Find Emotional Balance

How You Can Find Emotional Balance and Move On With Your Life.

Find Emotional BalanceUnhealthy emotions are like toxic sludge and few things are more destructive to a person’s wellbeing than those that come out of unresolved pain from early childhood. Is it possible to get “unstuck” and find emotional balance as an adult?

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Dealing with the underlying emotional pain.

Take a very common example in the young child of a couple going through marital problems. This could very easily happen to either a boy or a girl, but we’ll use a young boy in this case.
Let’s say that Jessie walks in on an argument that’s going on between his parents. Immediately, he knows that something’s wrong, but when he asks, he’s told not to bother them and go upstairs.

Since he doesn’t know what it’s all about, his imagination comes in to fill in the blanks. The confusion is further compounded when Jessie’s parents withhold from him by not letting him in on what’s really happening. Perhaps they think that he’s too young to understand, or that it doesn’t matter. They say to themselves, “He’ll forget all about it in a few days.”

What they’re ignoring is that children are nearly always aware that something is wrong and when it’s not explained in terms they can understand, they will find their own explanation. Unfortunately, that explanation may be much worse than what is actually happening.

This is how projections are formed out of misguided love.

Are you living under projections from your childhood? You can release them.

If left in the dark, Jessie could start internalizing the experience and decide that he’s unworthy of his parent’s love and somehow to blame. Or he may decide that something nefarious is going on. If he does that, he’s likely to act out by misbehaving or putting up a false show of toughness. When Jessie’s parents see his behavior, they could get confused themselves. They might feel either guilty, angry or both – which causes him to feel more and more insecure and the “stuck” emotional pattern is firmly established.

Of course, these kinds of patterns can get imprinted or reinforced in numerous ways later on in life.

The following mind exercise is for when a stuffed or stuck emotional pattern has re-emerged and you’re ready to do something about it. It’s also is good to use when you:

  • Have chronic tension that just doesn’t want to let go
  • Are feeling distressed or conflicted about what steps to take 
  • Ready to gently bring up emotional conflicts so they can be be resolved
  • Want to let go of emotional programming from early childhood
  • Are frustrated or angry with events that are out of your control
  • Are letting other people’s feelings or beliefs interfere with your objectives.

It helps to remember that you are not your emotions. You are bigger than they are and you don’t have to let them run you! Being afraid of emotions is a choice that you can change at any moment by making a new decision about them. For example, you could decide that the emotions you’re feeling now are just energy patterns and not solid things.

Enlist the Power of Relaxation

Did you know that it’s possible to gain some emotional balance by simply relaxing? Very often, when you can relax your energy and change your intention, the “stuck” energy pattern begins to shift and let go!

You can use these affirmations and the Circle to help you:

“I decide that emotions are energy patterns that I can change.”

“I am in charge of how I experience these emotions, not the other way around!”

“I decide that letting go and relaxing are okay – even helpful things to do.”

Of course there’s more to it than just that, and yet, every stage of our personal growth has to start with an intention to want something better. Hopefully, going through this mind exercise will help you get started on your way…

Welcome to Finding Emotional Balance ~

Rheanni Lightwater - Retrain Your MindSimply follow the directions.  All you have to do is relax and gaze softly at the Circles while you gently contemplate the affirmations or questions that go with them. You may want to take notes so that you can share what you’ve experienced with a counselor or friend.


Mind Body IntegrationFor best results, look at each Circle both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that each correction is more complete.

Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience!

Step One: Whenever you want to find emotional balance, breathing always helps. Start by gazing softly at the Circle and breathe in on the count of three. One…two…three.
Exhale to the count of six. One…two…three…four…five…six.
Do this as many times as you like. Breathing in and letting go.

“I relax and let the tension go.”

Notice where you feel the tension in your body. Imagine that the “stuck” tension or emotions you’re dealing with are like an iceberg. Visualize it melting, moving and letting go. Feel your energy relax! Move around or stretch if you want to. Continue until you feel a palpable release of tension.


Step Two: Can you relax even more with this symbol?

“I allow my energy to resonate with the breath of life.”

Emotional Calm

Breathe deeply and imagine that the space around you is actually relaxing and softening.


Step Three. Keep breathing with your belly soft and relaxed. Let your shoulders drop. Gaze softly at the Circle and imagine you can turn down any feelings or thoughts that are turned up too high, just like the volume on a radio dial.

“I am aware of things as they are in the present.”


Step Four: Now you’re in a better position to see if you have any stuffed emotions. Visualize them melting and letting go again with this Circle :

What is the message that I’m getting from this emotional pain?

Use the affirmation below to help you bring emotional balance to the situation: 

“I release my need to ignore or escape from emotional pain.

I now acknowledge its message and let it go, so I can move forward freely.

I safely release any emotional baggage I’m carrying.”

The Essential Human

Are there any other aspects of your Essential Self that are especially buying into this pattern?

Choose from numbers between 1 and 42 in The Essential Human and clear the stuck energy around each of them, one at a time. Repeat the process until no more numbers come to you.



Step Five: Now it’s time to see if you’re holding to any other peoples energy or expectations left over from the experience.

Use this Chart to help you strengthen your own Soul color and vibration. To help you find it, remember a time when you successfully manifested something physical. What color comes to mind?

“I recognize my Souls unique color vibration.”

Your own Soul color and vibration will strengthen your autonomy, integrity and emotional balance.

“I know who I am. I distinguish my energy from the energy of others.”




Step Six: Like a healing balm, imagine that a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you – helping you to let go of all attachments.

“My energy field easily and effectively detaches from any physical or emotional toxins.”


Step Seven: Take a moment and relax with this beneficial medicine before you move on.

“I have protection from harmful energy channels.”

“My mind is open and clear to receive generative life force.”


Step Eight: Is there anything else that’s bothering you? Try to put it into words if you can.

Note: If you’re feeling sad or have tears, that means you’re actually letting go.


Step Nine: When you feel ready, you can stabilize the energy in your First Chakra, which is also known as the Root Chakra.


Use this Reiki Star Key for your Root Chakra to help you detach from harmful energies that keep pulling you back to that old, painful experience.

“I uproot the connection to this painful experience.”


Step Ten: If your energy is feeling jagged or disconnected, apply this medicine. Relax with it for a few minutes until things smooth out.


Step Eleven: Are you feeling empowered? If not, regain some strength and connection with this Chart:

“I am empowered and connected to life affirming energies from my Soul.”


Step Twelve: As you gaze gently at this Circle, let your unconscious mind gather up all the pertinent information, so that over time, you can make the appropriate adjustments.

Ask yourself three questions:

  1. Am I heading in the proper direction to find emotional balance?
  2. Am I positioned correctly to receive help?
  3. What spiritual guidance do I get in regards to this situation?


Step Thirteen: Be sure to dissolve any destructive blueprints that you’re ready to let go of. Imagine those old mental/emotional patterns are like clouds disappearing into Sunlight.

“I relax and let them go.”

Please note: Never send destructive energies into the Earth, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of happiness and life – not death!


Step Fourteen: Once you feel clear, be sure to close the door on those old emotional channels of pain.

“All holes are sealed and healed.
I follow the direction of healthy protection.”


Congratulations! You’ve successfully interrupted a pattern that has probably been interfering with your emotional balance for some time! Be sure to take a few minutes for yourself now. Stand up. Move around. Take a walk in nature if you can. Being out in nature is the best!

As time passes, you will find that many opportunities for moving on will begin to make their way to you.

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Rheanni Lightwater - Emotional Balance
Rheanni Lightwater, Reiki Master Teacher

If you feel that Find Emotional Balance has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel off track or overwhelmed.

Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email:

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The Intuitive Learning Circle method should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment for any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.