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Managing Anxiety
If you are managing anxiety, feeling dissatisfied or unhappy – Welcome! You are in the right place!
SOS for Managing Anxiety is a collection of online resources that will help you calm down and gently untangle symptoms of high sensitivity and unhappiness.
If you are someone who easily gets overstimulated or have learning difficulties that interfere with your ability to focus, here is my personal list of Mind Exercises for managing anxiety.
By calming your thinking down and tuning into your inner guidance through the Intuitive Learning Circles, it’s all lot easier to set yourself up for a genuinely successful outcome.
I was raised in a time before ADD, ADHD or Dyslexia had names. In the fifties and early sixties, kids like me didn’t have learning difficulties, we were simply labelled slow, troublemakers or stupid. Judging from the amount of time I spent in the principle’s office, I was probably put into the troublemaker category pretty early on!
Learning Difficulties: The Genius of Thinking Differently
I remember when I was just beginning to learn how to write my name in cursive. I was trying to figure out which hand worked better making all those loops and curly-ques. While experimenting with my left hand, my second grade teacher came over to me and plucked the pencil right out of my hand. “You don’t want to use that hand,” she barked, “only bad people are left handed.”
I didn’t like that teacher much so, at that moment I made a decision. I was going to be left-handed just to spite her! Like any choice, the decision I made had its downsides. For example, I’ve learned over time that being motivated out of spite and anger does nothing to help my level of happiness. On the upside . To this day, I am quasi-ambidextrous – I write with my left hand and do just about everything else with my right.
rejection dysphoria
In the first half of my life, it was important to be right about how unfairly I was treated. For me, being “right” masqueraded as being powerful and justified my anger. And yet, as time went by, the malaise of distrust, dissatisfaction and unhappiness continued to engulf me. began to turn against me.I know that most of the time, advice from teachers, family and friends was meant to help. They just couldn’t understand why I was so unhappy and didn’t know how to help me.
Much later in life, I started to accept that doing things the way that other people did them just wasn’t going to work for me. I eventually came to realize that my unhappiness had a lot to do with what I was paying attention to and how I was treating myself.
Later on in life, I decided that it was more important to be happy than to be right. I decided to listen to my discomfort rather than fight with it. When I changed my response I found myself, my voice and my peace of mind. Not all at once, but over time and gentle patience.
I stopped being so hard on myself and started to embrace the things that came naturally to me. I went into bodywork and somatic education together with hypnotherapy, Reiki and mind/body energy work. I began to experience a satisfaction and success that I had never known before. Finally, I was allowing the way I was wired to stimulate new ways of thinking and being in the world!
I set to work learning about and putting together techniques from many different disciplines to help me and my clients, many of whom were highly sensitive people with similar issues. I developed a whole system of tools for better focus and concentration using muscle testing. I’ve also found that they can help with emotional healing, reducing stress and providing a way to activate advanced states of intuition and creativity.
Taking back your power is an essential part of developing human potential.
The mind looks for what it has agreements to look for. If we want to create peaceful and coherent minds, we need to train ourselves to look for it. Our agreements with this selection of games are:
Agreements for Managing Anxiety are:
♦ Go for Joy and Happiness, rather than dissatisfaction and criticism
♦ Learn to stop internalizing early childhood messages of inadequacy
♦ Get present in stressful situations and stay centered
♦ Slow down and take things one step at a time
♦ Accept yourself and your innate gifts, skills and talents.
If you are open to managing your anxiety and what I’ve described resonates, the following collection of Mind Exercises, Self-care Formulas and Transformation Games can help you change your agreements with yourself.
With the Intuitive Learning Circle method, you will work with these new agreements to create a new relationship with yourself. You’ll be using the symbols and the questions or answers that go with them to gather unconscious information, organize awareness and illuminate solutions that come directly from your Soul. You are in charge and can become your own best friend!
Intro ~
Start by Clearing Up Your Blind Spots ~
Find out how the the Intuitive Learning Circles work by experiencing a short exercise for focusing your attention, energy and senses. This is a great place to start – not only because it’s a great introduction to this work – but also because it can help you clear up an important blind spot that’s blocking your awareness.
Introducing the SOS Symbol:
This is the SOS symbol that we use for the Soul Oriented Solutions processes. When you gaze softly at it (let your eyes relax) it can help you make choices, fine tune your intuition and listen to your gut instincts – even if you’re stressed out.
Once you’ve relaxed with it a bit, go through the list of four categories below and then, ask your gut instinct for a number between 1 and 8 to help you select the specific protocol that’s best for your situation.
Caution: Be sure to take it slowly. This kind of work can be deceptively powerful. Be sure to get plenty of rest, drink adequate water and eat healthy. You can take a hot epsom salt bath or get some gentle exercise.
Make sure your energy is well settled before you go through another exercise.
1. Retrain Your Mind to Go for Joy ~
Stopping the critical mind before it starts it’s shame and blame requires training. We try so hard to win, to look good, to escape punishment or to be “right.” Sadly, many of us are taught that we’re supposed to be perfect, so that’s what we’ve trained the mind to go for. What if we could learn to go for Joy instead?
2. Clear Distractions From Your Mind ~
If you are someone who easily gets overstimulated or have learning difficulties that interfere with your ability to focus, Tutorial VI from Gifts from the Rainforest will provide a more creative and instinctual approach to help your productivity.
3. Setting Clear Boundaries for a Busy Mind ~
This visual meditation from our RESOLVE Ebook provides a quick framework for recovering mental balance and refocusing attention when you’re feeling scattered or out of sync. Going through a quick “game” calms the emotional centers of your brain and opens up new neural pathways for clear focus and boundaries, which significantly reduces stress and increases clarity.
4. Access Intuitive Guidance for Decisive Action ~
You can use the Circles to help you work out what decisions are best for you to make under your current circumstances. Tutorial IX from Gifts from the Rainforest will help you center yourself and establish objectivity, especially if you’re all up in your head or have experienced a recent trauma. By calming your thinking down and tuning into your inner guidance, it’s all lot easier to set yourself up for a genuinely successful outcome.
5. Learn to Trust Your Gut Instincts ~
People say that being present is super important and it’s true. Yet so often, it’s much easier said than done. If you’re jumping ahead of yourself and need to stay present, this particular exercise is especially useful when you’re experiencing performance anxiety.
6. Managing Anxiety about Success ~
If you have been conditioned to be afraid or negative by experiences early on in life, you may have trouble knowing how to handle what to do when things are going well. The way you view yourself and what you think you’re capable of is colored by habitual behaviors learned in early love relationships as well as childhood experiences. You may simply be dealing with an old program or you could be struggling with more serious entanglements with hatred and other destructive tendencies.
7. Simplify Your Life ~
This Transformation Game is a more advanced process made up of Intuitive Learning Circles, pertinent questions and positive affirmations that will give you a new perspective activate your heart wisdom and help you ADAPT to a simpler mindset by clearing up mental and emotional clutter. When life has become too complicated or you’re trying to do too many things, this is your go- to game.
8. Managing Stress That’s Connected to Herd Mentality ~
This Transformation Game can help you let go of anxiety about what other people think about you. Being clear about what’s true for you as opposed to what the social herd mind thinks is it’s own reward.
About the Author
If you feel that you need additional help, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you need more help managing anxiety.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing.
Schedule with Rheanni via Zoom or in person when you visit Santa Fe, New Mexico. Call or text (505) 271-4612 MST, or email: [email protected]
Disclaimer:
The formulas and exercise in Managing Anxiety should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
Self-care for Loss In Difficult Times
Soul Oriented Solutions: A Gentle Meditation about Emotional Stress and Self-care for Loss ~
Many people are experiencing deep levels of anxiousness, distress and fear around our current situation due to a variety of events. These feelings can come on suddenly and be very overwhelming.
You might have lost a relative, a job or an important friendship. You could be facing a health challenge or even a loss in your purpose and sense of self.
Or, you may be standing on the sidelines, watching the world you love suffer while you feel at a loss for something helpful to do.
In situations like these, it can take a while to regain your balance. What are some ways to provide self-care for loss and bring some level of emotional relief?
If you can find a way to tune into your deepest resources, you’ll discover that you’re never completely alone, even in your darkest hours.
To help out, I’d like to share this self-care formula that uses positive affirmations and the Intuitive Learning Circles. You can use it day or night, whenever you are:
- Asking for help in a difficult situation
- Stressed over a lost job or income
- Grieving a loss of any kind
- Feeling pulled into a negative state of mind
- Recovering from an abusive experience – past or present
- Dealing with a serious or long-term illness
- Preparing for an arduous challenge or surgery
- Coming to terms with tragedy, loss or death.
Here’s an example of how the Circles can prepare you restore balance.
Simply gaze softly at the image while you contemplate the positive affirmations that go with it for for a minute or so. Relax and breathe:
“I bring my senses into balance.”
“I focus them so to help me be calmer, more present and aware of what’s important.”
“I use my senses to be more aware of where I am and what I’m doing.”
“I focus on thoughts and actions that are genuinely helpful and productive.”
Next, you can continue to prepare for Self-care for Loss by allowing this Reiki Chakra Key to open your heart center. It helps to place your right hand over the center of your chest while you gaze at the symbol. Here’s a a couple of suggested affirmations:
“I understand and have compassion for the suffering of myself and others.”
“I have peace and balanced prosperity in my heart. I choose life.”
Strong emotions or insights may come up. The image may move, rotate, vibrate or change color. Don’t worry. That happens sometimes. It just means it’s working to help you feel better. Once the energy calms down a bit, you can move on to the remaining Circles with each of their affirmations to continue the process.
Your heartfelt intention is important and needs to be communicated. Use this Reiki Chakra Key to help you connect your prayers with your heart. Become aware of the Master Chakras located on each hand between the thumb and the index finger. Let them get open and balanced. Then, imagine you can connect them with your heart. These affirmations can help:
“My prayers are connecting with my heart center.”
“I ask to receive guidance, clarity and healing from my Inner Wisdom.”
You might want to journal some of your thoughts so that you can talk about what comes up later with a trusted counselor or friend. If so, get out some paper and something to write with as you go through the steps.
To finish this first part, it takes energy to get better. You may have the feeling that your life force is being drained right out of you. You could be sending energy to the past or old habits that have been harmful to you. Relax and gaze softly at the Fly’s Circle from Grifts from the Rainforest. Let it help you deconstruct those old mindsets and close the drains that are exhausting you.
“I shut down all drains or holes that are causing me to lose energy.”
Now you’re ready to begin the main part of Self-care for Loss.
Mind Body Integration
For best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of your body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.
Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience!
Self-care for Loss
Step One: Ask for Help
Breathe in deeply, all the way to your belly while you reflect on this Soul Prayer Chart for Divine Assistance.
If you could ask for something that would genuinely be helpful, what would it be? Place your request in the center, open space of the chart and imagine you can send your breath to it.
Continue with your breathing until you feel a friendly and pleasant exchange of energy.
Step Two – Support
Imagine that you can bring relief and relaxation into all parts of your body, mind and spirit while you continue to breathe.
Step Three ~ Peace
What do you think is the main question, difficulty or burden you’re dealing with right now? Take a few moments and put it into your own words.
If there’s a blockage or resistance, are you ready to let go of whatever it is and find a solution? If not, why not?
Step Four – Release
If you can, imagine that difficulty or burden is beginning to melt and soften up. You can release the tension around anything that’s bothering you right now. Your shoulders are dropped. Your jaw is relaxed.
Hardened thoughts are melting like ice under the light of the Sun.
Keep softening the tension until it’s all gone.
Remember to do that both crossed and uncrossed.
Step Five – From Self-care for Loss to Divine Blessings
Continue to relax and let your mind turn to helpful channels of generative life force that are available through the Element of Air.
Use this symbol to help you close old, stagnant, erratic and unstable channels of energy.
Next, you can open to a lighter flow of chi that gives protection and increases positive life force.
Finally, connect with new communication channels by imagining the lines all coming together and connecting into the central spoke.
Step Six – Soul Vision
Now it’s much easier to connect with the wisdom of your Soul. Under this new light you have access to expanded awareness and perception of what’s possible.
Consider what your life could be without this difficulty you’re concerned about. What would it be like if the burdens were lifted? Can you imagine it?
Sense the experience as much as you can in detail.
See it, hear it, taste it, smell it and feel it.
Step Seven – Remove Your Burdens
Visualize sending all those burdens to where ever they need to go to resolve themselves. Surrender them completely and feel the heaviness lifting up and off of you.
You have done the best that you can under the circumstances.
If you can, reclaim your faith and other important Soul Resources.
Step Eight – Inner Direction
Gently contemplate this symbol to help you gain insight and spiritual direction about appropriate things to do in this situation.
Imagine you can call upon Love and your Ancestors for support.
Is there something that Love would tell you to do?
Ask to be instructed by Love as you continue along your journey.
Step Nine – Let Go
Breathe again and gaze on this Detachment Chart for a few minutes while it helps you let go of toxins or interfering energies that may be attached to you.
Feel a calmness coming over you.
Like a healing balm, imagine a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you.
Step Ten – Cleansing
Send away any illness or pain that’s associated with this situation.
Send it to the Light or wherever it needs to go to heal.
Step Ten – Repair
Continue to let it go and allow your energy to repair itself.
Relax with this Correction Chart until things smooth out and you can begin to sense the energy of your Soul coming through.
Step Twelve: Divine Connection
You have a Divine Connection to Joy and Gratitude in your Heart Center.
Make that connection and fill yourself with the strength and knowledge that you are loved.
You exist and what you do matters.
Step Thirteen – Closure
In your mind’s eye, close the doors to any pathways that keep the pain and suffering open. Take all the time you need to be sure they’re all closed.
You are connected through Love now and are following the path of your Soul.
Let this healing be sealed with Love and Light.
Some people have gotten a lot of extra support out of going through this self-care for loss formula every day for twenty-one days. It helps to retrain your mind to think more positively and keep you on track toward recovery.
Specialized Energy Clearing with the Author of Soul Oriented Solutions
If you feel that Self-care for Loss has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel off track or overwhelmed.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through Reiki, Energy Medicine, Hypnotherapy and Feng Shui space clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].
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Disclaimer:
Self-care for Loss is not intended take the place of appropriate medical and/or psychiatric care. Soul Resources LLC and Rheanni Lightwater are not licensed to practice medicine. If you are having prolonged or increasing bouts of anxiety, depression or suicidal thoughts, seek immediate medical help. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
