How You Can Find Emotional Balance and Move On With Your Life.
Unhealthy emotions are like toxic sludge and few things are more destructive to a person’s wellbeing than those that come out of unresolved pain from early childhood.
Is it possible to get “unstuck” and find emotional balance as an adult?
Dealing with the underlying emotional pain.
Take a very common example in the young child of a couple going through marital problems. This could very easily happen to either a boy or a girl, but we’ll use a young boy in this case.
Let’s say that Jessie walks in on an argument that’s going on between his parents. Immediately, he knows that something’s wrong, but when he asks, he’s told not to bother them and go to his room.
Since he doesn’t know what it’s all about, his imagination comes in to fill in the blanks. The confusion is further compounded when Jessie’s parents withhold from him by not letting him in on what’s really happening. Perhaps they think that he’s too young to understand, or that it doesn’t matter. They say to themselves, “He’ll forget all about it in a few days.”
What they’re ignoring is that children are nearly always aware that something is wrong and when it’s not explained in terms they can understand, they will find their own explanation. Unfortunately, that explanation may be much worse than what is actually happening.
This is how projections are formed out of misguided love.
If left in the dark, Jessie could start internalizing the experience and decide that he’s unworthy of his parent’s love and somehow to blame. Or he may decide that something nefarious is going on and start projecting his fears. If he does that, he’s likely to act out by blaming others, misbehaving or putting up a false show of toughness. When Jessie’s parents see his behavior, they could get confused themselves. They might feel either guilty, angry or both – which causes him to feel more and more insecure and the “stuck” emotional pattern is firmly established.
Of course, these kinds of patterns can get imprinted or reinforced in numerous ways later on in life.
The following mind exercise is for when a stuffed or stuck emotional pattern has re-emerged and you’re ready to do something about it. It’s also good to use when you:
- Have chronic tension that just doesn’t want to let go
- Are feeling distressed or conflicted about what steps to take
- Ready to gently bring up emotional conflicts so they can be be resolved
- Want to let go of emotional programming from early childhood
- Are frustrated or angry with events that are out of your control
- Are letting other people’s feelings or beliefs interfere with your objectives.
It helps to remember that you are not your emotions. You are bigger than they are and you don’t have to let them run you! Being afraid of emotions is a choice that you can change at any moment by making a new decision about them. For example, you could decide that the emotions you’re feeling now are just energy patterns and not solid things.
Enlist the Power of Relaxation
Did you know that it’s possible to gain some emotional balance by simply relaxing? Very often, when you can relax your energy and change your intention, the “stuck” energy pattern begins to shift and let go!
“I decide that emotions are energy patterns that I can change.”
“I am in charge of how I experience these emotions, not the other way around!”
“I decide that letting go and relaxing are okay – even helpful things to do.”
Of course there’s more to it than just that, and yet, every stage of our personal growth has to start with an intention to want something better. Hopefully, going through this mind exercise will help you get started on your way…
Welcome to Finding Emotional Balance ~
Simply follow the steps below. All you have to do is relax and gaze softly at the Circles while you gently contemplate the affirmations or questions that go with them. You may want to take notes so that you can share what you’ve experienced with a counselor or friend.
MIND BODY INTEGRATION
Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience!
Step One: Whenever you want to find emotional balance, breathing always helps. Start by gazing softly at the Circle and breathe in on the count of three. One…two…three.
Exhale to the count of six. One…two…three…four…five…six.
Do this as many times as you like. Breathing in and letting go.
“I relax and let the tension go.”
Notice where you feel the tension in your body. Imagine that the “stuck” feelings you’re dealing with are like an iceberg. Visualize it melting, moving and letting go. Feel your energy relax! Move around or stretch if you want to. Continue until you feel a palpable release of tension.
Step Two: Can you relax even more with this symbol?
“I allow my energy to resonate with the breath of life.”
Breathe deeply several times and imagine that the space around you is actually relaxing and softening.
Step Three. Keep breathing with your belly soft and relaxed. Let your shoulders drop. Gaze softly at the Circle and imagine you can adjust any feelings or thoughts that are turned up too high or too low, just like the volume on a radio dial.
“My senses are tuned to just the right level and I am present.”
You can also visualize that you’re lying next to a relaxing body of water – the sea, a river, a lake – whatever is most calming. Move if you need to. Let your shoulders drop. Make sure you do that both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body.
Step Four: Now you’re in a better position to see if you have any stuffed emotions. Visualize them melting and letting go again with this symbol:
Use the affirmations below to help you bring emotional balance to the situation:
“I release my need to ignore or escape from emotional pain.
I now acknowledge its message and let it go, so I can move forward freely.
I safely release any emotional baggage I’m carrying.”
Step Five: Repeat the same process to see if you’re holding any suppressed conflicts.
“Am I holding stuffed conflicts?”
If so, you can use this affirmation:
“I release my focus from conflict to peaceful and prosperous solutions.”
Imagine that any conflict is dissolving. If you’re having trouble, imagine that the image is collapsing in on itself, completely dissolving any resistance you feel.
Step Six: Are there any other aspects of your Essential Self that are especially buying into this pattern?
Use this Circle and these affirmations to help you:
“I reclaim all parts of myself from this experience and reintegrate my natural protective, self-healing abilities.”
Check to see if you’re holding to any other people’s energy or expectations left over from the experience.
“I know who I am. I distinguish my energy from the energy of others.”
Step Seven: Just in case something still feels sticky, tune into this healing medicine. Like a healing balm, imagine that a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you – helping you to let go of all attachments.
“My energy field easily and effectively detaches from any physical or emotional toxins.”
Step Eight: Decide to fully reconnect with your Soul and its ability to empower you. Use the Divine Connection chart to help you do that:
“I am empowered and connected to life affirming energies from my Soul.”
“I decided that all parts of me are loved and cared for by my spirit.”
“All mistaken communications are forgiven.”
Step Nine: Take as much time as you need to integrate the new, beneficial flow of chi that’s come in to generate life in the new Aquarian Age. Relax and breathe deeply with each of the following positive affirmations, both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body:
“I close down harmful energy channels from the past.”
“I am open and clear to receive generative life force.”
“I connect to the new, life affirming channels of communication in the New Paradigm.”
Step Ten: Before you continue, is there anything else that’s bothering you? Relax and put it into words if you can.
Note: If you’re feeling tired, sad or have tears, that means you’re actually letting go.
Step Eleven: To help you stabilize your energy, relax with this Reiki Chakra Key for your First Chakra, which is also known as the Root Chakra.
“I bring my Root Chakra into balance to support me.”
Step Twelve: Use this Reiki Star Key for your Root Chakra to help you clear out any harmful energies that might be remaining from that old, painful experience.
“I clear out destructive, violent energies or illnesses. My connection to vitality is clear and strong.”
Step Thirteen: Be sure to dissolve any destructive blueprints that you’re ready to let go of. Imagine those old mental/emotional patterns are like clouds disappearing into the Light.
“I relax and surrender them to the Light.”
Stay with it until they’re completely gone and your mind is clear.
Please note: Never send destructive energies into the Earth, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of happiness and life – not death!
Step Fourteen: Once you feel clear, be sure to close the door on those old emotional channels of pain and miscommunication.
“All holes are sealed and healed.
I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”
Step Fifteen: As time passes, you will find that many opportunities to find emotional balance will begin to make their way to you. As you gaze gently at this Circle, let your unconscious mind gather up all the pertinent information, so that over time, you can continue to make the appropriate adjustments.
Ask yourself three questions:
- Am I heading in the proper direction to find emotional balance?
- Am I positioned correctly to receive help?
- What spiritual guidance do I get in regards to this situation?
Congratulations! You’ve successfully interrupted a pattern that has probably been interfering with your emotional balance for some time! Be sure to take a few minutes for yourself now. Stand up. Move around. Take a walk in nature if you can. Being out in nature is the best!
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The Intuitive Learning Circle method should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment for any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.