Prosperity in the New Paradigm
The Path to Balanced Prosperity in the New Paradigm
Kuan Yin has been helping us through these I Ching Readings to transition from the old paradigm based on greed and fear to balanced prosperity in the New Paradigm. Her advice about how to manage DETERIORATION springs from the I Ching, an ancient book of divination that follows the flow of the cosmos. Because of that, her advice and instruction comes from a different perspective than ours.
To help you better connect with her assistance, she uses the Intuitive Learning Circles to communicate through meditation, affirmations and visualization. Try going through the game first, and if you have questions about how to use the Circles, you can check out Exploring the Intuitive Learning Circles here >
Kuan Yin’s I Ching Readings and Transformation Games can help you to identify problems, change your focus to positive solutions, ground yourself and get in the present. Simply relax and gaze at the Circles while contemplating Kuan Yins words. Your intuition will come forward and give you the help that you seek.
Welcome to the I Ching Reading and Transformation Game for: Hexagram #23 DETERIORATION (Splitting Apart)
Preparations for Your Journey Out of DETERIORATION and Into Balanced Prosperity in the New Paradigm
First, prepare to let go of what’s left of the old ‘status quo…
“There is an impressive display of DETERIORATION in nearly every aspect of current events with an abundance of incompetent persons in positions of authority.
If you’re feeling hopeless, it’s because you’re getting lost in the chaos, rather than integrating with the energy and opportunities taking form in the New Paradigm.
Slow down for a moment and ask yourself:
“What am I paying attention to and is it helping?”
“Is this what I really want?”
You may be experiencing shock that’s interfering with your ability to adapt and focus on what really matters. Relax and use this affirmation to help you release whatever you’re fixated on. This may take some time.
“I let go of fixations that are trapped in my mind. I let all rigid thoughts soften and melt away.”
There’s a great and accelerated DETERIORATION in matters that pertain to the old ‘status quo.’ This has been going on for some time now and those issues are part of a larger, collective movement in the Cosmos. There is little that you can do to “fix” what’s falling apart, so don’t waste your energy or attention on it. Do what you can to look beyond the apparent disasters and focus on how you can create balanced prosperity in the new paradigm.
What is truly important to you at this time?
Calm yourself with this Circle so that you can perceive things more clearly. Turn down the volume and get your senses into balance.
In order to reclaim your hope and priorities, it’s essential to clear and balance your heart. Gaze softly at this Reiki Chakra Key to clear emotional toxins from your heart chakra. Take all the time you need to bring it into balance.
“My heart radiates with positivity.”
“This chakra is balanced and flows with integrity.”
Now that you’re more centered… confirm that you’re on the best path for you and gently separate from harmful habits.
You can use the Circles in the next section to help you make changes that matter in how you’re managing deterioration and that you can do something about.
Start by checking with your inner guidance to notice if there’s a pathway in your mind that you habitually use that leads you back to harmful habits and patterns from the old paradigm based on fear. There may be more than one.
When pathways are unproductive, it’s helpful to close them in your mind entirely.
Use your imagination and this next Circle to see them all closing.
“I deconstruct harmful pathways and habits that lead me into trouble.”
“I close up any drains that have been wasting my energy.”
Be sure you fill in the void with Love, light, Air and all the elements required for you to flourish in your personal garden of balanced prosperity.
The New Paradigm has a generative energy flow that can support you and your projects. Let this symbol help you close down those old energy channels first.
“I close down all harmful energy channels from the past.”
Now, imagine that this same symbol can help you access a lighter, quicker energy:
“I adapt to the positive flow of chi’ available in the New Paradigm to the best of my ability.”
“I connect to the new, life affirming channels of communication.”
Next… Establish Yourself Firmly in the New Paradigm
If you’ve been moving your consciousness into the New Paradigm for a while, great! However, it would be dangerous to assume that you are already set up properly there or that you know how everything will work. That’s because an evolutionary transformation like this cannot happen all at once! Aspects of each individual and the collective have been entrenched in the old paradigm for a very long time until very recently.
“I let go of assumptions that limit my vitality, my freedom to choose or that pull me off track.”
“I now assume __________ and that I’m going to need to be mindful and stay balanced to move forward effectively.”
Ask your Soul and your deepest, wisest guidance to come forward and be in charge of this transformation. Use the Master Circle to help you gather information about what’s most important at this time.
My Soul is in charge of this transformation and how I establish my myself.”
Slow down and use the Soul Contract Circle to help you let go of things – projects, plans, organizations, people – that no longer serve you. If you let everything move in slow motion, you can begin to sense the things that are still causing problems or keeping you chained to the fear. You can let them go now. Feel your hands letting go. The spine is unlocking from the pain. Your shoulders are dropping. Your jaw is relaxed.
Finish this Game by making sure that you have created a strong connection with Hope through your Soul. Relax into this DNA symbol and imagine that a beautiful, golden helix is gently connecting with your heart.
“I ask my Soul to assist my consciousness in connecting with Hope.”
Congratulations! You have just created better conditions for creating balanced prosperity in the New Paradigm! Now would be a good time to go for a walk and consider your next steps.
You may choose to enlist an Animal Totem guide to help you create balanced prosperity in the New Paradigm over the next few weeks…
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About the Author –
Rheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT lives and practices in Santa Fe, NM. She specializes in mind body healing with family and relationship clearing using Kinesiology, the Intuitive Learning Circles, Reiki as a Master/Teacher, Hypnotherapy and Shamanic Clearing Techniques.
Schedule with Rheanni via Zoom or in person when you visit Santa Fe, New Mexico. Call her at (505) 271-4612 between 10:00am – 5:00pm, MST, Monday through Friday to schedule.
Disclaimer:
Prosperity in the New Paradigm should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment if there is any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
Clear Perception – a Mind Exercise
Intuitive Guidance Using the Loyalty and Clear Perception of Dog Medicine:
Your gut instinct is an awesome inner guidance system and has access to all kinds of information that you’re not consciously aware of. The only trick is that you need to be paying attention! Luckily, you can learn to use Dog Medicine with this Mind Exercise to hone your intuitive abilities and develop clear perception about where you’re heading.
This symbol accesses inner guidance about protection. Gaze at it softly and ask:
“Am I heading in the right direction?”
If the answer you get is “yes,” you don’t need this particular exercise right now.
If you don’t get a clear answer because your mind has gone blank, you would be wise to go through Formula #1 Healing Emotional Shock first, and then come back to this one.
However, if your answer is a clear “no,” take twenty minutes or so out of your schedule and go through this Mind Exercise. A few minutes now could save you a lot of time and trouble later!
First, a word about environmental changes and getting a grasp on the larger picture…
Most people know on the unconscious level that a shift has occurred. However, the conscious mind may still be acting as if everything’s still the same.
In order to ADAPT, it’s very helpful for our minds to have signs and maps to assist us as we navigate the new terrain. That is the reason and purpose for all the symbols and Intuitive Learning Circles on this site.
For example, If you meditate on the “map” available in this image, your mind can get a better grasp of how it can reorganize your energy in the New Paradigm we’ve entered…
The imprint of common ground based on cooperation, joy, equality and balanced prosperity.
If You Would Like To Navigate Your Journey with Clear Perception, You’ll Need to Know If You’re Heading in the Wrong Direction ~
There are several reasons why you might be unconsciously heading in the wrong direction.
For example, your senses may have gotten all knocked out of balance.
With so much going on, it’s easy to be distracted and confused by all the intense change that’s going on around you.
Fortunately, dog energy works incredibly well to help you with your inner guidance system – warning you to slow down and get your feet back under you.
Gaze softly at this Reiki Chakra Key to get your bearings again. Take a minute or two to consciously gather up all your senses and really connect with them for greater awareness.
Another possibility could be that your energy is having a difficult time adjusting to all the significant environmental changes that are taking place. Sudden reversals, blockages and changes in momentum can cause our subtle energy fields to react in unusual ways.
This Correction Key can help you correct any rough glitches or reversals that you may be experiencing in your energy field.
Relax with it for a few minutes until things smooth out and you feel more like yourself again.
Be sure to do that both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body.
Your senses could be turned up too high or too low.
That often happens when our emotions get out of balance. When we spend too much time in the watery depths, we can start to fantasize about how we would like things to be, rather than acknowledging how they actually are.
It’s natural to do that, however, we need to be able to pull back into the here and now and not get too carried away.
Imagine you can use this Circle to adjust the volume for all your senses! Breathe in and take all the time you need.
You don’t want to miss some important information or an opportunity that you need to take advantage of. Dog medicine is here to tell you that something really important is happening right now and you need to be paying attention!
Connect to the new flow of Chi’ available in the New Paradigm. Before you continue, let this symbol help you make changes and connect with the generative energy flow of the New Paradigm.
“I close down harmful energy channels from the past.”
“I adapt to the positive flow of chi’ available in the New Paradigm
to the best of my ability.”
“I connect to the new, life affirming channels of communication.”
Your energy may be scattered because so many things are going on. Or your timing could be off, causing you to jump ahead before it’s a good idea to do so.
Take a moment and bring yourself back into the present. Open and close your hands, take a look at the date and time. Remember your name, the city you’re in or how old you are. Doing these things can really help you get present and aware of what’s going on around you.
Once you feel present, ask yourself:
“Am I jumping to any conclusions about my situation?”
If your answer is “yes,” stop and reconsider before you make any moves. Retrace your steps and see where the error is.
Taking steps one at a time is essential whenever you’re in unfamiliar territory! What else might you need to be aware of?
You may have gotten disconnected from your instinctual nature.
Use the Circle to help you reconnect so that you can get back in touch with your gut instincts, your environment and the things that really matter.
Once you feel connected again, ask yourself:
“Am I getting instinctual messages about things I’m doing or not doing?”
“Is there any part of me that’s holding onto old energy or keeping me unhappy?”
If your answer is “yes” to that last question, it would be wise to stop and follow the guidance you get if you can.
Finally, your energy could be misdirected. We can use intuition to guide us properly, or we can misuse it by giving into wishful thinking, illusion, paranoia and listening to those who would love to sell us up the river with false claims.
Do you sense anything that’s being misused? Is there an old habit that needs to be deconstructed or something draining your energy?
Balanced intuition and instinct can tell you when something really important is happening that you need to be paying attention to!
Before you plunge into the great unknown, take a few more minutes to go through this centering exercise, Develop Clear Perception, where you can make friends with dog energy and get all kinds of insight and guidance.
Slow Down and Get Your Feet Firmly Planted On the Ground
Gaze softly at the center open space of this Circle while you go through a few positive affirmations. If there’s a question, just be open to your gut response.
“I slow down because things may be moving too fast for me to sense the truth.”
“I’m willing to admit I don’t know what’s going on. Asking for help is a blessing.”
“Is my inner guidance sending me a warning?”
“Do I need to let go of something? Change something?”
“Do my instincts want to redirect my attention to a solution or something else?”
“In either case, am I willing to listen and learn?”
You may be surprised at the answers that are coming to you. If it didn’t work, relax! You can go back and do it again. Journaling is often a help.
Be sure to check the directions again and follow them if you’re not sure.
Use this next Circle the same way with this affirmation:
“I allow clear perception to heighten my instincts and intuition.”
Then ask:
“Am I willing to trust in the power of balanced intuition and instinct?”
“Is the ‘vibe’ around me helpful or harmful?”
Very interesting, isn’t it? We instinctively know when the “vibe” is right or wrong, but we often don’t appreciate the messages we get. We doubt and second-guess ourselves or we might willfully ignore our inner guidance system and try to force our way through.
Look at the Circle again and ask,
“Am I heading in the direction of my best interest?”
“Am I making decisions that are in my best interests?”
“Am I taking actions that are helpful, harmful, misguided or simply ineffective?”
If you’re not clear yet, keep going with the exercise. You may need a few more easy corrections before the truth emerges.
Clear Perception and Being Present
Often, how well we listen to our inner guidance is affected by how present we are in our bodies. It’s called gut instinct because when we’re really present, we can feel it in our solar plexus (the soft area in the front where our ribs go up).
In times of confusion and stress, the solar plexus chakra can close down or get blocked off. Use this Chakra Key to make sure it’s open and functioning properly.
You can use the Circle below with its positive affirmations to help you become more centered and aware in that solar plexus area. Just relax and breathe while you gently look at it for a couple of minutes. Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience…
“I detach from confusion and chaotic energy.”
“I am present, upright and facing forward. I am willing to hear the truth.”
“I maintain a position that keeps me balanced, centered and grounded in the truth.”
Once you’ve finished centering yourself, hopefully, you’re feeling much better!
Use Dog Medicine to Handle Your Agreements Appropriately:
Another big reason why we might not perceive clearly is because there’s some kind of problem with an agreement or commitment we’ve entered into on some level. In this busy, modern life, people tend to take their agreements too lightly and don’t realize how important their word is.
Perhaps paying attention to what we say seems like too much effort or too complicated. Yet, if you really want to be be loyal to yourself, being clear about your word and your agreements is super important. Especially agreements that you’ve made with yourself!
Here’s some tips about how to handle agreements successfully:
- You can keep your agreements and stay in integrity with your word.
- You can release agreements when they’re complete or no longer serve you.
- Or, you can consciously re-negotiate them when they need to be changed.
By the way, it’s also a good idea to pay attention if someone hasn’t been keeping their agreements with you. If that’s happening, it’s best to deal with the indiscretion asap. When we allow someone to break their word with us and then say or do nothing about it, we lose our own integrity by being disloyal to ourselves.
Stay Calm and Take a Few Deep Breaths:
It’s okay. Our situations are changing at a rapid pace and so are our priorities. To help you identify problem agreements, use this Circle to help you slow down again. Focus on yourself and your current goals. Ask yourself:
“Have I been trying to keep agreements that are harmful to me? Is it time to renegotiate a pertinent agreement? or Am I overlooking an important agreement that I need to follow through on?”
If so, can you tell what those agreements are about? Take all the time you need with this… what insights do you get? If you ignore them, they may turn around and bite you!
Use this Soul Contract Circle to imagine that any harmful agreements you may have are like contracts that can be melted down to adjust for what’s needed or burned up entirely. Use the Circle to visualize all harmful contracts interacting with a sacred, violet flame. Here’s some affirmations to assist you if you like:
“I release all agreements that no longer serve me.”
“I let go of ___________. I reframe ____________. I stop ____________.”
Possible new agreements could be:
“I am loyal and true to my Self. My needs are a priority.”
“I have faith. I listen to my instincts and take good care of my Self.”
“I ________________________________.”
Use Dog Medicine to Help You Find Your Way:
Now it’s time to redirect your attention to helpful people, opportunities and places. For additional help, ask these questions:
“What is my priority at this time?”
“What is my natural place in this situation – where do I belong?”
“Am I operating in the New Paradigm based on equality, co-operation and sustainable prosperity or the old paradigm based on fear and greed?”
“Does something need to change?”
“Is something out of place, missing or out of order?”
“Am I listening to bad advice?”
“Am I heading in the right direction?”
Dissolve Destructive Blueprints
Use this symbol to help you gather up any misunderstandings, mistaken ideas or miscommunications and release them to the Light.
“I release all obstructions to clear perception.”
Let any confusion or heaviness you may feel lift up and out of you like dark clouds are dissolving into beautiful sunlight.
Please note: Never send destructive energies into the Earth, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of happiness and life – not death!
Close the Door on Confusion and Turn Your Energy Around.
Finally! It’s time to close the door on all those misuses of your time, attention and energies!
“I close the door on any drain or strain on my time, space, attention or energy.”
“I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”
“I trust the wisdom of balanced intuition and instinct.”
“I have clarity about which direction I need to go.”
Congratulations!
You now have clear perception about what’s really important to you and some guidance about what to do about it. Not only that, you’ve just gotten a key insight that’s going to save you a lot of trouble in the long run!
Specialized Energy Clearing with the Author of Soul Oriented Solutions
If you feel that Clear Perception has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel off track or distracted.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].
Disclaimer:
This Mind Exercise should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
Know When Someone Is Lying
It seems like lying, misinformation and half-truths are everywhere. How can you know when someone is lying to you and when they’re telling the truth?
Did you know that you instinctually know when someone is lying to you?
Your gut instinct is a very good lie detector – as long as you’re present and paying attention! It’s just that for some reason, the information is being blocked from your conscious awareness and you can’t see the signs.
Some lies are obvious, yet in today’s social and political landscape, lies seem to get recycled over and over in the sheer overload of information and misconceptions. Group think. Betrayal. Herd mentality. It’s like a fly that keeps coming back to irritate you no matter what you do!
In this exercise we’re going to sort through some garbage that might be keeping you in the dark.
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One of the biggest problems is shock. Unfortunately, unresolved shock can take up a lot of mental bandwidth and keep us from being able to discern properly. It can actually make us numb to all the lies that are bombarding us from every direction. That’s why we’re going to start this game by clearing out any shock that might block your ability to sense when someone is lying to you outright.
Take several deep breaths and relax while you look at this Circle that helps you release shock and inner conflict.
Imagine you can use it to focus in on a conflict or dark corner of your mind that’s bothering you at the moment.
What are you concerned about?
You may get a conscious image or message, or you may not.
If your mind is blank or frozen, focus on how “blank” or “frozen” it is, then relax into it with your body.
Once you have a sense that your mind has found the blockage, imagine that you can melt it, like a big iceberg floating out in the ocean. Just melting away in the Sun.
Allow your iceberg to melt away – until it’s completely gone.
Check for other conflicts or dark thoughts that you can do the same with.
It helps to gaze softly at each Circle both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body for full integration.
Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience!
Once you’ve done that, you’re ready to continue with the main exercise…
Know When Someone is Lying to You
You may have a “blind spot.” For some reason, you’ve been conditioned to ignore certain things or not see things coming. You may be able to remedy some of that by gazing softly at this Reiki Chakra Key, together with these positive affirmations:
“I reclaim and balance all of my senses.”
“I use them to be present and alert.”
“I use them to sense what will keep me safe, productive and well.”
“I can clearly sense what will help me to _______________.”
Your thought process may have been thrown for a loop or you could be in a state of confusion due to so much information and so many changes going on around you. Excess emotional stress can cause problems with switching, which is where your body and mind have gotten out of sync with each other.
In that situation, a part of the mind gets confused about which direction is which and is unable to communicate properly to the rest of you, including your body. Other terms for this might be dyslexia or the “twisties”.
Use this Circle to help you get your bearings again. It helps to use affirmations like:
“I am positioned correctly inside my body.”
“Right is to the right of me. Left is to the left of me.”
“Up is above me and down is below me.”
“I am inside of me. Others are outside of me.”
Another possibility is that you’re being distracted. Distractions are a liar’s best friend, because if you’re not paying attention, liars can get away with all kinds of things.
To see if this is happening with you, experiment with this Circle that helps you focus your attention. If you follow the directions, you’ll get useful answers that could really help you out.
All you have to do is relax and gaze softly at the center open space of this Circle while you ask yourself some simple “yes” or “no” questions. Be sure to be receptive and listen for the answers that come.
“Am I being lied to?
Is this a deliberate all- out lie or is there a misunderstanding going on?
Are half-truths involved? Betrayal?
If so, do I know who’s involved?
Male or female? More than one person?
Is this group-think or propaganda?
Could it involve an idea or project I’m working with?”
Sometimes we sabotage ourselves with negative self-talk or false inner guidance. This Circle can help you be more aware of it.
“Is something based on a lie I don’t know about?”
“Am I listening to some false guidance?”
“Am I inadvertently lying to myself?”
“Do I have a blind spot here?”
“In this situation, what is the truth about me?”
You may be surprised at the answers that came to you. If it didn’t work, you can go back and do it again. Repetition builds confidence!
If the answer you get is “no, I’m not being lied to,” count yourself lucky, you’re a very fortunate person! If the answer is “yes” or “maybe”, you might want to continue with the following extra-intuitive activities to see what’s going on and get some clarity around the issue.
We might block information about a lie because we don’t want to believe it!
Of course, this is understandable, yet the lies or misconceptions could really be doing some damage.
It doesn’t do any good to pretend that something isn’t a problem when it actually is. When we try to deny the truth, we’re actually sabotaging our own best intentions.
The good news is, if you know when someone is lying or giving you incorrect information, you have an opportunity to save yourself from a tremendous amount of damage.
Use this Circle to gently ask yourself:
“Am I willing to know when someone isn’t telling the truth?”
“In this situation, am I blocking myself from the truth?”
Use this next Circle the same way and ask:
“Am I willing to know what the lie is?”
“Is it helpful for me to know in this case?”
“If I’m not willing, am I open to the possibility?”
Very interesting, isn’t it? We instinctively know when someone is lying, but we often don’t want to know. Look at the Circle again and ask: “Is there a part of me that’s being left in the dark?”
“How much damage has been done?”
“About how long has this been going on?”
“Do I want to shift my perspective and see things as they really are?”
If you’re not clear what the lie is yet, keep going with the exercise. You may need a few more corrections before the truth emerges.
A lot of times, how we see these things is affected by how present we are in our bodies. It’s called gut instinct because when we’re really present, we can feel it in our solar plexus (the soft area in the front where our ribs go up). You can use this Circle to help you become more aware of what you’re feeling there. Just relax and breathe while you gently look at it for a minute or so.
“I am present and aware.”
Another reason why we might not want to know about the lie is because we’re afraid that we won’t know what to do about it once we find out. Perhaps we don’t want to face it and it seems easier to blame others or just look the other way.
“I am present and willing to hear the truth. I face the facts.”
“I use the information I get to benefit me.”
Having courage to face the truth is one of the most important things we can develop in ourselves. A mind without courage cannot expand and learn new ways of being.
Use this Circle to help you remember a time when you had the courage to face the truth and do what needed to be done. Once you find that experience, relax and let your body remember what it feels like.
“I have the courage, the resources and the capacity to face the truth.”
When you’re under the influence of a lie, it’s useful to release your agreement to fall under its spell. Use this Soul Contract Circle to imagine that the lie (or lies) are like contracts that you can burn. Use the Circle to visualize all those contracts burning up into ashes. Let these affirmations assist you if you like:
“I release all agreements to be used, intimidated, entrapped or ______.”
“I let go of the lies from _________ and the lies about _________.”
I discard any tendencies to be careless, foolish, misguided or cheated.”
“I make a decision to take good care of myself. I protect myself against lies, deception and betrayal. My Soul knows what’s best for me to do.”
Sometimes it’s really important to face the truth and understand what’s required of us to change. Use the Circle below like you did with the others and give yourself a chance to reorganize your awareness.
“I reorganize my mind to pay attention to and trust my instincts.
I naturally know what to do.”
Make notes of what you think would be helpful to you. “When it comes to __________, it would help to __________ and ___________.”
We often overlook, ignore or forget the details and other alternatives available to us. Use the center, open area of this Circle to help you focus in on the details of your situation.
“Is there some other detail that I need to be more aware of?”
“Are there other options or choices I could make?”
Stay with it and wait patiently for new information to make its way to you.
Meditate on the DNA symbol with this affirmation. Relax into it with your mind, body and Soul.
“I find an opening for the truth. The path is clear.”
Once you can sense that opened path, ask yourself this important question:
“What is the best, most joyful thing for me to do in this situation?”
Empower your ability to follow through with what is best for you.
“I am empowered to connect with my deepest, wisest guidance and to follow through with my highest good in mind.”
Congratulations! You now know when someone is lying to you – and when you listen to your gut, you know what to do!
You’ve just given yourself an amazing gift that’s going to save you a lot of trouble in the long run. Be sure to close the door on old emotional channels of misinformation and pain.
“All holes are sealed and healed.
I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”
Now is a good time to take a walk or go out into Nature to help this all integrate!
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About the Author
Rheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel unclear or overwhelmed.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].
Disclaimer:
This game should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment if there is any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
How To Develop Healthy Boundaries
SOS Self-care Formula #6: Develop Healthy Boundaries
Many people, especially those who are highly sensitive or empathic, want to learn how to develop healthy boundaries because they are so open to thoughts and energies coming from other people. Sometimes those thoughts get attached in their minds and spin around, causing a great deal of discomfort.
If the pathways remain open, all kinds of trouble (karma, issues, illness or confusion) can pass back and forth between people without their awareness. If left unchecked, this type of attachment can manifest in negativity, sudden and mysterious illnesses, mental confusion, issues with prosperity or chronic states of overwhelm.
It’s a valuable skill to know how to shift your energy and Develop Healthy Boundaries.
Self-care Formula #4 from SOS – Soul Oriented Solutions uses affirmations and the Intuitive Learning Circles to help you learn to consciously close off the pathways to negative thoughts or emotions and shift into a more positive mindset. Here’s an example of how it works. Simply gaze softly at the Circle while you contemplate each of these positive affirmations:
“I reclaim and balance my five senses.”
“I focus them to be present and aware of appropriate boundaries.”
“I use them to become aware of intrusive thoughts, attachments, illness and confusion so that I can let them go.”
“I focus on a hopeful future and productive actions that will benefit my health and happiness.”
Use Develop Healthy Boundaries when you are:
- Agitated or feeling out of sync
- Distressed by recent news
- Getting negative or anticipating hardship
- Feeling claustrophobic
- Unable to meditate or sit still
- Obsessed with a particular person or situation.
Here’s how it works: Find a quiet place if possible, where you won’t be disturbed. Follow the sequence of symbols while you read their accompanying instructions. Gaze gently at each Circle for about two minutes. A longer or shorter time may be necessary.
Mind Body Integration
For best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.
Let yourself breathe and relax as much as possible. Don’t worry if the images move around or change in any way. That just means the Circles are working and that your mind and body are relaxing.
Be sure to go through the entire formula and at the end, give yourself time to rest and integrate.
Developing a quiet mind and light heart changes your perspective and that makes it easier to follow through with your true priorities.
Gently contemplate each step for clarity and better boundaries…
Step 1. Balance
Begin by consciously breathing in on the count of three and slowly exhaling on the count of five. It’s helpful if you can breathe in through your nose. Do that three or four times while you gaze softly at the Circle.
Continue breathing and bring your awareness to your tailbone.
What do you need to get in balance about?
Step 2: Decision
In order to develop healthy boundaries, there is a decision that you need to make for yourself. Be clear about what you actually want for yourself and how you’re responding in this situation. State it directly and decisively.
Note: Negative or wishy-washy requests get negative, wishy-washy results. Overly idealistic or ambitious requests tend to create chaos and overwhelm.
Think it through and write down a positive declaration for yourself.
What results do you actually want to experience?
Step 3. Letting Go
Your decision probably brings up conflicts. Use this Circle to melt away any hard thoughts, feelings or resistance that blocks your ability to see things clearly and take action.
The key is to relax into whatever you’re feeling and breathe. You can imagine that the lines in the Circle are going limp and moving around like wet noodles.
What tension or worry do you need to let go of?
Step 4. Protection
This symbol will help you develop healthy boundaries by providing an improved interface with your environment. We all need assistance in making the transition from the old paradigm of Water (Piscean Age) to the New Paradigm of Air (Aquarian Age). Relax and close down all heavy or destructive energy channels that your mind or body may be open and vulnerable to.
Do you feel a sense of protection?
Step 5. Natural Instincts
Now that you’re more relaxed, use this Circle to gather up your natural gifts, talents and instincts that will help you reclaim and strengthen your boundaries.
Make sure you’ve got your feet on the ground so that you can get back in touch with the things that really matter. Activate your gut instincts, engage your Essence and the power that comes from your Soul.
What will help you connect with your instincts?
Step 6. Intention
Give yourself permission to slow down and focus your energy on your intention. Turn your attention to what really needs to happen.
For example, you’ll want to know if you’re internalizing something or if you’re trying to take care of something that isn’t yours to be concerned with.
What is the necessary information I need to gather from my unconscious mind?
Don’t worry. You don’t need to have it all figured out. The issue may be too confusing to make sense of it yet.
Just let the Circle help you percolate what’s involved with this boundary issue.
Step 7. Soul Color
You may be taking on other peoples vibration without being aware of it.
Using your own Soul color and vibration will strengthen your autonomy, integrity and good health. To help you find it, remember a time when you successfully manifested something physical. What color comes to mind?
“I recognize my Souls unique color vibration.”
“I know who I am. I distinguish my energy from the energy of others.”
“All aspects of my Essence are willing to utilize my Soul color for success.”
Step 8. Centering
Connect your decision with the strength and integrity of your Soul. Bring in your Soul Color and conscious awareness to amplify this affirmation:
“I decide to connect with the truth of my Soul and love my Self.”
When you’re ready, notice where you are in your room or environment.
What is to the left of you and what is to the right of you?
Make sure that you’re centered in your own body.
“I am inside of me. Everything else is outside.”
Step 9. Empowerment
Empower your ability to follow through with your decision.
“I exist and am empowered through my Souls connection.”
“I nourish myself with Soul knowing and heart wisdom.”
“I am empowered to take good care of myself and develop healthy boundaries.”
Continue by making your own affirmations that apply to your decision:
“I am empowered to _____________.”
Step 10. Calm
Keep breathing with your belly soft and relaxed. Let your shoulders drop. Continue using your Soul color with this Chart to expel excess energy from your nervous system. Slow down and clear away noise, clutter and static.
Come back into the calm and rhythm of your Soul.
What thoughts help to relax you?
Step 11. Repair
If you’re having trouble, this Key can help you correct any blockages, rough static, glitches or reversals that might be causing trouble in your energy field.
Relax with it for a few minutes until things smooth out.
Be sure to do that both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body.
Step 12. Perception
It helps to see things the way they really are.
Gaze softly at this Circle and imagine you can turn down the feelings or thoughts that are turned up too high or too low, just like the volume on a radio.
“I decide to perceive this situation clearly and calmly.”
What are you seeing differently about this situation?
Step 13. Change
In order to follow through with manifesting healthy boundaries, some things are going to have to change. Identify what needs to happen:
“Does something need to change?”
“What do I need to do differently to develop healthy boundaries?”
“What actions would help me?”
If you’re not clear yet, keep going with the exercise.
You may need a few more easy corrections before the truth emerges.
Step 14. Resolution
You probably need to change some agreements or do some things differently. To help you find out what they are, examine what causes confusion for you when you consider these affirmations:
“I decide to stay centered and follow through on the highest good.”
“My health and happiness are important.”
“I easily deflect foreign energies and other peoples thoughts or expectations.”
There is always more than one way to approach a situation.
What new approach do you need to take? What agreements need to change?
Step 15. Detachment
There may be attachments or karmic entanglements blocking your solution.
Use this Soul Star Chakra Key to detach from them. Relax and meditate on for several minutes. Like a healing balm, imagine that a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you.
Are you willing to neutralize interfering energies and detach from them?
If not, are you willing to change the agreement that binds you to them?
Step 16. Freedom
Allow this symbol for dissolving destructive blueprints to clear out underlying patterns of confusion, abuse and harmful karmic relationships out of your mind.
Let any remaining heaviness or karmic entanglements around this situation lift up and out of you.
Dark clouds are dissolving into blue skies and sunlight
Please note: Never send destructive energies into the Earth, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of happiness and life – not death!
Step 17. Closure
Use the Circle to help you close any harmful openings or pathways that would leave you open to the distractions and interference of the external world.
Close the doors and seal the leaks – as if they were never there.
You are calm and ready to follow through now. Your mind is able to rest.
Are you heading in the right direction?
If not, imagine that your Soul is turning you to face the right direction.
Step 18. Clean Up
A necessary part of having healthy boundaries is in making sure that we don’t get sucked back into unhealthy dynamics, otherwise, we’ll just get entangled again!
Take the time now to deconstruct any leftover habits and shut down any leaks that have been draining your energy. Fill in any voids with loving gratitude.
Are you experiencing any more drains to your energy?
Step 17. Completion
Finally, you want to make sure that you’re no longer connected through entanglements that keep you connected to old places or behaviors you don’t want to go back to anymore. Allow this Circle to make sure you’re free of harmful ties, cords or vows to continue participating in abuse:
“I let go of all harmful vows or obligations
to be connected to dangerous energies or abusive situations.”
Congratulations! Give yourself time to rest and integrate.
Take a walk or enjoy some time out in Nature.
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Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].
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Simplify Your Life
Transformation Game: Simplify Your Life
The energy continues to change! As we step more fully into the New Paradigm, the ability to ADAPT and Simplify Your Life promises to be more valuable than ever.
Transformation Games are inspired by Kuan Yin, a beloved and respected healing guide among natural health and energy medicine practitioners.
*Caution! Her advice, as always, is direct and to the point! You will want to get out something to take notes with.
Welcome to the I Ching Reading and Transformation Game for:
Hexagram # 17 – ADAPTING by Simplifying Your Life
“Simplicity is the path of inner direction and self worth. Examine your goals and the standards you have set for yourself. If they are unworthy, inefficient or nonexistent, it will be difficult to make significant progress in a productive direction. ADAPTING your mindset and how you’re using your energy is the appropriate response at this time. Use your inner wisdom to adjust to the realities of your new environment. See things through the lens of common sense and inner guidance. Dispense with ungrounded over-indulgences in whatever form they take.
To clear away complications and wasted effort, it may be necessary for you to refocus and look at your situation from a more objective perspective. You may even find that you need to get out of your own way! As you re-examine your efforts, remember the strength and power that lives within you. By ADAPTING to your new awareness and simplifying your life, you will find many unexpected rewards.”
This Game is made up of Intuitive Learning Circles, pertinent questions and positive affirmations that will:
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- give you a new perspective
- activate your heart wisdom and
- help you ADAPT to a simpler mindset by clearing up mental and emotional clutter.
Some questions to consider as you play Simplify Your Life are:
“Am I making things more complicated than they need to be?”
“Am I wasting my time and energy chasing after too many things?” or
“How can I focus on the aspects of my life that are most important at this time and prioritize my actions?”
If you contemplate one or more of these questions for a few minutes and then go through the game, you’ll be able to shift your attitude and refocus your mind very quickly.
Why Simplify Your Life?
“The pressures of life seem to increase everyday so we need to find guidance that comes from a reliable source. Go through the sequence anytime you feel scattered or overwhelmed. By going within and allowing your Inner Guidance to show you the way, you can simplify your life, make productive decisions and move forward with greater self confidence while you let the chaos take a back seat.”
How to Play Simplify Your Life:
Simply look at the sequence of Circles below while you ponder the questions or positive affirmations that go with them.
Mind Body Integration
For best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.
Take a few breaths and relax. Use a soft focus to help you go within and access new energy and clarity. What you do with the information you come up with is up to you!
Simplify Your Life:
1. To begin, look at this symbol with a soft, relaxed gaze. Repeat to yourself several times:
“I am ready, willing and able to shift my perception from scattered to focused – from complexity to simplicity – from ineffective to effective priorities.”
2. While looking at this next Circle, think about the different activities you are engaged in. Ask yourself:
“Am I putting too much pressure on myself?”
“Am I spreading myself too thin?”
“Have I been seeing this situation honestly?”
3. Notice if the whole situation makes you feel anxious or uneasy. Breathe a few times and allow this Circle to help you to calm down and see more clearly.
Imagine you can adjust the volume on your senses. like a radio dial.
4. Use this symbol from Reiki Chakra Keys to open and balance your third eye chakra. You can do this by gently gazing into the Key while you relax and breathe for a minute or two. Use this positive affirmation to help:
“I open up to my intuition and common sense so that I can become aware of what I truly need.”
5. Use Old Sol from Gifts from the Rainforest and ask for help from your Soul to simplify your life and balance your priorities. Once you’ve made a sincere request, be patient and listen for guidance.
“I need to _______________.”
6. Now that you’ve cleared up some of your misperceptions, you can use these next few Circles to help you separate fact from fiction. Start by asking yourself:
“What percentage of the work that I’m doing is actually benefitting me?”
“Are there any activities or assumptions I’m making that are actually a waste of my time and pulling me off track?”
If so, can you name what they are?
Does it seem as though you’re just circling around and around without getting what’s really important done? Are you being as direct and efficient as you could be?
Describe what your experience has been like.
“Is there clutter I could clear up that would help me get back on track?”
Is it even your clutter? If it belongs to someone else, use the Circle to visualize sweeping it all up and sending it to the Light so that it can go to wherever it belongs.
“Am I wasting energy and time due to lack of focus?”
“Is there some other issue that I need to be aware of?”
7. Relax for a minute and tune into your solar plexus area. Let the energy get balanced in your 3rd chakra.
8. Is there something about the situation that reminds you of the way your family sometimes behaves? How about someone else that you know? If so, are you willing to let it go? Gently visualize letting that energy go to the Light and disappearing.
9. Relax with this image and affirmation for a minute or two.
“I am willing and able to let go of complications and simplify my life.”
10. Take your time and use this Circle to clear confusion or complexities out of your mind. You may see them as a million details, numbers, calculations or just a bunch of heavy smoke.
“I clear away the smoke screen so I can see what would actually help me.”
11. As you gaze softly at this symbol from Divine Nature Activated, imagine that you can clear up the communication lines between your mind and your body.
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- If communication lines seem tangled up, see them going to the Sun and disappearing.
- If communication seems outdated, see your internal system upgrading.
- If you seem disconnected, imagine your communication lines straightening out and connecting properly within yourself and the outside world.
(You’ll want to do this while you’re both crossed and uncrossed over the mid-line of your body).
12. Once you’re perceiving things more clearly, ask a few more questions:
“What am I struggling with and am I willing to let it go?”
If you are willing, pull your energy out of the complexity and let it go to the Light as you did with the others.
If you’re not willing to let it go, at least you now know what’s really going on.
13. Now that you’ve gone through the Simplify Your Life Game, see if you can use the Throat Chakra Key to give voice to what’s really important.
“I access my true voice and can express what I truly need.
I need to _______________.”
14. Place your intention in the middle of this Circle and consciously send your energy towards it for improved manifesting. Just like aiming at a bull’s eye!
15. Help yourself to move forward in the right direction by using this Circle to seal and heal all the holes that may drain your energy or lead you back into distractions and complications.
“All holes are sealed and healed.”
“I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”
16. Finish the game by making sure that your aura is repaired and strong – a finishing step that will improve your health and focus even more!
Congratulations!
Thank yourself for taking the time today to clarify between things that are helpful and those that aren’t. You’ve given voice to what’s important right now and as a result, saved yourself a lot of time and trouble. Not only that, you’ve let go of some epigenetic patterning that’s been cluttering up the situation. This is a positive step in the right direction!
Bring the energy of gratitude in towards the center and let it connect with an inner fountain of gratitude that lives in your heart.
“I am empowered to simplify my life. I am ready, willing and able to follow through on my true priorities.”
Now is a good time to take a walk or go out into Nature to help this all integrate. Be prepared for new ideas and solutions to make their way towards you.
This Mind Exercise is Part of Animal Totem Tracks for Self-healing
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About the Author
Rheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT lives and practices in Santa Fe, NM and has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you want more help simplifying your life.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].
Disclaimer:
This Transformation Game should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment if there is any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
