Tips for Preventing Post-traumatic Stress #1

The best way to deal with long-term symptoms of post-traumatic stress is to prevent it from happening in the first place. Obviously, one never knows when something traumatic might occur or where, however, there are ways of handling the situation once it has happened that can significantly reduce a person’s susceptibility to long-term feelings of hopelessness and alienation.

If you or someone you know has just been through a traumatic event, the best time to take steps to prevent PTSD is as soon as possible.

1. Combine encouragement with time to process the event.

The importance of combining positive input while realistically processing what has happened is an interesting balance. The key here is to “talk about it, but don’t dwell on it.” That way the patterns of shock, fear and hopelessness are dispelled before they get a chance to become habitual.

Formula # 2 in Soul Oriented Solutions offers one way to help those who have been overwhelmed by recent events by going through a process that will help to calm them down and focus in on what would genuinely help them.

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Consider it a gift from someone that has been there and wants to share the little wisdom she has gained from her own experiences. Each formula has the potential to give some hope, inner guidance and clarity of mind if you are willing to try something new and different.

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SOS in Minneapolis

For those affected by the bridge collapse in Minneapolis who may be suffering from shock…we are sending our love and prayers.

Soul Oriented Solutions - A Handbook of Quick Formulas to Use in Times of Emotional Crisis

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Sacred Cow Tipping - The Seeds of Hatred

In recent weeks we have witnessed many examples of what happens when we expect anger and rage to solve our problems. Hatred of this kind is an acting out of ancient patterns that are crying out to be healed. You may say, “those incidents are just an anomoly, Cho was sick, most people don’t have that problem.”

Say that to the people in Iraq.

“But that’s way over there,” you may say. “The Sunni’s and Shiites all hate eachother.”

I recently went to a meeting to promote an economy built on peace and the hatred, resentment, superiority and indignation was palpable. I drove home and watched several people be cut off and flipped off. I walked into the house to find my husband watching the TV. His eyes were practically bugging out, he was so outraged by the lies of the pundits shouting at eachother and the politicians making their excuses. Within moments, I found myself completely buying into it.

Sorry, folks. It’s not just “out there.” It’s here in our hearts - a nasty old weed that feeds this Sacred Cow:

“The only way to solve a problem is by fighting with it.”

As Sacred Cows go, this one is primed to be tipped and if enough of us release our ancestral and collective agreement with it, we have a much better chance for seeking out a new way.

Play our Sacred Cow Tipping Game and pay extra attention to your answer to the question “What would you do instead?’

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Right Livelihood

What happens when you bring the principles of Feng Shui and other indigenous teachings such as Hawaiian Huna, Peruvian shamanism and Tibetan wisdom together into a workshop to help people build their own attraction field for business success? 
Could you:

• Release blockages to prosperity?
• clarify your goals?
• learn how to focus your energy to be more successful?

Rheanni Lightwater of Soul Resources is offering a series of classes called Right Livelihood to help you gain clarity about the results you desire, to stay focused on your goal and make sure that your business is taking you in the direction you really want to go.

Join us in Albuquerque at 1929 Alvarado at 7:30 pm.

“Connecting with the Web of Gratitude”

Seating for these classes are limited, so please RSVP with Soul Resources (505) 271-4612.

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Sacred Cow Tipping - Allowing Compromise

The Status Quo contends that the purpose of agreements is to enforce their power and control. However the real purpose of agreements is so that we may all live together in greater harmony and peace. Another inherent quality of agreements is that they can be re-negotiated if they aren’t creating the desired effect.

However, what if the person(s) involved will not allow the compromise? This does happen, and we are witnessing it in our Leaders right now. They might be merely stubborn and inflexible, because dammit they MUST stay the course or they will be guilty of weakness. Another possibility is that they could be willfully ignoring other important agreements just so that they can remain in control. Either way, the results are the same. They cannot bring themselves to let go of the original agreement, so even though they say they are changing directions, they are still just staying the course. In addition, every time they make a new agreement, they compound the problems, confusion and social unrest that already exist.

What is the Sacred Cow controlling this unholy stalemate? Well, after all, we do have a pretty significant cultural agreement that:

“Any deviation from the pre-agreed agenda is a sign of weakness and can only be construed as failure.”

This inflexible, unmerciful Sacred Cow is standing behind the scenes keeping everyone stuck in the mud, not just our leaders. Play our tipping game. By releasing your personal, familial, social and collective agreement with it, we may be able to let ourselves off the hook, so that we can re-negotiate and move forward again.

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Rheanni Lightwater © 2007

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Sacred Cow Tipping – Apocalypse Now?

The Status Quo is now behaving like an old Puritanical schoolmaster from the days of yore who has lost control of the classroom. Indignant and motivated by revenge, the powers that be spend their time vilifying the standouts and threatening everyone with dire, apocalyptic punishments.

Luckily, we have gotten past the point where we would be deterred from our convictions by being set in the corner with a dunce cap on our heads.  Unfortunately, we still have a little charge on the idea that we might just be blown to bits if we fail to do as we’re told.

That’s why today’s Sacred Cow is about another key survival motivation that is being used against us:

“Use revenge to motivate people to stay in line.”

If you are as tired as I am of the Status Quo using pain, punishment and threats as the way to maintain their agenda, play our tipping game and release any and all agreements to buy into it.

Rheanni Lightwater © 2007

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Sacred Cow Tipping - Survival Mentality

When the going gets tough, the Status Quo’s first step is to get very quiet and secretive. Information is withheld so as to create apprehension and anxiety among the people.

Next step:
Multiple leaks of conflicting and illogical information designed to create confusion, throwing the people off track from their original intention.

Next step:
Paint the members of the Status Quo as victims – misunderstood, filled with contrition without any genuine remorse or substantial responsibility taken. And if the people don’t accept that shallow, meaningless apology, they are painted as unfair, unkind and misguided.

Then the attacks begin:
The people go into survival mentality and become divided, the previous unity and consensus falls apart and …mission of the Status Quo complete.

The Status Quo would have us believe that it’s just the way we are. That’s why they created this old Sacred Cow and repeat it every chance they get:

“It’s every man for himself.”

It’s the ultimate agreement in survival mentality. It doesn’t even include women in the picture because that’s the way they want it. If we feel separate and forget that we have eachother, they can get away with whatever they want.

There is nothing new in this pattern. We’ve seen it all along.  Every battered woman lives through this same scenario countless times. Every partner or family member of an addict knows that sinking feeling in their stomach saying, “Oh, my god, it’s happening again.”

My intuition teaches me that the very first response is the one to believe. Think about what our very first response was to the events of September 11th.  Did we respond with “every man for himself?”

That is not the way we are. It’s time to cut off our agreement with believing that it’s every man for himself or that it’s just the way we are.

Please join me in playing our cow tipping game and share it with your brothers and sisters.

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Rheanni Lightwater © 2007

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Sacred Cow Tipping - Polarized Thinking

The Sacred Cows for January have to do with our survival motivations and the either/or syndrome, i.e. “either you’re for us or against us,” “either you win or you lose,” and the infamous “either you’re right or you’re wrong.”
Thinking in absolutes is the basis of most survival issues and provides the fodder for war - “Either we stay in Iraq until we win or we cut and run.” This kind of polarized thinking is collective and filters down into our families and businesses to pollute our motivations and decision-making processes. In the end, either/or thinking makes it very difficult for us to cooperate with each other and build positive consensus in our projects.

I hope you will join me in playing our tipping game, where we consciously release any unconscious agreement we may have with this dangerous Sacred Cow:
 

“Limit the choices people make by speaking and thinking only in terms of black and white.”

Nature is our teacher as she adapts, recombines and evolves. She is filled with variables, creative combinations and surprising options. Maybe it’s time we followed her lead by letting go of our personal, business, national and collective agreements to limit ourselves in this way.As usual, I will post the others as they come up throughout the month on our Intuitive Learning Circle blog and selected forums.

Nature is our teacher as she adapts, recombines and evolves. She is filled with variables, creative combinations and surprising options. Maybe it’s time we followed her lead by letting go of our personal, business, national and collective agreements to limit ourselves in this way.As usual, I will post the others as they come up throughout the month on our and selected forums.Rheanni Lightwater © 2007

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Sacred Cow Tipping - Re-establishing Connection

Countdown: Day 1 out of 5 Days for Releasing Extremism and Fear

A baby requires attention and love. When those things are witheld or absent, the child’s growth and happiness is stunted. As an adult they may exhibit learning and behavioral difficulties, a fear of being abandoned or left behind. Or they may feel disconnected from themselves, other people, or the Earth.

In an attempt to feel connected, they often seek out organizations, gangs, or cults that promise a sense of belonging. Unfortunately, the connection is usually based on an “us vs. them” mentality, which only perpetuates the isolation and sets up the conditions for extremism.

This Sacred Cow has caused endless strife and suffering. As our last game in this series, I hope that you will take the time to release your personal, familial, cultural and collective agreements with:

“I am all alone.”

Give yourself the gift of releasing the fear and loneliness of the past and join with others to build a new collective consciousness based on love, respect, and tolerance. 

Thank you for participating in our tipping game, and remember that you are never alone.

Rheanni Lightwater 2006

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Sacred Cow Tipping - Releasing the Guilt

Countdown: Day 2 out of 5 Days to Releasing Extremism and Fear

Today’s Sacred Cow is interesting because it is actually two beasts joined at the hip:

“There’s no way out.”

and

“What I say and do doesn’t matter.”

One is completely and utterly dependent on the other to hold intractable situations in place, for example the quandary that now exists in Iraq.

Whatever we say or do won’t matter because there’s no way out, and there’s no way out because we think whatever we say or do won’t matter.

Handling this double bind is going to require a bit of ingenuity. We can’t really tip them head on, however, we might be able to throw them off balance by releasing our personal, cultural and collective agreements to feel hopeless about there being no way out and then to release all agreements to feel guilty about anything that we have ever said or done.

Remember that guilt is a heavy weight placed upon us because we are not doing something that someone else wants us to do. Remorse, on the other hand, is a genuine and heart-felt desire for atonement.

By releasing the guilt and allowing genuine hope to flow more freely through our collective consciousness, we may be able to tip these cows.

Rheanni lightwater © 2006

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