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Sort Out Blame and Responsibility
Whose Problem Is It? Sorting out Blame and Responsibility in Relationships
In today’s society, it’s common to pass the buck by putting the blame and responsibility on others or deny that a problem even exists, especially in dysfunctional or co-dependent relationships.
When that happens, responsible people tend to get thrown off balance. If you’re one of those people, you believe in dealing with problems, rather than ignoring them or unloading them onto someone else. After all, if you own it, you can solve it, right? Under normal circumstances that would be true. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way if the problem you’re worrying about isn’t really yours to solve.
This simple game is for you if you tend to take on blame and responsibility for others to your own detriment. Especially during these times of upheaval and DETERIORATION, it’s essential to clear out all the confusion without making it only your problem. We can find more balanced ways to come up with solutions together.
Use this mind exercise when you are:
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SOS Symbol Not clear where your responsibility lies in a given situation
- Pressuring yourself to solve someone else’s problem
- Lacking energy for your own projects
- Aware that someone is overly dependent on you
- Wanting to change the dynamics of blame and responsibility in a relationship
- Being used as a scapegoat or dumping ground for negative energy.
Directions: Confirm this is the best exercise for you with the SOS symbol.
If your efforts to solve a problem are causing you to become overwhelmed and frustrated, follow the directions for each step of this game and watch how your perspective changes! By playing, you’ll get to the bottom of what’s going on and receive constructive guidance on how to effectively come to a solution, at least for yourself.
You’ll probably feel some energy moving while you go through the exercise. That’s all right, because it means the Circles are working with your mind to unlock a fixated pattern and help you get some positive answers to your dilemma.
Once you’ve completed the game, your energy will be more your own and you’ll have a much clearer idea of what’s actually going on, including what to do about it.
Whose Problem Is It?
1. While looking at this Circle, think of a person, a problem or a plan that‘s bothering you.
What is it specifically that bothers you about this situation?
Have you experienced this problem before?
Mind Body Integration
For best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.
Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience!
2. Answer “yes” or “no” to these questions about what’s happening:
“Is this my problem?”
“Is it a projection that’s coming from elsewhere?”
“Is it something I’m projecting on myself?”
“Am I projecting this problem onto someone or something else?”
If you are dealing with any projections, you can use this Circle to help you burst them, just like a bubble or lots of little bubbles.
After all, projections are just illusions and don’t really exist, so why waste your precious time and energy on them?
3. Continue answering “yes” or “no” to these questions about your true relationship to this problem:
“What is my relationship to this problem?”
“Is it a problem I’m taking on for someone else?”
“Am I obsessing or worrying over something that I have no control over?”
“Is this just a troublesome habit that I keep rerunning in my head?”
Additional questions you can ask yourself:
“Am I taking what others say and do (or don’t say and do) personally?”
“Am I being respectful to myself in this situation?
How about being respectful and understanding of others?”
“What is my part in this situation and how can I handle it?”
“Am I in the best position to make a positive change?”
4. How is this problem affecting you?
If it’s having a negative affect, release any unconscious agreements you may be holding. You can change them by imagining you can tear up old contracts or burn them up in a violet flame like these:
“I release the agreement that I don’t matter or that I have no choice in this situation.”
“I release any unconscious agreements to be rigid or keep repeating harmful habits.”
Replace those agreements with some new agreements:
“I respect and take good care of myself.”
“I exist. I get present. What I say and do matters.”
“I choose to express my needs and cooperate with others in finding genuine solutions.”
Are there any other agreements you would like to change or update?
5. It could be that you’re tapping into a recurring pattern of control or traumatic stress that’s blocking positive energy.
Relax into this symbol and imagine you can close up destructive energy channels between you and all that negative energy.
“I close down all harmful energy channels from the past.”
“I close them down because they aren’t helping anything.”
Next, open up to more hopeful and beneficial energy.
Gather up your newfound awareness and imagine you can plug it into the center of this symbol for improved communication.
“I am open to receiving generative life force available to me in the present.”
Take a few minutes to feel more centered with more positive energy flowing through you, both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body.
6. Now it’s time to turn your attention towards possible solutions to the problem.
Make a choice to be in charge of your decisions and how you respond to this problem:
“I am in charge of what I do in this situation.”
“What new decisions do I need to make about myself?”
“What decisions do I need to make about others?”
“What decisions do I need to make about this situation?”
If you feel stuck, use the Circle to unstick and remove mental obstacles from your thinking process so you can do your best in this situation.
See if you can get all the gears in your mind moving together.
7. In order for you to be more objective, dissolve any mental or emotional blueprints that may be contributing to the problem.
Gaze softly at this symbol and allow the patterns to dissolve like dark clouds hanging overhead or off in the distance. These positive affirmations will help:
“I dissolve the blueprints for internalizing and taking on other people’s problems.”
“I release the patterns of confusion or putting too much pressure on myself.”
“I dissolve my tendencies to project problems onto myself or others.”
Take all the time you feel you need for the patterns to dissolve into pure sunlight and clear, blue skies. Feel free to move around until the heaviness is completely gone.
“I release the fear of failure and being too hard on myself.”
Please note: Make sure you don’t send destructive energies down into the Earth, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of health, happiness and life – not illness, unhappiness and death!
8. Take a few minutes with this Circle to infuse your body with courage and determination. Imagine that you can surround yourself with a sphere of protection with affirmations like these:
“I am protected and in charge of my own space.”
“I allow others to be in charge of their own space and handle their own problems.”
“I can easily deal with my problems with courage and determination.”
Are there any aspects of your Essential Self that need to be encouraged to take care of this problem with respect – both for yourself and for others?
Redirecting how you’re using your own energy is one of the most powerful ways to solve your part of the problem.
If you have a copy, use The Essential Human manual to help you make simple corrections. Ask for numbers between 1 – 42 and make corrections to each number chart in the order they come to you.
9. What does your heart want to tell you about this situation?
Keep looking at the Circle and ask yourself this question until you hear a clear answer.
“My heart is telling me to ________________________.”
Let that quiet voice of your intuition give you answers to simple questions.
Include the basics like, who is involved? What is going on? Where is it happening? When is it happening? Why is it happening and what is its purpose?
What and how would I best respond to this situation?
10. Take a few moments and see yourself letting go of other people and their problems.
“I surrender other people’s issues, karma and emotions.”
“I send them to wherever they need to go to heal.”
Once that feels complete, call back what ever belongs to you.
“If it’s truly mine and I own it, I can resolve it.“
“I call back what belongs to me so that I can set things right.”
11. Now it’s time to get centered and ask yourself this question:
“What is the most important thing I can do to take care of myself?”
Take the very first answer that comes to you, then place your answer in the center of the Circle like a bull’s eye.
Imagine you can send your attention and energy directly to your answer and then allow the energy to return to you.
Do that for several rounds to start a new pattern.
12. Finish the exercise by asking your Inner Wisdom for some good advice:
“What will help me to follow through on making
a positive difference in this situation?”
Congratulations! Being realistic about whose problem it is and what you can actually do about it is often the missing piece to coming to a resolution.
Now would be a great time to relax and contemplate the advice you have given yourself. Take a walk if you can to help you integrate your thoughts.
Please note: Self-care Formula #4 Grounding in Your Power and Truth will often deepen your conviction and ability to follow through.
Blame and Responsibility is a Mind Exercise in Our PTSD Workbook
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About the Author
Rheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT lives and practices in Santa Fe, NM and has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you want more help sorting out your relationships.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through Reiki, Energy Medicine, Hypnotherapy and Feng Shui Space Clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].
Disclaimer:
Whose Problem Is It? should not be considered as an exclusive method of mental / emotional stress. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
Clear Boundaries
Setting Clear Boundaries for a Busy Mind
What can you do to help yourself when you’re unable to focus on important tasks that really need to get done? Is your line of thinking clear? Has someone or something gotten under your skin and you can’t seem to let go? Clear boundaries may be the answer.
Without strong boundaries, thoughts and emotions can pass back and forth between people without their awareness. When left unchecked, this type of attachment can go underground and contribute to sudden and mysterious illnesses, mental confusion, issues with prosperity or chronic states of overwhelm.
It’s a valuable skill to know how to close the doors or energy pathways at will. This Mind Exercise can help you learn how to consciously set clear boundaries and close off those pathways.
This visual meditation from our SOS Resolve Ebook provides a quick framework for recovering mental balance and refocusing attention. Going through a quick “game” calms the emotional centers of your brain and opens up new neural pathways for self-awareness and clear boundaries, which significantly reduces stress and increases clarity.
Use this Mind Exercise when you are:
~ Feeling scattered or out of sync
~ Easily triggered and need better boundaries
~ Experiencing distress or separation anxiety
~ Worried, agitated or anticipating hardship
~ Feeling pressured or compulsive
~ Unable to meditate or sit still
~ Obsessed with a particular person or situation.
Directions: Confirm this is the best exercise for you with the RESOLVE symbol.
Find a quiet place if possible, where you won’t be disturbed for about twenty minutes. Follow the sequence of symbols while you read their accompanying instructions. Gaze gently at each Circle for about two minutes. A longer or shorter time may be necessary. Let yourself breathe and relax as much as possible.
Don’t worry if the images move around or change in any way. That just means the Circles are working and that your mind and body are relaxing.
Mind Body Integration
The brain and body communicate through different channels when a part of you is crossed over the center of your body. Therefore, you will want to look at each Circle both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body.
If you feel resistant or stuck, cross or uncross a hand or foot over the midline of your body and go back to the Circle, breathing patiently. See if your thinking starts to move again. Let negative self-talk go by breathing through it Just breathe deeply and relax.
After you’ve finished going through the entire exercise, give yourself some time to let it integrate. A quiet mind and light heart will change your perspective and make it easier to accomplish your goals.
Step 1. Balance
Begin by consciously breathing in on the count of three and slowly exhaling on the count of five. Do that three or four times while you gaze softly at the Circle. It’s helpful if you can breathe in through your nose.
Continue breathing and bring your awareness to your tailbone.
Step 2. Calm
Keep breathing with your belly soft and relaxed.
Let your shoulders drop.
Gaze softly at this Circle and imagine you can turn down the feelings or thoughts that are turned up too high, just like the volume on a radio.
Step 3. Centering
See if you can gather your awareness and connect it – like all the lines that come together into the center of this symbol.
Imagine you can close up unhealthy energy channels between you and any interference that’s coming from the outside.
Stay with it until you feel more centered with beneficial energy flowing through you.
Step 4. Protection
Now you’re ready to close all holes or harmful pathways that have been left wide open, like too many tabs that have been left open on your computer. It’s time to set this right.
“I close the pathways that lead to distractions, disturbances and interference.”
“All holes are sealed and healed.”
“I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”
Step 5. Beauty
Once the pathways are closed, you can shift your attention away from the negative and turn towards more positive input. Breathe in again and exhale slowly.
Let this Chart help you call the most majestic scenes into your mind that you can imagine.
Notice how your body responds and relaxes into the experience.
Step 6. Expansion
Turn your attention to your breathing again and how calming it is.
You can sense the steady rhythm of your heart.
The gentle expansion and contraction of your lungs.
Breathing in and letting go. The space around you is relaxing too.
Step 7. Letting Go
There may be some especially sticky energies that don’t seem to want to let go. Let this Key help you neutralize interfering energies and detach from them.
Like a healing balm, imagine that a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you.
Step 8. Intention
Now you’re ready to gently turn your mind to what’s in your best interests. What are your true priorities?
Slow down and take your time.
Step 9. Decision
Your well-being is important. Are there any new decisions would you like to make about it?
Here’s a few suggestions:
“I decide to be loyal to myself.”
“It’s okay to have strong and clear boundaries.”
“It’s genuinely joyful to have a quiet mind and a light heart.”
Step 10. Resolution
Make a commitment to stay centered and true to yourself.
“I keep my own energy contained for my own protection.”
“I easily eject and deflect harmful thoughts, interference or expectations.”
“I resolve to create and maintain clear boundaries.”
Step 11.. Nourishment
This is a good opportunity to see if there’s any helpful nutrition that would support you. Let Plant Medicine help you tune into natural healing energy.
Are there any vegetables, fruits, herbs, teas or other healing foods that come to mind? Anything else?
Step 12: Grounding and Coherence
Electric Eel will help your energy get organized and grounded. Put both your feet on the floor, place your palms on the inside of your knees and keep breathing until you feel planted.
Then, visualize a wheel spinning out any discordant energy that’s still hanging on and causing problems. When you can release excess energy, it’s much easier to think more clearly and feel like yourself again.
Step 13. Compassion
Imagine with each relaxing new breath that you can fill your heart with renewed understanding and compassion – that includes caring for yourself with clear boundaries.
Your energy is rising up into a lighter space.
Step 14. Completion
Finish by closing any remaining openings to the noise and distractions of the external world.
“All holes are sealed and healed.”
“I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”
What does your Soul advise you to do now?
Congratulations! Now that you’ve finished, give yourself some time to let it integrate. A quiet mind and light heart changes your perspective and makes it easier to accomplish your goals.
This Mind Exercise is Part of Spirit Animal Tracks for Self-healing
About the Author
If you feel that you need additional help, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel concerned about maintaining clear boundaries and other learning difficulties.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through Reiki energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing.
Schedule with Rheanni via Zoom or in person when you visit Santa Fe, New Mexico. Call or text (505) 271-4612 between 10:00am – 5:00pm, MST, Monday through Friday to schedule or email: [email protected]
Disclaimer:
Clear Boundaries for a Busy Mind should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
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Negative Thoughts That Keep You Stuck
Many people are feeling stuck and unhappy because they’re trying to control or avoid negative thoughts they’re having about themselves and the world around them.
The object of this mind exercise is to clear basic misconceptions about our negative thoughts and how “real” we think they are.
You know the kind of thoughts we’re talking about – the ones that keep running through our minds again and again until we think we’re going to go batty! Or the kind that we just want to push away. The more we fight them or stuff them, the stronger they become until they start running our lives.
The truth is, thoughts are only concepts and have no power unless we give it to them. So, in the simplest terms, whenever we try to fight, control or sweep negative thoughts under the carpet, we are actually causing ourselves more suffering.
An example would be when you’re struggling with an event or something someone said and are spending a lot of time trying to figure out why they said it. You know you shouldn’t get so upset by it! Another example would be a repetitive need to prove that whatever happened was wrong.
The compulsion to repeat negative thoughts fosters a negative karmic loop
By rerunning the conflict over and over in our minds, we feed a karmic feedback loop and continue to suffer as if that memory is still existing now in the present. Perhaps it helps us to feel justified in our position, even though simply letting it go would give our minds more room to focus on other things. Things we would prefer to have happen which would actually support us in being happier.
By giving a memory or a thought that amount of power, we actually limit ourselves and stay locked into the past. Our decisions and projections become fixated and immovable. This preoccupation with how real we think our thoughts are actually causes us to miss opportunities to be present and happy. Life energy or chi’ gets diverted and used to feed negativity, rather than our true potential.
Focus your thoughts on what makes you happy ~
When you can change your focus, your mind has the room integrate any positive changes that have taken place and decide what you like about them and what you want to continue or discontinue. In essence, you are creating an opening for happiness. Of course, you will still need to take action on those new thoughts! However, when you continually think negative thoughts about what you’re unhappy or dissatisfied with, you’re mentally digging yourself into a deeper and deeper karmic hole of dissatisfaction and unhappiness.
If it feels like something like this is going on in your mind, you might like to try playing a simple Mind Exercise using the Intuitive Learning Circles to help you loosen the grip of painful, repetitive thoughts. By letting go on a DNA level, you heal family patterns of suffering that have prevented you from using your energy to fuel happiness and better health.
Gently gaze at each Circle, one at a time and consider the question or affirmation that goes with it. The process helps you to become aware of what kind of thinking is bothering you and make a different choice about it by relaxing and letting go.
Mind Body Integration
For best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.
Step 1:
Give yourself permission to relax with #49 Old Sol for a minute or so and get some help from your Higher Self with a destructive thought that’s just taking up too much space in your mind.
“I ask for distance from this negative thought, experience or memory.”
Notice how easy it is to “rerun” this thought process over and over again and how it never really takes you anywhere positive or productive.
If something like that is happening, your mind has become blocked by a fixation. Luckily, Condor Medicine can help you release the feedback loop and take a gentler approach to what’s bothering you. Take several relaxing breaths while gazing softly at the Circle. Imagine all the lines softening or melting. Use deep relaxing breaths to help you.
“I imagine that the block is loosening and the thoughts in it are moving around differently.”
Once the thoughts start moving, you may notice a whole constellation of related thoughts and feelings about yourself or others in the background. Take several more minutes and let them start moving differently too.
Continue breathing and softening until the negative energy has stopped.
Since your chakras are wheels of light that facilitate the inward and outward movement of energy that rides on vibration, they are literally part of how our bodies “breathe.” Every organ, gland or joint has a constellation of chakras that brings the vibration of life into that area and releases toxins. That includes toxic thoughts that might be hanging out in your aura or the environment around you. When the motion of a chakra is stuck or withheld, you’ll know because your breathing will stop or become shallow.
To remedy this, meditate on this Soul Prayer Chart for Oxygen. Breathe deeply and imagine that the space around you is actually relaxing and softening.
“I allow all affected chakras to resonate once again with the breath of life.”
You are now in a position to be more objective as you continue to Step 2 of the exercise.
Step 2:
Use these affirmations with the Circles below to imagine that you can change the energy in your mind by pulling your energy away from that negative that “head space.”
Affirm your autonomy with Wasp Medicine:
“I pull my energy back from harmful memories or experiences so that I can be more objective and learn from them.”
As long as we agree with negative and repetitive thoughts, we can’t be open to new visions of who we have the potential to be. See if Raccoon Medicine and these affirmations will help you to free up your mind:
“I release any agreement to buy into or maintain unhappy thoughts.”
“I release agreements that thoughts define who I am or what I can do.”
“I let go of harmful agreements with anyone involved with these thoughts.”
“I let go of any agreements I have to be controlled by others.”
“My new agreements are to live in the present and love who I truly am, etc.”
“I reclaim my power and free will. I protect myself.”
“I look for, find and utilize productive, workable solutions that nourish me.”
“I am a kind and powerful person who _____________.”
Step 3:
Now that your energy can move more freely, use Butterfly Medicine to continue relaxing your body with you affirm:
“I tap into helpful, life affirming energy to nourish my mind and thinking processes.”
“I am filling myself and my space with life affirming thoughts and energy.”
“I acknowledge the thoughts and energies that are helpful and recognize those that are harmful.”
Use this symbol for Divine Protection to close down old and unhealthy channels of energy that have been carrying negative thoughts to you.
“I close down old energy channels that are still open to the chaos and negativity of the old paradigm.”
Stay with it until you feel centered and protected with beneficial energy flowing through you.
Once you’ve got that, you’re ready to access life affirming channels of communication that come to us through the Element of Air. To help you, visualize all the lines coming together into the center wheel of this symbol.
Do that both crossed and uncrossed until it feels complete.
Now it’ll be easier to raise your vibration with the Medicine of Rainforest Tree:
“I let go of any beliefs that I am stuck, trapped or powerless. I make room for inspiration, self-respect and new ways to think about ‘happiness’ and what that would mean for me.”
Then do the same for the space around you. You don’t have to keep putting up with negative thoughts running around in your space and cramping your style! After all they’re just thoughts and don’t “belong” to anyone.
Imagine those old thoughts are like leaves that you’ve been holding onto. See yourself letting them go now while a warm breeze blows them up and away. Watch them disappear into the Light.
Step 4:
The next few symbols are from “Divine Nature Activated” and will provide us with epigenetic healing down to our DNA. The key is to relax as much as possible while looking at each symbol. It can help to imagine an actual DNA strand relaxing, healing and filling up with light – much like this picture.
“I ask the Divine to assist my consciousness in connecting with Hope.”
“I let go of any compulsive need to be right or to keep the conflict going in my own mind.”
“I welcome thoughts that offer positive solutions.”
“I release the karma and take apart my tendency to harm myself.”
“I’m ready and willing to sort through what’s in my highest good.”
“I ask the Divine to lead me away from conflict, towards Common Ground.”
“I am a Divine Child of the Universe.
I am beautiful, innocent and trust that I am fully supported.”
Check to see if there are any other symbols needed from Divine Nature Activated to make appropriate corrections.
Ask for numbers between 1 – 73.
Finish with this Soul Star Detachment Key to remove any especially sticky energies. Like a healing balm, imagine that a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you – soothing your body and mind.
“I easily and effectively detach from harmful, sticky energies.”
Step 6:
Connect and empower your ability to follow through by relaxing into this Soul Prayer Chart for Divine Connection.
“I am empowered to manifest a positive frame of mind.
I exist and what I say and do matters.”
“I connect with the power of joy and gratitude that comes from my heart.”
Step 7:
Notice what’s caught your attention about this exercise. It may be initially confusing. All the wheels in your mind could be going every which way! Take a minute or two to step back and objectively contemplate your situation. Let Llama’s Circle help you synchronize those wheels or pull the ones that don’t belong out completely. A question may come to you and if it does, go ahead and ask your question while looking at the Circle, like:
“What’s going on here? What kind of decisions have I been making?”
“What have I decided about myself?”
“Have I decided that things only work in one particular way?”
“What have I been putting out and is that really what I want to get back?”
“I let go of lies and falsehood. I stop trying to figure them out.”
“I let them go and make room for more positive, productive thoughts.”
“My thoughts and decisions begin to work for me and make sense.”
“They fit with each other and my life becomes happier.”
Step 8.
Imagine that all the negative behaviors are like a huge hole in the ground that you’ve been getting lost in. Fly Medicine will help you deconstruct them.
“I deconstruct the hole that I habitually fall into. I stop holding space for negative habits and karma that are keeping me stuck.”
“I fill in the leftover void with positive life force and energy.”
Imagine that all the negativity in your mind is lifting up into the sky like a host of dark clouds and disappearing into the Light.
Continue looking at this symbol for dissolving destructive blueprints until all clouds are completely gone.
“I dissolve all negative thoughts like a black cloud that dissipates into the Sun.”
Once you’ve done that, make sure you’ve gotten all the negative attachments. Use the symbol to collapse any underground drains or channels like old sewage pipes:
“I collapse any other negativity or attachments that might be poisoning me or draining my energy.”
Close down any harmful doors or pathways that could lead you back to those negative places or thoughts with Piranha Medicine.
Step 9:
Finish with this Soul Prayer Chart to repair any rips or tears in your aura and then refocus them.
Be sure that you spend all the time you need with it – both crossed and uncrossed. Your auras are an important part of having good health and protection!
Congratulations!
You’ve just let go of an old mental pattern that’s been sabotaging your happiness and prosperity for a long time. After you’ve rested, you may want to go through this mind exercise again around other negative thoughts or memories that are troubling you. Be sure to take good care of yourself though by drinking enough water, etc. It’s always wise to be gentle with ourselves when integrating personal growth.
This Mind Exercise is Part of Spirit Animal Tracks for Self-healing
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If you feel that Negative Thoughts That Keep You Stuck has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel off track or overwhelmed.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through Reiki, Energy Medicine, Hypnotherapy and Feng Shui Space Clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].
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Disclaimer:
This mind exercise should not be considered as an exclusive method of handling stress. Soul Resources LLC and Rheanni Lightwater are not licensed to practice medicine. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment for any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
Future Pacing and Hypnotherapy
Future Pacing for Excellence
Future pacing is an extra-intuitive activity that isn’t required, but can really help you excel by anchoring positive outcomes into your Learning Mind…
In our hypnotherapy and energy medicine classes, we talk about the importance of future pacing. What is that?
Future pacing is a way to deepen the effects of any mind body healing by projecting a preferred outcome into the future. Let’s use that idea to solidify what you’ve just learned.
Start Future Pacing by Getting Calm and Relaxed
Use River Medicine to relax and adjust the volume on your senses.
Remember that when your senses are out of balance, it’s easy to get lost and fall out of your natural flow.
River Medicine beckons us to calm down and flow with the river of life. When we allow this experience, we can hear the truth of the heart and Soul more clearly.
One way to do that is to gaze softly at the Circle and imagine that you’re floating on a calm, benevolent body of water. Take the time to breathe deeply. Once you feel calmer, you’re ready to open your senses to new solutions and gifts.
Gently remind yourself about your objective:
“What am I proposing to do?”
Then, follow up with,
“If I follow the course of that action, what’s most likely to happen?”
Once you feel more relaxed and calm, use this sequence of Intuitive Learning Circles and positive affirmations to help you future pace with the very best qualities to follow through on what you’ve learned.
Future Pacing from Intuitive Learning in the New Paradigm
RECALIBRATION
Use this affirmation to recalibrate:
“I willingly release harmful ingredients and access beneficial ingredients*.”
*“Ingredients” include energies, nourishment, guidance, support, etc. Anything that goes into the creation of your experience.
If you need to use the symbols and positive affirmations from The Essential Human to help you access the very best qualities to nurture your intuitive talents, this is a good time to do it.
Choose from numbers 1 – 42 with the same affirmation:
“I willingly release harmful ingredients and access beneficial ingredients.”
Examples
Here are a couple of examples of how you might do that. The first line is about what you want to let go of or close the door on:
“I release harmful, outdated or extreme thinking patterns.”
The second line is about what you want to open up to:
“I now make a commitment to cultivate beneficial thoughts that come from my Soul.”
You might also want to confirm that all parts of you know to utilize the beneficial flow of chi’ or life force that’s available in the New Paradigm.
“I project the idea of me using this generative energy out into the future – helping me to manifest my objective successfully in the New Paradigm.”
Set Yourself Up for Success
Imagine that you can access your seeds of karma that will help you actualize your objective. Gather the seeds of your good deeds in the center, blank area of this Circle.
“I access my beneficial karma for actualizing balanced and helpful _________.”
“I plant new karmic seeds for the conditions I need to be happier, healthier and to actualize my heartfelt objectives.”
Make sure you plant them in your personal garden that lives in your heart.
“I plant beneficial seeds in my garden and ask for blessings in accordance with the highest good. I am securely included in the equation.”
If your garden needs a little tending – weeding, watering, re-organizing, etc. -this is a good time to see it happening in your mind’s eye.
Clear Obstructions
Let go of any harmful or inappropriate energies or mental/emotional patterns that no longer serve you. Release them to the Light to be set free and purified.
“I gather destructive patterns or energies and release them to the Light.
I dissolve my connection to them, so that they may be set free and purified.”
Please note: Never send pain or harmful energies into the Earth to be neutralized, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of life, health and happiness – not death, illness and unhappiness!
Visualize any hidden channels or sewage pipes for negative energies collapsing in on themselves.
“Old channels of ______________ are collapsing.”
Close all holes or leaks that lead back to illness, suffering or disappointment.
“All holes are sealed and healed.”
“I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”
Empowerment
Now you’re ready for your Soul to connect you with the grail of gratitude located in your heart center / personal garden and use it to empower your highest good.
“I use my Soul’s divine connection to nourish what’s in my highest good.”
“I am empowered to learn how I can strengthen ________ and _________.”
Grounding
Being grounded helps you bring what you’ve learned “down to Earth” so you can increase productivity and actualize your objective. Get yourself grounded in the New Paradigm before you complete this process.
Place both feet on the floor and put your hands on your knees if you can. Gaze softly at the Circle and repeat the affirmation until you feel your body has fully settled in the present.
“I am present and grounded in the New Paradigm.”
Future Pacing – Projecting Success into the Future
Now you’re ready to tune into the Center of your being. Go within and ask your heart:
How will it feel to actualize my objective in the future?
What about later today or tomorrow?
A month from now?
How does it feel a year from now?
Completion
The mind intuitively appreciates closure. Finish it all up now by sealing and healing any holes that lead back to old, harmful pathways of suffering.
“All holes are sealed and healed.”
“I follow the direction of my Soul’s intended path.”
Congratulations!
You can thank yourself for taking the time today to learn how Future Pacing can accelerate your learning and ability to manifest your objective in the New Paradigm – a gift that will surely keep on giving!
Be sure to rest now and do something nice for yourself!
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Protected: Clear Your Crown Chakra
Soul Healing for Anxiety
A New Perspective on Soul Healing from an Old Soul.
The Hermit #IX is an important Guide for Soul Healing in 2025 ~
The Hermit is the Major Arcana Card #IX. The number 9 is about completion – the completion of a cycle or many cycles. The neutral color of his robes suggests the ability to neutralize the opposites or extremes of black and white, right and wrong, male and female.
For this exercise, The Hermit is helping us to shine a light on our anxieties and how our connection with our Souls can bring PROGRESS and healing.
His guidance for Soul Healing when you’re feeling anxious is part of the SOS series of self-care formulas and mind exercises in RESOLVE -Staying True and Following Through in Difficult Times.
Soul Healing for Anxiety
Use Soul Healing when you’re feeling anxious and uncertain because you:
- Feel anxious about an important decision
- Want to expand your awareness
- Have doubts about how to proceed
- Are confused in a chaotic situation
- Are experiencing a creative block
- Feel you’re being pulled in conflicting directions
- Desire clearer guidance from your Soul.
When a person is feeling uncertain about the best thing to do, it can significantly raise the level of anxiety they’re experiencing. Getting relief can sometimes be as simple as being open to a different perception about what’s going on. When one consciously calls upon their inner wisdom and aligns their instincts with intuition, amazing insights can emerge.
If you’re getting nervous about a delicate situation or feel that you may not be seeing it correctly, explore how you can reorient yourself and open up to new ideas with Soul Healing.
Set aside about twenty to thirty minutes. Go through each step by reading its directions and then gazing at the Circle that goes with it for approximately two minutes. A longer or shorter time may be necessary. Let yourself breathe and relax as much as possible. Don’t worry if the images move around or change in any way. That just means the Circles are working.
Your emotional state might change as well. That also means the Circles are working. Just keep breathing and let the energy move. Once it calms down you’ll be ready to continue to the next Circle.
Mind Body Integration
For best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.
Feel free to move at any time in any way to help you release tension and embody your experience!
After you’ve gone through the exercise, consider taking a brisk walk or exercising to help you discharge excess energy.
When you’re ready, see if you can take action on some of the ideas that come to mind.
Soul Healing for Clarity and Wholeness
1. Let’s start by setting an intention to protect yourself in this situation. Take a few moments with Jaguar Medicine to imagine yourself safely surrounded by a sphere of strength and courage.
You are protected and able to take care of yourself.
2. Old Sol will help you to connect with your inner wisdom and Soul guidance. Let it help you get to the source of what’s happening and how you might increase your awareness.
Relax and breathe deeply.
What is the core of your issue?
What other information do you get?
If your mind has gone blank and you don’t get any ideas, go directly to the next Circle.
3. You may feel a lot of conflict over this issue or you might even have experienced a shock that blocks your ability to perceive things clearly. Take several deep breaths and relax while you gaze softly at Condor Medicine to release shock and inner conflict.
“I relax and allow any tension or blockages to melt away.”
Once you have a sense that your mind has found a blockage, imagine that the lines going in towards the center are relaxing, like cooked spaghetti noodles.
Keep relaxing with other blockages or conflicts and do the same with them.
4. Bring your senses into balance by gazing softly at this Reiki Chakra Key that accesses your Rational Senses.
Imagine you can clear the pipes for seeing, hearing, feeling, tasting and smelling the things that are in your immediate surroundings.
“I connect with my senses and bring them into balance.”
“I clear them so I can feel calmer and aware of what’s important.”
“I use my senses to be more aware of where I am and what I’m doing.”
“I turn my attention to actions that are genuinely helpful and productive.”
5. There may be some especially sticky energies that don’t seem to want to let go. Let this Soul Star Detachment Key help you neutralize interfering energies and detach from them.
Like a healing balm, imagine that a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you.
“I easily and effectively detach from harmful, sticky energies.”
Feel free to return to this chart at any point during this exercise.
6. You might also be having a difficult time adjusting to all the significant environmental changes that are taking place. Sudden changes can cause the subtle energy fields to react in unusual ways.
As you look at this Soul Star Correction Key, do you notice any rough glitches or reversed energies going on?
Relax with it for a few minutes until things smooth out and you can begin to sense the energy of your Soul coming through.
Repair any jagged or disjointed glitches in your sensory system.
7. Elevated emotions are often caused by distressing experiences that knock the senses out of balance.
When you’re relaxed, your senses can balance out and create a more harmonious state of mind. This softer, lighter way of being has a way of untangling problems and stress.
Use this simple affirmation with River Medicine to help you slow down in a way that helps you to reduce feelings of anxiety and overwhelm.
“My mind is calm and relaxed – like a boat floating on the water.”
8. The familiar vibration of your Soul is definitely a big help to evaluating things clearly. Stay relaxed and let your mind drift to a time when you were very happy or had successfully accomplished an important physical goal.
What color or felt sense relaxes you and feels good?
If you can make the feeling or color stronger and it feels comfortable, you’ve found your Soul’s unique vibration.
Operating out of your own vibration has the power to transform chaos and confusion into opportunities to create health, harmony and happiness.
9. Take a few moments to clarify your intention through the Fifth Chakra, also known as your Third Eye. Focus inwardly on what’s most important for you. Remember to keep breathing!
If you direct the energy in towards the center open space of the Key, you can bring your true intentions more fully into the center of your conscious awareness.
You might be surprised at how distracted you’ve been.
10. Clear perception using Soul guidance is an internal communication. Focus in on your heart center and wait for the energy get connected and balanced.
Again, it initially helps to direct your attention in towards the center open space of the Chakra Key.
Once you’ve found the connection, breathe and relax. Allow the energy to shift and open. Eventually you’ll be able to sense your Soul energy expanding and radiating out.
It may take a minute or two to connect with your inner Light.
Take a few minutes to help the energy clear even more with this Soul Star for the Heart Chakra. Breathe and relax until you sense positive energy radiating out.
11. Make sure you’re centered and balanced in your solar plexus as well (your solar plexus is that soft area in the front where your ribs go up).
When the Third Chakra gets clogged up, your sense of Self can suffer. Clearing it out boosts self-confidence and cheerfulness.
“My Solar Plexus Chakra is open and balanced.”
The correction is made when you can palpably feel more present and calm in that area.
There could be a lot of old, even non-existent connections there that need to be expelled to facilitate soul healing.
If the energy around your solar plexus feels stuck or heavy, use this Soul Star Key to help you gently clear them out.
“I release and clear out toxins that are interfering with my clarity.”
12. Whenever working with chakras, you may need to repair and/or strengthen their hara lines for improved communication and healing. Let Starlight Medicine help you visualize your chakras connecting through a golden web of light, powered by the vibration of your Soul.
I gather my consciousness and refocus on the truth that lives in my center.
Your energy is now reconnected and aligned with the central, spiritual source of your being which, in this method, is called the Central Plexus.
13. Continue with this symbol for Divine Protection to close unhealthy or destructive energy channels between you and all the chaos that’s been making you anxious.
Stay with it until you feel even more centered and protected with beneficial energy flowing through you.
Once you’ve got that, you’re ready to access life affirming channels of communication. Visualize all the lines coming together into the center wheel of this symbol.
Do that both crossed and uncrossed until it feels complete.
14. Now you can reunite with your essential instincts, gifts, talents, connections and relationship with the natural world.
If you’re open to it, include your power animal, animal guides, plant helpers and nature spirits.
Ask Dragonfly Medicine to help you see your situation truthfully, from your Soul’s perspective.
Knowing how to access, trust and utilize your natural instincts and self healing abilities is a large part of what needs to happen when navigating confusing situations.
“I organize my Essential Nature in accordance with my highest good.”
“I feel calm, settled and grounded.”
15. Sometimes, things that could be joyful become twisted and out of whack because we’ve over-complicated them. If that’s been happening in this situation, see if you can use Hummingbird Medicine to visualize any twisted or perverse ideas gently unfolding and unwinding.
“I unwind the ideas I hold in my mind.”
Once the strings have relaxed and unwound, pull back and ask your Soul to help you find a simple and joyful response that would be of genuine service to you. Would it be helpful to others as well?
Make a note of what comes to you for future inspiration.
16. Finish with Snake Medicine by allowing it to help you shed old ideas, integrate your new perspective and transform how you’re utilizing your core energy.
You’re ready to ask yourself with greater awareness:
“What is the truth about me and my situation? What do I need to do?”
The answers you get now will help you free yourself of the indecision and confusion that’s been at the core of your anxiety. Your personal power is strengthened and reinforced so you can move forward with greater confidence.
Congratulations!
Go through this exercise as often as you need to – especially at the beginning. That way you’ll set a template for Soul Healing for Anxiety and make a habit of being centered and balanced in the New Paradigm.
This Mind Exercise is Part of Spirit Animal Tracks for Self-healing
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Personalized Energy Clearing with Rheanni Lightwater
If you feel that you need more assistance, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you have questions or need special help.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through Reiki, Energy Medicine, Hypnotherapy, Feng Shui and Shamanic forms of clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].
Disclaimer: This Mind Exercise is not intended take the place of appropriate medical and/or psychiatric care. Soul Resources LLC and Rheanni Lightwater are not licensed to practice medicine. If you are having prolonged or increasing bouts of anxiety, depression or suicidal thoughts, seek immediate medical help. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
