Soul Oriented Solutions: A Gentle Self-care Formula about Loss and Our Connection with Love ~
The Circles and charts in this formula are here to give you a helping hand whenever you’re feeling anxious, upset or lost around a significant loss or challenge in your life circumstances.
You might have lost a relative, a job or an important friendship. You could be facing a health challenge or even a loss in your purpose and sense of self.
Or, you may be standing on the sidelines, watching the world you love suffer while you feel at a loss for something helpful to do.
What are some ways to provide self-care for loss and bring some level of emotional and spiritual relief?
In situations like these, it can take a while to regain your balanced and get back up on your feet. 
However, if you can find a way to tune into your deepest resources, you’ll discover that you’re never completely alone, even in your darkest hours.
To help out, this self-care formula offers hope, positive affirmations and the Intuitive Learning Circles that you can use at any time, day or night, whenever you are:
- Asking for help in a difficult or complicated situation
- Stressed over a lost job or income
- Grieving a loss of any kind
- Feeling pulled into a negative state of mind
- Recovering from an abusive experience – past or present
- Dealing with a serious or long-term illness
- Preparing for an arduous challenge or surgery
- Coming to terms with tragedy, loss or death.
Use this self-care formula as a re-assuring reminder that Love is forever present. Simply read the message and then meditate on each Circle with a soft gaze in the order given for one or two minutes. While you’re contemplating, breathe deeply and relax. The images may seem to move, rotate, vibrate or change color. Don’t worry. That happens sometimes. It just means that they’re working to help you feel better. You don’t need to do anything else right now.
To begin with, the world has been going through so many changes.
It’s good to know that there are helpful channels of generative life force available all around us. Meditate on this symbol for Divine Protection to connect with them. Let yourself breathe and relax as much as possible.
Imagine the lines coming in towards the center are connecting with the center spoke. Then, allow that beneficial energy to flow through you and raise your spirits.
Mind Body Integration
For best results, look at each symbol in this formula both crossed over the midline of your body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.
Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience!
Resonate with the lighter energy of Air.
Tune into this Soul Prayer Chart for Oxygen and resonate with the breath of life. Breathing deeply helps you lift feelings of heaviness up and off of you.
“I tune into the lighter energy of Air.”
“I resonate with the breath of life.”
Integrate your experience of breathing with Divine Protection to raise your energy.
Remember to come back to either of these symbols if you need to integrate or if your breathing becomes squelched.
Reconnect with Your Heart Center.
Continue to prepare for Self-care for Loss by meditating on this Reiki Chakra Key to bring increased life force and balance into your heart center. It helps to place your right hand over the center of your chest while you gaze at the symbol. Here’s a a couple of suggested affirmations:
“I understand and have compassion for the suffering of myself and others.”
“I choose life. I find peace and balanced prosperity in my heart.”
Strong emotions or insights may come up. The image may seem to move, rotate, vibrate or change color. Don’t worry. That happens sometimes. It just means it’s working to help you feel better. Once the energy calms down a bit, you can move on to the remaining Circles with each of their affirmations to continue the process.
Re-engage with your rational senses.
Your senses may have gotten all knocked out of balance. Gaze softly at the Reiki Chakra Key for your senses while you contemplate these positive affirmations for a minute or so. Relax and breathe:
“I bring my senses into balance.”
“I focus them to help me be calmer, more present and aware of what’s important.”
“I use my senses to know who I am and what I’m doing.”
“I focus on thoughts and actions that are genuinely helpful and productive.”
Unwind the Stress.
Sometimes, our ideas about joy and wellbeing have become twisted. If that’s been happening in your case, Hummingbird Medicine can help you visualize any twisted ideas gently unfolding and unwinding.
If you’re trying to do too much, allow your expectations to relax and unwind. Take the pressure off of yourself.
Be sure to do that both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of the body.
Communicating a true, heartfelt intention is important.
The Master Chakras are located on each hand between your thumb and index finger. Let them get connected and balanced with the help of Divine Protection.
Then, visualize connecting your prayers with your heart using these affirmations:
“My prayers are connecting with my heart center.”
“I ask to receive guidance, clarity and healing from my Inner Wisdom.”
You might want to journal some of your thoughts so you can talk about what comes up later with a trusted counselor or friend. If so, get out some paper and something to write with as you go through the steps.
Now you’re ready to ask for help…
Self-care for Loss
Step One: Ask for Help
Breathe in deeply, all the way to your belly several times while you reflect on this Soul Prayer Chart for Divine Assistance.
If you could ask for something that would genuinely be helpful to you, what would it be?
Continue breathing and visualize your request lifting up from your heart center to spirit for manifestation. Lifting up on the breath of life.
Step Two – Support
With this symbol, intend to bring relief and relaxation into all parts of your body, mind and spirit while you continue to breathe.
It’s okay to ask for miracles.
Step Three ~ Peace
What do you think is the main question, difficulty or burden you’re dealing with right now? Take a few moments and put it into your own words.
If there’s a blockage or resistance, are you willing to let go of whatever it is and find a solution? If not, why not?
Step Four – Release
If you can, imagine that difficulty or burden is beginning to melt and soften up. You can release the tension around anything that’s bothering you about this. Your shoulders are dropped. Your jaw is relaxed.
Hardened thoughts are melting like ice under the light of the Sun.
Keep softening the tension until you feel a release.
Remember to do that both crossed and uncrossed.
Step Five – Calm Your Senses
Notice how this burden may be causing you to get lost in worst case scenarios or fantasies about how you wish things were, rather than acknowledging how they actually are.
It’s natural to do that, however, a softer, lighter perception has a way of untangling problems and blockages. Use River Medicine to adjust the volume for all your senses. Some may be turned up too high and some too low.
You can balance them now with the help of these affirmations:
“My mind is calm and relaxed.”
“I am able to perceive my situation under a new light.”
Step Six – New Channels of Soul Communication
Continue to relax and let your mind turn to helpful channels of life affirming communication with your Soul. Use Divine Protection again to help you connect deeply with those channels.
Imagine that your thoughts and senses are connecting with the lines at the center spoke of the wheel. Allow those connections to flow through you, making you stronger and more resilient with every breath.
Take all the time you need to let your new mindset settle.
Step Seven – Soul Vision
Now it’s much easier to connect with the wisdom of your Soul through the Soul Chakra located above your head. Under this new light you have access to expanded awareness and perception of what’s possible.
Consider what your life could be without this difficulty you’re concerned about. What would it be like if the burdens were lifted? Can you imagine it?
Sense the experience as much as you can in detail.
See it, hear it, taste it, smell it and feel it.
Step Eight – Reconnecting with Love
When you’re ready, gently contemplate this Soul Prayer Chart to help you gain insight and spiritual direction about appropriate actions to take in this situation.
Imagine you can call upon Love and your Soul for continued support.
Is there something that they would tell you to do?
Ask to be guided by Love as you continue along your journey.
Step Nine: Connect with Your Essential Nature ~
Make contact with your gut feelings and inner resources. It takes energy to heal and you may feel like your will power has been lacking or that your life force is being drained right out of you.
Check in with how you’re feeling.
Taking good care of yourself is important. You are part of the equation.
Use these affirmations to help you regain your power and repair structural integrity:
“I call on my Essential Nature to empower and strengthen me.”
“I rebuild my integrity and rise above harmful mindsets and self-destructive habits.”
Once you feel your energy has lifted and is better organized, you’re ready to continue.
Step Ten: Divine Connection
We all have the capacity for a spiritual connection to Joy and Gratitude in our Heart Centers. Utilize Divine Protection to connect with your strength and the knowledge that you are loved.
You exist and what you do matters.
“I connect and communicate with the source of joy and gratitude that lives in my heart.”
“I am empowered to let go and find healing in this situation.”
“I am empowered to reclaim my Faith, my Free Will and _________
to help me heal and find answers for what’s needed.”
Step Eleven – Surrender Your Burdens
Now it’s time to let go. Visualize dissolving any destructive mindsets, habits or burdens that have come up during this process. Surrender them into the light of the Sun with a sense of Compassion and Forgiveness.
Feel the heaviness lifting up and off of you.
You have done the best that you can under the circumstances.
Soon, you’ll reclaim your Faith, your Free Will and other important Soul Resources to help you heal and find answers for what’s needed.
Step Twelve – Let Go
Breathe again and gaze on this Soul Star Detachment Chart for a few minutes to mend your energy by letting go of extraneous toxins and other interfering energies that may be contributing to your difficulties.
Feel a calmness coming over you.
Like a healing balm, imagine a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over your body.
Step Thirteen – Cleanse
You can release any illness, pain or suffering that’s associated with this situation.
Send it to the Sun so it can go wherever it needs to go to heal.
Step Fourteen – Repair
Continue to let it go and allow your personal energy to repair itself.
Relax with this Soul Star Correction Chart until things smooth out and you can begin to sense the energy of your Soul coming through.
Intend that you be free and clear of this burden. Ask for whatever is in the highest good.
Step Fifteen – Closure
In your mind’s eye, close the doors that keep the pathways open to any suffering, unhappiness or unnecessary pain. Take whatever time you need to be sure they’re all closed.
“I close the door on extraneous, unnecessary complications and conflict.”
“I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”
You are connected through Love now and following the path of your Soul.
“Let this healing be sealed with Love and Light.”
Some people have gotten a lot of extra support out of going through this self-care for loss formula every day for twenty-one days. It helps to retrain your mind to think more positively and keep you on track toward recovery.
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Help for Extreme Stress and Overwhelm is curated and facilitated by author and Reiki Master/Teacher – Rheanni Lightwater ~
Rheanni Lightwater is co-owner of Soul Resources LLC and also the creator/ curator of this unique method of self-care and personal growth called the Intuitive Learning Circles.
Since 1991, Rheanni has put together techniques from a variety of natural healing disciplines to help herself and others, many of whom are highly sensitive people with similar issues. Starting in 2001, she developed a whole system of tools for better focus and concentration using muscle testing. She also found that they can help with emotional healing, reducing stress and providing a way to activate advanced states of intuition and creativity.
If you would like more personalized help, Rheanni can work with you online via Zoom or when you visit Santa Fe. To schedule: call or text (505) 271-4612 or email: rheanni@soulresourcesllc.com.
