Protected: Healing Emotional Abuse
Finding Moderation In the New Paradigm
Do You Feel Overwhelmed About What’s Next? Finding Moderation is the Key to Navigating Extremes.
Kuan Yin has been helping us to transition from the old paradigm based on greed and extremism to a new paradigm of equality, peaceful co-operation with Nature and balanced prosperity. Her advice about finding moderation springs from the I Ching, an ancient book of divination that follows the flow of the cosmos. Because of that, her insight comes from a different perspective than ours.
Kuan Yin’s Readings and Transformation Games can help you to identify problems, change your focus to positive solutions, ground yourself and get in the present. Simply relax and gaze at the Circles while contemplating Kuan Yins words. Your intuition will come forward and give you the help that you seek.
Welcome to the I Ching Reading and Transformation Game for: Hexagram # 15 – Finding Moderation
“In times of difficulty and danger, it’s usually best to move with the flow of MODERATION, Hexagram #15, where ‘The predominant forces … are in the process of balancing extremes and harmonizing interests.’ ~ The I Ching Workbook, R.L. Wing, Random House, NYC, NY, 1979
The ancient Chinese text describes finding MODERATION as the best way to make progress amidst chaos. The suggestion is to disengage from confusing extremes or opinionated attitudes and instead, follow the guidance that comes from within. In almost any situation, if you are able to walk the middle road between extremes, there will be improvement in whatever you undertake.”
Finding Moderation and Following that Path ~
As a general rule, MODERATION is the most sensible flow to follow, especially since so much chaos is playing out in the wake of environmental, political and social change. The karma for deeply held misunderstandings and conflicts has been activated and people are dealing it in a variety of ways.
Most people are navigating through one or another of these general karmic patterns:
- Getting pulled into a negative mental, emotional, physical or spiritual decline.
- Returning to sleepy indifference, apathy or self-righteous denial.
- Elevated by greed, hatred, resentment or revenge.
- Getting scattered or lost survival patterns from the past, or
- Pulling themselves together into a centered position of balance and stability.
Initial Evaluation: As you softly gaze at this Circle, see which of these patterns you are currently experiencing. Ask yourself:
“Am I generally experiencing pattern #1, 2, 3, 4 or 5?”
It could easily be a mix, depending on your mindset and what stage of the karma you’re living through.
Regardless of what’s happening, you can make your life easier by letting go of old agreements or karma that’s over and done with. This game will help you do that.
First, Let’s Address Conflict that’s Caused by Collective Shock.
Let’s face it. The past decade has been filled with one jarring event after another. Consequential changes are happening daily. Give yourself and others a break by realizing that you might be caught in a reactive pattern because you’ve received so many repeated shocks to your system. See what happens if you look at this Circle and relax for a minute or so. Breathe deeply and imagine that the conflicts in your mind are melting away like ice melting under the light of the Sun.
You may find that your attachment to those reactive patterns could melt away as well!
Mind Body Integration
For best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.
Feel free to move at any time in any way to help you embody your experience!
The Underlying Structures of Our Lives Are Changing Rapidly.
From wildfires to hurricanes and power outages to socio/political chaos, it’s important to acknowledge the continuous and ongoing effect that the stress is having on us. Use this Circle to help you deconstruct the recurring karma and close up any drains that are exhausting you.
“I shut down all drains that are causing me to lose energy.”
“I deconstruct harmful habits and holes in my energy field.”
Finding Moderation in Your Emotional Responses.
Release Your Attachments to the Old Paradigm.
The old status quo was built on extreme and oppressive social, religious and moral dogmas that used force and fear to control others. Most of us are still tapping into that divisiveness in one way or another because we’ve been wired to react to events out of defensiveness (fear), attack (outrage) or submission (giving up).
It would be wise to detach from those ways of handling ourselves because they have lost their ground. To find out if you’re still giving them power, ask yourself:
“Am I unconsciously tapping into extreme emotions?”
Remember, emotions are just energy in motion. They are not solid things and they aren’t who you are! Let this Soul Prayer Chart help you find the flow of harmful emotions that are running through your mind so that you can effectively detach from them.
The recent change from the Piscean Age (Water) to the Aquarian Age (Air) has caused some instability in how we process our thoughts and emotions. You can decide that your response to events can be more Air based than Water based. Here are some suggested affirmations to use with this diagram:
“I decide to bring my intuition and common sense into balance.”
“I lead with sensible thought rather than emotional reactions.”
“I do my best to keep my mind positive and my intention clear.”
My wellbeing is important and I decide to stay balanced and moderate my responses.”
Release Codependent Behaviors.
Protect Yourself from Being Dumped On or Scapegoated.
In times of increased conflict and instability, it’s common for people who want to avoid responsibility to systemically dump their issues, problems and karma onto others who they hope will accept the blame.
You don’t have to accept the blame anymore. Send those issues back – to each their own!
People who have a tendency to take on other people’s problems are often mistakenly organizing their life around the problem and being “the fixer.”
If you’ve been trained that you need to be liked or to fix things when other people are unhappy, you can trap yourself by taking on more than your part of a difficult situation. You can clarify this by asking yourself these questions:
“What is my part in this situation? What am I actually responsible for?”
“Is my desire to help joyful, or has it become twisted in some way?”
If it’s twisted, relax with the Circle and let it unwind. Now you can find moderation in what’s motivating you.
“What action could I take in this situation that would actually be helpful?”
When we buy into codependent behaviors, we are inadvertently complicating matters and preventing things from working themselves out in a simpler, more direct way.
To help you set things right, use this symbol with the affirmations to release attachments to the malaise of codependent and destructive behavior:
“I let go of attachments and blame. I detach from sticky, toxic energies.”
I create autonomy and resilient optimism.”
Like a healing balm, imagine that a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you!
This Correction Key will also help. Use these positive affirmations:
“I correct or move past reversals, blockages and jagged energies.”
“I have a clear and direct connection with my Soul.”
Let Go of Harmful Karmic Agreements and Energies.
Use this Soul Contract Circle to help you identify and release any social, familial or religious agreements that prevent you from being present for yourself or that pull you out of balance. Simply gaze softly at the Circle while you use the affirmations.
“I release any agreement that says I’m powerless or have no choice.”
“I release all agreements to allow myself to be shamed, blamed or manipulated in any way.”
“I let go of my agreements to stay stuck in or comply with harmful behaviors associated with the old paradigm.” (extremism, slavery, deceit, greed, prejudice, intimidation, control, manipulation, dishonesty, people pleasing, etc.)
“I stay away from _____________.” “I can say ‘no’ to ___________.”
“I clarify my priorities and communicate them directly, with kindness.”
“I have autonomy over my body, my mind, my energy and how I use them.”
Let Go of Intentions That You Don’t Need Anymore.
Release yourself from intentions with family, friends or business relationships that cause conflict and block your ability to move forward freely. Consider old jobs, organizations you’ve been involved with – religious institutions, political agendas, completed projects, hobbies, places you’ve lived, modes of transportation, ways of communicating or doing business, etc.
“I let go of out-dated, extreme or conflicting intentions that are harmful to me.”
What intentions will actually serve you now? Do they need to be clarified, simplified or re-organized? What do you need to have happen for yourself?
“My intentions are moderate, helpful and life affirming.”
Unearth Old Emotional Garbage and Karmic Patterns.
Use this symbol for Dissolving Destructive Blueprints to identify and release any mental or emotional patterns that are causing you harm. See the Light opening up so that you can surrender them:
“I gather destructive patterns or energies and release them to the Light.
I dissolve my connection to them, so that they may be set free and transformed.”
Please note: Never send pain or harmful energies into the Earth to be neutralized, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of life, health and happiness – not death, illness and unhappiness!
Close the Door on Harmful Paths or Unnecessary Suffering.
Finish this part of the game by closing the door on harmful activities, agendas and pathways that lead back to unhealthy patterns. Take all the time you need. There are probably a lot of them.
“All doors and pathways that lead to suffering are sealed and healed.”
“I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”
Congratulations! You will probably want to take a short break to move around and let all this integrate. Come back in a few minutes, so you can apply all this newfound freedom to your future!
Refocus Your Energy to Clarify Your Priorities.
Visualize what’s truly important to you in the center open space of this Circle. Do you feel uncentered? Is your energy scattered? If so, take a moment to center yourself in your solar plexus area and aim your energy in the center open space like a bull’s eye.
“I center myself and consciously direct my energy towards truly beneficial activities and priorities.”
Don’t forget to include appropriate rest, fun and relaxation!
Recalibrate Your Energy to Truly Support What You Need Now.
Devote your energy to finding MODERATION in how you use your energy.
“I connect with my Heart Center and am guided by my true Spiritual Source.”
“I exist and am empowered to create a hopeful future and ________.”
Finish by Invoking Protection and Clarity of Mind:
Gaze softly at this symbol for Divine Protection and generative life force in the New Paradigm.
“I close down all harmful energy channels from the past.”
“My mind is open and clear to receive generative life force.”
“I learn to utilize the generative flow of chi’ to successfully manifest and communicate.”
Welcome to the Middle Road! You probably feel much more balance. Go back to the Initial Evaluation for the game and see what has changed.
If you feel complete, congratulations! Go out for a walk to integrate and get grounded.
If you feel incomplete, you can continue to the Extra-intuitive Activities part of this process and let go of a few extreme collective mindsets that can get in the way of finding MODERATION:
There are several other decisions to explore that might really improve how you’re dealing with your situation.
Extreme #1: The need to be liked and approved of by others.
Here is the prime example, ‘Being liked = being important and having purpose.’ You might want to let go of that, because this is a terrible time to base your self-worth on how other people react to you.
“I decide that my worth comes from within. I let go of the need for approval.”
“I build my relationships out of sincere goodwill from my heart, not from projected expectations of self-importance.”
Extreme #2: The ‘more is better’ ‘faster is better’ or ‘bigger is better’ syndrome.
For example: The Sun is good, however too much Sun causes cancer. Butter is good, yet too much butter causes weight gain, etc. Another social meme that explains the mindset is: ‘The sky is the limit. I want it all now, so I should be able to have it all now!’
“I am clear about who I am and what’s in my best interest.“
“I decide that clear, MODERATE limits enhance my wellbeing.”
Use this Circle like a mirror and clear away any markings or old graffiti that obscure the pure energy signature of your Soul.
Extreme #3: The ‘I’m not doing enough/doing too much” dichotomy.
Finding MODERATION means putting in just the right amount of effort to get the desired result. Think Goldilocks – not too much and not too little… just right.
If you’re uncomfortable because you’re feeling blocked or scattered, there may be a good reason. Do you know what it is? Suddenly heading off into fifteen different directions will probably backfire on you badly.
If you’re sending your energy in too many directions, stop and regain your center. Thoughtful consideration about what you really need is what’s most important now.
“What do I really need to focus on right now? What will help me do that?”
Congratulations!
Now that you’ve made choices about finding moderation you can bring order and new happiness into your environment!”
For many people, finding MODERATION signifies an opportunity to go within and expel deep patterns of fanaticism within their psyche so that they can evolve and arise from that pattern, much as a beautiful lotus arises from the muck and mire at the bottom of a pond.”
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About the Author of Finding Moderation ~
Rheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT lives and practices in Santa Fe, New Mexico and has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel like you need support.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through Reiki, Energy Medicine, Hypnotherapy, Feng Shui and Shamanic forms of clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].
Disclaimer: This Transformation Game is not intended take the place of appropriate medical and/or psychiatric care. Soul Resources LLC and Rheanni Lightwater are not licensed to practice medicine. If you are having prolonged or increasing bouts of anxiety, depression or suicidal thoughts, seek immediate medical help. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
Protected: Learning from Danger
Protected: How To Trust Your Gut Instinct
Clear Perception – a Mind Exercise
Intuitive Guidance Using the Loyalty and Clear Perception of Dog Medicine:
Your gut instinct is an awesome inner guidance system and has access to all kinds of information that you’re not consciously aware of. The only trick is that you need to be paying attention! Luckily, you can learn to use Dog Medicine with this Mind Exercise to hone your intuitive abilities and develop clear perception about where you’re heading.
This symbol accesses inner guidance about protection. Gaze at it softly and ask:
“Am I heading in the right direction?”
If the answer you get is “yes,” you don’t need this particular exercise right now.
If you don’t get a clear answer because your mind has gone blank, you would be wise to go through Formula #1 Healing Emotional Shock first, and then come back to this one.
However, if your answer is a clear “no,” take some time out of your schedule and go through this Mind Exercise. A few minutes now could save you a lot of time and trouble later!
First, a word about environmental changes and getting a grasp on the larger picture…
Most people know on a conscious level that a major shift has occurred. However, the unconscious mind may still be operating as if everything’s still the same.
In order to ADAPT effectively, it helps to have signs and maps to assist us as we update our minds to navigate through the new terrain. That is the reason and purpose for all the symbols and Intuitive Learning Circles on this site.
For example, if you meditate on the “map” available in this image, your mind can get a better grasp of how it can reorganize your energy in the New Paradigm we’ve entered…
This is an imprint for “Common Ground for the Common Good” based on equality, co-operation with Nature and balanced prosperity. This template encourages us to work with the Planet, rather than against her.
If you want to navigate your journey with clear perception, you need to know when you’re heading in the wrong direction and what to do about it ~
There are several reasons why you might be unconsciously heading in the wrong direction.
For example, your senses may have gotten all knocked out of balance.
With so much going on, it’s easy to be distracted and confused by all the intense change and contradictions that are going on around you.
Fortunately, dog energy works incredibly well to help you with your inner guidance system – warning you to slow down and get your feet back under you.
Gaze softly at this Reiki Chakra Key to get your bearings again. Take a minute or two to consciously get in touch with your senses and really connect with them for greater awareness.
Another possibility could be that your energy is having a difficult time adjusting to all the significant environmental changes that are taking place. Sudden reversals, blockages and changes in momentum can cause our subtle energy fields to react in unusual ways.
This Correction Key can help you correct any rough glitches or reversals that you may be experiencing in your energy field.
Relax with it for a few minutes until things smooth out and you feel more like yourself again.
Be sure to do that both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body.
Your senses could be turned up too high or too low.
That often happens during conflicts or other times when our emotions get out of balance. When we spend too much time in the watery depths, we can start to fantasize about how we would like things to be, rather than acknowledging how they actually are.
It’s natural to do that, however, we need to be able to pull back into the here and now so we can get back on track.
Imagine you can use River Medicine to adjust the volume for all your senses, especially your intuition! Breathe in and relax. Take all the time you need.
You don’t want to miss some important information or an opportunity that you need to take advantage of. Dog medicine is here to tell you that something really important is happening right now and you need to be paying attention!
Connect to the new flow of Chi’ based on the Element of Air. Before you continue, let this symbol for Divine Protection help you make changes and connect with the generative energy flow of Air in the New Paradigm.
“I close down harmful energy channels from the past.”
“I adapt to the positive flow of chi’ available in the New Paradigm
to the best of my ability.”
“I connect with new, life affirming channels of communication.”
Your energy may be scattered because you’ve been so stressed. So much is changing, or your timing could be off, causing you to jump to conclusions before it’s a good idea to do so.
Take a moment and bring yourself back into the present. Open and close your hands, take a look at the date and time. Remember your name, the city you’re in or how old you are. Doing these things can really help you get present and aware of what’s actually going on around you.
Once you feel more centered, ask yourself:
“Am I jumping to any conclusions about my situation?”
If your answer is “yes,” stop and reconsider before you make any moves. Retrace your steps and see where the error is.
Taking steps one at a time is essential whenever you’re in unfamiliar territory! What else might you need to be aware of?
You may have gotten disconnected from your true Self and instinctual nature.
Use Dragonfly’s Circle to help you reconnect so that you can get back in touch with your gut instincts, your environment and the things that really matter.
Once you feel connected again, ask yourself:
“Am I getting instinctual messages about things I’m doing or not doing?”
“Is there any part of me that’s holding onto old energy, operating out of falsehoods or keeping me unhappy?”
If your answer is “yes” to that last question, it would be wise to stop and follow the guidance you get if you can.
Finally, your energy could be misdirected. We can use intuition to guide us properly, or we can misuse it by giving into old habits, wishful thinking, illusion, paranoia or buying into the agendas of those who would love to sell us up the river with false claims.
Do you sense any holes that you’re about to fall into? Is there an old habit that needs to be deconstructed or something that’s draining your energy?
When your intuition and instinct are in balance, you have a much better chance of catching things that you really need to watch out for.
Having clear perception alerts you when something really important is happening that you need to be paying attention to!
So, before you step into the great unknown, it would greatly behoove you to take a few more minutes to go through this centering exercise, Develop Clear Perception. This is where you can make friends with dog energy to get all kinds of insight and guidance as you take your next steps.
Slow Down and Get Your Feet Firmly Planted On the Ground ~
Gaze softly at the center open space of Sloth’s Circle while you go through a few positive affirmations. If there’s a question, just be open to your gut response.
“I slow down because things may be moving too fast for me to sense the truth.”
“I’m willing to admit I don’t know what’s going on. Asking for help is a blessing.”
“Is my inner guidance sending me a warning?”
“Do I need to let go of something? Change something?”
“Do my instincts want to redirect my attention to a solution or something else?”
“Whatever’s happening, am I willing to listen and learn?”
You may be surprised at the answers that are coming to you. If it didn’t work, relax! You can go back and do it again. Journaling is often a help.
Be sure to check the directions again and follow them if you’re not sure.
Use Bat Medicine in the same way with this affirmation:
“I allow clear perception to heighten my instincts and intuition.”
Then ask:
“Am I willing to trust in the power of balanced intuition and instinct?”
“Is the ‘vibe’ around me helpful or harmful?”
Very interesting, isn’t it? We instinctively know when the “vibe” is right or wrong, but we often don’t trust the messages we get. We doubt and second-guess ourselves or we might willfully ignore our inner guidance system and try to force our way through.
Look at the Circle again and ask,
“Am I heading in the direction of my best interest?”
“Am I making decisions that are in my best interests?”
“Am I taking actions that are helpful, harmful, misguided or simply ineffective?”
If you’re not clear yet, keep going with the exercise. You may need a few more easy corrections before the truth emerges.
Clear Perception and Being Present
Often, how well we listen to our inner guidance is affected by how present we are in our bodies. It’s called gut instinct because when we’re really present, we can feel it in our solar plexus (the soft area in the front where our ribs go up).
In times of confusion and stress, the solar plexus chakra can close down or get blocked off. Use this Chakra Key to make sure it’s open and functioning properly.
You can use the Grounding Your Essence Chart to help you become more centered and aware in that solar plexus area. Just relax and breathe while you gently look at it for a few minutes with the positive affirmations below. Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience…
“I detach from confusion and chaotic energy.”
“I am present, upright and facing forward. I am willing to hear the truth.”
“I maintain a position that keeps me balanced, centered and grounded in the truth.”
Once you’ve finished centering yourself, hopefully, you’re feeling much better!
Use Dog Medicine to Handle Your Agreements Appropriately:
Another big reason why we might get off track is when there’s a problem with an agreement or commitment we’ve entered into on some level. In this busy, modern life, people tend to take their agreements too lightly and don’t realize how important their word is.
Perhaps paying attention to what we say seems like too much effort or too complicated. Yet, if you really want to be be loyal to yourself, being clear about your word and your agreements is super important. Especially agreements that you’ve made with yourself!
Here’s some tips about how to handle agreements successfully:
- You can keep your agreements and stick with what you previously decided.
- You can release agreements when they’re complete or no longer serve you.
- Or, you can consciously re-negotiate them when they need to be updated.
By the way, it’s also a good idea to pay attention if someone hasn’t been keeping their agreements with you. If that’s happening, it’s best to deal with the indiscretion asap. When we allow someone to break their word with us and then say or do nothing about it, we lose our own integrity by being disloyal to ourselves.
Stay Calm and Take a Few Deep Breaths ~
An agreement is an investment of your energy. Could you be investing your energy in something that’s no longer viable? Are you investing your emotional energy into something (or someone) that would be harmful to you?
It’s okay. Our situations are changing at a rapid pace and so are our priorities. To help you identify problem agreements, use this Circle to help you slow down again. Focus on yourself and your current goals. Ask yourself:
“Have I been trying to keep agreements that are harmful to me? Is it time to renegotiate a pertinent agreement?” or “Am I overlooking an important agreement that I need to follow through on?”
If so, can you tell what those agreements are about? Take all the time you need with this… what insights do you get? If you ignore them, they may turn around and bite you!
Use this Soul Contract Circle to imagine that any harmful agreements you may have are like contracts that can be melted down to adjust for what’s needed or burned up entirely. Use the Circle to visualize all harmful contracts interacting with a sacred, violet flame. Here’s some affirmations to assist you if you like:
“I release all agreements that no longer serve me.”
“I let go of ___________. I reframe ____________. I stop ____________.”
Possible new agreements could be:
“I am loyal and true to my Self. My needs are a priority.”
“I have faith. I listen to my instincts and take good care of my Self.”
“I ________________________________.”
Use Dog Medicine to Help You Find A Way Through ~
Now it’s time to redirect your attention to helpful people, opportunities and places. For additional help, ask these questions:
“What is my priority at this time?”
“What is my natural place in this situation – where do I belong?”
“Am I operating in the New Paradigm based on equality, co-operation and balanced prosperity or the old paradigm of fear, dissatisfaction and greed?”
“Does something need to change?”
“Is something out of place, missing or out of order?”
“Am I listening to bad advice?”
“Am I heading in the right direction?”
Dissolve Destructive Blueprints
Use this symbol to help you gather up any misunderstandings, mistaken ideas or miscommunications and release them to the Light.
“I release all obstructions to clear perception.”
Let any confusion or heaviness you may feel lift up and out of you like dark clouds dissolving into beautiful sunlight.
Please note: It’s time to stop sending destructive energies to the Earth, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of happiness and life – not death!
Close the Door on Confusion and Turn Your Energy Around.
Finally! It’s time to close the door on all those misuses of your time, attention and energy!
“I close the door on any drain or strain on my time, space, attention or energy.”
“I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”
“I trust the wisdom of balanced intuition and instinct.”
“I now have clarity about which direction I need to go.”
Congratulations!
You now have clear perception about what’s really important to you and some guidance about what to do about it. Not only that, you’ve just gotten a key insight that’s going to save you a lot of trouble in the long run!
Specialized Energy Clearing with the Author of Soul Oriented Solutions
If you feel that Clear Perception has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel off track or distracted.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through Reiki, Energy Medicine, Hypnotherapy and Feng Shui space clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].
Disclaimer:
This Mind Exercise should not be considered as an exclusive method of handling stress. Soul Resources LLC and Rheanni Lightwater are not licensed to practice medicine. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment for any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
How To Develop Healthy Boundaries
SOS Self-care Formula #6: Develop Healthy Boundaries
Many people, especially those who are highly sensitive or empathic, want to learn how to develop healthy boundaries because they are so open to thoughts and energies coming from other people. Sometimes those thoughts get attached in their minds and spin around, causing a great deal of discomfort.
If the pathways remain open, all kinds of trouble (karma, issues, illness or confusion) can pass back and forth between people without their awareness. If left unchecked, this type of attachment can manifest in negativity, sudden and mysterious illnesses, mental confusion, issues with prosperity or chronic states of overwhelm.
It’s a valuable skill to know how to shift your energy and Develop Healthy Boundaries.
Mind Exercise #8 from SOS for Compassion Fatigue uses affirmations and the Intuitive Learning Circles to help you learn to consciously close off the pathways to intruding or negative thoughts establish healthy protection and shift into a more positive mindset. Here’s an example of how it works. Simply contemplate each step for clarity and better boundaries.
Use Develop Healthy Boundaries when you are:
- Agitated or feeling out of sync
- Distressed by recent news
- Getting negative or anticipating hardship
- Feeling claustrophobic
- Unable to meditate or sit still
- Obsessed with a particular person or situation.
Remember that the Circles will take you as light or deep as you want to go. As a result, it may take you 45 – 60 minutes or more to get through this version completely. If you need a simpler, change of perspective you can go to Clear Boundaries for A Busy Mind instead.
If you’re in the right place, here’s how it works: Find a quiet place if possible, where you won’t be disturbed. Follow the sequence of symbols while you read their accompanying instructions. Gaze gently at each Circle for about two minutes. A longer or shorter time may be necessary.
Mind Body Integration
For best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.
Let yourself breathe and relax as much as possible. Don’t worry if the images move around or change in any way. That just means the Circles are working and that your mind and body are relaxing.
Be sure to rest as needed during the exercise and at the end, give yourself time to get away completely to integrate. In the long run, it’ll be worth it. Developing a quiet mind and light heart changes your perspective and makes it easier to follow through with your true priorities.
Developing a quiet mind and light heart changes your perspective and that makes it easier to follow through with your true priorities.
Step 1. Balance
Begin by consciously breathing in on the count of three and slowly exhaling on the count of five. It’s helpful if you can breathe in through your nose. Do that three or four times while you gaze softly at the Circle.
Continue breathing and bring your awareness to your tailbone.
What do you need to get in balance about?
Step 2: Decision
In order to develop healthy boundaries in this situation, there are decisions that you need to benefit you. Be clear about what you actually want for yourself and how you’d like to respond. Use the Circle to help you synchronize the decision making parts of your mind.
Note: Negative or wishy-washy requests get negative, wishy-washy results. Overly idealistic, ambitious or unrealistic requests tend to create chaos and overwhelm.
Think it through and write down a positive declaration for yourself.
What results do you actually want to experience?
Step 3. Letting Go
Your decision might bring up conflicts or you may have experienced a recent shock that’s blocking your ability to move forward. Use this Circle to relax and melt away any hard thoughts, feelings or resistance that blocks your ability to take affirmative action.
The key is to relax into whatever you’re experiencing and breathe. You can imagine that the lines in the Circle are going limp and moving around like wet noodles.
What tension or worry do you need to let go of?
Let go of inner conflicts like holding onto self-doubt or lacking self-respect, etc.
Step 4. Protection
This symbol encourages you to develop healthy boundaries by providing an improved interface with your environment. We all need assistance in making the transition from the old paradigm of Water (Piscean Age) to the new paradigm of Air (Aquarian Age). Relax and close down all heavy or destructive energy channels that your mind or body may be open and vulnerable to.
Do you feel a sense of protection?
Continue to contemplate the symbol both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body until you feel protection all around.
Imagine the lines coming together in the center for improved communication.
Step 5. Natural Instincts
Continue to relax. Use this Circle to gather up your natural gifts, talents and instincts so you can organize them in a way that will help you reclaim and strengthen your boundaries.
Make sure you’re relaxed and you’ve got your feet on the ground to help you get back in touch with the things that really matter. Activate your gut instincts, engage your Essence and the power that comes from your Soul.
What will help you connect with your instincts?
Step 6. Intention
Give yourself permission to slow down even more so you can effectively concentrate your energy on your new decision. Turn your awareness to what would really need to happen in order for you to follow through successfully.
For example, you’ll want to know if you’re distracted, internalizing something or trying to take care of something that isn’t yours to be concerned with.
What is the necessary information I need from my unconscious mind?
Don’t worry. You don’t need to have it all figured out. The issue may be too confusing to make sense of it yet.
Just let the Circle help you percolate what’s involved with this boundary issue.
Step 7. Soul Color
You may be taking on unknown algorithm or vibration without being aware of it. Using your own Soul Color and vibration will strengthen your autonomy, integrity and good health. To help you find it, remember a time when you successfully manifested something physical. What color comes to mind?
“I recognize my Soul’s unique color vibration.”
“I know who I am. I distinguish my energy from the energy of others.”
“All aspects of my Essence are willing to utilize my Soul Color for clarity and success.”
Step 8. Centering
Connect your new decision with the strength and integrity of your Soul. Bring in your Soul Color and conscious awareness to amplify this affirmation:
“I decide to connect with the truth of my Soul and take care of myself.”
When you’re ready, notice where you are in your room or environment.
What is to the left of you and what is to the right of you?
Make sure that you’re centered in your own body.
“I am inside of me. Everything else is outside.”
Step 9. Empowerment
Empower your ability to follow through with your decision.
“I exist and am empowered to the Source in my heart center.”
“I nourish myself with courage, confidence and wisdom.”
“I am empowered to take good care of myself and develop healthy boundaries.”
“I am empowered to maintain my confidence, courage and
Individual sense of self-respect, self worth, etc.”
Continue by making your own affirmations that apply to your decision:
“I am empowered to _____________.”
Step 10. Calm
Now it’s time to clear out all that excess or negative energy.
Keep breathing with your belly soft and relaxed. Let your shoulders drop. Continue using your Soul Color with this Chart to expel excess energy from your nervous system. Slow down and clear away noise, clutter and static.
Come back into the calm and rhythm of your Soul.
What thoughts help to relax you?
Step 11. Repair
If you’re having trouble, this Correction Key can help you correct any blockages, rough static, glitches or reversals that might be causing trouble in your energy field.
Relax with it for a few minutes until things smooth out.
Be sure to do that both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body until you feel the energy of your Soul beginning to come through.
Is there anything else you need to do to repair your energy field?
Step 12. Perception
It helps to see things the way they really are.
Gaze softly at this Circle and imagine you can adjust the feelings or thoughts that are turned up too high or too low, just like the volume on a radio.
“I decide to perceive this situation clearly and calmly.”
What are you seeing differently about this situation?
Step 13. Change
In order to follow through with your new healthy boundaries, some things are going to have to change. Identify what needs to happen:
“Does something need to change?”
“What do I need to do differently to develop healthy boundaries?”
“What actions would help me?”
If you’re not clear yet, keep going with the exercise.
You may need a few more easy corrections before the truth emerges.
Step 14. Resolution
You probably need to change some agreements or do some things differently. To help you find out what they are, examine what causes anxiety or confusion for you when you consider these affirmations:
“I decide to stay centered and follow through on the highest good.”
“My health and happiness are important.”
“I easily deflect foreign energies and other people’s thoughts or expectations.”
There is always more than one way to approach a situation.
What new approach do you need to take? What agreements need to change?
Step 15. Detachment
There may be attachments or karmic entanglements blocking your solution.
Use this Detachment Key to let go of them. Relax and meditate on it for several minutes. Like a healing balm, imagine that a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you.
Are you willing to neutralize interfering energies and detach from them?
If not, are you willing to back up and change the agreement that binds you to them?
Step 16. Freedom
Allow this symbol for dissolving destructive blueprints to clear underlying patterns of confusion, abuse and neglect out of your mind.
Let any remaining heaviness or karmic entanglements about this situation lift up and off of you.
Dark clouds are dissolving into blue skies and sunlight.
Please note: It’s time to stop sending painful emotions and destructive energies into the Earth, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of happiness and life – not death!
Step 17. Closure
Use the Circle to help you close any harmful openings or pathways that would leave you open to the distractions and interference of the external world.
Close the doors and seal the leaks – as if they were never there.
You are calm and ready to follow through now. Your mind is able to rest.
How do you feel now? Are you heading in the right direction?
If not, imagine that your Soul is turning you to face the right direction.
Step 18. Clean Up
A necessary part of maintaining healthy boundaries to make sure that we don’t get sucked back into unhealthy dynamics again. Otherwise, we’ll just get entangled again!
Take the time now to deconstruct any harmful habits or leftover emotional dramas that have been draining your energy. Fill in any voids with loving gratitude.
Are you experiencing any more drains to your energy?
Step 17. Completion
Finally, allow this Circle to make sure you’ve let go of all harmful ties, cords or vows that you may have entered into that would cause you to unknowingly continue participating in neglect or abuse:
“I let go of all harmful vows or obligations
to be connected to dangerous energies or abusive situations.”
Do you feel as though you have a healthy sense of completion?
If so, congratulations! Give yourself time to rest and integrate.
Take a walk or enjoy some time out in Nature.
This Mind Exercise is Part of Spirit Animal Tracks for Self-healing
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How to Develop Healthy Boundaries should not be considered as an exclusive method of handling stress. Soul Resources LLC and Rheanni Lightwater are not licensed to practice medicine. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment for any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
