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Stabilize During A Shocking Event
This self-care formula uses the Intuitive Learning Circle method for relief during extreme weather crisis or other shocking events:
If you are living through a shocking event:
- Witnessing traumatic experiences
- Experiencing an environmental disaster
- Disoriented by personal or environmental upheaval
- Feeling scattered, surprised, scared or vulnerable
- Exposed to repeated emergency situations
- Having trouble thinking or planning clearly.
This SOS self-care formula is a form of self-hypnosis combined with energy healing that has been used for resolving shock, enhancing inner guidance and facilitating positive change since 2001. This particular formula offers a gentle opportunity to process ongoing difficult experiences, manage emotional stress and explore positive ways to respond to unexpected and shocking events.
Any person who’s going through extreme weather related events or a crisis in their environment can experience disorientation, numbness, mental confusion or fragmentation. Even people who are witness to traumatic experiences can get caught up in the energy of the event. That includes family members, friends, therapists, clergy and other emergency responders.
The shock response is natural and not a sign of spiritual, mental or emotional weakness. It’s an important way that the mind protects itself. Nevertheless, if a person who’s going through a shocking event doesn’t get a chance to relax and separate from the experience – or if they’re not able to – serious problems can develop, including ongoing symptoms of ptsd including nightmares, flashbacks and a chronic fear of the future.
Scattered energy and a constant state of fight or flight takes its toll over time. Statements like: “I can’t think of anything positive,” “My life was shattered,” “I feel so drained” or “I just don’t know what to do,” describe the experience of ongoing, unresolved shock. Alternately, a person may put on a false front of cheerfulness and optimism, only to have their health suffer later.
If any of the above seems familiar, you can go through this formula to help you stabilize your mind and access your own innate healing abilities. Simply follow the directions step by step so you can monitor your energy and take the steps that are needed to move forward safely.
Mind Body Integration
The brain and body communicate through different channels when a part of you is crossed over the center of your body. As you go through the steps, cross and uncross a hand or foot over the midline of your body when you gaze at each Circle. Use a soft focus and breathe patiently. This will help you integrate your thinking more fully so that you can be more creative. If you have any negative self-talk, let it go by breathing through it.
Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience!
Stabilize During a Shocking Event
Step One:
Take several deep breaths and relax while you look at this Circle that releases shock and inner conflict.
Imagine you can use it to focus in on a difficult or painful experience that’s blocking your way. If your mind is blank, focus on how “blank” it is. You may get a conscious image or message, or you may not.
Once you have a sense that your mind has found the blockage, imagine that it’s like an iceberg and the Sun is melting it away with a beautiful beam of light.
Allow it to melt until it’s completely gone.
Check for other blockages, worries or conflicts that you can do the same with.
Step Two:
In situations like this, there’s too much going on and you don’t want to scatter. Your mind may have too many windows open – like on a computer screen.
Let this Circle help you close the tabs in your mind to help you feel better and more contained.
Step Three:
The environment is changing and you need to protect yourself. Relax with this symbol and close down all harmful energy channels that your mind or body may be open and vulnerable to. Take all the time that you need.
If you like, ask your Soul for divine protection.
Step Four:
Remember to stay hydrated. Make sure you’re drinking plenty of fresh water. If you swish it around in your mouth before you swallow, the water will go where it needs to go faster and more efficiently.
Water is your good friend. Especially now!
Step Five:
Consider all that’s going on in your life. A lot is changing.
Use this Circle to gently contemplate the situation so you can gather up your mental, emotional, spiritual and physical resources.
What is the most important thing for you to keep in mind?
Step Six:
Your senses may have gotten knocked out of balance. Reconnect with them and focus on being present. Use them to become aware of your body and what you need right now.
Re-orient yourself in your environment, as it is now.
Take whatever time you need to focus on actions that will bring you back into balance and benefit your well-being. You may want to write ideas down because it’s easy to forget.
Step Seven:
Your energy probably needs some balancing. Go through this short sequence to make repairs and get back in order:
A) Get help clearing your energy field of toxins. Use this Key to relax and mend any energetic wounds that are associated with smoke, chemicals or other negative energies.
Like a healing balm, imagine that a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you.
B) When a person is under extreme stress, their energy can become blocked, scattered, reversed or even shut down completely.
Let this Key help you make corrections and repair any glitches, holes or jagged energies in your system.
Keep relaxing with it until the energy smooths out and you begin to sense the calming energy of your Soul coming through.
C) Keep your wits about you. Clear away dark and heavy thoughts.
Use this Circle to imagine you can infuse your body with light and Love. Doing so will help to remove fear, negativity and darkness from your personal energy.
Dispense with the darkness by sending it to the Light for purification.
D) Bring your attention to your own heart center. Imagine you can connect with your Source and activate the Light that lives within you.
You are never alone.
Step Eight:
Now it’s time to turn down the volume on all the noise from outside. As you breathe deeply, let this Circle help you to adjust the volume and pitch of your senses to just the right level.
Not too high and not too low – just right.
Soon you will be able to hear that calm, gentle voice inside that reminds you about what matters the most to you.
Let yourself be sad if you need to be. Tears are a sign of letting go of shock.
Step Nine:
It also helps to open and close your hands to get more present. Move your fingers and wiggle your toes around. Notice the time and where you are. These actions all help whenever you want to stabilize during a shocking event.
Step Ten:
Now you can let your nervous system calm down too. Slow down and listen to the rhythm of your heart.
You’re feeling better with every breath you take.
Stretch or move around in any way that you instinctively feel you need.
Step Eleven:
Oftentimes, going through a shocking event requires a change in priorities. There may be certain plans, ideas or thoughts that take you back into extreme distress. You can use this symbol for dissolving destructive blueprints to help you identify them and dissolve whatever is distressing you.
Simply imagine that the negative patterns in your mind are like dark clouds or a tangled maze of confusion.
Surrender the darkness into the pure light of the Sun and let the maze dissolve completely.
You’ll know that you’re done when your mind feels clear enough to imagine standing in a beautiful field with the Sun shining down upon you.
Please note: Never send destructive energies into the Earth, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of happiness and life – not death!
Step Twelve:
Before you finish with this formula, take a minute to seal and heal any holes, leaks or passageways that have opened up during this process.
All harmful openings are sealed and healed.
Do that both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body.
Your mind and nervous system need closure.
Step Thirteen:
Finally, let your heart recover. This Key helps you balance your heart energy and clear away any residual heaviness. Breathe deeply and take your time.
Feel any remaining heaviness lifting up and out of your heart. Let it radiate out to the Light where it can be transformed.
Take care of yourself and remember that you are loved.
Personalized Energy Clearing with the Author of Shocking Events
If you feel that you need more assistance, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel worried or overwhelmed.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].
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Stabilize During A Shocking Event is not intended take the place of appropriate medical and/or psychiatric care. Soul Resources LLC and Rheanni Lightwater are not licensed to practice medicine. If you are having prolonged or increasing bouts of anxiety, depression or suicidal thoughts, seek immediate medical help. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
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Midwinter Transitions
Intuitive Reading from the I Ching or Book of Change – Midwinter Transition.
In this intuitive reading, Soul Resources offers guidance through the I Ching to support your midwinter transition in 2025.
Chinese Zodiac
There are 12 archetypal animal energies or zodiacal signs that govern each Chinese Lunar New Year. January 29th, 2025 marked the transition into the New Year of the Yin Wood Snake.
Finding Balance in Times of Transition ~
The Chinese usher in their New Year with over 15 days of carefully orchestrated celebrations. Our society doesn’t invest the same time or care in ceremony, however, I have found that it’s profoundly valuable to take a pause and acknowledge important rites of passage. Let’s take some time to respectfully acknowledge the transition of one archetypal energy to the other.
The Dragon’s energy is taking his leave and will be completely gone shortly after the Lunar New Year.
Just like this past year, the Dragon is quick to come and go. So, quickly take a moment to say goodbye and thank you. His intelligent and generous nature has helped us to rise above the many obstacles and dangers that bedeviled us in 2024. In addition, his endurance and ability to travel great distances in a short time motivated us to envision higher aspirations and exposed the folly of acting too quickly without forethought. If you ask respectfully, perhaps he will leave some final advice for this midwinter transition on his way out…
If the past year has exhausted you, Dragon recommends that you Exit Deteriorating Situations, then Reclaim and Ground in Your Power as quickly as possible.
Getting to Know the Energy of the Snake ~
Year of the Snake: 1929, 1941, 1953, 1965, 1977, 1989, 2001, 2013, 2025, 2037…
The positive qualities of Snake are: Energetic, Sociable, Graceful, Wise, Perceptive and Determined. However, the negative qualities that you can encounter are: Jealousy. Unapproachable. Suspicious. Sly and Inconsistent.
Complimentary Zodiac Signs are Ox and Rooster.
The Snake’s Secret Friend is Monkey and she is decidedly repelled by Boar/Pig.
Important Note: Two 12 year cycles ago, the Year of the Snake was 2001, a time of huge transformation in the U.S. and throughout the World.
If the past is any indication, 2025 promises similar levels of change, whether we like them or not. However, the Snake isn’t all bad news. She holds the energy for greater wisdom and perceptive determination to take good care of herself and the Earth. After all, she is a mother too. Under her cool and watchful gaze we have the opportunity to shed any lies that we may have been telling ourselves, both individually and collectively.
Snake is a great advocate for the truth, being cautious and dealing with things as they really are, which makes it a good year for letting go of rash behaviors and extreme ideas.
At first glance, Snake confirms that we’re going to need plenty of help Setting Clear Boundaries to keep our minds quiet.
Obviously, there’s plenty of trouble afoot. She recommends Developing Precognition or “intuitive hits” to help you stay out of danger as much as possible.
You may be confronted with extreme situations that you need to drop quickly and distance yourself from. Find out what’s going on and shed those old skins with Stuck in the Past.
As soon as you can, turn your attention to how you can improve your sense of stability and safety in your personal space using Creating Internal Safety.
Guidance from Kuan Yin and the I Ching
Kuan Yin has been helping us to transition into a New Paradigm based on common ground for the common good since 2009 and has some direct words to share with us:
“When the foundation of a building is collapsing, it’s natural for the people caught up in it to go into emergency and cling to something they think will save them. However, those who grab onto a part of the old paradigm structure that’s already falling apart are putting themselves in danger and actually working against their own best interests.
You may not be aware of how you’re clinging to your own past. It may seem, in your mind, that because things used to work in a certain way, they still do. You may even insist that what you understood to be real then is true now. When strong mental connections are challenged, strong emotions rise up. You may even grip harder and search for others who share your point of view. This is a classic survival response and completely understandable.
You may feel safer initially, because the group gives energy to the old deteriorating structure and that helps you feel more secure. However, the underlying framework is still unstable.
This midwinter transition provides an important opportunity to build a new structure in the present that could actually support you and others going into the future. Once you let go of the fear and other things that keep pulling you into the past, you can open to something much more hopeful.”
The I Ching
The original intent of the I Ching was based on an Eastern philosophy of observation and marking changes in natural and human events. Through many centuries and contributions from shamans and master teachers, including Lau Tzu and Confucius, the Book of Change was developed into a full philosophy for applying beneficial human conduct to varying circumstances. The Art of Feng Shui is part of that philosophy.Stay Calm and Steady Through MODERATION
The I Ching energy has been traveling in multiple highway patterns for some time and it’s likely to continue that way.
Whenever that happens, instability is exaggerated. The best way for you to find your own balance is to find and follow the flow of Hexagram #15 MODERATION or “the Middle Road.” The original text offers explicit warnings and advice for keeping your balance during this Midwinter Transition.
“In social relationships, avoid extremes. People who are overly intelligent or overly ignorant tend to extremes in their behavior and attitudes…
Your inner development now requires a modest and sincere attitude. Do not indulge in extremes of any sort, and instead strive for MODERATION in all that you do… In this way you use the balancing tendency of the current forces to center yourself. This inner equilibrium aligns you with the tao, thus bringing you into harmony with forces that can work for you…”
CH’IEN, firmness in the upper trigram of cosmic ideals is full of its own strength while the mountainous KEN, stillness, is immovable in the lower trigram of human affairs. Each is an extreme, yet the existence of each moderates the other. Without changing lines, the hexagram MODERATION reflects a need for temperance in dealing with the object of your inquiry. Carefully measure your reactions by disengaging from opinionated attitudes. Only in this way can you begin to make progress.” ~ Hexagram #15 MODERATION, The I Ching Workbook, R.L. Wing, Random House, NYC, NY, 1979
Another prominent Energy Highway is described in Hexagram #23 DETERIORATION.
” There is an impressive display of DETERIORATION in nearly every aspect of the current affair. These lesser elements and those who represent them have gained complete control over the situation…
In political affairs and matters of power the time may be thought of as a rapid DETERIORATION or overthrow. There exists now an abundance of incompetent persons in positions of authority to help bring this about…
The text continues to warn against forging ahead at this time. Your best course is to wait out the difficult times and protect yourself by generously providing for those close to you.“
There exists a brief time where the flow of Hexagram #49 CHANGING is available.
If, at all possible, you see an avenue open for positive change, take advantage of the opportunity.
“The forces at work in the situation are in conflict, leaving the path open to change. Yet the work of bringing about such a change is as difficult as it is important. People fear change because of its unknowable effect upon the future; so when a real need for CHANGING makes itself felt, it is a serious matter indeed. Clarity, forethought, and great devotion are now required to achieve your purpose. If correctly handled, however, the results can lead to a progressive new era.”
To clarify, Kuan Yin teaches that each of the Hexagrams has a distinct flow that you can come into sync with and use to your benefit.
When you don’t see any benefit in following a particular highway, the flow for MODERATION is always available, it just takes effort and experience to stay in balance with it.
“Your inner development now requires a modest and sincere attitude. Do not indulge in extremes of any sort, and instead strive for MODERATION in all that you do… In this way you use the balancing tendency of the current forces to center yourself. This inner equilibrium aligns you with the tao, thus bringing you into harmony with forces that can work for you…” MODERATION, The I Ching Workbook, R.L. Wing, Random House, NYC, NY, 1979
Numerology and the Tarot
The Tarot Major Arcana Card for 2025 is #IX The Hermit (2+ 0 + 2 + 5 = 9)
The Hermit represents the ONE IDENTITY, or IAM. Whether it be the consciousness of a man or a woman, the Soul who has attained enlightenment stands upon the mountain peaks as a light bearer for those below on the path. He or she is solitary, alone. This symbolism contradicts the fact that in reality, the central Self of every one of us, which seems to us to be separate from every other Self, is that same ONE IDENTITY.
The number 9 is about completion – the completion of a cycle. The neutral color of his robes suggests the ability to neutralize the opposites of black and white. Therefore, the Hermit is a guide for when one needs inner clarity and to shine light on the furthering of one’s Soul or Soul’s purpose. However, following just any light in the darkness can be hazardous. False lights and bedazzlements obstruct inner development and enlightenment.
When our actions are illuminated by the Soul, rather than the status quo, important information about timing, reversals or polarity are available and will serve us going forward.
Assistance for Those Experiencing Extreme Stress ~
As you can see, a decidedly different combination of energies are taking form that will require us to cross over into new territory. Hopefully, a place where we can find new resources for courage, endurance and faith in ourselves.
Soul Oriented Solutions offers assistance through Self-care Formulas and Mind Exercises that have been designed to help those who are exhausted, still in shock, overwhelmed or emotionally drained due to extreme weather events and socio-political change.
If you or someone you know is experiencing extreme stress and needs quick assistance for overwhelm and other symptoms of PTSD, this resource can help…
Access Overwhelm Help Here
Please share if you know someone you think could benefit.
About the Author
Rheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT lives and practices in Santa Fe, New Mexico and has 26+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel like you need support.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through Reiki, Energy Medicine, Hypnotherapy, Feng Shui and Shamanic forms of clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].
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Sort Out Blame and Responsibility
Whose Problem Is It? Sorting out Blame and Responsibility in Relationships
In today’s society, it’s common to pass the buck by putting the blame and responsibility on others or deny that a problem even exists, especially in dysfunctional or co-dependent relationships.
When that happens, responsible people tend to get thrown off balance. If you’re one of those people, you believe in dealing with problems, rather than ignoring them or unloading them onto someone else. After all, if you own it, you can solve it, right? Under normal circumstances that would be true. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way if the problem you’re worrying about isn’t really yours to solve.
This simple game is for you if you tend to take on blame and responsibility for others to your own detriment. Especially during these times of upheaval and DETERIORATION, it’s essential to clear out all the confusion without making it only your problem. We can find more balanced ways to come up with solutions together.
Use this mind exercise when you are:
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SOS Symbol Not clear where your responsibility lies in a given situation
- Pressuring yourself to solve someone else’s problem
- Lacking energy for your own projects
- Aware that someone is overly dependent on you
- Wanting to change the dynamics of blame and responsibility in a relationship
- Being used as a scapegoat or dumping ground for negative energy.
Directions: Confirm this is the best exercise for you with the SOS symbol.
If your efforts to solve a problem are causing you to become overwhelmed and frustrated, follow the directions for each step of this game and watch how your perspective changes! By playing, you’ll get to the bottom of what’s going on and receive constructive guidance on how to effectively come to a solution, at least for yourself.
You’ll probably feel some energy moving while you go through the exercise. That’s all right, because it means the Circles are working with your mind to unlock a fixated pattern and help you get some positive answers to your dilemma.
Once you’ve completed the game, your energy will be more your own and you’ll have a much clearer idea of what’s actually going on, including what to do about it.
Whose Problem Is It?
1. While looking at this Circle, think of a person, a problem or a plan that‘s bothering you.
What is it specifically that bothers you about this situation?
Have you experienced this problem before?
Mind Body Integration
For best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.
Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience!
2. Answer “yes” or “no” to these questions about what’s happening:
“Is this my problem?”
“Is it a projection that’s coming from elsewhere?”
“Is it something I’m projecting on myself?”
“Am I projecting this problem onto someone or something else?”
If you are dealing with any projections, you can use this Circle to help you burst them, just like a bubble or lots of little bubbles.
After all, projections are just illusions and don’t really exist, so why waste your precious time and energy on them?
3. Continue answering “yes” or “no” to these questions about your true relationship to this problem:
“What is my relationship to this problem?”
“Is it a problem I’m taking on for someone else?”
“Am I obsessing or worrying over something that I have no control over?”
“Is this just a troublesome habit that I keep rerunning in my head?”
Additional questions you can ask yourself:
“Am I taking what others say and do (or don’t say and do) personally?”
“Am I being respectful to myself in this situation?
How about being respectful and understanding of others?”
“What is my part in this situation and how can I handle it?”
“Am I in the best position to make a positive change?”
4. How is this problem affecting you?
If it’s having a negative affect, release any unconscious agreements you may be holding. You can change them by imagining you can tear up old contracts or burn them up in a violet flame like these:
“I release the agreement that I don’t matter or that I have no choice in this situation.”
“I release any unconscious agreements to be rigid or keep repeating harmful habits.”
Replace those agreements with some new agreements:
“I respect and take good care of myself.”
“I exist. I get present. What I say and do matters.”
“I choose to express my needs and cooperate with others in finding genuine solutions.”
Are there any other agreements you would like to change or update?
5. It could be that you’re tapping into a recurring pattern of control or traumatic stress that’s blocking positive energy.
Relax into this symbol and imagine you can close up destructive energy channels between you and all that negative energy.
“I close down all harmful energy channels from the past.”
“I close them down because they aren’t helping anything.”
Next, open up to more hopeful and beneficial energy.
Gather up your newfound awareness and imagine you can plug it into the center of this symbol for improved communication.
“I am open to receiving generative life force available to me in the present.”
Take a few minutes to feel more centered with more positive energy flowing through you, both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body.
6. Now it’s time to turn your attention towards possible solutions to the problem.
Make a choice to be in charge of your decisions and how you respond to this problem:
“I am in charge of what I do in this situation.”
“What new decisions do I need to make about myself?”
“What decisions do I need to make about others?”
“What decisions do I need to make about this situation?”
If you feel stuck, use the Circle to unstick and remove mental obstacles from your thinking process so you can do your best in this situation.
See if you can get all the gears in your mind moving together.
7. In order for you to be more objective, dissolve any mental or emotional blueprints that may be contributing to the problem.
Gaze softly at this symbol and allow the patterns to dissolve like dark clouds hanging overhead or off in the distance. These positive affirmations will help:
“I dissolve the blueprints for internalizing and taking on other people’s problems.”
“I release the patterns of confusion or putting too much pressure on myself.”
“I dissolve my tendencies to project problems onto myself or others.”
Take all the time you feel you need for the patterns to dissolve into pure sunlight and clear, blue skies. Feel free to move around until the heaviness is completely gone.
“I release the fear of failure and being too hard on myself.”
Please note: Make sure you don’t send destructive energies down into the Earth, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of health, happiness and life – not illness, unhappiness and death!
8. Take a few minutes with this Circle to infuse your body with courage and determination. Imagine that you can surround yourself with a sphere of protection with affirmations like these:
“I am protected and in charge of my own space.”
“I allow others to be in charge of their own space and handle their own problems.”
“I can easily deal with my problems with courage and determination.”
Are there any aspects of your Essential Self that need to be encouraged to take care of this problem with respect – both for yourself and for others?
Redirecting how you’re using your own energy is one of the most powerful ways to solve your part of the problem.
If you have a copy, use The Essential Human manual to help you make simple corrections. Ask for numbers between 1 – 42 and make corrections to each number chart in the order they come to you.
9. What does your heart want to tell you about this situation?
Keep looking at the Circle and ask yourself this question until you hear a clear answer.
“My heart is telling me to ________________________.”
Let that quiet voice of your intuition give you answers to simple questions.
Include the basics like, who is involved? What is going on? Where is it happening? When is it happening? Why is it happening and what is its purpose?
What and how would I best respond to this situation?
10. Take a few moments and see yourself letting go of other people and their problems.
“I surrender other people’s issues, karma and emotions.”
“I send them to wherever they need to go to heal.”
Once that feels complete, call back what ever belongs to you.
“If it’s truly mine and I own it, I can resolve it.“
“I call back what belongs to me so that I can set things right.”
11. Now it’s time to get centered and ask yourself this question:
“What is the most important thing I can do to take care of myself?”
Take the very first answer that comes to you, then place your answer in the center of the Circle like a bull’s eye.
Imagine you can send your attention and energy directly to your answer and then allow the energy to return to you.
Do that for several rounds to start a new pattern.
12. Finish the exercise by asking your Inner Wisdom for some good advice:
“What will help me to follow through on making
a positive difference in this situation?”
Congratulations! Being realistic about whose problem it is and what you can actually do about it is often the missing piece to coming to a resolution.
Now would be a great time to relax and contemplate the advice you have given yourself. Take a walk if you can to help you integrate your thoughts.
Please note: Self-care Formula #4 Grounding in Your Power and Truth will often deepen your conviction and ability to follow through.
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About the Author
Rheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT lives and practices in Santa Fe, NM and has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you want more help sorting out your relationships.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through Reiki, Energy Medicine, Hypnotherapy and Feng Shui Space Clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].
Disclaimer:
Whose Problem Is It? should not be considered as an exclusive method of mental / emotional stress. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as educational and complementary to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
Clear Boundaries
Setting Clear Boundaries for a Busy Mind
What can you do to help yourself when you’re unable to focus on important tasks that really need to get done? Is your line of thinking clear? Has someone or something gotten under your skin and you can’t seem to let go? Clear boundaries may be the answer.
Without strong boundaries, thoughts and emotions can pass back and forth between people without their awareness. When left unchecked, this type of attachment can go underground and contribute to sudden and mysterious illnesses, mental confusion, issues with prosperity or chronic states of overwhelm.
It’s a valuable skill to know how to close the doors or energy pathways at will. This Mind Exercise can help you learn how to consciously set clear boundaries and close off those pathways.
This visual meditation from our SOS Resolve Ebook provides a quick framework for recovering mental balance and refocusing attention. Going through a quick “game” calms the emotional centers of your brain and opens up new neural pathways for self-awareness and clear boundaries, which significantly reduces stress and increases clarity.
Use this Mind Exercise when you are:
~ Feeling scattered or out of sync
~ Easily triggered and need better boundaries
~ Experiencing distress or separation anxiety
~ Worried, agitated or anticipating hardship
~ Feeling pressured or compulsive
~ Unable to meditate or sit still
~ Obsessed with a particular person or situation.
Directions: Confirm this is the best exercise for you with the RESOLVE symbol.
Find a quiet place if possible, where you won’t be disturbed for about twenty minutes. Follow the sequence of symbols while you read their accompanying instructions. Gaze gently at each Circle for about two minutes. A longer or shorter time may be necessary. Let yourself breathe and relax as much as possible.
Don’t worry if the images move around or change in any way. That just means the Circles are working and that your mind and body are relaxing.
Mind Body Integration
The brain and body communicate through different channels when a part of you is crossed over the center of your body. Therefore, you will want to look at each Circle both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body.
If you feel resistant or stuck, cross or uncross a hand or foot over the midline of your body and go back to the Circle, breathing patiently. See if your thinking starts to move again. Let negative self-talk go by breathing through it Just breathe deeply and relax.
After you’ve finished going through the entire exercise, give yourself some time to let it integrate. A quiet mind and light heart will change your perspective and make it easier to accomplish your goals.
Step 1. Balance
Begin by consciously breathing in on the count of three and slowly exhaling on the count of five. Do that three or four times while you gaze softly at the Circle. It’s helpful if you can breathe in through your nose.
Continue breathing and bring your awareness to your tailbone.
Step 2. Calm
Keep breathing with your belly soft and relaxed.
Let your shoulders drop.
Gaze softly at this Circle and imagine you can turn down the feelings or thoughts that are turned up too high, just like the volume on a radio.
Step 3. Centering
See if you can gather your awareness and connect it – like all the lines that come together into the center of this symbol.
Imagine you can close up unhealthy energy channels between you and any interference that’s coming from the outside.
Stay with it until you feel more centered with beneficial energy flowing through you.
Step 4. Protection
Now you’re ready to close all holes or harmful pathways that have been left wide open, like too many tabs that have been left open on your computer. It’s time to set this right.
“I close the pathways that lead to distractions, disturbances and interference.”
“All holes are sealed and healed.”
“I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”
Step 5. Beauty
Once the pathways are closed, you can shift your attention away from the negative and turn towards more positive input. Breathe in again and exhale slowly.
Let this Chart help you call the most majestic scenes into your mind that you can imagine.
Notice how your body responds and relaxes into the experience.
Step 6. Expansion
Turn your attention to your breathing again and how calming it is.
You can sense the steady rhythm of your heart.
The gentle expansion and contraction of your lungs.
Breathing in and letting go. The space around you is relaxing too.
Step 7. Letting Go
There may be some especially sticky energies that don’t seem to want to let go. Let this Key help you neutralize interfering energies and detach from them.
Like a healing balm, imagine that a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you.
Step 8. Intention
Now you’re ready to gently turn your mind to what’s in your best interests. What are your true priorities?
Slow down and take your time.
Step 9. Decision
Your well-being is important. Are there any new decisions would you like to make about it?
Here’s a few suggestions:
“I decide to be loyal to myself.”
“It’s okay to have strong and clear boundaries.”
“It’s genuinely joyful to have a quiet mind and a light heart.”
Step 10. Resolution
Make a commitment to stay centered and true to yourself.
“I keep my own energy contained for my own protection.”
“I easily eject and deflect harmful thoughts, interference or expectations.”
“I resolve to create and maintain clear boundaries.”
Step 11.. Nourishment
This is a good opportunity to see if there’s any helpful nutrition that would support you. Let Plant Medicine help you tune into natural healing energy.
Are there any vegetables, fruits, herbs, teas or other healing foods that come to mind? Anything else?
Step 12: Grounding and Coherence
Electric Eel will help your energy get organized and grounded. Put both your feet on the floor, place your palms on the inside of your knees and keep breathing until you feel planted.
Then, visualize a wheel spinning out any discordant energy that’s still hanging on and causing problems. When you can release excess energy, it’s much easier to think more clearly and feel like yourself again.
Step 13. Compassion
Imagine with each relaxing new breath that you can fill your heart with renewed understanding and compassion – that includes caring for yourself with clear boundaries.
Your energy is rising up into a lighter space.
Step 14. Completion
Finish by closing any remaining openings to the noise and distractions of the external world.
“All holes are sealed and healed.”
“I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”
What does your Soul advise you to do now?
Congratulations! Now that you’ve finished, give yourself some time to let it integrate. A quiet mind and light heart changes your perspective and makes it easier to accomplish your goals.
This Mind Exercise is Part of Spirit Animal Tracks for Self-healing
About the Author
If you feel that you need additional help, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you still feel concerned about maintaining clear boundaries and other learning difficulties.
Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through Reiki energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing.
Schedule with Rheanni via Zoom or in person when you visit Santa Fe, New Mexico. Call or text (505) 271-4612 between 10:00am – 5:00pm, MST, Monday through Friday to schedule or email: [email protected]
Disclaimer:
Clear Boundaries for a Busy Mind should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.
