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Self-care for Loss in Difficult Times
Soul Oriented Solutions: A Gentle Self-care Formula about Loss and Our Connection with Love ~
The Circles and charts in this formula are here to give you a helping hand whenever you’re feeling anxious, upset or lost around a significant loss or challenge in your life circumstances.
You might have lost a relative, a job or an important friendship. You could be facing a health challenge or even a loss in your purpose and sense of self.
Or, you may be standing on the sidelines, watching the world you love suffer while you feel at a loss for something helpful to do.
What are some ways to provide self-care for loss and bring some level of emotional and spiritual relief?
In situations like these, it can take a while to regain your balanced and get back up on your feet. 
However, if you can find a way to tune into your deepest resources, you’ll discover that you’re never completely alone, even in your darkest hours.
To help out, this self-care formula offers hope, positive affirmations and the Intuitive Learning Circles that you can use at any time, day or night, whenever you are:
- Asking for help in a difficult or complicated situation
- Stressed over a lost job or income
- Grieving a loss of any kind
- Feeling pulled into a negative state of mind
- Recovering from an abusive experience – past or present
- Dealing with a serious or long-term illness
- Preparing for an arduous challenge or surgery
- Coming to terms with tragedy, loss or death.
Use this self-care formula as a re-assuring reminder that Love is forever present. Simply read the message and then meditate on each Circle with a soft gaze in the order given for one or two minutes. While you’re contemplating, breathe deeply and relax. The images may seem to move, rotate, vibrate or change color. Don’t worry. That happens sometimes. It just means that they’re working to help you feel better. You don’t need to do anything else right now.
To begin with, the world has been going through so many changes.
It’s good to know that there are helpful channels of generative life force available all around us. Meditate on this symbol for Divine Protection to connect with them. Let yourself breathe and relax as much as possible.
Imagine the lines coming in towards the center are connecting with the center spoke. Then, allow that beneficial energy to flow through you and raise your spirits.
Mind Body Integration
For best results, look at each symbol in this formula both crossed over the midline of your body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.
Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience!
Resonate with the lighter energy of Air.
Tune into this Soul Prayer Chart for Oxygen and resonate with the breath of life. Breathing deeply helps you lift feelings of heaviness up and off of you.
“I tune into the lighter energy of Air.”
“I resonate with the breath of life.”
Integrate your experience of breathing with Divine Protection to raise your energy.
Remember to come back to either of these symbols if you need to integrate or if your breathing becomes squelched.
Reconnect with Your Heart Center.
Continue to prepare for Self-care for Loss by meditating on this Reiki Chakra Key to bring increased life force and balance into your heart center. It helps to place your right hand over the center of your chest while you gaze at the symbol. Here’s a a couple of suggested affirmations:
“I understand and have compassion for the suffering of myself and others.”
“I choose life. I find peace and balanced prosperity in my heart.”
Strong emotions or insights may come up. The image may seem to move, rotate, vibrate or change color. Don’t worry. That happens sometimes. It just means it’s working to help you feel better. Once the energy calms down a bit, you can move on to the remaining Circles with each of their affirmations to continue the process.
Re-engage with your rational senses.
Your senses may have gotten all knocked out of balance. Gaze softly at the Reiki Chakra Key for your senses while you contemplate these positive affirmations for a minute or so. Relax and breathe:
“I bring my senses into balance.”
“I focus them to help me be calmer, more present and aware of what’s important.”
“I use my senses to know who I am and what I’m doing.”
“I focus on thoughts and actions that are genuinely helpful and productive.”
Unwind the Stress.
Sometimes, our ideas about joy and wellbeing have become twisted. If that’s been happening in your case, Hummingbird Medicine can help you visualize any twisted ideas gently unfolding and unwinding.
If you’re trying to do too much, allow your expectations to relax and unwind. Take the pressure off of yourself.
Be sure to do that both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of the body.
Communicating a true, heartfelt intention is important.
The Master Chakras are located on each hand between your thumb and index finger. Let them get connected and balanced with the help of Divine Protection.
Then, visualize connecting your prayers with your heart using these affirmations:
“My prayers are connecting with my heart center.”
“I ask to receive guidance, clarity and healing from my Inner Wisdom.”
You might want to journal some of your thoughts so you can talk about what comes up later with a trusted counselor or friend. If so, get out some paper and something to write with as you go through the steps.
Now you’re ready to ask for help…
Self-care for Loss
Step One: Ask for Help
Breathe in deeply, all the way to your belly several times while you reflect on this Soul Prayer Chart for Divine Assistance.
If you could ask for something that would genuinely be helpful to you, what would it be?
Continue breathing and visualize your request lifting up from your heart center to spirit for manifestation. Lifting up on the breath of life.
Step Two – Support
With this symbol, intend to bring relief and relaxation into all parts of your body, mind and spirit while you continue to breathe.
It’s okay to ask for miracles.
Step Three ~ Peace
What do you think is the main question, difficulty or burden you’re dealing with right now? Take a few moments and put it into your own words.
If there’s a blockage or resistance, are you willing to let go of whatever it is and find a solution? If not, why not?
Step Four – Release
If you can, imagine that difficulty or burden is beginning to melt and soften up. You can release the tension around anything that’s bothering you about this. Your shoulders are dropped. Your jaw is relaxed.
Hardened thoughts are melting like ice under the light of the Sun.
Keep softening the tension until you feel a release.
Remember to do that both crossed and uncrossed.
Step Five – Calm Your Senses
Notice how this burden may be causing you to get lost in worst case scenarios or fantasies about how you wish things were, rather than acknowledging how they actually are.
It’s natural to do that, however, a softer, lighter perception has a way of untangling problems and blockages. Use River Medicine to adjust the volume for all your senses. Some may be turned up too high and some too low.
You can balance them now with the help of these affirmations:
“My mind is calm and relaxed.”
“I am able to perceive my situation under a new light.”
Step Six – New Channels of Soul Communication
Continue to relax and let your mind turn to helpful channels of life affirming communication with your Soul. Use Divine Protection again to help you connect deeply with those channels.
Imagine that your thoughts and senses are connecting with the lines at the center spoke of the wheel. Allow those connections to flow through you, making you stronger and more resilient with every breath.
Take all the time you need to let your new mindset settle.
Step Seven – Soul Vision
Now it’s much easier to connect with the wisdom of your Soul through the Soul Chakra located above your head. Under this new light you have access to expanded awareness and perception of what’s possible.
Consider what your life could be without this difficulty you’re concerned about. What would it be like if the burdens were lifted? Can you imagine it?
Sense the experience as much as you can in detail.
See it, hear it, taste it, smell it and feel it.
Step Eight – Reconnecting with Love
When you’re ready, gently contemplate this Soul Prayer Chart to help you gain insight and spiritual direction about appropriate actions to take in this situation.
Imagine you can call upon Love and your Soul for continued support.
Is there something that they would tell you to do?
Ask to be guided by Love as you continue along your journey.
Step Nine: Connect with Your Essential Nature ~
Make contact with your gut feelings and inner resources. It takes energy to heal and you may feel like your will power has been lacking or that your life force is being drained right out of you.
Check in with how you’re feeling.
Taking good care of yourself is important. You are part of the equation.
Use these affirmations to help you regain your power and repair structural integrity:
“I call on my Essential Nature to empower and strengthen me.”
“I rebuild my integrity and rise above harmful mindsets and self-destructive habits.”
Once you feel your energy has lifted and is better organized, you’re ready to continue.
Step Ten: Divine Connection
We all have the capacity for a spiritual connection to Joy and Gratitude in our Heart Centers. Utilize Divine Protection to connect with your strength and the knowledge that you are loved.
You exist and what you do matters.
“I connect and communicate with the source of joy and gratitude that lives in my heart.”
“I am empowered to let go and find healing in this situation.”
“I am empowered to reclaim my Faith, my Free Will and _________
to help me heal and find answers for what’s needed.”
Step Eleven – Surrender Your Burdens
Now it’s time to let go. Visualize dissolving any destructive mindsets, habits or burdens that have come up during this process. Surrender them into the light of the Sun with a sense of Compassion and Forgiveness.
Feel the heaviness lifting up and off of you.
You have done the best that you can under the circumstances.
Soon, you’ll reclaim your Faith, your Free Will and other important Soul Resources to help you heal and find answers for what’s needed.
Step Twelve – Let Go
Breathe again and gaze on this Soul Star Detachment Chart for a few minutes to mend your energy by letting go of extraneous toxins and other interfering energies that may be contributing to your difficulties.
Feel a calmness coming over you.
Like a healing balm, imagine a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over your body.
Step Thirteen – Cleanse
You can release any illness, pain or suffering that’s associated with this situation.
Send it to the Sun so it can go wherever it needs to go to heal.
Step Fourteen – Repair
Continue to let it go and allow your personal energy to repair itself.
Relax with this Soul Star Correction Chart until things smooth out and you can begin to sense the energy of your Soul coming through.
Intend that you be free and clear of this burden. Ask for whatever is in the highest good.
Step Fifteen – Closure
In your mind’s eye, close the doors that keep the pathways open to any suffering, unhappiness or unnecessary pain. Take whatever time you need to be sure they’re all closed.
“I close the door on extraneous, unnecessary complications and conflict.”
“I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”
You are connected through Love now and following the path of your Soul.
“Let this healing be sealed with Love and Light.”
Some people have gotten a lot of extra support out of going through this self-care for loss formula every day for twenty-one days. It helps to retrain your mind to think more positively and keep you on track toward recovery.
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Help for Extreme Stress and Overwhelm is curated and facilitated by author and Reiki Master/Teacher – Rheanni Lightwater ~
Rheanni Lightwater is co-owner of Soul Resources LLC and also the creator/ curator of this unique method of self-care and personal growth called the Intuitive Learning Circles.
Since 1991, Rheanni has put together techniques from a variety of natural healing disciplines to help herself and others, many of whom are highly sensitive people with similar issues. Starting in 2001, she developed a whole system of tools for better focus and concentration using muscle testing. She also found that they can help with emotional healing, reducing stress and providing a way to activate advanced states of intuition and creativity.
If you would like more personalized help, Rheanni can work with you online via Zoom or when you visit Santa Fe. To schedule: call or text (505) 271-4612 or email: rheanni@soulresourcesllc.com.
Healing Emotional Shock
Any person who’s going through serious loss or extreme changes could experience emotional shock.
The symptoms of emotional shock are disorientation, numbness, inability to relax, mental confusion or fragmentation. A person may even disassociate from their body. This includes people who are witness to traumatic experiences in some way.
These are all ways that the unconscious mind protects us during a traumatic event.
Note: If you are looking for help because you’re going through a serious physical disruption or environmental crisis, please get to a safe place and then go through Stabilize During a Shocking Event.
This self-care formula can help when you are:
- Feeling stuck, immobilized, detached or trapped
- Unable to rest, relax and let go
- Caught in a blank or fixated state of mind
- Waking up at night worried, with obsessive thoughts
- Reliving painful experiences or having body memories
- Alternately feeling trapped and shattered.
Using the Intuitive Learning Circle method for healing emotional shock ~
Sometimes people who’ve just received bad news or experienced a traumatic event will tell you that they’re fine and not to worry about them. Years later, they may still think they’re fine, even though unconscious stress responses continue to affect their decisions and behaviors in negative ways. That’s because one of the main symptoms of being in shock is not being aware of being in shock.
Why is that? During a shock, the mind goes blank as a form of protection.
The shock response is not a sign of spiritual, mental or emotional weakness. It’s a natural, physiological event. Nevertheless, if the person doesn’t get a chance to get grounded in their body again – or if they’re not able to – serious problems may develop. Blocked energy and a constant state of freeze in fight or flight mode takes its toll over time.
Statements like: “I can’t help how I feel,” “my life was shattered” or “I feel disconnected and can’t think straight,” describe the experience of emotional shock.
If any of the above seems familiar, or is coming to the surface, you can go through this formula step by step to help you access your own innate healing abilities and bring yourself back into balance.
Before you begin…
Because communication lines have become obscured or broken down completely, take a few moments to connect with the beneficial life force that’s available to you through this symbol for Divine Protection.
Relax and use these positive affirmations to help you:
“I integrate with generative energy channels to help me heal emotional shock.”
“I use life affirming communication lines to regain balance.”
Imagine all the lines coming together and connecting into the center spoke of this Circle until you feel strong, positive energy flowing through you.
Feel free to return to Divine Protection at any time during this formula to improve integration.
Mind Body Integration
For best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.
Let yourself breathe and relax as much as possible. Don’t worry if the images move around or change in any way. That just means the Circles are working and that your mind and body are relaxing.
Be sure to go through the entire formula and at the end, give yourself time to rest and integrate.
Healing Emotional Shock
Step One:
Take several deep breaths and relax while you look at Condor’s Medicine Circle that helps you to release shock and inner conflict.
Imagine you can use it to focus in on a conflict or painful experience that’s been difficult to move on from. Somehow, it’s always blocking your way.
If your mind has gone blank, relax into how “blank” it is. You may get a sense of what it’s about, or you may not.
Once you find the fixation, relax with it and take several deep breaths.
If emotions come up, relax into them. Imagine that whatever’s happening – the darkness, the chaos or heaviness is also relaxing.
Let it soften and melt away, like ice under a beautiful beam of sunlight.
Keep your attention on it until it’s completely gone and your energy lifts a bit.
Repeat the process with other blockages or conflicts that come up.
Step Two:
While you’re relaxing, use this Soul Prayer Chart to remember another experiences where you were very happy and feeling good about an important physical goal.
What color or felt sense relaxes you and feels good?
If you can increase the color or sensation to be stronger and more vibrant, you’ve found your personal Soul Color or vibration.
Let it fill up the space around you. Now you can tap into your personal power and naturally bring it into balance, which gives you protection and relieves stress.
Being in balance makes everything easier!
Integrate with Divine Protection and give yourself the time to relax and enjoy that feeling.
Step Three:
The next step is to bring your senses into balance with River Medicine so that you can see, feel and hear things without the distortion that often accompanies shock.
As you breathe deeply, let the Circle help you to adjust the volume and pitch of your senses to just the right level for you.
Not too high – and not too low.
Soon you’ll be able to hear that “calm, gentle voice” inside that reminds you to pay attention to what matters the most for you.
You have greater awareness of things as they actually are.
You are present and sensing your surroundings much more clearly.
Step Four:
When a person is recovering from emotional shock, their energy may express some instability like being scattered, reversed or even shut down completely.
If that’s happening for you, let this Correction Key help you build more resilience by repairing any glitches, holes or blockages in your system.
Keep relaxing with it until you feel the jagged energy smoothing out and the calm energy of your Soul coming through even stronger.
If you need Divine Protection, use it and balance your senses again with Step Three.
Step Five:
If your gut feels tight or uncomfortable, use this Reiki Chakra Key for your Solar Plexus Chakra to help you relax and get back into balance there.
Your solar plexus is that soft place in your belly where your ribs go up. Just take some nice breaths and feel the tension melt away again.
It’s safe. You feel safe and more relaxed with every breath.
It’s okay to be in your body.
Integrate with Divine Protection and allow time to let your energy settle.
Step Six:
Now you can let your heart center recover. This Reiki Chakra Key helps you to reconnect with your Heart Chakra and unwind any residual tightness in your chest.
Center the energy with Divine Protection. Breathe deeply and take your time.
Your balance and vitality are returning. You can feel the tightness unwinding.
Allow any heaviness to lift up out of your heart and send it to the Sun where it can be transformed.
You are gaining the strength and resilience you need to let your inner light shine!
Step Seven:
Sometimes a person who’s healing from an emotional shock will be disoriented and feel a bit “out of their body.” In case that’s happening with you, take a few minutes with Starlight Medicine to consciously bring yourself back into your body.
Integrate with Divine Protection to make sure you’re back at home in your heart and solar plexus.
If you’re having trouble, notice the time and where you are. You can open and close your hands into fists. Move your fingers and wiggle your toes around.
Or, you can turn your eyes to the right of you and then to the left. Notice what is above and below – in front and behind you. Then, close your eyes and rest for a moment.
These actions all help you reorient after an emotional shock.
Step Eight:
This is a good time to re-establsh your connection with beneficial energies around you and positive activities that will support you.
It’s important that you be reminded about what’s nourishing and what’s not. Use Butterfly’s Circle to strengthen your connection with your inner compass and the many things that your Soul finds important.
See if you can come up with a a couple of actions you could safely take that would help you get back up on your feet.
If you like, integrate each one with Divine Protection to help you get your energy moving in a positive direction.
Step Nine:
Now, it’s important to make sure that your energy can synchronize and ground in the new paradigm of Common Ground for the Common Good. Without proper grounding, you could get distracted and confused enough to go back to the deterioration and chaos of negative, old patterns.
That’s not what you want. Deciding to move with Mother Nature rather than against her matters now more than ever!
Let Electric Eel’s Medicine work with your Soul vibration to help you. Place both feet on the ground and meditate on Nature.
Your energy is getting more and more coherent and the Earth supports you.
Again, take all the time you want and do what you need to do.
Step Ten:
At this point, you’ll want to make sure you don’t get sucked back into old, destructive habits or step into dangerous holes.
Fly Medicine will help you deconstruct toxic habits and rabbit holes that have been causing you harm. Imagine them collapsing like old sewer lines.
Then, close down any energy drains so you can recover your strength.
Once the holes are collapsed, ask for the leftover empty space to be filled in with Love. Integrate with Divine Protection to connect with new, life affirming communication channels.
Step Eleven:
Oftentimes, letting go of emotional shock requires a significant change in priorities. There may be certain systems, plans, ideas or habitual patterns that have become destructive and are no longer relevant or constructive. Your understanding of things is likely to go through a shift.
You can use this symbol for Dissolving Destructive Blueprints to help you identify them and dissolve whatever is confusing you.
Actively imagine that any destructive or negative patterns in your mind are like heavy clouds or a jumbled maze of confusion, fears and nightmares.
Once you have the image, send it up to the pure light of the Sun and see the maze dissolve completely.
You’ll know that you’re done when you can see yourself standing in a beautiful open field with clear blue skies all around.
Please note: It’s time to stop sending negative emotions to the Earth, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of happiness and life – not death!
Step Twelve:
Seal and heal any leaks or openings that may have come open in your energy field during this process. Leaky energy keeps you open to danger and allows harmful energies to attach to you.
Open pathways to past suffering can also leave you feeling drained and exhausted.
That includes suffering you’ve merely been a witness to.
As you gaze at Piranha’s Medicine Circle, imagine dangerous leaks, doors and pathways are closing. All holes are sealed and healed.
Make a decision to follow the direction of your Soul’s protection.
Step Thirteen:
To complete this formula for emotional shock, take your time with this Soul Prayer Chart that helps you repair and refocus the auric field around you.
Bring your attention back to your body and the space that surrounds it.
Make an intention to repair all rips or tears in your aura and then strengthen it with your Soul Color and Divine Protection for greater confidence and autonomy.
Pulling your energy in close to your body will actually make a difference with symptoms like brain fog, fatigue and emotional volatility.
Continue until you feel protected in your body and safe in your own space.
Congratulations!
Now that you’re finished with the formula, consider taking a nice walk outside. Nothing grounds you like being in nature after healing an emotional shock.
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Help for Extreme Stress and Overwhelm is curated and facilitated by author and Reiki Master/Teacher – Rheanni Lightwater ~
Rheanni Lightwater is co-owner of Soul Resources LLC and also the creator/ curator of this unique method of self-care and personal growth called the Intuitive Learning Circles.
Since 1991, Rheanni has put together techniques from a variety of natural healing disciplines to help herself and others, many of whom are highly sensitive people with similar issues. Starting in 2001, she developed a whole system of tools for better focus and concentration using muscle testing. She also found that they can help with emotional healing, reducing stress and providing a way to activate advanced states of intuition and creativity.
If you would like more personalized help, Rheanni can work with you online via Zoom or when you visit Santa Fe. To schedule: call or text (505) 271-4612 or email: rheanni@soulresourcesllc.com.
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