Negative Family Ties
Energy Healing Meditations
Using the Intuitive Learning Circles
One of the most devastating things that can happen to a person is the sad reality of growing up in a dangerous or hostile family environment. Those who are children in a situation tainted by drugs, abuse or neglect have little choice but to adapt to their surroundings the best that they can. However, as adults there are more options and one of them is to put a halt to the energetic cycle of abuse.
If you have grown up as a victim of any kind of abuse, you know that it affects you in every way imaginable – physically, mentally, emotionally and even on a spiritual level. Because of your experience, you may have little or no faith in the societal or religious institutions that are supposed to help people in need. You may be over-ridden with feelings of fear, distrust or even self-loathing. Because of your feelings of powerlessness, you may be stricken with grief – unable to function under the stresses of life. Or you may go the other way, becoming an over-achiever, driven by the need to control your surroundings. You might even fluctuate between the two extremes. Any of these responses would be very common. Unfortunately, options like that don’t make for a very happy life.
A Very Uncommon Response
Some of the problems involved with family abuse is being chronically stuck in the past or having an unhealthy attachment to the very people who may have caused the most harm. Psychology calls it enmeshment and that’s a pretty good description of what it’s like. Through the relationship of victim/perpetrator, each person becomes so karmically entwined with the other that it’s really hard to determine where one person leaves off and the other begins. If you are a person who subscribes to the idea of reincarnation and past lives, the victim/perpetrator relationship takes on new meaning.
Karma is simply the Law of Cause and Effect. What one puts out, will come back to them sooner or later. Sometimes it comes back in this lifetime, however, many times the effects don’t come back until some future life. This could explain why some people are born into abusive families because, perhaps, there is a long term cycle that was started many lifetimes ago.
This healing meditation will take you through a simple process that could help you to break the cycle of abuse so that all the feelings of anger, fear and suffering can become a thing of the past. Like our other meditations and self-hypnosis formulas, we will be using the Intuitive Learning Circles from Soul Prayer Charts and Gifts from the Rainforest.
These workbooks are part of a special self-realization package called “Spiritual Healing for the New Millennium.”
I will list the name and number of the Intuitive Learning Circle and then give directions on how to use them. G means that the healing circle can be found in Gifts from the Rainforest and SC means that the circle comes from Soul Prayer Charts.
Step One – Abandoning The Cycle of Abuse – The Cause of Present and Future Unhappiness
Directions: Get out a piece of paper and a pen and set aside about 20 minutes to go through this exercise.
G #41 (Vine of the Soul)
Take several deep breaths as you gaze softly at this first circle.
Think about your family of origin. What does your body feel like?
For instance, does it feel heavy, tight, numb, etc?
How would you describe your mental/emotional mindset?
Would you say it is sad, angry, depressed, anxious, or something else?
Make a note of what you notice on your piece of paper.
G #29 (Chigger Medicine)
This circle helps people release things that are causing them great irritation. As you look at it, stay relaxed. Cross your legs and ask yourself this question:
“What are some of the beliefs I have about myself that are clearly negative and harmful to my peace of mind?
Write them down so that you can get them out of your head and on paper where you can see them for what they really are. Just keep writing until you’ve gotten all the thoughts out of your mind, no matter how irrational or upsetting they might seem.
Repeat with your legs uncrossed. Remember that looking at each circle with legs crossed and uncrossed will deepen the healing experience.
Here are some more questions that might dig up more of those sneakier irritations. Fill in the blanks with answers that come while looking at the circle:
“I’m always concerned that ____________ will happen.”
“I’m afraid that ______________.”
“I can’t ____________.”
G #32 (Condor Medicine)
“I can’t stop thinking about _______________.”
G #49 (Sun Medicine)
Once you’re done writing things down, look at the Sun Circle and breathe deeply to bring strength and connection to your spirit back into your heart.
“I fill my heart with the strength and protection of my Higher Self.”
SC #14 (Soul Color)
Continue breathing and look at this Soul Chart for several minutes:
“I bring clarity and personal power back into my mind and body.”
SC #21 (Inner Divinity)
Because of the abuse, your essence has gotten lost in a dark place. Bring it back by breathing, looking at the symbol and feeling the soft area between your ribs – the solar plexus. Imagine that you are calling back your essence like a child coming back home from being outside.
“I call all parts of my soul and essence back home to my center where they can be safe again.”
G #13 (Stingray Medicine)
Imagine that you are in a very safe place where you are comfortable and feel completely protected. Let yourself imagine it in every detail.
G #30 (Fish Medicine)
Gaze softly at this circle while you keep breathing and feel your body relax:
“I am home, where I belong and I’m filled with light, healing and love.”
It might help to move around and stretch your body. Go ahead and take a few moments to do that if you want.
SC #4 (Autonomy)
Use this next circle to help you disentangle yourself from any other person or soul, now or in the past. Remember to stay calm, using anger or fear will not allow you to release the enmeshment.
“I send you back to where you belong. Our time together is finished.”
SC #10 Air
Now imagine that you are removing any marks or karmic imprints from your energy field that come from violence, abuse or neglect. Imagine that your Higher Self is cleaning you up until you are bright and shiny.
“I am free from the past. I am in alignment with my Soul”
Don’t stop until you feel complete and much more at ease.
Notice how you are feeling now. Do you feel better than you did when you started the meditation?
If you do, Congratulations!
I would suggest that you go through this meditation any time you feel like you are caught up by or enmeshed with anyone you know – family, friends, partners, bosses – anyone you feel an unusual and negative attraction to.
2010 © Rheanni Lightwater
