Untangling Family Relationship Issues

Mind Exercise: Healing Family Relationship Issues

Family Relationship IssuesEmotional entanglements that come from family relationship issues can be very stubborn and you may feel powerless to free yourself from them.

Sometimes there’s so much going on the dynamics of a person’s childhood, it seems impossible to let go of all the conditioning and allow something different to happen in adult life. 

However, there is a way through to free yourself and get some relief using the Intuitive Learning Circles and positive affirmations with your imagination.

Note: In this exercise, you might want to journal your answers to help you express your experience later through writing, art, music, movement or sharing your story with others. If that sounds good, get out some paper and something to write with before you start…

Untangling Family Relationship Issues

Part One: Think about the relationship issues in your life that just don’t seem to get better.  No matter what you do, the pattern just keeps returning over and over again. How frustrating! They could be showing up in other relationships like love, friendship or career. They could be about communication, grief, equality, finances, or access to power. Just about anything!

Use this Circle to help you view the nature of the issues from a larger perspective for a few minutes. What do you still need to learn from this pattern?

How would you describe your experience?

Are you ready to finally learn from this situation and let it go? Are you willing? Do you really want to?

Go ahead and get a feeling for how this affects you.

Does it feel like you’re heading in the right direction to manifest healthy relationships?

Is there any kind of meddling, interference or co-dependance going on?

If you can get a sense of what’s happening, write that down too.


Part Two: Prepare yourself to let go effectively.

When dealing with any kind of pain, breathing always helps. Gaze softly at the Circle and breathe in on the count of three. One…two…three.
Exhale to the count of six. One…two…three…four…five…six.
Do this as many times as you like. Breathing in and letting go. 

Emotional Calm


Imagine that the pain around the issue you’re dealing with is like a huge iceberg. Visualize it melting, moving and breaking apart until your energy relaxes. There may be more than one iceberg. Feel free to move at any time and in any way to help you embody your experience. Continue until you feel a palpable release of tension.


Use this Circle to help you clear away any debris or garbage that’s leftover after the ice has melted. You can imagine a broom (or shovel) just sweeping it all away to the Sun!

Sending all that pain to the Sun (or into the Light) ensures that it doesn’t get dumped on someone else. See it disappear completely before moving on.


Part Three: In Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, the second level needs are safety oriented. They include protection from the elements, security, order, law, stability and freedom from fear. Family relationship issues often involve these needs. Second level needs are primarily processed through the 2nd Chakra (located approximately 2 – 3 inches down from your navel).

Gaze softly at the Second Chakra Key below for a minute or so. Then ask yourself: “Are these relationship issues having a negative affect on my safety and security needs? Are they causing a problem in any of my current relationships? Are they interfering in my relationship with myself? Is my Second Chakra holding some of that energy?” 

Am I having difficulty accessing information, connection or trust? Do I need chakra healing here? if so, can I tell what would help me to bring my 2nd Chakra in balance?


Mind Body IntegrationPart Four: Empower your needs and your ability to manifest your highest good. Imagine you can open your heart and get connected to your Divine Power. Take all the time that you need (and be sure you gaze at the symbol both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body for greater mind/body integration).

“I exist and am able to resolve these issues within myself.”


Part Five: Now we’re going to use imagination to help clear some emotional entanglements around this situation. Meditate on the Circle below and imagine that you’re in a forest, looking to create healthy relationships, yet for some reason, you can’t see your way. Perhaps the path is blank, crowded or dark or has you feeling anxious and unsafe. Maybe it’s filled with junk, obstructions or debris. Maybe it doesn’t seem to be there at all! How frustrating it is to feel like this when you would really like to have things be different for you now!

Ask yourself, “What do I need to do to make my path clear?” Gather up unconscious information.



It may help to bring your senses into balance. 

“I reclaim and balance my five senses.”

“I focus them to be aware of a viable path forward.”

“I use them to perceive how I sabotage myself in my relationships and what I need to do differently.”

“I open my senses to new possibilities, solutions, resources, opportunities and _________.”


The Essential HumanStep Six: Let’s suppose that by going through the following sequence of symbols from The Essential Human, you can walk through a dream sequence where you’ll be able clear up your path and see what you need to do to help yourself.


Look at this symbol for a few moments. Now, as if in a dream, you can see yourself untangling a messy string of lights that could light up your path. Stay with it until the lights are all straightened out and ready to be hung.



Next, imagine that your path is blocked with dozens of little children fighting and bullying each other. As you look at this symbol, see yourself ringing a bell or blowing a horn. Hear the sound echoing through your mind and across time. The sound goes all the way back to when this issue first began…

The sound finally dissipates and as if awakened from a nightmare, the children blocking the path change their demeanor. Some might go off to play quietly with each other. Some leave entirely and some of them might even come up to you and say “hi” nicely.


The scene has changed and now you’re walking through a garden party where lots of couples are dancing.  The music is lively, although a bit distorted. Suddenly, the center of the garden is filled with a pile of wriggling snakes, ruining everyone’s time! Use the symbol and ring the bell again. Let it fill the entire garden. You can see the snakes disappearing into little holes that they came in through and the holes are closing up completely. 

As you look around again you’re relieved to see that the party has changed. How has it changed?


Now, you come upon a building and you notice that this building is actually a library that represents all the information your family uses to create relationships. If you could guess, how much of this information is based on truth and how much is based on lies? Use this symbol and affirmation to clarify your perception:

“I stop using the false information. I now perceive what’s true about me and my family relationships.”  

Is there anything you need to reclaim? if so, reclaim it now.

“I reclaim my________, ________, ________, etc.”


Part Six: It’s time to actively detach your energy from the pattern:

Are you still attached to harmful assumptions about relationships that come to you through your family or ancestral line?


Use this symbol to detach from any sticky or heavy energy. It could be denial,  resistance, shame or fear. You can let go of the lies and neglect around your family’s relationship issues. This key will help you to relax and mend any energetic wounds that are associated with negative attachments or toxic energies. Like a healing balm, imagine that a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you.

“I easily and effectively, neutralize and detach from the family pattern.”  



Once you’ve recovered your energy, look at the Circle and ask your heart, “Am I present and in my own heart space? Or am I somewhere else?

Consciously decide to be present – to be in your own body, your own heart space, using your own energy.

Note: To get more present, it helps to open your fingers wide and then close your fists several times. Notice the time and where you are. 


Now that you’re more present, look at this Circle and ask yourself, “Am I accessing my own karma to create relationships? Am I using ancestral karma? What is confusing me about this?”

“Has someone dumped their karma on me? Is someone accessing my karma without my permission? Have I shut down around relationships entirely? What have I made up about myself?”


Whatever pattern this is, are you ready now to let it go?

If so, relax with this symbol for several minutes until your energy has stabilized.


Now it’s time to close the door on inappropriate pathways that might lead you astray or return you to this suffering.

“All doors are sealed and healed.”

“I follow the direction of healthy protection.”

“A new path filled with light and joy is opening up for me now.”



Clarify for yourself: “I decide to use my beneficial karma to create my relationships. I gather up other people’s karma and respectfully return it to where it belongs.

“I reclaim my karma. I am on my own path and in charge of how my karma is used.”


Forgive yourself: “Since I don’t know how this suffering came to be, I let it go and forgive all transgressions.”


Congratulations! Now that you’ve cleared some major entanglements and karma, there are a few things you can do to get reoriented and focus on the new path going forward. Take a break first or just dive right in!

Begin by adjusting the volume to your senses. Some may be turned up too high or some too low. 

“I see things as they really are.”

“I see my path as it really is.”


What have you learned about how you’ve been handling relationships? How has this exercise changed your awareness? 

What might you do differently now to create the relationships you really want?


From this new perspective, what do you want from your relationships? In order for this to happen, what do you need to decide about yourself and others?

What else would you like to change? Be sure to write your new decisions down, so that you’ll remember.


Step Eight: With this symbol, imagine the all the obstructions and misunderstandings dissolving away into the light of the Sun until your new pathway for healthy relationships is completely clear. Do that both crossed and uncrossed.


Make an agreement with yourself to follow through on the information you’ve gained through this exercise. Then close the door on all pathways that might lead you back to suffering.

“All doors are sealed and healed.”

“I follow the direction of healthy protection.”


Finally, check in with your Second Chakra again for a minute or so. Ask yourself: “Is the original relationship issue still having a negative affect on my safety and security needs? Is my Second Chakra holding energy from that situation now?”

“Does my chakra need balancing now? Do I need Epigenetic Healing from Divine Nature Activated? What else might help me?”


Congratulations! You have made some progress with emotional healing and entanglements from your family relationships. The next time you encounter the issue, notice if the dynamics have changed for you.

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