How You Can Find Emotional Balance and Move On With Your Life.
Unhealthy emotions are like toxic sludge and few things are more destructive to a person’s wellbeing than those that come out of unresolved pain from early childhood. Is it possible to get “unstuck” and find emotional balance as an adult?
Take a very common example in the young child of a couple going through marital problems. This could very easily happen to either a boy or a girl, but we’ll use a young boy in this case.
Let’s say that Jessie walks in on an argument that’s going on between his parents. Immediately, he knows that something’s wrong, but when he asks, he’s told not to bother them and go upstairs.
Since he doesn’t know what it’s all about, his imagination comes in to fill in the blanks. The confusion is further compounded when Jessie’s parents withhold from him by not letting him in on what’s really happening. Perhaps they think that he’s too young to understand, or that it doesn’t matter. They say to themselves, “he’ll forget all about it in a few days.”
What they’re ignoring is that children are nearly always aware that something is wrong and when it’s not explained in terms they can understand, they will find their own explanation. Unfortunately, that explanation may be much worse than what is actually happening.
This is how projections are formed out of misguided love.
If left in the dark, Jessie could start internalizing the experience and decide that he’s unworthy of his parent’s love and somehow to blame. Or he may decide that something nefarious is going on. If he does that, he’s likely to act out by misbehaving or putting up false show of toughness. When Jessie’s parents see his behavior, they could get confused themselves. They might feel either guilty, angry or both – which causes him to feel more and more insecure and the “stuck” emotional pattern is firmly established.
Of course, these kinds of patterns can get imprinted or reinforced in numerous ways later on in life.
The following mind exercise is for when a stuffed or stuck emotional pattern has re-emerged and you’re ready to do something about it. It also is good to use when you:
- Are feeling distressed or conflicted about what steps to take
- Ready to gently bring up emotional conflicts so they can be be resolved
- Want to let go of emotional programming from early childhood
- Are frustrated or angry with events that are out of your control
- Are letting other people’s feelings or beliefs interfere with your objectives.
It helps to remember that you are not your emotions. You are bigger than they are and you don’t have to let them run you! Being afraid of emotions is a choice that you can change at any moment by making a new decision about them. For example, you could decide that the emotions you’re feeling now are just energy patterns and not solid things.
Enlist the Power of Relaxation
You can use these affirmations and the Circle to help you:
“I decide that I am bigger than these emotions.”
“I am in charge of how I experience these emotions, not the other way around!”
“I decide that letting go and relaxing are okay – even helpful things to do.”
Of course there’s more to it than just that, and yet, every stage of our personal growth has to start with the decision that we want something better. Hopefully, going through this mind exercise will help you get started on your way…
Welcome to Finding Emotional Balance ~
MIND BODY INTEGRATION
Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience!
Step One: Whenever you want to find emotional balance, breathing always helps. Start by gazing softly at the Circle and breathe in on the count of three. One…two…three.
Exhale to the count of six. One…two…three…four…five…six.
Do this as many times as you like. Breathing in and letting go.
“I relax and let the tension go.”
Notice where you feel the tension in your body. Imagine that the “stuck” tension or emotions you’re dealing with are like a huge iceberg. Visualize it melting, moving and breaking apart. Feel your energy relax! Continue until you feel a palpable release of tension.
Step Two. Keep breathing with your belly soft and relaxed.
Let your shoulders drop.
Gaze softly at the Circle and imagine you can turn down the feelings or thoughts that are turned up too high, just like the volume on a radio dial.
Step Three: Now you’re in a better position to see if you have any stuffed emotions. Visualize them breaking apart or melting again with this symbol from The Essential Human:
Use the affirmation below to help you bring emotional balance to the situation:
“I release my need to ignore or escape from emotional pain.
I now acknowledge its message and use it for my greater good.
I safely release any emotional baggage I am carrying.”
Be sure to follow the directions both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body.
Step Four: Repeat the same process to see if you’re holding any stuffed conflicts. You don’t have to keep carrying them around either. Use this affirmation:
“I release my focus from conflict to peaceful and prosperous solutions.”
Imagine that any conflict is breaking apart. If you’re having trouble, imagine sending a beam of light directly to the image, completely dissolving any resistance you feel.
Step Five: Is there anything else that’s bothering you?
Try to put it into words if you can.
Step Six: Can you name the particular emotional pattern that’s throwing you off balance? Remember that you may be picking up emotions that other people are feeling.
Step Seven: Is there an underlying problem involved that’s affecting your chakras?
Step Eight: As you gaze gently at this Circle, let your unconscious mind gather up all the pertinent information, so that over time, you can get this sorted out.
Step Nine: Gaze softly at this symbol (let your eyes relax) to help you connect with Love. Get spiritual guidance and direction that will bring you into position for receiving your highest good.
Ask yourself three questions:
- Am I heading in the proper direction to find emotional balance?
- Am I positioned correctly to receive help?
- What spiritual guidance do I get in regards to this situation?
Choose numbers between 1 -42 to make corrections and find emotional balance.
Be sure to dissolve any destructive blueprints that you’re ready to let go of. Imagine those old emotional patterns are like clouds disappearing into Sunlight.
“I relax and let them go.”
Once you feel clear, be sure to close the door on old emotional channels of pain.
“All holes are sealed and healed.
I follow the direction of healthy protection.”
Congratulations! You’ve successfully interrupted a pattern that has probably been interfering with your emotional balance for some time! Be sure to take a few minutes for yourself now. Stand up. Move around. Take a walk in nature if you can. Being out in nature is the best!
As time passes, you will find that opportunities for healing will begin to make their way to you.
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The Intuitive Learning Circle™ method should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment for any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.