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March 29, 2018October 20, 2023

Healing Emotional Abuse

Transformation Game: Healing Emotional Abuse from Our Collective Karma

The key to healing emotional abuse and remaining positive in difficult times is to remember the bottom line – you are a being of love!

Sometimes we forget or never believed it in the first place. We allow past patterns of fear, hatred or abuse to influence us. One of the main ways that this happens is through confusion. Another is apathy.

As we adjust to the New Paradigm, we need ways to address the collective karma that is at the source of the abuse. To help with that, I’d like to share a powerful process that has helped many people shift negative collective patterns into positive well being. It’s called Healing Emotional Abuse. – R Lightwater

Transformation Games are inspired by Kuan Yin, a beloved and respected healing guide among natural health and energy medicine practitioners.

*Caution! Her advice is, as always, direct and to the point!

“Did you know that confusion, disorientation and feelings of impotence are symptoms of karmic patterns of abuse?
Some patterns are about individual karma and some are collective patterns. In a collective pattern, we are all affected in one way or another. A poignant example would be the tragedy of 9/11 or Nazi Germany in World War II. In current times, the attack on children’s safety, mass shootings, autonomy over our bodies, the exploitation of our environment and the loss of privacy rights are all definitely group patterns.

Every person shares the collective karma of these events, although the level of our involvement varies with each person or group, of course.

The game below is made up of Intuitive Learning Circles that can help you disentangle from collective karma that’s causing you harm in the present. Simply go through the game by answering pertinent questions that will activate your heart wisdom and give you a new perspective.

Step One: Gaze at the Circle for a moment and then consider this question:

“In what aspect of my life am I experiencing apathy, confusion or fear?”

Use the answer that comes to you as the basis for the game so that you can disengage from the confusion and release your fears very quickly. If there’s more than one situation causing you to be concerned, angry or fearful, play the game again later for each specific situation. The best way to take the energy out of anything is to stop feeding it and turn your attention to positive activities that will feed what you love. That is exactly what Healing Emotional Abuse will help you to do with these unconscious patterns.”

How to Play Healing Emotional Abuse:

Simply gaze softly at the images below while you ponder the statements or questions that go with them. Use the symbols to help you go within and access new energy and clarity. What you do with the information you come up with is up to you!

Mind Body Integration

For best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.

Step Two: Relax with this symbol and repeat to yourself several times:

“I am ready, willing and able to shift my perception from negative to positive, from confused to clear and/or from powerless to empowered.”

Imagine that your life is like a movie and that your inner camera is filming it from a certain angle. Allow your Inner Guidance to pull the camera back and move it to an entirely different angle – a perception that includes a viable solution. Focus in on this new perspective like a close up in a movie.

Step Three: While looking at this Circle, remember that aspect of your life that’s troubling you. Ask yourself:

“What name would I give this issue? How would I describe it?”

How is it affecting me? How is it affecting others?”

Step Four: Continue your inquiry by asking your heart:

“What am I feeling about this?”

“Is there a particular time when I feel especially anxious or confused?

“Is there a time when I feel particularly despondent or upset?”

“Where do I feel those things in my body?”

Remember, there is no right or wrong answer. Any information you get can be used to help you!

Step Five: Notice how this situation may shut you down or agitate you because it opens up a lot of turmoil. Breathe a few times and allow this Circle to help you calm yourself and start to get back into balance.

Step Six: See if you can free up your breath and body even more. Gaze softly at this symbol and open your breathing for a few minutes.

If you’re uncomfortable or tight – move around.
Imagine the space around you is relaxing and opening up.
If your breathing feels stilted or anxious, vary the tempo, the length and breadth of it.
Stretch. Fire breathe. Whatever it takes!

“With every breath, I relax the tension and reconnect with life.”

Once you’re ready, let your energy be opened, lifted and lightened by the new, generative Universal flow that rides on the element of Air. Allow any remaining tension to unwind. You are relaxing with every breath and becoming very, very calm. All doors to anxiety, fear or abuse are closing now…

“I close down all harmful energy channels. I am divinely protected.”

“I connect with generative life energy available in the New Paradigm to help me let go of negativity and reconnect with Life.”

Continue moving around, breathing and stretching for as long as you like.

Take a break. If you feel a lot of tension or anxiety releasing, this is probably a good time to get up and take a walk or exercise.

Welcome back!

Step Seven: Whenever you’re dealing with emotional abuse or confusion, it’s very helpful to make sure you’re oriented properly to receive natural healing and nurture your true hearts desire.

“I am present and inside my body. I consciously re-orient myself.”

“I am aware of my boundaries and expel energies that are abusive to me.”

Step Eight: Use this Soul Prayer Chart to tune directly into your heart. You can do this by focusing your inner camera again. This time, use it to zoom in on your heart center. Once you feel a connection, ask for help from your Soul resources and allow yourself to receive all the help that you need. Take your time and embrace the strength that comes from your Soul.

“I exist. I am important and filled with the support and strength of my spirit.”

Step Nine. Use this Circle to help you visualize your personal Sacred Garden that lives in your heart. This is the place where you can rest and nurture your dreams. Gaze softly at the Circle and ask your heart:

“Am I in my own Sacred Garden?”

If you aren’t, pull yourself back. If you are, look to see if the landscape could use some tending.

Step Ten: While you’re there, clear out any old or harmful intentions that may keep you invested in emotional abuse, chaos, bondage or any other abuse of power.

Be sure to consider familial and ancestral intentions that are no longer relevant and may even be harmful.

“All harmful intentions are cleared out of my body, mind and spirit.”

Once all harmful intentions are cleared away, what is a life affirming intention you can redirect your energy to that comes directly from your Soul?

Step Eleven: In the Intuitive Learning Circle method, karma refers to thoughts, decisions and actions that you’ve followed through on. In other words, Cause and Effect. This could mean either personal actions made or group karma.

Imagine that you can clear away any seeds of harmful karma that are contributing to this situation. Include any group karma that may have come through ancestral or societal connections. If you can, go all the way back to the original event and clear out the seeds that set this karmic cycle into motion.

Once the old seeds are cleared, imagine you are planting new seeds that will help you create something truly beneficial as an expression of your love. For example, you could use the Circle to help you plant the karmic seeds for a new collective pattern of Divine Love. Be sure to include seeds for everything your garden would need to prosper and grow in the New Paradigm.

Step Twelve: It’s time to dispel destructive energies from your field. You can use this symbol, which helps you dissolve any mental/emotional patterns that you might be feeling right now. You can even include chaotic feelings, harmful habits or illness if you’re experiencing those.

You can imagine any turmoil, hopelessness or confusion is like a flurry of dramatic clouds. Visualize a Light opening up from the Divine that envelopes and transforms the clouds. Continue until the disturbance is completely gone.

Be sure to do that both crossed and uncrossed.

Please note: Never send destructive energies into the Earth, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of happiness and life – not death!

Step Thirteen: Make a firm decision that you are done with this abuse and you’re not going back. With this Circle, find the holes, openings or pathways that pull you back into the past and close them – in accordance with your highest good.

“All holes are sealed and healed. I’m not going back.”

“I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”

Step Thirteen: Now that you’ve cleared old patterns and destructive energy away, take a moment and focus on something or someone that you truly love. It could be you – a place in nature, a favorite animal, an activity, a person that you care deeply for or all of the above! You can use this affirmation if you like:

“I turn my attention towards love. Experiencing Love is my priority.”

It also helps to place an image of what you love in the center, blank area of the Circle. Be sure to take all the time you need with this.

Congratulations for closing the door on all that. Now would be a great time to rest and nurture yourself. Take a walk or spend time in nature – doing something you love. Allow yourself to receive the blessings that come from leaving the past behind and healing emotional abuse.

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If you feel that Healing Emotional Abuse has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP is an expert in the art and science of mind body healing. She has 23+ years experience in dream tending, energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing. Contact her if you still feel disoriented or overwhelmed.

Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives. Sessions are available online or when you Visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].

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This game should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

March 21, 2018January 30, 2024

Finding Moderation In the New Paradigm

Do You Feel Overwhelmed About What’s Next? Finding Moderation is the Key to Navigating Extremes.

Kuan Yin has been helping us to transition from the old paradigm based on greed and extremism to a new paradigm of equality, co-operation and balanced prosperity. Her advice about finding moderation springs from the I Ching, an ancient book of divination that follows the flow of the cosmos. Because of that, her insight comes from a different perspective than ours.

Kuan Yin’s Readings and Transformation Games can help you to identify problems, change your focus to positive solutions, ground yourself and get in the present. Simply relax and gaze at the Circles while contemplating Kuan Yins words. Your intuition will come forward and give you the help that you seek.

Welcome to the I Ching Reading and Transformation Game for: Hexagram # 15 – Finding Moderation

“In times of difficulty and danger, it’s usually best to move with the flow of MODERATION, Hexagram #15, where ‘The predominant forces … are in the process of balancing extremes and harmonizing interests.’ ~ The I Ching Workbook, R.L. Wing

The ancient Chinese text describes finding MODERATION as the best way to make progress amidst chaos. The suggestion is to disengage from confusing extremes or opinionated attitudes and instead, follow the guidance that comes from within. In almost any situation, if you are able to walk the middle road between extremes, there will be improvement in whatever you undertake.”

Finding Moderation and Following that Path ~

As a general rule, MODERATION is the most sensible flow to follow, especially since so much chaos is playing out in the wake of environmental, political and social deterioration. The karma for disturbing internal conflicts and social upheaval is being activated and must be dealt with one way or the other.

Most people are navigating through one or another of these general karmic patterns:

Getting sucked into a negative mental, emotional, physical or spiritual decline.
Stuck in indifference or denial – avoiding personal responsibility.
Activated by past grievance, hatred or rebellious refusal to change.
Getting scattered or revisiting survival patterns from the past, or
Pulling themselves together into a centered position of empowered authority.

Initial Evaluation: As you softly gaze at this Circle, see which of these patterns you are currently experiencing. Ask yourself:

“Am I generally experiencing pattern #1, 2, 3, 4 or 5?”

It could easily be a mix, depending on your mindset and what stage of the karma you’re living through.

Regardless of what’s happening, you can make your life easier by letting go of old agreements or karma that’s over and done with. This game will help you do that.

First, Let’s Address Conflict that’s Caused by Collective Shock.

Let’s face it. The past few years have been filled with one jarring event after another. Shocking events are happening daily. Give yourself and others a break by realizing that you might be caught in a reactive pattern because you’ve received so many repeated shocks to your system. See what happens if you look at this Circle and relax for a minute or so. Breathe deeply and imagine that the conflict in your mind is melting away like ice melting under the light of the Sun.

You may find that your attachment to those reactive patterns could melt away as well!

Mind Body Integration

For best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.

Feel free to move at any time in any way to help you embody your experience!

The Underlying Structures of Our Lives Are Deteriorating Rapidly.

From wildfires to earthquakes to power outages to social institutions in disarray, it’s important to acknowledge the continuous and ongoing affect that the stress is having on us. Use this Circle to help you deconstruct the recurring karma and close up any drains that are exhausting you.

“I shut down all drains that are causing me to lose energy.”

Finding Moderation in Your Emotional Responses.

Release Your Attachments to the Old Paradigm.

The old paradigm was built on extreme and oppressive social, religious and moral dogmas that use force and fear to control others. Most of us are still tapping into them to one degree the other because they’ve been wired into how we react to events.

It would be wise to detach from that way of thinking and functioning because it has lost its ground. To find out if you’re still giving them power, ask yourself:

“Am I unconsciously tapping into toxic emotions?”

Remember, emotions are just energy in motion. They are not solid things and they aren’t who you are! Let this Soul Prayer Chart help you find the flow of harmful emotions that are running through your mind so that you can effectively detach from them.

The recent change from the Piscean Age (Water) to the Aquarian Age (Air) has caused some instability in how we process our thoughts and emotions. You can decide that your response to events can be more Air based than Water based. Here are some suggested affirmations to use with this diagram:

“I decide to bring my intuition into balance.”

“I lead with sensible thought rather than emotional reactions.”

“I do my best to keep my mind positive and my intention clear.”

My wellbeing is important and I decide to stay balanced and moderate.”

Release Codependent Behaviors.

Protect Yourself from Being Dumped On or Scapegoated.

In times of increased conflict and instability, it’s common for people who want to avoid responsibility to systemically dump their issues, problems and karma onto others who they hope will accept the blame.

You don’t have to accept the blame anymore. Send those issues back – to each their own!

People who have a tendency to take on other people’s problems are often:

Mistakenly organizing their life around the problem and being “the fixer.”
Instead, choose to organize around self-love, which includes your well-being and being kind to yourself.
Unconsciously fueling the problem by trying harder and doubling down with their energy and attention.
Instead, disconnect from how your energy is being drained and redirect your energy to your own priorities.
Internalizing the other person’s responsibility and judging themselves -“I’m not a nice person if I don’t do what they want me to do.”
Instead, realize you are taking on more than your part of the situation, which causes you harm and diminishes your ability to respond in the most effective way.

If you’ve been trained that you need to be liked or to fix things when other people are unhappy, you can trap yourself by taking on more than your part of a difficult situation. You can clarify this by asking yourself these questions:

“What is my part in this situation? What am I actually responsible for?”

“Is my desire to help joyful, or has it become twisted in some way?”

“What action could I take in this situation that would actually be helpful?”

When we buy into codependent behaviors, we are inadvertently complicating matters and preventing things from working themselves out in a simpler, more direct way.

To help you avoid this trap and set things right, use this symbol with the affirmations to release attachments to the malaise of destructive behavior:

“I let go of attachments and blame. I detach from sticky, toxic energies.”

I create autonomy and resilient optimism.”

Like a healing balm, imagine that a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you!

These affirmations will also help with this Circle:

“I correct or move past reversals, blockages and jagged energies.”

“I have a clear and direct connection with my Soul.”

Let Go of Harmful Karmic Agreements and Energies.

Use this Soul Contract Circle to help you identify and release any social, familial or religious agreements that prevent you from being present for yourself or that pull you out of balance. Simply gaze softly at the Circle while you use the affirmations.

“I release any agreement that says I’m powerless or have no choice.”

“I release all agreements to allow myself to be shamed, blamed or manipulated in any way.”

“I let go of my agreements to stay stuck in or comply with harmful behaviors associated with the old paradigm.” (extremism, slavery, deceit, greed, prejudice, intimidation, control, manipulation, dishonesty, people pleasing, etc.)

“I clarify my priorities and communicate them directly and with kindness.”
“I have autonomy over my body, my mind, my energy and how I use them.”

Let Go of Intentions That You Don’t Need Anymore.

Release yourself from intentions with family, friends or business relationships that cause conflict and block your ability to move forward freely. Consider old jobs, organizations you’ve been involved with – religious institutions, political agendas, completed projects, places you’ve lived, modes of transportation, ways of communicating or doing business, etc.

“I let go of out-dated, extreme or conflicting intentions that are harmful to me.”

What intentions will actually serve you now? Do they need to be clarified, simplified or re-organized? What do you need to have happen for yourself?

“My intentions are moderate and genuinely helpful.”

Unearth Old Emotional Garbage and Karmic Patterns.

Use this symbol for Dissolving Destructive Blueprints to identify and release any mental or emotional patterns that are causing you harm. See the Light opening up so that you can surrender them:

“I gather destructive patterns or energies and release them to the Light.
I dissolve my connection to them, so that they may be set free and transformed.”

Please note: Never send pain or harmful energies into the Earth to be neutralized, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of life, health and happiness – not death, illness and unhappiness!

Close the Door on Harmful Paths or Unnecessary Suffering.

Finish this part of the game by closing the door on harmful activities, agendas and pathways that lead back to unhealthy patterns. Take all the time you need. There are probably a lot of them.

“All doors and pathways that lead to suffering are sealed and healed.”
“I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”

Congratulations! You will probably want to take a short break to move around and let all this integrate. Come back in a few minutes, so you can apply all this newfound freedom to your future!

Refocus Your Energy to Clarify Your Priorities.

Visualize what’s truly important to you in the center open space of this Circle. Do you feel uncentered? Is your energy scattered? If so, take a moment to center yourself in your solar plexus area and aim your energy in the center open space like a bull’s eye.

“I center myself and consciously direct my energy towards truly beneficial activities and priorities.”

Don’t forget to include appropriate rest, fun and relaxation!

Recalibrate Your Energy to Truly Support What You Need Now.

Devote your energy to finding MODERATION in how you use your energy.

“I connect with my Heart Center and am guided by my true Spiritual Source.”

“I exist and am empowered to create a hopeful future and ________.”

Finish by Invoking Protection and Clarity of Mind:

Gaze softly at this symbol for Divine Protection and generative life force in the New Paradigm.

“I close down all harmful energy channels from the past.”

“My mind is open and clear to receive generative life force.”
“I learn to utilize the generative flow of chi’ to successfully manifest and communicate.”

Welcome to the Middle Road! You probably feel much more balance. Go back to the Initial Evaluation for the game and see what has changed.

If you feel complete, congratulations! Go out for a walk to integrate and get grounded.

If you feel incomplete, you can continue to the Extra-intuitive Activities part of this process and let go of a few extreme collective mindsets that can get in the way of finding MODERATION:

There are several other decisions to explore that might really improve how you’re dealing with your situation.

Extreme #1: The need to be liked and approved of by others.

Here is the prime example, ‘Being liked = being important and having purpose.’ You might want to let go of that, because this is a terrible time to base your self-worth on how other people react to you.

“I decide that my worth comes from within. I let go of the need for approval.”

“I build my relationships out of sincere goodwill from my heart, not from projected expectations of self-importance.”

Extreme #2: The ‘more is better’ or ‘bigger is better’ syndrome.

For example: The Sun is good, however too much Sun causes cancer. Butter is good, yet too much butter causes weight gain, etc. Another social meme that explains the mindset is: ‘The sky is the limit. I want it all now, so I should be able to have it all now!’

“I am clear about who I am and what’s in my best interest.“

“I decide that clear, MODERATE limits enhance my wellbeing.”

Use this Circle like a mirror and clear away any markings or old graffiti that obscure the pure energy signature of your Soul.

Extreme #3: The ‘I’m not doing enough/doing too much” dichotomy.

Finding MODERATION means putting in just the right amount of effort to get the desired result. Think Goldilocks – not too much and not too little… just right.

If you’re uncomfortable because you’re feeling blocked or scattered, there may be a good reason. Do you know what it is? Suddenly heading off into fifteen different directions will probably backfire on you badly.

If you’re sending your energy in too many directions, stop and regain your center. Thoughtful consideration about what you really need is what’s most important now.

“What do I really need to focus on right now? What will help me do that?”

Congratulations!

Now that you’ve made choices about finding moderation you can bring order and new happiness into your environment!”

For many people, finding MODERATION signifies an opportunity to go within and expel deep patterns of fanaticism within their psyche so that they can evolve and arise from that pattern, much as a beautiful lotus arises from the muck and mire at the bottom of a pond.”

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Rheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT lives and practices in Santa Fe, NM. She specializes in mind body healing with family and relationship clearing using Kinesiology, the Intuitive Learning Circles, Reiki as a Master/Teacher, Hypnotherapy and Shamanic Clearing Techniques.

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Disclaimer:
This Transformation Game should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment if there is any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website and in our materials are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

March 21, 2018November 18, 2023

Protected: Learning from Danger

March 15, 2018February 22, 2023

Mind Body Healing in Santa Fe

Rheanni Lightwater, CKP, CHT offers online stress management sessions and Mind Body Healing in Santa Fe, New Mexico.

Services include: Reiki, Hypnosis, Energy Medicine, Medical Intuition, Dream Tending, Applied Kinesiology, Trauma Resolution, Feng Shui & Epigenetic Healing.

Rheanni Lightwater is an award winning author, hypnotherapist and practitioner of mind body healing in Santa Fe, New Mexico. She is the co-founder of Soul Resources LLC and has been in the healing arts since 1991. Her background is in trauma resolution, somatic education, shamanic and energy healing using Reiki and Energy Kinesiology. She has spent the past twenty-three years writing, researching and developing the Intuitive Learning Circle method in private practice, medical clinics, workshops, classes and school rooms. Her unique approach to energy medicine and mind/body integration has allowed both children and adults to free themselves from limited thoughts and behaviors that can contribute to serious illness, learning disabilities and emotional distress. Highly sensitive people learn to develop healthy boundaries and access their creative talents.

The inspiration for her award winning books and games come from her studies of Hypnosis, Reiki and Somatic Education techniques together with indigenous healing through Hawaiian Huna, Tibetan energywork, Peruvian shamanism and feng shui principles.

In 1991, Ms. Lightwater began her basic bodywork training and quickly expanding into Hawaiian Huna, Cranial Sacral Therapy, BioSomatics and Structural Integration. Later, she received certification in Hypnotherapy, Touch for Health, Kinesiology and became a Master Teacher in Reiki and Karuna® Reiki and Grail Reiki.

Being a consultant and teacher to alternative health professionals, business owners, patients and their families has given her a broad perspective of dealing with stress induced symptoms and the mind body connection. Her first hand experiences with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and environmental sensitivities make her approach compassionate, practical, expert and keenly felt.

Exploring the mystery of ch’i or life energy continues to be a joy for Ms. Lightwater as she shares her knowledge about mind body healing with those who want to strengthen their own intuitive skills and empower their highest potential.

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March 6, 2018January 31, 2024

How To Develop Healthy Boundaries

SOS Self-care Formula #6: Develop Healthy Boundaries

Many people, especially those who are highly sensitive or empathic, want to learn how to develop healthy boundaries because they are so open to thoughts and energies coming from other people. Sometimes those thoughts get attached in their minds and spin around, causing a great deal of discomfort.

If the pathways remain open, all kinds of trouble (karma, issues, illness or confusion) can pass back and forth between people without their awareness. If left unchecked, this type of attachment can manifest in negativity, sudden and mysterious illnesses, mental confusion, issues with prosperity or chronic states of overwhelm.

It’s a valuable skill to know how to shift your energy and Develop Healthy Boundaries.

Self-care Formula #4 from SOS – Soul Oriented Solutions uses affirmations and the Intuitive Learning Circles to help you learn to consciously close off the pathways to negative thoughts or emotions and shift into a more positive mindset. Here’s an example of how it works. Simply gaze softly at the Circle while you contemplate each of these positive affirmations:

“I reclaim and balance my five senses.”

“I focus them to be present and aware of appropriate boundaries.”

“I use them to become aware of intrusive thoughts, attachments, illness and confusion so that I can let them go.”

“I focus on a hopeful future and productive actions that will benefit my health and happiness.”

Use Develop Healthy Boundaries when you are:

Agitated or feeling out of sync
Distressed by recent news
Getting negative or anticipating hardship
Feeling claustrophobic
Unable to meditate or sit still
Obsessed with a particular person or situation.

Here’s how it works: Find a quiet place if possible, where you won’t be disturbed. Follow the sequence of symbols while you read their accompanying instructions. Gaze gently at each Circle for about two minutes. A longer or shorter time may be necessary.

Mind Body Integration

For best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.

Let yourself breathe and relax as much as possible. Don’t worry if the images move around or change in any way. That just means the Circles are working and that your mind and body are relaxing.
Be sure to go through the entire formula and at the end, give yourself time to rest and integrate.

Developing a quiet mind and light heart changes your perspective and that makes it easier to follow through with your true priorities.

Gently contemplate each step for clarity and better boundaries…

Step 1. Balance

Begin by consciously breathing in on the count of three and slowly exhaling on the count of five. It’s helpful if you can breathe in through your nose. Do that three or four times while you gaze softly at the Circle.
Continue breathing and bring your awareness to your tailbone.

What do you need to get in balance about?

Step 2: Decision

In order to develop healthy boundaries, there is a decision that you need to make for yourself. Be clear about what you actually want for yourself and how you’re responding in this situation. State it directly and decisively.
Note: Negative or wishy-washy requests get negative, wishy-washy results. Overly idealistic or ambitious requests tend to create chaos and overwhelm.
Think it through and write down a positive declaration for yourself.

What results do you actually want to experience?

Step 3. Letting Go

Your decision probably brings up conflicts. Use this Circle to melt away any hard thoughts, feelings or resistance that blocks your ability to see things clearly and take action.
The key is to relax into whatever you’re feeling and breathe. You can imagine that the lines in the Circle are going limp and moving around like wet noodles.

What tension or worry do you need to let go of?

Step 4. Protection

This symbol will help you develop healthy boundaries by providing an improved interface with your environment. We all need assistance in making the transition from the old paradigm of Water (Piscean Age) to the New Paradigm of Air (Aquarian Age). Relax and close down all heavy or destructive energy channels that your mind or body may be open and vulnerable to.

Do you feel a sense of protection?

Continue to contemplate the symbol both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body until you feel protection all around.

Step 5. Natural Instincts

Now that you’re more relaxed, use this Circle to gather up your natural gifts, talents and instincts that will help you reclaim and strengthen your boundaries.
Make sure you’ve got your feet on the ground so that you can get back in touch with the things that really matter. Activate your gut instincts, engage your Essence and the power that comes from your Soul.

What will help you connect with your instincts?

Step 6. Intention

Give yourself permission to slow down and focus your energy on your intention. Turn your attention to what really needs to happen.

For example, you’ll want to know if you’re internalizing something or if you’re trying to take care of something that isn’t yours to be concerned with.

What is the necessary information I need to gather from my unconscious mind?

Don’t worry. You don’t need to have it all figured out. The issue may be too confusing to make sense of it yet.
Just let the Circle help you percolate what’s involved with this boundary issue.

Step 7. Soul Color

You may be taking on other peoples vibration without being aware of it.
Using your own Soul color and vibration will strengthen your autonomy, integrity and good health. To help you find it, remember a time when you successfully manifested something physical. What color comes to mind?

“I recognize my Souls unique color vibration.”
“I know who I am. I distinguish my energy from the energy of others.”

“All aspects of my Essence are willing to utilize my Soul color for success.”

Step 8. Centering

Connect your decision with the strength and integrity of your Soul. Bring in your Soul Color and conscious awareness to amplify this affirmation:

“I decide to connect with the truth of my Soul and love my Self.”

When you’re ready, notice where you are in your room or environment.
What is to the left of you and what is to the right of you?

Make sure that you’re centered in your own body.
“I am inside of me. Everything else is outside.”

Step 9. Empowerment

Empower your ability to follow through with your decision.

“I exist and am empowered through my Souls connection.”
“I nourish myself with Soul knowing and heart wisdom.”
“I am empowered to take good care of myself and develop healthy boundaries.”

Continue by making your own affirmations that apply to your decision:
“I am empowered to _____________.”

Step 10. Calm

Keep breathing with your belly soft and relaxed. Let your shoulders drop. Continue using your Soul color with this Chart to expel excess energy from your nervous system. Slow down and clear away noise, clutter and static.
Come back into the calm and rhythm of your Soul.

What thoughts help to relax you?

Step 11. Repair

If you’re having trouble, this Key can help you correct any blockages, rough static, glitches or reversals that might be causing trouble in your energy field.
Relax with it for a few minutes until things smooth out.
Be sure to do that both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body.

Step 12. Perception

It helps to see things the way they really are.
Gaze softly at this Circle and imagine you can turn down the feelings or thoughts that are turned up too high or too low, just like the volume on a radio.

“I decide to perceive this situation clearly and calmly.”

What are you seeing differently about this situation?

Step 13. Change

In order to follow through with manifesting healthy boundaries, some things are going to have to change. Identify what needs to happen:

“Does something need to change?”
“What do I need to do differently to develop healthy boundaries?”
“What actions would help me?”

If you’re not clear yet, keep going with the exercise.
You may need a few more easy corrections before the truth emerges.

Step 14. Resolution

You probably need to change some agreements or do some things differently. To help you find out what they are, examine what causes confusion for you when you consider these affirmations:

“I decide to stay centered and follow through on the highest good.”
“My health and happiness are important.”
“I easily deflect foreign energies and other peoples thoughts or expectations.”

There is always more than one way to approach a situation.
What new approach do you need to take? What agreements need to change?

Step 15. Detachment

There may be attachments or karmic entanglements blocking your solution.
Use this Soul Star Chakra Key to detach from them. Relax and meditate on for several minutes. Like a healing balm, imagine that a loving coat of peace and comfort is pouring down over you.

Are you willing to neutralize interfering energies and detach from them?
If not, are you willing to change the agreement that binds you to them?

Step 16. Freedom

Allow this symbol for dissolving destructive blueprints to clear out underlying patterns of confusion, abuse and harmful karmic relationships out of your mind.
Let any remaining heaviness or karmic entanglements around this situation lift up and out of you.
Dark clouds are dissolving into blue skies and sunlight

Please note: Never send destructive energies into the Earth, she already has too much to handle now. Use the Earth for planting seeds of happiness and life – not death!

Step 17. Closure

Use the Circle to help you close any harmful openings or pathways that would leave you open to the distractions and interference of the external world.
Close the doors and seal the leaks – as if they were never there.
You are calm and ready to follow through now. Your mind is able to rest.

Are you heading in the right direction?
If not, imagine that your Soul is turning you to face the right direction.

Step 18. Clean Up

A necessary part of having healthy boundaries is in making sure that we don’t get sucked back into unhealthy dynamics, otherwise, we’ll just get entangled again!
Take the time now to deconstruct any leftover habits and shut down any leaks that have been draining your energy. Fill in any voids with loving gratitude.

Are you experiencing any more drains to your energy?

Step 17. Completion

Finally, you want to make sure that you’re no longer connected through entanglements that keep you connected to old places or behaviors you don’t want to go back to anymore. Allow this Circle to make sure you’re free of harmful ties, cords or vows to continue participating in abuse:

“I let go of all harmful vows or obligations
to be connected to dangerous energies or abusive situations.”

Congratulations! Give yourself time to rest and integrate.
Take a walk or enjoy some time out in Nature.

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Rheanni Lightwater - Develop Healthy Boundaries — Rheanni Lightwater, Reiki Master Teacher

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Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating healthy balance and harmony in their lives through energy medicine, hypnotherapy and feng shui clearing. Sessions are available online or when you visit Santa Fe. Contact her at 505-271-4612 MST or email: [email protected].

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Simplify Your Life

Transformation Game: Simplify Your Life

The energy continues to change! As we step more fully into the New Paradigm, the ability to ADAPT and Simplify Your Life promises to be more valuable than ever.

Transformation Games are inspired by Kuan Yin, a beloved and respected healing guide among natural health and energy medicine practitioners.

*Caution! Her advice, as always, is direct and to the point! You will want to get out something to take notes with.

Welcome to the I Ching Reading and Transformation Game for:

Hexagram # 17 – ADAPTING by Simplifying Your Life

“Simplicity is the path of inner direction and self worth. Examine your goals and the standards you have set for yourself. If they are unworthy, inefficient or nonexistent, it will be difficult to make significant progress in a productive direction. ADAPTING your mindset and how you’re using your energy is the appropriate response at this time. Use your inner wisdom to adjust to the realities of your new environment. See things through the lens of common sense and inner guidance. Dispense with ungrounded over-indulgences in whatever form they take.

To clear away complications and wasted effort, it may be necessary for you to refocus and look at your situation from a more objective perspective. You may even find that you need to get out of your own way! As you re-examine your efforts, remember the strength and power that lives within you. By ADAPTING to your new awareness and simplifying your life, you will find many unexpected rewards.”

This Game is made up of Intuitive Learning Circles, pertinent questions and positive affirmations that will:

- give you a new perspective
- activate your heart wisdom and
- help you ADAPT to a simpler mindset by clearing up mental and emotional clutter.

Some questions to consider as you play Simplify Your Life are:

“Am I making things more complicated than they need to be?”

“Am I wasting my time and energy chasing after too many things?” or

“How can I focus on the aspects of my life that are most important at this time and prioritize my actions?”

If you contemplate one or more of these questions for a few minutes and then go through the game, you’ll be able to shift your attitude and refocus your mind very quickly.

Why Simplify Your Life?

“The pressures of life seem to increase everyday so we need to find guidance that comes from a reliable source. Go through the sequence anytime you feel scattered or overwhelmed. By going within and allowing your Inner Guidance to show you the way, you can simplify your life, make productive decisions and move forward with greater self confidence while you let the chaos take a back seat.”

How to Play Simplify Your Life:

Simply look at the sequence of Circles below while you ponder the questions or positive affirmations that go with them.

Mind Body Integration

For best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.

Take a few breaths and relax. Use a soft focus to help you go within and access new energy and clarity. What you do with the information you come up with is up to you!

Simplify Your Life:

1. To begin, look at this symbol with a soft, relaxed gaze. Repeat to yourself several times:

“I am ready, willing and able to shift my perception from scattered to focused – from complexity to simplicity – from ineffective to effective priorities.”

Imagine your life is like a movie and that your camera is filming it from a certain angle. Allow your Inner Guidance to pull the camera back and move it to an entirely different angle. Focus in on this new perspective like a close up in a movie.

2. While looking at this next Circle, think about the different activities you are engaged in. Ask yourself:

“Am I putting too much pressure on myself?”

“Am I spreading myself too thin?”

“Have I been seeing this situation honestly?”

3. Notice if the whole situation makes you feel anxious or uneasy. Breathe a few times and allow this Circle to help you to calm down and see more clearly.

Imagine you can adjust the settings on your senses – like brightness and color on a camera.
“I see things calmly, through the lens of my Soul.”

4. Use this symbol from Reiki Chakra Keys to open and balance your third eye chakra. You can do this by gently gazing into the Key while you relax and breathe for a minute or two. Use this positive affirmation to help:

“I open up to my intuition and common sense so that I can become aware of what I truly need.”

5. Use this Reiki Chakra Key to open and balance your Fourth Chakra located at the center of your chest. You can do this by focusing your attention on the Circle while you relax and breathe for a few moments.

Once you feel more open and at peace, ask for help from your Soul resources.

6. Now that you’ve cleared up some of your misperceptions, you can use these next few Circles to help you separate fact from fiction. Start by asking yourself:

“What percentage of the work that I’m doing is actually benefitting me?”

“Are there any dangerous assumptions I’m making that are actually a waste of my time and pulling me off track?”

If so, can you name what they are?

Does it seem as though you’re just circling around and around without getting what’s really important done? Are you being as direct and efficient as you could be?

Describe what your experience has been like.

7. “Is there clutter I could clear up that would help me get back on track?”

Is it even your clutter? If it belongs to someone else, use the Circle to visualize sweeping it all up and sending it to the Light so that it can go to wherever it belongs.

8. Slow down and ask yourself for more clarity:
“What affect am I having on those around me?”

“Are there any activities I’m involved in that are counter productive or even obsolete?”
If so, can you name what they are?

Am I wasting energy and time due to lack of focus?”

“Is there some confusion that needs to be cleared up? Are there other issues that I need to be aware of?”

Continue your inquiry until you’re pretty sure you know what’s happening.

9. Is there something about the situation that reminds you of the way your family sometimes behaves? How about someone else that you know? If so, are you willing to let it go? Gently visualize letting that energy go to the Light and disappearing.

10. Take your time and use this Circle to clear confusion or complexities out of your mind. You may see them as a million details, numbers, calculations or just a bunch of heavy smoke.

“I clear away the smoke screen so I can see what would actually help me.”

11. Relax with this image and affirmation for a minute or two.

“I am willing and able to let go of complications and simplify my life.”

12. As you gaze softly at this symbol from Divine Nature Activated, imagine that you can clear up the communication lines between your mind and your body.

- If communication lines seem tangled up, see them going to the Sun and disappearing.
- If communication seems outdated, see your internal system upgrading.
- If you seem disconnected, imagine your communication lines straightening out and connecting properly within yourself and the outside world.

(You’ll want to do this while you’re both crossed and uncrossed over the mid-line of your body).

13. Once you’re perceiving things more clearly, ask another more questions:

“What am I struggling with and am I willing to let it go?”

If you are willing, go ahead and send it to the Light as you did with the others.

If you’re not willing to let it go, at least you now know what’s really going on.

14. Once you’ve gone through the DNA clearing section of the game, see if you can use this Circle to focus on what’s really important.
Take your time and let everything come together in the center, blank space of the Circle.
“I focus on what’s really important.”

15. Now that you’ve gone through the Simplify Your Life Game, see if you can use the Throat Chakra Key to give voice to what’s really important.

“I access my true voice and can express what I truly need.

I need to _______________.”

16. Place your intention in the middle of this Circle and consciously send your energy towards it for improved manifesting. Just like aiming at a bull’s eye!

17. Help yourself to move forward in the right direction by using this Circle to seal and heal all the holes that may drain your energy or lead you back into distractions and complications.

“All holes are sealed and healed.”

“I follow the direction of my Soul’s protection.”

18. Finish the game by making sure that your aura is repaired and strong – a finishing step that will improve your health and focus even more!

Congratulations!

Thank yourself for taking the time today to clarify between things that are helpful and those that aren’t. You’ve given voice to what’s important right now and as a result, saved yourself a lot of time and trouble. Not only that, you’ve let go of some epigenetic patterning that’s been cluttering up the situation. This is a positive step in the right direction!

Bring the energy of gratitude in and let it connect with an inner fountain of gratitude that lives in your heart.

“I am empowered to simplify my life. I am ready, willing and able to follow through on my true priorities.”

Now is a good time to take a walk or go out into Nature to help this all integrate. Be prepared for new ideas and solutions to make their way towards you.

This Mind Exercise is Part of Animal Totem Tracks for Self-healing

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Rheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT lives and practices in Santa Fe, NM and has 25+ years experience in the art and science of mind body healing. Contact her for a private session if you want more help simplifying your life.

Disclaimer:
This Transformation Game should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment if there is any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.