are melting like ice under the light of the Sun.
Keep softening the tension until it’s all gone.
Remember to do that both crossed and uncrossed.
Step Five – From Self-care for Loss to Divine Blessings
Continue to relax and let your mind turn to helpful channels of generative life force that are available through the Element of Air.
Use this symbol to help you close old, stagnant, erratic and unstable channels of energy.
Next, you can open to a lighter flow of chi that gives protection and increases positive life force.
Finally, connect with new communication channels by imagining the lines all coming together and connecting into the central spoke.
Step Six – Soul Vision
Now it’s much easier to connect with the wisdom of your Soul. Under this new light you have access to expanded awareness and perception of what’s possible.
Consider what your life could be without this difficulty you’re concerned about. What would it be like if the burdens were lifted? Can you imagine it?
Sense the experience as much as you can in detail.
See it, hear it, taste it, smell it and feel it.
Step Seven – Remove Your Burdens
Visualize sending all those burdens to where ever they need to go to resolve themselves. Surrender them completely and feel the heaviness lifting up and off of you.
You have done the best that you can under the circumstances.
If you can, reclaim your faith and other important Soul Resources.
Step Eight – Inner Direction
Gently contemplate this symbol to help you gain insight and spiritual direction about appropriate things to do in this situation.
Imagine you can call upon Love and your Ancestors for support.
Is there something that Love would tell you to do?
Ask to be instructed by Love as you continue along your journey.
Step Nine – Let Go
Breathe again and gaze on this Detachment Chart for a few minutes while it helps you let go of toxins or interfering energies that may be attached to you.
Feel a calmness coming over you.
Like a healing balm, imagine a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you.
Step Ten – Cleansing
Send away any illness or pain that’s associated with this situation.
Send it to the Light or wherever it needs to go to heal.
Step Ten – Repair
Continue to let it go and allow your energy to repair itself.
Relax with this Correction Chart until things smooth out and you can begin to sense the energy of your Soul coming through.
Step Twelve: Divine Connection
You have a Divine Connection to Joy and Gratitude in your Heart Center.
Make that connection and fill yourself with the strength and knowledge that you are loved.
You exist and what you do matters.
Step Thirteen – Closure
In your mind’s eye, close the doors to any pathways that keep the pain and suffering open. Take all the time you need to be sure they’re all closed.
You are connected through Love now and are following the path of your Soul.
Let this healing be sealed with Love and Light.
Some people have gotten a lot of extra support out of going through this self-care for loss formula every day for twenty-one days. It helps to retrain your mind to think more positively and keep you on track toward recovery.
Specialized Energy Clearing with the Author of Soul Oriented Solutions
If you feel that Self-care for Loss has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel off track or overwhelmed.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through Reiki, Energy Medicine, Hypnotherapy and Feng Shui space clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].
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Disclaimer:
Self-care for Loss is not intended take the place of appropriate medical and/or psychiatric care. Soul Resources LLC and Rheanni Lightwater are not licensed to practice medicine. If you are having prolonged or increasing bouts of anxiety, depression or suicidal thoughts, seek immediate medical help. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
